Condomless encounters

[+ haring222]

I grew up in the 90s where condoms were just the norm.  I was also an escort in Chicago from '98-'02 where condoms were just required equipment.  Once I figured out a brand that fit, I never looked back or changed the routine.  As much as I like butts, I want a barrier between my dick any any possible stranger poo.

I was surprised recently... in NYC, hired a very good looking Bel Ami looking guy, originally from the UK, for 2 hours at an eyewatering rate.  Confirmed with him that I would want to top him for at least 45 minutes and that he was up for it.  About 30 minutes into it, I was getting a truly excellent blow job from him and needed it to stop before I went over the edge.  Flipped him over, rubbed his back and butt cheeks for a second, slipped a condom on my dick, slipped easily inside of him. 

Then he paused....'are you wearing a rubber?'  Assuming he was concerned, I answered yes and offered to let him see it.  

With half of my dick inside of this guy, we got into an argument about me wearing the condom.  He turned it into this weird thing and tried to guilt me into taking it off...I assumed he had a latex allergy and I told him it was latex free Skyn so no worries.  He pretty much told me that I was not going to wear a condom and top him and tried to physically reach around and take it off. 

Clearly, I am not going to force anyone to let me top them but the entire thing was just weird.  It's like a 180 form what I would occasionally encounter back in the 90s from positive guys.

[longislandjohn]

I think in the time of prep, using a condom is not that common, but a preference is a preference.  It is something that should be hammered out before an encounter.  If your profile, or his, states condom only, that should be respected.  Since you hired him, why would he care?  He's getting paid regardless and I'd think he'd prefer a condom.  I can't imagine that the escort demanded no condom.  Well, I'd take it as a compliment!  He was getting paid and still wanted the full experience!

[jeezifonly]

For both the insertive and receptive partners (who may both be neg on Prep) condom use reduces risk for the STI's that are not HIV. Disclose ahead that you always use them. BelAmi types may not have the emotional/intellectual intelligence to see beyond their own limited experience. 

[ShortCutie7]

Yep, when discussing potential activities in advance, I always say something along the lines of “if I top you I would have to wear a condom”. Not to beat a dead horse on here, but I still can’t imagine being anti-condom.

And exactly, even if STIs didn’t exist, I’d still probably want a barrier between my dick and the poop 💩 

[+ Jamie21]

It’s almost a badge of honour now that guys never use condoms, to give or to receive. There’s the whole ‘breeding’ thing  which I think drives this bareback dynamic. Plus extensive use of prep and doxyprep. 

Personally I don’t use them when I top and my experience is that very few clients ask me to use one. If I’m bottoming for a client then it’s up to him. I wouldn’t insist either way. In porn I never use them. Must admit I much prefer to bb, either way. Poop doesn’t bother me too much, just clean off and carry on. 

Edited March 16 by Jamie21

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, haring222 said:

With half of my dick inside of this guy, we got into an argument about me wearing the condom.  He turned it into this weird thing and tried to guilt me into taking it off...I assumed he had a latex allergy and I told him it was latex free Skyn so no worries.  He pretty much told me that I was not going to wear a condom and top him and tried to physically reach around and take it off. 

The kids are wild these days. Between PreP and Doxy-Prep, they have no fears of infection. But the joke will be on them eventually because a lot of STIs are becoming treatment-resistant.  Oh, and we're not developing new antibiotics. 

[diehard_002]

Does going bareback actually make a physical difference as in more friction/heat or is this just in your brain ? 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

7 minutes ago, diehard_002 said:

Does going bareback actually make a physical difference as in more friction/heat or is this just in your brain ? 

As a bottom, when things are getting started or going slow you can feel the difference between skin and a condom. The skin feels more tactile, different men have different textures, you can sense the head and so on. But if you're just getting pounded out, it doesn't make much difference. I used condoms from 14 until nearly 30 when me and husband, then monogamous, ditched them. I take PreP so I'm fine to go bareback but also fine if a guy wants to use condoms. In my experience, outside of the US a lot of providers use condoms. 

