Providers cumming on overnights

[Mark_fl]

Just curious here. I recently did an overnight and the provider told me that he can only promise one ejaculation, but can usually do more.

Is this a normal provider comcern/comment in your experiences? It wasn't a problem (and there was more than 1). 

Was he hedging based on his ability,  my attractiveness/skill, or just this particular provider?  I do appreciate being forewarned. And almost took it as a fun challenge. But still found it surprising for an overnight, when young bucks of 25 should be ok every couple of hours. I'm 60, and use no enhancements,  so my needs wouldn't have exceeded is abilities,  but I guess he didn't know that going in either.

[maninsoma]

He sounds like a reasonable kind of guy by setting expectations so that he isn't confronted by some guy who thinks that just because he's young he should be able to be a fountain of cum all night long if that's what the client wants.  Better to under promise and over deliver.

[Nue2thegame]

Agree with maninsomnia. Everyone is different and the setting, alcohol, other activities can influence performance. Also there’s a difference between getting it up and ejaculating. I have heard providers express concern over expectations to cum which may be out of their hands. I’d wait and see what happens and not take it as a challenge. I wouldn’t be concerned by his comment and it’s not likely that he knows what’s going on in your head, unless he reads CoM. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

But still found it surprising for an overnight, when young bucks of 25 should be ok every couple of hours.

He's a human, not Old Faithful. ⛲ 

Kudos to this young man for knowing his body and for not being ashamed to acknowledge his limitations.  It's best not to make promises one can't always keep. 👏 

Edited Wednesday at 04:48 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[PetetKsfo]

We all (providers and clients alike) are human.    I too would rather under promise and over deliver than the reverse. 

[LookingAround]

It's amazing how clients often view escorts as robots and not human human beings

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, LookingAround said:

It's amazing how clients often view escorts as robots and not human human beings

That's quite a leap. I don't see where anyone did that. Assuming a younger person, especially a professional sex worker, would be able to have ejaculate as many times as a 60 year old isn't treating them like a robot. 

If you asked any of the men I hired, I am 100% certain they feel the same way.

[Braziliancutee]

If the escort is top is hard for him to cum normally. Bc sometimes they don’t have so much attraction and they took viagra and other pills to stay fucking for hours. So it’s hard for them to cum. A few guys they don’t use pills but they they don’t stay so much time fucking.
(is what I heard from a few escort friends who do top)

Edited Thursday at 03:17 PM by Braziliancutee

[LookingAround]

12 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

That's quite a leap. I don't see where anyone did that. Assuming a younger person, especially a professional sex worker, would be able to have ejaculate as many times as a 60 year old isn't treating them like a robot. 

If you asked any of the men I hired, I am 100% certain they feel the same way.

You seem to think my post is an outlier and that I'm way out on an island somewhere with an isolated opinion and you're "in the know." (my words not yours.)

Curious that my post is already accrued several likes from others.

Edited yesterday at 01:23 AM by LookingAround

[Mark_fl]

20 minutes ago, LookingAround said:

You seem to think my post is an outlier and that I'm way out on an island somewhere with an isolated opinion and you're "in the know." (my words not yours.)

Curious that my post is already accrued several likes from others.

Interesting that you think popularity of opinion makes one correct. I simply asked a question about what others found normal, as I was surprised.  Nobody was treated like a robot. But feel free to get 100 people to give you a thumbs up if it makes you feel good. 

[BuckCanucked]

Related but off topic a bit... what is the appeal of an overnight? Maybe I'm being too literal but if we have dinner, wrestle for a couple hours, cuddle, sleep, wake, wrestle again, shower, and separate. Is that an overnight? Am I paying for sleep? Or os it like a sleepover where we play PS2 until dawn? How is it different from a BFE? Am I missing a great experience?

[Mark_fl]

I would say if you have dinner, play, sleep and play, yes. Thats pretty much an overnight.

For me the appeal is that it doesn't feel as transactional if you spend some time talking,  cuddling and sleeping spooning,  maybe even taking a fun break in the middle of the night.

