Sequential or shotgun approach when contacting providers?

[Wings246]

Which method(s) do you follow when you contact a provider?

1. Reach out to 1 person first, wait for a series of back and forth communications before confirming an appointment or moving on to the next person in line
2. Blast (as with a shotgun) a group of potential hires all at once and book an appointment on a first-come, first-served basis (or whoever gives you the best 1^st impressions via the initial communications)
3. Do you have any other strategies?

Thus far, I have only used the sequential method.  TBH, though, it is very time consuming and the waiting period for a single person to respond is quite agonizing.  And when this single person’s response doesn’t work out (e.g. time, place, into, rates), it’s a huge waste of time and opportunity because the 2^nd person in line is no longer available after the waiting period of the 1^st person.  On the other hand, I feel like it’s unethical and inappropriate to use the shotgun approach to "shop around" simultaneously with the intention to pick only 1 at the end.  Am I too cordial, considerate, and naïve?

Edited 20 hours ago by Wings246

[Mark_fl]

I'm happy if there is one provider my type, so shotgun isn't going to work for me. I'll have one top choice, reach out with what I'm looking for and when, ask him to review my profile, and if he thinks we're a good fit, to let me know rates and availability. I also don't count autoreplies as a response.

If I don't get a response within a day, I'll move on. But I generally like to plan in advance when I'm out of town and have a hotel to host in, so I have time to wait.

I also wouldn't want to have two (or God forbid more) guys giving me a positive response and then having to tell one nevermind. I don't want to waste their time. It would also be stressful for me to have to do that.

Edited 20 hours ago by Mark_fl

[Nue2thegame]

Always #1. 

[big-n-tall]

#1.

I usually go for regulars and if for some reason they aren't available I might try for someone else or just save the funds for a later meet up with my regular.

[Rayphactor]

Always #1. Don't waste providers' time with blasts. 

[Wings246]

Yes, I don't like the shotgun approach largely because I don't want to waste their time and possibly burn the bridge for a potential meetup down the road.  I believe in treating people the way I want to be treated, you know.

[Aamir]

When I'm traveling I use #2 with a healthy dose of kindness and honesty... "Hey there! Saw your ad on RM under "MonsterBussy2000". Love your pics and appreciate your playful listing. I'm looking to hire you for a 2- hour session Saturday evening around 8pm. I'm not 100% sure about my schedule yet,  but wanted first to see if you might be available to host and ask what your 2 hour rate is. Looking forward to sharing more details of what kind of session I'd like to have with you. Talk soon sexy!"

And I'll send that to my top three or four candidates.

[aiseeya]

3 hours ago, Wings246 said:

Which method(s) do you follow when you contact a provider?

1. Reach out to 1 person first, wait for a series of back and forth communications before confirming an appointment or moving on to the next person in line
2. Blast (as with a shotgun) a group of potential hires all at once and book an appointment on a first-come, first-served basis (or whoever gives you the best 1^st impressions via the initial communications)
3. Do you have any other strategies?

Thus far, I have only used the sequential method.  TBH, though, it is very time consuming and the waiting period for a single person to respond is quite agonizing.  And when this single person’s response doesn’t work out (e.g. time, place, into, rates), it’s a huge waste of time and opportunity because the 2^nd person in line is no longer available after the waiting period of the 1^st person.  On the other hand, I feel like it’s unethical and inappropriate to use the shotgun approach to "shop around" simultaneously with the intention to pick only 1 at the end.  Am I too cordial, considerate, and naïve?

#2. I dont think its time wasting so long as done with respect. Unless I am booking a regular, I would typically blast simple enqueries (i.e. rates and time availability) to a small numbers of providers that I am intersted at. If time and rates meet my budget and schedule, then proceed to raise a more detailed questions. Otherwise, politely inform them their rate/ schedule doesnt work for me; and move on. Never haggle. Time needed to filter providers solely based on rate and timing suitability is rather short; it aint a whole day process.

Its common business practice for company to request fee quote from multiple firms at the same time; compares such fee quotes and then decides on the firm who is most suited for their needs at that time. Its the cost of doing business. How is it any difference with providers? 

[DMonDude]

32 minutes ago, Aamir said:

When I'm traveling I use #2 with a healthy dose of kindness and honesty... "Hey there! Saw your ad on RM under "MonsterBussy2000". Love your pics and appreciate your playful listing. I'm looking to hire you for a 2- hour session Saturday evening around 8pm. I'm not 100% sure about my schedule yet,  but wanted first to see if you might be available to host and ask what your 2 hour rate is. Looking forward to sharing more details of what kind of session I'd like to have with you. Talk soon sexy!"

And I'll send that to my top three or four candidates.

