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I tagged him so he could come defend himself. Wasn’t just gonna talk behind his back. and I can stay here allllll you all want. We already got to the root that I do not believe he couldn’t reach out. That’s it. Anything else you or anyone else wants to add? We can keep going in circles.

I didn’t say you asked me for one, I said to people in the future to not give you one because you might flake on them. Again, I’m sorry about what happened to you, but I do not believe you had no way to reply for over 12hrs and it was only when I texted again late in the evening when conveniently you were waking up from your IV and was able to reply. You were not going to reach out on your own. There’s nothing at this point you can say that’ll make me believe you couldn’t so we’ll agree to disagree on that. That’s it, stop tagging me. I’m moving on.

Getting pulled on this as I keep getting tagged. Sorry you went through all that but I don’t believe you had no way to let me know you couldn’t make it. You showed online on RM throughout the day and how convenient that when I texted you at 10:40pm then is when you could reply to me, in here you shared our screenshots but conveniently left out the ones where I’m texting you, all very sus behavior. You were cavalier with my feelings. Stop tagging me here, what you did was done and TL;DR for those in the future landing here. Never give him a deposit and make sure you have a plan b in place in case he flakes and won’t tell you

Robert is amazing, we’ve met twice now and he’s great and legit

I’m gonna bump this because since this happened he reached out and apologized. We’ve met 3 times since and can say he’s fantastic. His directness can be considered rude but after meeting him I realized is really more about the language barrier. He read the menu and his delivery is top notch

I had exited this conversation but since you tagged me, Thank you for acknowledging it. Of course it hurt me, I had to prepare physically, biologically, emotionally, financially, etc for us to have a good time and being ghosted is very hurtful. It was uncalled for and very unprofessional. Yes, I accepted his apology but doesn’t make what happen any less real. I share here these experiences because I am looking out for all of us. We here keep eyes out for the druggies, the scammers, the violent ones and the irresponsible/unprofessional ones. I don’t want any of you to feel the same way. As for grace, that’s what I was doing this morning when I went to check when he was gonna leave town but he had blocked me 🤷‍♂️ He has my number if he wants to turn the page and restart things, I have changed reviews/opinions before but first impressions are everything in what we do.

You can text people before you take the Tylenol PM. Takes 10 seconds. I had already texted him, only need the reply and if he was feeling better in the evening to reply to my text at 10:40PM he could've done it before. He didn't. He didn't care enough to make sure his clients knew he could not meet them. If I hadn't texted him twice asking he would've not reached out.

You had the whole day to let me know. I messaged you at 8am asking if you had made it to LA. You didn’t answer. I texted again already at 10:40PM asking what’s up saying hopefully you’re good and sound and THAT’s when you replied to me finally saying you had been sick. You know you could’ve messaged me at any time throughout the day to let me know. That’s the professional thing to do. You want me to be empathetic about you being sick but there’s no empathy with my time. A reply to my 8am text “Sorry I’m sick can we move?” Would’ve have been the RIGHT and professional thing to do. Not wait until I text YOU again late in the evening for you to finally tell me you’re sick. and I put you on “blast” by…. coming to this thread and sharing the experience? Tagged you so you could provide your side? That’s putting you on blast? If this is an industry or business you want to be in, being professional by respecting people’s time is Escorting 101. I’m done with this conversation. Others should know to be mindful how you can just blow them off without a warning even after having confirmed.

My rationale for the tag was to give him an opportunity to give his side. Otherwise to me it would've felt like I was talking behind someone's back. Agreed with everything else.

Sounds hot haha

So you could explain your side? That's what we're doing in this forum? We met here. We started chatting here. Did you expect people here wouldn't share the good and the bad? You stood me up, didn't even bother messaging me during the whole day/evening telling me you were sick, a booking we had been talking for months, that we had confirmed, that I had even offered an overnight after. I set up the time, I got the money, I prepared myself and you stood me up in incredibly unprofessional behavior, and I'M the one who fucked up? nahhhh. Others here should know that even with a confirmed appointment you might blow them off without even telling them. That's what this forum is about, sharing these experiences. If you have an issue with unprofessional behavior being called out... then be a professional?

You also didn't post the beginning of our conversation, I wonder why. This isn't cool. We had set up a time, confirmed and discussed it several times up to the day before. I'm not publicly shaming, I'm calling out what happened. You see how you left me out to dry when I reached out asking if you had made it to LA? Did you know I checked your profile during the day and SAW YOU ONLINE? You completely blew me off.

I'm sorry, publicly shamed? I said what happened to the T. This is a forum to share these experiences with, none of what I said is inflammatory. I told you I appreciated your apologies but you could've said ANYTHING during the day to let me know you were sick or you could not make it. You didn't. You waited until *I* reached out to you asking what's up. That's completely unprofessional. I even told you I could not believe someone who was active on this forum could pull such an unprofessional move.

I didn't say I was immune. I'm saying it makes it better to deal with things like jealousy and compartmentalization.

Nope, it's there. I used privatemode/incognito. After sleeping on his offer to 'make it up to me' I went this morning to check how long he was going to be in LA thinking there might be time before he leaves but woke up to him having me blocked. I guess he doesn't want a bad review in RM for having stood me up. Regardless, not a good look, feels very amateur hour for a provider who wants people to take him seriously.

My previous BFE provider for most of the year is an awesome guy, we just didn't work out because of some of my non-negotiables but I still sent him a card with a gift card inside as a thank you for all the work we did this year. I don't even expect a response.

...and proceeded to block me on rm. Not a good look.

Unfortunately stood me up. We had made a booking about a month in advance, I confirmed the week before, then we chatted a day or so before. The day of I reach out early in the AM asking if he made it to the city and got no reply. At close to our booking in the evening I texted him asking if everything was alright because I didn’t appreciate being stood up. He replied later apologizing saying he was sick and had to change the flight. I told him I believe he’s sick but he had the whole day and evening to let me know so we could change things. He offered to make it up to me but unfortunately I was traveling the next day and leaving me stood up that way left a sour note. @GordyLex I wish you the best and hope this is truly a learning experience. Nobody likes getting stood up especially in this line of business.

I'm poly so those feelings are different I guess? I can have affection for whomever is my current regular BFE provider but I know it's not love and 100% understand if there were no money involved they would have no reason to even talk to me. I'm hopeful they like me the same way you would like your coffee shop barista at least but I know unless they want coffee we won't be hanging out and chatting.

I saw him once and that's all I needed. On his ad this: Means he drops G and NEEDS to do G (GHB) to perform. He was drugged and barely could form sentences. Couldn't perform. He's in my do not repeat list.

Yea I meant weird as in 'not the norm'.

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world. Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

Nice guy but couldn't perform.

$50 A MONTH for his OF? hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

I'm Venezuelan. These guys scammed you. Completely. After you graciously bought for them tons of baby food and formula... they turned around and sold them. Then when they saw you again they told you that SOB story to see if you could buy them some more because you're an easy mark.