The few times I've hired for an hour or 2, I didn't find it relaxing.  I was watching the clock,  making sure I did everything I wanted before he had to go.  I may do a shorter session with a provider I already feel comfortable with, but experience has shown me that overnights are the way to go for me.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, BuckCanucked said:

Related but off topic a bit... what is the appeal of an overnight? Maybe I'm being too literal but if we have dinner, wrestle for a couple hours, cuddle, sleep, wake, wrestle again, shower, and separate. Is that an overnight? Am I paying for sleep? Or os it like a sleepover where we play PS2 until dawn? How is it different from a BFE? Am I missing a great experience?

Here is a pretty good itinerary for an overnight, provided by @Rod Hagen:

Knock on the door, on time. Walk in.

 

1. meet and greet and kiss deep and fuck around.

2. Rest and talk and kiss and cuddle.

3. fuck around. Shower together.

4. dinner and convo

5. fuck around again then either

Bath together or it's also fun to mess around in the empty hotel pool at night.

then fuck around again.

6. Maybe another shower together. Get ready together, like a long term couple, for bed.

7. Cuddle tight and Sleep.

8. Fuck around in the middle of the night.

9. Cuddle Tight and Sleep.

10. Wake up blowjobs all around.

11. Coffee and cuddling in bed.

12. Morning fuck around.

13. Breakfast in the room, each with one hand on the other's bits

14. As much fucking around as you can handle post, burp, breakfast.

15. Shower together again.

16. Fish out the dicks from the pants for one more blowjob at the door.

17. Kiss his forehead, kiss his hand. Make out deep. Grab his hand and thank him for a wonderful night looking right at him. One more deep kiss. Leave the hotel room.

 

 

 

 

Five minutes later, knock on the door because you forgot the money. Kiss again. Say goodbye.

 

Now, that's an unplanned overnight.

 

Source:

 

 

[soloyo215]

On 2/25/2026 at 8:09 AM, Mark_fl said:

Just curious here. I recently did an overnight and the provider told me that he can only promise one ejaculation, but can usually do more.

Is this a normal provider comcern/comment in your experiences? It wasn't a problem (and there was more than 1). 

Was he hedging based on his ability,  my attractiveness/skill, or just this particular provider?  I do appreciate being forewarned. And almost took it as a fun challenge. But still found it surprising for an overnight, when young bucks of 25 should be ok every couple of hours. I'm 60, and use no enhancements,  so my needs wouldn't have exceeded is abilities,  but I guess he didn't know that going in either.

I find these to be valid questions. I'm not going to imply that you don;t think of him as a human since I have no reason or need for it, but I do want to add, I wonder if you have considered asking him.

I don't think that there's a "normal" when it comes to amount of ejaculations in an overnight provider experience. My thoughts are that maybe he's concerned about expectations more than number of ejaculations. It might be that he might have other commitments before or after and he's just trying to distribute his energy.

Also, how important is that to you? I myself have had many sexual encounters that were wonderful without ejaculating. I like the climatic part of sex, but I also enjoy the rest and have been ok without ejaculating.

You haven't mentioned if you are ok with what he stated. Are you? Is that a deal breaker? He's clear about what he can offer, so it's up to you to accept that deal.

[jeezifonly]

I'm old school, aka old.  I'm not paying him for the sex, I'm paying him to leave. The same day. 

[+ Jamie21]

When you do sex as work (whether that’s escorting/massage or porn) it can become difficult to cum. So often you’re trying not to cum because ‘it’s not time yet for the film or the client …you get used to not cumming. In addition sex becomes so normal and commonplace that you become desensitised to some extent. I expect this is probably the reason he was trying to set expectations. I always try to set expectations with clients, we’re human. Things don’t always work. 