I do a similar thing when i do local hotel stays as well. I can only host when i go to a hotel for a weekend every once in a while and i like to make it count. So i will shotgun message a handful of providers with the idea that i want to at least see one guy a day i'm at the hotel. So if one replies first and nabs the friday night slot, the guy who replies second gets to choose between my saturday or sunday night slot if they're available then. Rather than being told "nevermind i already booked someone else", which is where it can feel like we're wasting their time. So if it works out, great! If it doesn't, it's a scheduling conflict with the door left open to try again later (either at their place if they host or next time i get a hotel), and not because another provider swooped in and stole me.

But more often than not, when i'm looking for a one off in-call. I message one preferred provider at a time and i wait for the reply and confirm the booking or that it isn't a match with them before i move on to the next one cause there's no rush on my end in that scenario.

So it's ultimately a bit of both for me.

[jeezifonly]

When I intend to book, I have a schedule in mind. Their place, day/date, duration, and time window. When I disclose that in reach-out contact, 24-48hr ahead, they're either available or not, so I don't spend a lot of back and forth about availability. I don't blast. Sequential. 

[jonasfoleson]

I would choose a few who I like and go in sequence. or contact a few at the same time and then whoever responds in a timely manner, I proceed with. Timely as in within an hour or two. I get they are busy or may have a client whilst I contact them. 

Those who don't respond, or respond after a two days or more, i discard mentally. Unless they give a reason why, or seem very apologetic. Users should respect escorts, of course, but such respect is two-way.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I used to use the shotgun method when I traveled. However, I never contacted more than four providers at once, and I ensured I had enough funds to cover all four. Usually, one or two were too busy or unresponsive, so I would only meet two to three providers during one trip. 

[+ RyanDean]

I used the "shotgun" approach for the first time just this past weekend and it worked quite well for me.

The context: big city, very narrow window of time for daytime appointment, holiday weekend, me hosting in my hotel. Sent the exact same message to a half dozen new-to-me gents about 24-36 hours before the requested appointment. Four replied in a timely manner to let me know they weren't available in my admittedly quite narrow timeframe; one replied to confirm he was available and interested; and one never responded.

I booked with the one who replied, for a very gratifying encounter. Enjoyed brief, clarifying, and very friendly exchanges with two of those who replied, bumping each of them to the top of my priority-hire list. 

For me, it was an effective use of the approach. Not a strategy that I would use in most situations, as I prefer to hire with a longer lead time, which typically allows for one query at a time. But, under these circumstances, "the shotgun" style was quite effective, in both the immediate and longer term...

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

9 hours ago, Whoisyourdaddy said:

...I never contacted more than four providers at once, and I ensured I had enough funds to cover all four.

This ☝️ 

👏👏👏

Guidance to all: If sending "shotgun" inquires to several escorts at a time, be sure to have the funds and time to hire each of them if they all respond!

When I'm planning a 7-day trip to a city, for example, I'll reach out to maximum 7 escorts (one for each day) before I arrive to confirm their rate and to inquire what day in those 7 days works best for them. Usually about 5 will be available and I'll immediately schedule with each of them, and the other 2 or so will be unavailable. I can then fill up the rest of the week reaching out in "sequence" to other escorts, inquiring about one of the 2 remaining days I still have open for this hobby.

[SecretProvider]

#1 is the correct answer. 

 

#2 - ONLY if within a very strict time frame (Hello, i am looking for someone to do an outcall to (insert location) at 6pm tonight, I am in town for tonight only and I am looking to do XYZ"  This way if we don't get the message in time it saves us hassle, we can reply 'sorry i missed you' or focus on enquires that offer more ROI. 

14 hours ago, aiseeya said:

I dont think its time wasting so long as done with respect.....Its common business practice for company to request fee quote from multiple firms at the same time; compares such fee quotes and then decides on the firm who is most suited for their needs at that time. Its the cost of doing business. How is it any difference with providers? 

How is it different with providers? To answer the last part specifically - it is different because we are not fielding  regular business enquiries. We are inundated with people who are literally jerking off while they message us, people who are getting off pranking us, people who are messaging with ZERO intention to hire. No one is calling a carpenter or electrician  and jacking off when they ask them about their availability and costs.

That's not even taking into account the amount of scammers that reach out to us almost daily pretending to be clients, stringing us along until we realize they are Nigerian princes who want TEXT buddies (iykyk) 

 

IF YOU ARE NOT DOING THIS SO DON'T GET OFFENDED WHEN I SAY THIS. please understand that there is a lot of people who do! 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

22 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

No one is calling a carpenter or electrician  and jacking off when they ask them about their availability and costs.

Speak for yourself! 😉 

Of course, I wouldn't ask either of these men for a work quote unless I was ready to hire them... Even if it meant I had to break something for them to repair while they were enroute to my house! 😆 

[SecretProvider]

52 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Speak for yourself! 😉 

Of course, I wouldn't ask either of these men for a work quote unless I was ready to hire them... Even if it meant I had to break something for them to repair while they were enroute to my house! 😆 

*break my coffee table*

[Nightowl]

#1