Clients that try to negotiate prices

[ProudWhore]

I never understood what's the point of trying to reach out an escort to try to impose the price. If you are too cheap or too broke to hire a sexual worker, just don't do it. Long story short, I had this man from Boston telling me that my rate was too expensive and that he hired cheaper escorts in the past. Supposedly the potential client had an overnight for under 800 bucks that included everything. I was like, WHUT? Lmao. This other young man told me he was in college and that I should make my price 150 the hour (I felt so insulted).

Interesting enough, the latter sent a pic of himself and I have to admit that he looked quite easy to work for (a total hottie). I actually wanted to fuck the shit out of him (mind you that I rarely do anal) but the rate was too insulting for my ego. I would probably never hookup for free with him. I'm very muscular-oriented and he didn't seem so muscular. Anyways. Maybe that was a bit off-topic

Edited Friday at 03:30 AM by ProudWhore

[Unonymous30xxx]

This should probably be in the "questions about hiring" forum

[savantsav]

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

[acks0104]

I think it's tacky to try and talk down a price that a provider sets, but providers also need to learn not to take the bait. If someone is going to start haggling with you, just block them and move on. No need to engage.

[jmichaeliii]

My motto... either pay what is asked or pick someone else.

I will sometimes ask what a multi hour rate is because sometimes if you book 2, 3 or 4 hours it could be less.  But if it's not, pay it or move on.  Negotiating rates just puts a damper on the whole experience.

[BuzzLiteQueer]

When I contact a provider, I tell him about my interests, give him my stats (age, height, weight, etc), and tell him what the donation will be.  80% of the time this works; perhaps at a price lower than he would have asked and perhaps at a price more than he would have asked.  This avoids the haggling and the ill will it can generate even if he ultimately accepts your offer.

[peter831]

I always ask the provider their rate. If it is above my budget, I tell them that and thank them for replying. I am always prepared to move on. I don't try to negotiate, but often I find that the provider will ask my budget (which is always reasonable) and they reset to accommodate. Treating people with respect and being flexible goes a long way in my experience. 

[Mark_fl]

I just tell a provider whose rate I feel is too high something like, "thank you. I'm sure you're worth it,  but thats out of my price range."

But i wouldn't want a counter-offer. I dont want him to feel nickel and dimed, and I don't want to feel that I'm not getting his best because he feels like i haggled.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

Proudwhore, older clients should know better than to try to haggle.

I have more sympathy for the potential college client. He may be too young and naive to know the etiquette of hiring.

[ProudWhore]

1 hour ago, Whoisyourdaddy said:

Proudwhore, older clients should know better than to try to haggle.

I have more sympathy for the potential college client. He may be too young and naive to know the etiquette of hiring.

The college student seems to be in his mid or late 20's. I guess he is not discreet because he wanted to meet in the campus. His name is also all over Google. This is how I know he was the one in the pictures he sent. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I do not negotiate. I ask the price and if it is not within my budget I thank them and move on. 

However, as @peter831 mentioned, the provider will counteroffer more than half the time. This is VERY uncomfortable to me. I deal with vendors as part of my work and I'm happy to negotiate with big companies - who are often overcharging - but I do not do that with small businesses or freelancers. 

I'm curious what @ProudWhore and other providers think of those whose prices seem flexible. Are they giving clients the wrong impression? 

[+ Jamie21]

50 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm curious what @ProudWhore and other providers think of those whose prices seem flexible. Are they giving clients the wrong impression? 

I’d never be critical of how a provider chooses to price his service. I have a very strict no discount policy even if clients ask, it’s a ‘no’ and if clients say ‘that’s more than I was expecting or more than I’m used to paying’ I just say ‘good luck’. But I’m fortunate to be in a position to turn down business. Many guys aren’t, or will accept something over nothing because they need to earn. So if those guys choose that policy that’s good for them. It might give some clients the impression that all guys are open to negotiating but that’s not a problem. I don’t mind clients asking just as long as they don’t mind getting a negative response. I think asking for a discount does however make me think of the client differently: those who have booked at full price after having asked for a discount are often the clients who are most difficult. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

27 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I think asking for a discount does however make me think of the client differently: those who have booked at full price after having asked for a discount are often the clients who are most difficult. 

I’m not surprised that those two go together. I have found in my career that if someone doesn’t want to pay what I quote, if I agree to a discounted rate, it’s usually the beginning of being nickel and dimed the entire time.

[+ Jamie21]

7 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I’m not surprised that those two go together. I have found in my career that if someone doesn’t want to pay what I quote, if I agree to a discounted rate, it’s usually the beginning of being nickel and dimed the entire time.

Exactly that. It’s like they think of it as a game and it’s all about who can get one over the other. It’s very transactional. That’s the antithesis of a sensual massage which is all about building intimacy and trust. 

