Are we done with hotels?

[Rbaine2336]

How long do you meet up with a provider before scheduling meetings at your home, rather than a hotel room?

[ACluelessGent]

I don't use hotels. First intro/screening at a bar, then home. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I schedule first meeting by video call to assess mutual interest.   

[soloyo215]

I mostly do in-calls, and many times they are traveling providers who have spaces at hotels.

[DunwoodyGuy]

Hotel sex is a huge turn-on for me.

[Cretus]

Hotels are still quite good as venues, but unfortunately increasingly pricey partially due to the Airbnb ban.

[big-n-tall]

I only use hotels… mine or theirs, with rare exceptions.

There is only one instance a provider has been to my house and that was purely for plutonic reasons. There are just too many people (family) running in and out of my home to make alone time with a provider pleasurable. 😜

The flip side this same provider (escort) turned friend, I’ve been to his house for plutonic reasons and a few times for hiring purposes.

On a similar tangent I’ve been to other escorts turned friends homes but purely for plutonic visits. Two of which told me they don’t invite clients over to their places. It’s their sanctuary and they don’t want to cross that line there.

Now if we’re talking about masseurs. the majority of the meet ups have been at their homes.

Edited Saturday at 02:20 PM by big-n-tall

[Rod Hagen]

The first few months escorting it was only outcalls because I didn't have a couch and I thought walking someone through an empty living room to the bedroom was tacky.  Soon I bought a couch (I was already an engineer, so I don't know why I didn't just buy a couch, but I was always more comfortable watching tv on a chair), and the convenience of incalls quickly overwrote any fears of having strangers in my apartment.

I get that clients might be concerned inviting strangers into their homes, luckily we forget very quickly and google maps just goes onto the next thing.   Don't worry about it.

Edited Saturday at 03:52 PM by Rod Hagen

[nomad]

@Rbaine2336 always a hotel.  Don't have to worry about cleaning up afterwards.  The simplicity is worth the cost if I have to get a room for the meet. Some guys are pigs.  Left over food, dirty towels, clothes, etc everywhere in their room.  They just toss it aside and think it doesn't matter since you're not there for a long time. Appreciate the ones that make an effort to tidy up.  Could be the old fart in me.  😆

[mtaabq]

I have one (1) regular provider whom I see at my home. I had one (1) provider whom I saw at my home but I won’t be asking him back anytime soon. (Sexy SOB, though.) Otherwise it’s always at a hotel. Most of the providers I see, I see on the road.
 

@nomad said it best about simplicity and the fact that you don’t have to clean up afterwards when using a hotel. (I always leave at least five bucks for housekeeping.) 

Edited Saturday at 07:01 PM by mtaabq

[+ JamesB]

For a first meeting, I always choose either an incall (preferred) or a hotel. If things go well and they become a regular, then I'm comfortable inviting them to my home.

[Mark_fl]

2 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

I get that clients might be concerned inviting strangers into their homes, luckily we forget very quickly and google maps just goes onto the next thing.   Don't worry about it.

It's not the reputable providers having our address we're worried about. 😉

[jackcali]

Between nosy doormen and neighbors and with the occasional appearance of relatives who come to my city unannounced and install themselves in my spare bedroom, it's just easier never to host at my home.   I'll use hotels (dayuse is inexpensive and almost always available) or go to the escort's location, if he has one.  

I did have an escort to my place once a number of years ago.  The next day, my downstairs neighbor asked me who was the young man who came to my apartment.  My neighbor bought my explanation that he was an IT guy from my employer helping me with my remote work set-up.  The escort's being Asian played into my neighbor's stereotypes.  

Edited Saturday at 06:38 PM by jackcali

[Nue2thegame]

37 minutes ago, jackcali said:

Between nosy doormen and neighbors and with the occasional appearance of relatives who come to my city unannounced and install themselves in my spare bedroom, it's just easier never to host at my home.   I'll use hotels (dayuse is inexpensive and almost always available) or go to the escort's location, if he has one.  

I did have an escort to my place once a number of years ago.  The next day, my downstairs neighbor asked me who was the young man who came to my apartment.  My neighbor bought my explanation that he was an IT guy from my employer helping me with my remote work set-up.  The escort's being Asian played into my neighbor's stereotypes.  