[harlow]

On 3/16/2026 at 3:34 PM, haring222 said:

I grew up in the 90s where condoms were just the norm.  I was also an escort in Chicago from '98-'02 where condoms were just required equipment.  Once I figured out a brand that fit, I never looked back or changed the routine.  As much as I like butts, I want a barrier between my dick any any possible stranger poo.

I was surprised recently... in NYC, hired a very good looking Bel Ami looking guy, originally from the UK, for 2 hours at an eyewatering rate.  Confirmed with him that I would want to top him for at least 45 minutes and that he was up for it.  About 30 minutes into it, I was getting a truly excellent blow job from him and needed it to stop before I went over the edge.  Flipped him over, rubbed his back and butt cheeks for a second, slipped a condom on my dick, slipped easily inside of him. 

Then he paused....'are you wearing a rubber?'  Assuming he was concerned, I answered yes and offered to let him see it.  

With half of my dick inside of this guy, we got into an argument about me wearing the condom.  He turned it into this weird thing and tried to guilt me into taking it off...I assumed he had a latex allergy and I told him it was latex free Skyn so no worries.  He pretty much told me that I was not going to wear a condom and top him and tried to physically reach around and take it off. 

Clearly, I am not going to force anyone to let me top them but the entire thing was just weird.  It's like a 180 form what I would occasionally encounter back in the 90s from positive guys.

This should've definitely been hashed out before the meeting even occurred.  Not knocking you but I always go over that sort of thing in my initial texts.  I'm a top and I've had some bottoms tell me that the feel of a condom can be a bit uncomfortable.  IDK thats just what I was told.  But I think both parties should agree on this sort of thing before the encounter and respect the decision....otherwise the meeting shouldn't occur.

[DMonDude]

On 3/16/2026 at 3:08 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

The kids are wild these days. Between PreP and Doxy-Prep, they have no fears of infection. But the joke will be on them eventually because a lot of STIs are becoming treatment-resistant.  Oh, and we're not developing new antibiotics. 

I get what you're saying, but the last bit simply isn't true. Two new antibiotic treatments for ghonorrea were just approved this past December for example. https://www.fda.gov/news-events/press-announcements/fda-approves-two-oral-therapies-treat-gonorrhea First new ones in decades.

New treatments may not be being released and widely advertised every day but the medical field isn't just sitting around waiting for a super bug to pop up. They're doing a lot of good work, including the fact that PrEP and DoxyPep require mandatory STI testing every 3 months specifically so they can catch an increase of infections and then act accordingly if resistance and infections increase beyond normal levels. I know it feels nice to feel better than people who are being slightly less cautious than you, but you should fact check and make sure you have correct info before making statements like that.

On 3/16/2026 at 1:34 PM, haring222 said:

I grew up in the 90s where condoms were just the norm.  I was also an escort in Chicago from '98-'02 where condoms were just required equipment.  Once I figured out a brand that fit, I never looked back or changed the routine.  As much as I like butts, I want a barrier between my dick any any possible stranger poo.

I was surprised recently... in NYC, hired a very good looking Bel Ami looking guy, originally from the UK, for 2 hours at an eyewatering rate.  Confirmed with him that I would want to top him for at least 45 minutes and that he was up for it.  About 30 minutes into it, I was getting a truly excellent blow job from him and needed it to stop before I went over the edge.  Flipped him over, rubbed his back and butt cheeks for a second, slipped a condom on my dick, slipped easily inside of him. 

Then he paused....'are you wearing a rubber?'  Assuming he was concerned, I answered yes and offered to let him see it.  

With half of my dick inside of this guy, we got into an argument about me wearing the condom.  He turned it into this weird thing and tried to guilt me into taking it off...I assumed he had a latex allergy and I told him it was latex free Skyn so no worries.  He pretty much told me that I was not going to wear a condom and top him and tried to physically reach around and take it off. 

Clearly, I am not going to force anyone to let me top them but the entire thing was just weird.  It's like a 180 form what I would occasionally encounter back in the 90s from positive guys.