[jmichaeliii]

25 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

Exactly that. It’s like they think of it as a game and it’s all about who can get one over the other. It’s very transactional. That’s the antithesis of a sensual massage which is all about building intimacy and trust. 

Nothing good can come from negotiating providers rates.  How is either party going to feel good about the experience if they feel screwed (not in the good way)?

There are so many good providers that have what I consider affordable rates and tend to be more down to earth and fun.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, jmichaeliii said:

There are so many good providers that have what I consider affordable rates and tend to be more down to earth and fun.

This is exactly my experience. 

[MikeBiDude]

On 12/4/2025 at 5:38 PM, Whoisyourdaddy said:

Proudwhore, older clients should know better than to try to haggle.

I’m approaching the end of my 70th 7th decade, don’t consider myself “old”. Confident of my age, my look, my personality, and my respect for providers.

I don’t “haggle”. But, if a provider quotes a rate that far and away above the local market rates, I’ll politely decline. If they then come back with an adjusted offer, I might continue the conversation. Perhaps end up discussing a “session rate” which often meets their quoted rate…but for an extended period of meeting time.

[+ azdr0710]

as most here do, I don't haggle and will politely move on if the offered terms are not agreeable......no big deal

however, I did haggle once!!.....about ten or more years ago, I contacted former adult star Chad Conners for a meet in the LA area (valley)......during pre-meet planning, he admitted one of his arms was in a cast from hand to near-elbow.....his initial "famous porn star" rate was very high considering he was a bit past his classic surfer-dude looks and I politely asked for a rate reduction considering the cast......he agreed and the meet was fantastic.......

[SecretProvider]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I have a very strict no discount policy even if clients ask, it’s a ‘no’ and if clients say ‘that’s more than I was expecting or more than I’m used to paying’ I just say ‘good luck’.

I love it when they reply back 'can you do 100?' 🫠

 

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I think asking for a discount does however make me think of the client differently: those who have booked at full price after having asked for a discount are often the clients who are most difficult

100% this. 

I've had a client explain that they work as consultants/freelancers and are often negotiating rates. Some cultures see negotiating as part of it. I take your approach, and I have only accepted a reduced rate when they offer it for a longer booking (which I do anyway) 

[JB_Studio38]

This is why years ago, I converted to a tier level of pricing. It’s common with female providers to offer 15-30 minutes in addition to hourly. Or QVs (quick visits) prices. Although it’s not always the full rate, there’s been times where I’ve had to suck it up or be sucked up (pun intended) for something less than what I originally desired. 
 

And it’s not a matter of desperation; sometimes I just want to make use of the time I have available and if the guy can also meet at the same time, great. I have my tier options if they want something cheaper. I rather do even $200 every so often, than to be fucking for free on hookup apps like a good majority of the MSM community is expecting us to do. 
 

However, most times lately I don’t have to contend with too much haggling. I have a pretty ample photo gallery, which lets others know I’m going to stand by what I prefer to do. I just don’t like blatant price comparisons or being told “too expensive” or “too much”. Would it be too much, for YOU to meet and sleep with a guy you don’t know looks like, and maybe not your type? Bet they wouldn’t.

Like one fairly lucky to be married to a “financially stable” guy I was chatting with at his home in Iowa. He’s like, yeah I would be an escort: for $100,000. Like okay…now I feel cheap even if I were asking $500/hr 😂 

Edited yesterday at 07:55 AM by JB_Studio38

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

20 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

I’m approaching the end of my 70th 7th decade, don’t consider myself “old”. Confident of my age, my look, my personality, and my respect for providers.

I don’t “haggle”. But, if a provider quotes a rate that far and away above the local market rates, I’ll politely decline. If they then come back with an adjusted offer, I might continue the conversation. Perhaps end up discussing a “session rate” which often meets their quoted rate…but for an extended period of meeting time.

70th decade? If Bozo's math is correct, that would make you close to 700 years old. If so, you are definitely entitled to a senior citizens discount by every provider out there!
Negotiating a little extra time for the provider's quoted rate is an excellent idea. Bozo will use that strategy when negotiating his next massage/escort session.

BTC
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[+ DrownedBoy]

My policy - if an escort says he wants 300/350 an hour, and doesn't give his two hour rate, I offer 500 for two hours, with the understanding that a lot of it will be cuddling and watching TV during the refractory period between orgasms.

Otherwise, I never haggle. Especially when escorts say they want to "get to know my budget."

[MikeBiDude]

2 hours ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

70th decade? If Bozo's math is correct, that would make you close to 700 years old. If so, you are definitely entitled to a senior citizens discount by every provider out there!
Negotiating a little extra time for the provider's quoted rate is an excellent idea. Bozo will use that strategy when negotiating his next massage/escort session.

BTC
🤡

Fixed that for us…no wonder I was feeling so slow this morning.