👍One can’t have too many IT visitors 

[+ azdr0710]

only one provider knows my home address (and my passport #, SS #, personal phone number, birthday, etc.)......this is after many years of meetings and after he demonstrated his honesty and trustworthiness.....

but I've never hosted him in my house, though he dropped by for coffee and chat one day on his way to a meeting with somebody else....

I always prefer a hotel for the neutrality, the cleanliness, the unlimited number of towels, the privacy, and the sleaziness......I'll get a room if they aren't hosting in one.....I don't like cleaning my own place...... 

many clients here happily host in their own place and report zero problems.....I just sorta want to separate (compartmentalize is the trendy word, I guess) this hobby from home

[nomad]

1 hour ago, Nue2thegame said:

👍One can’t have too many IT visitors 

Fixing the hard drive (on you) or the playing with the joystick (on them)?  😆

[liubit]

Well, since the start of my hiring career, I have always hosted providers at my home, whether in NYC then or in HK now. I have never had a problem in those 30+ years.

However, for non-commercial hookups, I go to hotels (DayUse is fantastic) or to their place. First, because you pay providers to leave and, more importantly, because that is the basic rule I have developed with my husband: we can fool around all we want, but we don’t bring dates to our home. Diff’rent strokes….

[BuffaloKyle]

I'm shocked at how many guys on here never have a provider over at their home. I don't mind my place, their place, or a hotel. Never had any issues except for one time. I did have money stolen once during an overnight with a regular hookup so I always take care to keep all my valuables hidden when hosting. I never let the other guy out of my sight except for when they are using the bathroom. I don't do overnights ever for partly this reason as well. Just an hour or two.

Edited Sunday at 04:22 AM by BuffaloKyle

[jeezifonly]

I never host, and only once have I met with a provider at a hotel which was because I was traveling. I'm way more likely to hire hosting locals in my home city. It always involves massage,  so table, etc. 

[ACluelessGent]

The reason I meet only at home or at my hotel when I am on a business trip, is that I like to sleep after sex. I can't bother getting the metro or a taxi to get home.

[Boaxxx]

No house calls for me. It may be a bit inconvenient at times but I'd much prefer to go out. Like others have mentioned I also love hotel sex. It add an element of excitement for me. And thanks to a fellow provider I am now a fan of DayUse.

Edited Tuesday at 04:26 AM by Boaxxx

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/17/2026 at 10:11 PM, Rbaine2336 said:

How long do you meet up with a provider before scheduling meetings at your home, rather than a hotel room?

1st visit

Most of the men I hire come to my house, even on the first meeting.  I may go to his hotel room if he is visiting and it is easier for him to host than travel.

When traveling, I usually ask the men to come directly to my hotel. 

I give all my hires my real telephone number and my real name.  

[+ FLOutdoors]

21 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

No house calls for me. It may be a bit inconvenient at times but I'd much prefer to go out. Like others have mentioned I also love hotel sex. It add an element of excitement for me. And thanks to a fellow provider I am now a fan of DayUse.

2nd the vote on DayUse….It is excellent!!!! It’s been mentioned here on COM before…..

[DMonDude]

I'm definitely still a big fan of hotels because i can't host due to having a roommate whom i don't want to know i do this/know how often i hookup. Apartment walls are paper thin so it'd be impossible to do this without him knowing i had someone over and what we were doing. Even for just Grindr/Sniffies hookups i always go out for those currently.

So i either go to the provider's hotel or sometimes i stay at a hotel locally for a weekend as a local getaway and have guys over there. It's very much not the ideal way to do it both for scheduling and financially. I really need to start making use of DayUse as some have mentioned here. Since that'd be much more flexible and also cheaper.

If i had my own place though, i probably would be totally fine having the guys come to my place after one or two sessions to make sure they were cool though.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

44 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

i can't host due to having a roommate whom i don't want to know i do this/know how often i hookup. Apartment walls are paper thin so it'd be impossible to do this without him knowing i had someone over and what we were doing. Even for just Grindr/Sniffies hookups i always go out for those currently.

I have 2 roommates.  I've heard each of them having sex before, and I'm sure they've each heard me.  I'm not worried about it.  When I advertise a room for rent in my house, I'm clear that occasional overnight guests are okay, but the guest(s) must leave the house when my roommate does.

If I'm having an orgy, then I'll let my roommates know in advance that I'm "having guests over".  It's up to my roommates if they want to leave the house or not.  Sex at home with others in the house has never been a problem for me or to my roommates.  If they're home, then I'll be considerate and keep the sex confined to my bedroom/bathroom.