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I hear you and in my experience when I've "leaned in" I've ended up disappointed. That's that

Yes, but you still require the skill haha. I can pretend I am a very skilled gymnast, but I still need to be able to do the jumps and splits.

You misunderstand and are putting on me things that I do not subscribe to. I'm fully verse and idgaf about Top and Bottom roles, I fuck ass and get fucked by dick, there's no "bottom shame" on my side. When I'm looking to hire a Blacksmith and I see an Ad for someone, and I check their work and ALL of their work is in Carpentry, chances are, they won't be as good as a Blacksmith as they are as a Carpenter. There's no shame involved in it. There's no 'societal roles' and the like. Can they do the job, yes or no? If I see an Ad for someone and see all their smithing work chances are, they'll do a smithing job without issues. The times I've hired a Carpenter to do Smithing work I've been very disappointed and so I don't hire Carpenters anymore and ask them to do Smithing work. Do you see now how I see it ? Top/Bottom it doesn't matter, can you do the job yes or no and I've found that those whose content/profile mainly features them bottoming it doesn't inspire in me the confidence that they'll be able to Top and to that effect at least 6 guys have had issues performing the way I describe. So yes, that works for me to self select. I'm looking for a Blacksmith and a Carpenter just won't do, even if they swear they can do Smithing work.

It wasn't just one and one bad experience. I can count in two hands the times providers who advertise as Tops can't perform because they're really bottoms. One of them even asked me if I had any Viagra or Trimmix. So I am looking for that Top energy and if there's any indication offsite that they cannot bring it, I won't book. Many of them have OFs, Twitter, and yes even grindr/scruff/sniffies profiles, if in any of them they're overwhelmingly bottoming, I won't book, I've already been burnt several times.

I 100% get what you're saying, having said that I have been burnt before by providers whom I know are bttms in real life and aren't able to perform as Tops. So I rather not engage when I see it is SO far off from who they are.

The only time it makes no sense for me is when what they're advertise is so far away from who they are. I know someone in LA, they're this muscled stud, I've seen him on the apps as a 'Bottom' with his profile saying 'total bottom', I've seen him at the LA sex parties always ass up taking dick, I've seen him on sniffies posting his cumdumps where he takes 20 dicks a night, which is hot there's nothing wrong with that. He advertises as a Top however, so I see him topping as something so far away from who he is. I have to know/feel like they're into it even if it's very slight. It's like, I don't hire straight guys. I don't care if they can get hard and fuck, I know they're straight and not into it.

I met him once and he wasn't great, he was definitely rude at that time. This was yeeears ago but he reached out to me about 6 months ago saying he was visiting town and when I gave him the feedback he apologized and said he now knows better and if I could give him a chance. I did and we had a lot of good fun.

I did ask him several times and told him that I understood if he was going through something or using a new medication or whatever. He never really shared anything else other than "It's just difficult for me to cum".

I mean the D was good so is not like I was suffering haha I was getting off. But BFE with no cum isn't BFE.

We did an overnight where he didn't cum, so I mentioned it to him and he said that was the goal but couldn't. OK that's fine it happens. Next time we saw each other we had another overnight where it didn't happen and that's when he apologized again. I didn't book an overnight again, I did 3hrs next time I was in town and he didn't either. That's when I stopped things.

He didn't say. I have two suspicions: one, him using Trimix or similar ED meds that make cumming hard and/or 2) Maybe he's on SSRIs or similar that prevent it. Regardless, if he knew he had issues with it, he should've told me upfront before any booking.

This happened to me last year. Met a fantastic provider, and told him my expectations. He was delivering those expectations... until he started slipping. We would meet for 2-3 hours usually and would have overnights once a month or every other month. After about 5 months he just... started doing the bare minimum. He didn't cum anymore (on 2-3 hour meets AND overnights). I told him that I expected it, he said that was the goal but sometimes he couldn't which I understood once, or twice but after 4-5 meets and him not delivering, I told him that I appreciated our time together but if he wasn't able to cum I understood but it wasn't going to work for me. I told him if anything were to change on his side to let me know but I wasn't going to book again. He understood but don't think he took it well. You stop booking, that's what you do. You tell them you expect X. If they don't deliver X then you don't book again.

If they're someone I see regularly (2x a month) and ESPECIALLY if we do something like overnights or 3+ hour meets... I would expect them to reach out to me randomly in between meets with sexy /erotic messages. A once or twice a week "can't wait to get in that ass again" "I'm so hard remembering you sucking my cock" things that make me go "fuckkkkk" and keep me wanting to add more time or more bookings.

Lets see https://rentmen.eu/Rainer https://rentmen.eu/TheLawsonGraves

Yup that's him

I'll arrive late to PS around 9pm or so but will happily meet folks along Arenas

I think when people, especially people here, refer to "drugs" as bad we're talking about the big offenders of badness: Meth, GHB, fent/morphine/opiods like cocaine. These are the ones that'll most likely cause sudden erratic behavior. Alcohol takes time, weed doesn't, aspirin??caffeine? nobody is referring to those.

Sensual usually means "the least amount of things I need to do to get this client off the table while having them paying the most".

I recently had a massage guy in LA who would charge escort rates and we did some side play at the end of the massage, all good no problem. Until one time there was no side play after and I still paid escort rate and left... a week later he texts me asking if I wanted to book and I told him that while enjoy the massage the previous time there was no side play and... he went off on me saying that he brings ENERGY and his SELF to the whole session and he shouldn't feel PRESSURED to do things he didn't want to do. I said "OK Understood" and didn't book again.

In the gay community mostly Meth and GHB. Cocaine too. I don't book anyone with PNP on their profile.

If I see someone with 'PNP' on their profile I won't book. When I've asked about this they either refer to Meth, or GHB. The whole "I have PNP in case my clients use, but I don't" is... sus.

Check their ads for any keywords. PNP, Party, random G or K capital letters, clouds, smoke, crystal emojis or party hat emojis. “Long sessions” can also mean drug usage

I mean you're literally being rude and offensive to all Jewish people. I think he might've dodged a bullet there.

TBH I would prefer if they're that direct that they wouldn't be able to perform. Whether that's an age, weight, disability thing I rather they tell me so we don't waste each other's time.

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