Yeah as others have said. With PrEP and DoxyPep, people are much more willing to bareback these days. I kind of compare it to wearing a hard hat on a construction site. It's just a new hard hat with roughly the same level of protection if used properly, but one is much more comfortable to wear. The provider absolutely should not have acted the way he did and pressured you to take yours off though, that's super weird of them.

Edited Thursday at 06:50 PM by DMonDude

[+ SirBillybob]

Of course some news is better than no news. The two new medicines are approved for uncomplicated urogenital gonorrhea, not as a magic eraser for all anatomical sites. Even the recent reviews flag unresolved extragenital treatment failure, particularly pharyngeal efficacy, and worries about the type of resistance concerns that have plagued cure hopes. Neither zoliflodacin nor gepotidacin is being advanced for prophylaxis indication at this time. 

Deep throat is historically where NG therapies go to be humbled, while the least condom use understandably occurs with insertive and receptive oral. A three-decade slow crawl to the current drug milestone, not at all Infectious Diseases diffidence, might recalibrate one’s sense of how briskly the next generation of options will appear.

Edited Thursday at 09:24 PM by SirBillybob

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, SirBillybob said:

Of course some news is better than no news. The two new medicines are approved for uncomplicated urogenital gonorrhea, not as a magic eraser for all anatomical sites. Even the recent reviews flag unresolved extragenital treatment failure, particularly pharyngeal efficacy, and worries about the type of resistance concerns that has plagued cure attempts. 

Deep throat is historically where NG therapies go to be humbled, while the least condom use understandably occurs with insertive and receptive oral. A three-decade slow crawl to the current drug milestone, not at all Infectious Diseases diffidence, might recalibrate one’s sense of how briskly the next generation of options will appear.

Yeah no one is saying the new options are a magic eraser. Just saying they aren't nothing either. Work is being done, study is on going, and the situation surrounding treatment resistant strains of STIs is being closely monitored by keeping track of infection numbers and their upward or downward trends, which is possible and more accurate than ever because of how many of us are on PrEP/DoxyPep and thus getting tested far more regularly these days. And specifically because those things are true; the situation has not yet, and is less likely, to spin out of control, was more so my point.

Edited Thursday at 09:53 PM by DMonDude

[+ SirBillybob]

In reading the chatrooms I actually detect a fair amount of misguided reliance on DoxyPEP. Not magical thinking, that was colloquial, but a shortfall in grasping important nuances apart from irrefutable upside. 

Surveillance, increased testing cadence, and ongoing drug development are of course preferable to epidemiologic fog and research stagnation. My hesitation is with the subtle drift from the idea of enhanced disease visibility toward the notion of true sustainable better control. 

More testing can improve detection without proportionally reducing transmission. Therapeutic pipelines can exist while antimicrobial resistance realities evolve alongside them. A pair of “promising” first-in-class additions to the toolbox does not necessarily justify the degree of reassurance some seem to derive from their existence alone, particularly when DoxyPEP itself is imperfect against NG, pharyngeal infection reservoirs remain notoriously difficult terrain for the current aggregate of options, and resistance anxieties begin shadowing new agents almost as soon as they appear on the horizon.

Improved diagnostic and treatment infrastructure aside, I’m less convinced the current state of affairs should be mistaken for stabilization. Pray I’m wrong. 

Edited yesterday at 12:20 AM by SirBillybob

[soloyo215]

On 3/16/2026 at 4:34 PM, haring222 said:

I grew up in the 90s where condoms were just the norm.  I was also an escort in Chicago from '98-'02 where condoms were just required equipment.  Once I figured out a brand that fit, I never looked back or changed the routine.  As much as I like butts, I want a barrier between my dick any any possible stranger poo.

I was surprised recently... in NYC, hired a very good looking Bel Ami looking guy, originally from the UK, for 2 hours at an eyewatering rate.  Confirmed with him that I would want to top him for at least 45 minutes and that he was up for it.  About 30 minutes into it, I was getting a truly excellent blow job from him and needed it to stop before I went over the edge.  Flipped him over, rubbed his back and butt cheeks for a second, slipped a condom on my dick, slipped easily inside of him. 