Some clients can have quite unrealistic expectations of an overnight (although to be fair those guys never actually book…they just talk about it). Overnights are more about companionship than endless full sex and cumming. It’s about chatting, cuddling, bathing, eating, watching tv or porn together, going to the hotel gym, kissing in the elevator, holding hands at the bar, kissing him passionately while he’s pinned up against the corridor wall, visiting a local sauna together, hiding under the duvet sucking him off while he phones his partner 🫣, showing him how your new prostate massage toy works, walking out of the bathroom in nothing but a leather harness and jock just as room service has wheeled in dinner…. (Ok so some of these may be autobiographical 😂). What I mean is these kind of longer sessions are about connecting much more deeply than is possible in a shorter 90m session.

Tbh I prefer to do them as an afternoon rather than overnight. They work really nicely as a 2pm to 8pm or something like that because it’s sexy to have afternoon fun while everyone else is working, there’s no sleep involved (I like my sleep uninterrupted!) and somehow it feels more illicit. Day use hotel rooms make such a thing possible. 

[LookingAround]

11 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Interesting that you think popularity of opinion makes one correct. I simply asked a question about what others found normal, as I was surprised.  Nobody was treated like a robot. But feel free to get 100 people to give you a thumbs up if it makes you feel good. 

I didn't say that. You did. 

[jackcali]

12 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Here is a pretty good itinerary for an overnight, provided by @Rod Hagen:

Knock on the door, on time. Walk in.

 

1. meet and greet and kiss deep and fuck around.

2. Rest and talk and kiss and cuddle.

3. fuck around. Shower together.

4. dinner and convo

5. fuck around again then either

Bath together or it's also fun to mess around in the empty hotel pool at night.

then fuck around again.

6. Maybe another shower together. Get ready together, like a long term couple, for bed.

7. Cuddle tight and Sleep.

8. Fuck around in the middle of the night.

9. Cuddle Tight and Sleep.

10. Wake up blowjobs all around.

11. Coffee and cuddling in bed.

12. Morning fuck around.

13. Breakfast in the room, each with one hand on the other's bits

14. As much fucking around as you can handle post, burp, breakfast.

15. Shower together again.

16. Fish out the dicks from the pants for one more blowjob at the door.

17. Kiss his forehead, kiss his hand. Make out deep. Grab his hand and thank him for a wonderful night looking right at him. One more deep kiss. Leave the hotel room.

 

 

 

 

Five minutes later, knock on the door because you forgot the money. Kiss again. Say goodbye.

 

Now, that's an unplanned overnight.

 

That's a great itinerary for an overnight, but at my age it would have to be an overnight in January at the North Pole because I'd need two weeks to get through all of that activity.  

[Venite]

13 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Here is a pretty good itinerary for an overnight, provided by @Rod Hagen:

Knock on the door, on time. Walk in.

 

1. meet and greet and kiss deep and fuck around.

2. Rest and talk and kiss and cuddle.

3. fuck around. Shower together.

4. dinner and convo

5. fuck around again then either

Bath together or it's also fun to mess around in the empty hotel pool at night.

then fuck around again.

6. Maybe another shower together. Get ready together, like a long term couple, for bed.

7. Cuddle tight and Sleep.

8. Fuck around in the middle of the night.

9. Cuddle Tight and Sleep.

10. Wake up blowjobs all around.

11. Coffee and cuddling in bed.

12. Morning fuck around.

13. Breakfast in the room, each with one hand on the other's bits

14. As much fucking around as you can handle post, burp, breakfast.

15. Shower together again.

16. Fish out the dicks from the pants for one more blowjob at the door.

17. Kiss his forehead, kiss his hand. Make out deep. Grab his hand and thank him for a wonderful night looking right at him. One more deep kiss. Leave the hotel room.

 

 

 

 

Five minutes later, knock on the door because you forgot the money. Kiss again. Say goodbye.

 

Now, that's an unplanned overnight.

 

Source:

 

 

Don’t forget the serendipitous paintings!

[Rayphactor]

On 2/25/2026 at 9:39 AM, maninsoma said:

He sounds like a reasonable kind of guy by setting expectations so that he isn't confronted by some guy who thinks that just because he's young he should be able to be a fountain of cum all night long if that's what the client wants.  Better to under promise and over deliver.

