RyanDean

What a welcome addition to the Boston circuit. Now if only I had a reason to visit...

Yep. Being present in the session with proactive, personalized, specific followup is always a win for me... After one of our first meetups, one of my all-time favorite gents sent me a quick vid taken from a particular POV with some personalized dirty talk. The clip was all of 12seconds long. But it was hot, it was personalized, and I was HOOKED...

Crossed paths with him at a recent-ish Adonis event. I was particularly impressed that (a) his vibe in person is pretty exactly as he appears in his tiktok/etc and (b) he's very warm, engaged, and somehow even sexier in person. He also appears to understand and truly enjoy the gig, which is a major plus for me.

A respectful discreet inquiry text, perhaps noting your awareness of his inactive profile, seems fine. But I would counsel against putting all your eggs (ie your hiring hopes) in this one basket, no matter how appealing the basket.

Thanks to this forum, I've learned the value of "crosschecking" so I rarely go off the ad only. And now that RM allows gents to link to their own socials, it's it even easier to do a vibe-check, which matters to me as much as their current look. And since I'm based in the NYC area, I've long used Adonis/BuffDaddys events to do a preliminary screenings of some gents. I have also been known to (very occasionally) reach out to RM reviewers. Things that make me wary: if all the pics could be posted on instagram, I'll assume they're stolen; if the text rhythm alternates wildly between quick sequential messages & extended radio-silence, I'll start wondering whether there's a "too much" problem (substances, bookings, etc). if a yes ("I can host" or "I love that") becomes a no ("I can't host" or "That'll be an upcharge") in the same thread, that's just annoying and weird and I'm likely going to step back. if a gent becomes too much on RM messenger, i'm out. sidenote: after long enjoying occasionally delightful exchanges with proactive advertisers, I've recently taken my profile private because the uptick in direct/demanding messages from random gents -- whose ad I'd never clicked on -- just started becoming tedious. I have mixed feelings about other trends (ubers, different rates for different times/days, upcharges, facetime requests) but I assess those on a case-by-case basis.

@Buff Daddy: will there be a nude matinee (5-10pm) on Friday, 7/31?

Indeed. As I recall, Cooperstyles was in Jersey City, which I always think of as "basically NYC." ChaseVirgo might meet your criteria but he's definitely toward the southern end of NJ (ie closer to Philly).

Thanks for that context, @big-n-tall. I too mistrusted the ad when I encountered it yesterday.

I'm watching but not particularly captivated by any of the dudes, alas. Usually there's at least one guy I immediately start swooning for. But this season not so much... Where's my Victor/BB24, Cody/BB16, Tucker/BB26, Jessie/BB10 or my beloved Mark/BB19?!?! (But at least I can still enjoy Mark on Insta/TikTok & OF.)

Curious if anyone's crossed paths with this gent, GoodguyJake. https://rent.men/GoodguyJake

One of the downsides of the purely sequential approach comes when there is no reply from the provider. When faced with radio silence, I never know how long to wait before moving on. On a couple occasions this past year or so, my "patience" in waiting for a reply has let too much time lapse and the window of opportunity closed without my being able to book anyone. Which was a bummer of my own making. Also this year, on two sequential trips to two different large US cities, I had two experiences of being ghosted by gents who took more than a day to reply to my preliminary query. Still, I was heartened when they agreed to meet but then they went radio silent and, again, the window of opportunity passed. Which was a bummer not entirely of my own making. (And which inclines me to feel that delayed reply time is its own kind of red flag.) For the sequential-queries-only crew: how much non-response time do you let elapse before moving on to your next contender?

I used the "shotgun" approach for the first time just this past weekend and it worked quite well for me. The context: big city, very narrow window of time for daytime appointment, holiday weekend, me hosting in my hotel. Sent the exact same message to a half dozen new-to-me gents about 24-36 hours before the requested appointment. Four replied in a timely manner to let me know they weren't available in my admittedly quite narrow timeframe; one replied to confirm he was available and interested; and one never responded. I booked with the one who replied, for a very gratifying encounter. Enjoyed brief, clarifying, and very friendly exchanges with two of those who replied, bumping each of them to the top of my priority-hire list. For me, it was an effective use of the approach. Not a strategy that I would use in most situations, as I prefer to hire with a longer lead time, which typically allows for one query at a time. But, under these circumstances, "the shotgun" style was quite effective, in both the immediate and longer term...

BigBoyLA does not have a current RM ad but does have this dedicate CoM thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/158585-bigboyla-in-la/

I loved it.

re "Side Stuff" Short answer: no anal, but likely including some combination of (possibly mutual) oral, kissing, rimming, j/o, etc. Longer answers: https://www.intomore.com/culture/identity/beyond-tops-and-bottoms-what-is-a-side/ https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a60897804/what-is-a-side/ https://www.pride.com/gay-sex/what-does-side-mean-on-grindr#rebelltitem14