Then he paused....'are you wearing a rubber?'  Assuming he was concerned, I answered yes and offered to let him see it.  

With half of my dick inside of this guy, we got into an argument about me wearing the condom.  He turned it into this weird thing and tried to guilt me into taking it off...I assumed he had a latex allergy and I told him it was latex free Skyn so no worries.  He pretty much told me that I was not going to wear a condom and top him and tried to physically reach around and take it off. 

Clearly, I am not going to force anyone to let me top them but the entire thing was just weird.  It's like a 180 form what I would occasionally encounter back in the 90s from positive guys.

Sorry that happened. Not sure why that's weird. Honestly, this is the year 2026. The 90s are long gone. Condoms are an option for people to wear if they choose, and many choose not to use them. The 90s mentality about it should stay in the 90s. I also remember that in the 90s there was a lot of negotiating safer sex and conversations about condoms before having any. A conversation about it like we used to back then would have avoided the weird interaction. Seems like that part of the 90s didn't make it to 2026.

A 20-something Bel Ami - looking guy was not alive in the 90s, so it's not realistic for him to magically get where you come from about condom use.  That should have been a discussion. RM even has a section where providers state their preferences around condom use and safer sex practices.

[Monarchy79]

Regarding the issue of poop; it’s deeper than the concern of poop getting on your penis, but particles of fecal matter getting IN your penis, which can cause bacterial infections. 

[BuffaloKyle]

19 hours ago, Monarchy79 said:

Regarding the issue of poop; it’s deeper than the concern of poop getting on your penis, but particles of fecal matter getting IN your penis, which can cause bacterial infections. 

It's best as soon as you can after topping bareback to take a piss. I'll try to drink a nice amount of water right before a session so by the time it's over I should be good to use the bathroom. This is one reason I prefer to host so I can hop in the shower as soon as the provider leaves so I can clean off my cock and take a nice piss. Also make sure when you're in the shower don't hold open your penis head to clean it until after you've pissed because all you'd be doing is having the water push any bacteria deeper into your system.

Sure you could shower after as well if the provider is hosting but I'd rather not spend part of my session on the clock taking a shower.

I've gotten gonorrhea/chlamydia three times in my life about ten years apart each time and it does suck.

Edited 7 hours ago by BuffaloKyle

[Tandy Newton]

Todays bareback porn is like fentanyl. Speaking from personal experience, it has messed up my brain so much, that if a scene has two very hot guys in it and they use condoms, I immediately stop. I use to watch both vintage porn and contemporary porn videos with condom usage without issue. But somewhere between Treasure Island Media was coming into the mainstream and Sean Cody switching to bareback thanks to Truvada, my mind switch. I remember a scene with Jarek and Raymond from SC, the part near the end when Jarek came all over Raymond's greasy butthole and just the look of his thick ropey cum then the piece de resistance when he shoved his beautiful thick long tool back into Raymonds hole...it made me cum so hard and so much, my entire room smelled like starch for days. Something just switched in my brain that day. 

A year after that video, I had my first bareback encounter as a bottom; this was with a 8.5 inch thick tool. Tore me up so bad, I bled and had to go on emergency PEP. Thankfully didn't contract anything. But I have always had a love/hate relationship with condoms. Guys have considered me to be on the bigger side and I never really had a good fit or experience with condoms. They either slip off or kill my erection. But if a partner or provider insist on it, I wear it. I will say this though, bareback orgasm is on another level. You can have an intense orgasm with a condom, but based on my experience, it feels controlled and neutered to some extent. 

One of my most memorable BB experiences happened a couple times last year in the fall and its just so unforgettable. It creates an unbelieveable connection with your partner you never forget. 

[BuffaloKyle]

17 minutes ago, Tandy Newton said:

 I remember a scene with Jarek and Raymond from SC, the part near the end when Jarek came all over Raymond's greasy butthole and just the look of his thick ropey cum then the piece de resistance when he shoved his beautiful thick long tool back into Raymonds hole...it made me cum so hard and so much, my entire room smelled like starch for days. Something just switched in my brain that day. 

I had to look that up it sounded hot!

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