While I have never hired overnight, I've thought about it. I agree ... I would rather have good communication and expectations so there isn't disappointment.

[Luv2play]

In all the overnight sessions I have done and they number in the dozens over the last decade, to set an arbitrary time period, I have only had one provider who came 4 times, and that was in two different sessions. 
Once before dinner, another in the evening before bed, in the middle of the of the night and then on waking up. I have seen him since but only for short sessions. He always cums in those too. 
He’s around 30 now so going back to our first date he was around 23 or 24. 
Youth is a wonderful thing.

[Mark_fl]

No, it wasn't a deal breaker for me. I was just a little surprised at the notification for an overnight. He managed to cum three times so I must have been doing something right. He also said that was close to his record and he was surprised at the number. 

Now he could say that to everyone,  but he felt genuine to me, which is what matters.

[+ purplekow]

I am in my over 60s and not every sexual encounter needs to end in a fully explosive orgasm.  For an overnight, I can usually come 3 times, once at the beginning, one before bed, and one in the morning.  That does not mean there is no sexual activity aside from those times.  As for the escort, he can come as often as he likes as long as it is at least once.  Once I come, many escorts feel that particular session is over.  On the other hand, I have had escorts ask me if it is okay that they come before I do.  I find that very hot and I also find those men are usually anxious to 1 get me off strongly soon after and 2 often anxious to come again later in the visit. I have had overnight escorts come 5 or 6 times and others just the once.  I do not judge their number as long as they have my number where I like it.  

[+ Tygerscent]

23 hours ago, BuckCanucked said:

Related but off topic a bit... what is the appeal of an overnight? Maybe I'm being too literal but if we have dinner, wrestle for a couple hours, cuddle, sleep, wake, wrestle again, shower, and separate. Is that an overnight? Am I paying for sleep? Or os it like a sleepover where we play PS2 until dawn? How is it different from a BFE? Am I missing a great experience?

For me an overnight is typically been 14 to 16 hours… Usually when I arrive we start playing and not pretty much goes on until my Client taps out but, during the duration of the time, it can also include freshening up with a shower or sitting in the tub, having a snack or going out for dinner… Sometimes Clients enjoy social activity like going to the theater or a concert or hanging out with friends we may or may not play with… Then typically we play in the evening and again that can either go all night long or until my Client taps out. 
 Sometimes relaxing massages on the menu and that’s fine too… It really depends on the individuals and also whether there are other providers as part of the equation or just one on one~
 Sometimes it can also include counseling, whether emotional or psychological or erotic~ i’ve been with some guys who also might like to attend a sex party and that could be really fun too. Even in that situation, sometimes they play at the sex party and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they want to see me playing with other people and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes we are simply there watching, but typically we are engaged in everything that’s going on around us~ 

 Beyond the 14 to 16 hours, you move into a 24 hour situation and typically there is some sleep involved, but the beauty of all of the longer appointments is that you get to play things out according to whatever time frames you usually agree upon and the shorter the session, the less opportunity you have to adjust to things like I need to freshen up or a phone call from a partner or a spouse or I need to find a lube if it got spilled or something like that… It’s not a perfect world and sometimes things happen. So, it’s good to have the extra time and also tbh, it’s a total bonus, not having to rush through things… It gives you a chance to get to know your partner on any number of levels beyond just the physicality of the session~

 It’s even more complex and more diverse when you are with somebody for several days or a week or two months… The longer appointments allow for some greater depth beyond a simple one hour. I’ve never actually done a one hour and I found the minimum two hour session to be more engaging and meaningful three dimensionally on so many levels. A one hour appointment seems like you’re coming in the door and then spending time taking your clothes off and then also sometimes taking your clothes on so you’re never really there for the hour anyway what guys are paying for is actually dressing and undressing and kind of moving into things. Sometimes that crazy rush can be exciting and visceral but, in the long run I prefer the bonding and so I fancy the two hour concept.