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My previous BFE provider for most of the year is an awesome guy, we just didn't work out because of some of my non-negotiables but I still sent him a card with a gift card inside as a thank you for all the work we did this year. I don't even expect a response.

...and proceeded to block me on rm. Not a good look.

Unfortunately stood me up. We had made a booking about a month in advance, I confirmed the week before, then we chatted a day or so before. The day of I reach out early in the AM asking if he made it to the city and got no reply. At close to our booking in the evening I texted him asking if everything was alright because I didn’t appreciate being stood up. He replied later apologizing saying he was sick and had to change the flight. I told him I believe he’s sick but he had the whole day and evening to let me know so we could change things. He offered to make it up to me but unfortunately I was traveling the next day and leaving me stood up that way left a sour note. @GordyLex I wish you the best and hope this is truly a learning experience. Nobody likes getting stood up especially in this line of business.

I'm poly so those feelings are different I guess? I can have affection for whomever is my current regular BFE provider but I know it's not love and 100% understand if there were no money involved they would have no reason to even talk to me. I'm hopeful they like me the same way you would like your coffee shop barista at least but I know unless they want coffee we won't be hanging out and chatting.

I saw him once and that's all I needed. On his ad this: Means he drops G and NEEDS to do G (GHB) to perform. He was drugged and barely could form sentences. Couldn't perform. He's in my do not repeat list.

Yea I meant weird as in 'not the norm'.

I'm polyamorous so it's different I guess. I don't experience jealousy, I experience what is called compersion, which is the feeling of joy/happiness you get when the people you care about are doing things that provide them joy and happiness even if they do not include you. My previous BFE provider and I met regularly, did overnights, traveled, etc and when we were not together we still chatted and what not and I knew of their travel schedule and I would tell him "Hope you get tons of good work in X!". IDK, it's not an issue for me jealousy that is. With other providers am more comfortable with and we've arranged a set rate already I always tell them that if we have a booking but someone else is offering more for that time, to let me know and we can move it to another time/day no problem, I want for them all the success in the world. Maybe I'm just weird 🤷‍♂️

Nice guy but couldn't perform.

$50 A MONTH for his OF? hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

I'm Venezuelan. These guys scammed you. Completely. After you graciously bought for them tons of baby food and formula... they turned around and sold them. Then when they saw you again they told you that SOB story to see if you could buy them some more because you're an easy mark.

He blocked me too and I never spoke to him. He was in LA and I was looking at profiles, then a few days later went on the profiles I had short listed including his and realized he had blocked me. 🤷‍♂️

You will notice that most of those who have negative reviews don't have gold/platinum badges, and are probably buried in the last pages. RM has all the incentives to extort from providers money in exchange for better placement and managing bad reviews, the same way Yelp extorts other businesses.

Yep, because providers spend much more on those sites, not just their classified but also the daily bump, the gold or platinum level, 'rentman of the day', etc. RM Is not going to allow bad reviews on providers and having those providers stop advertising or purchasing extras, rm has all the incentives to only keep 5 star reviews. It sucks for the providers but I will not meet if they don't have a thread here already.

rentment actively denies anything that's not 5 stars. If you review with a 5 star the review is approved almost within the hour, if you have anything less than 5 stars they message you 3 days later asking for proof of the meet, then they get back to you 3 days later saying it wasn't enough and deny your review. One time they answered to me 4 days later asking for proof, I provided proof (screenshots), then they replied to me 3 days later saying that it had been a week since we had met and the review must've been made within the first 72 hours (which I did, it took them 4 days to get back to me) and then denied it. Don't trust reviews on RM. Trust them here. Always. Remember, you may pay a $45 membership, but providers are spending hundreds on their classified AND the 'gold' 'platinum' etc extras. Clients are not the moneymaker for rentment, providers are and as such they'll guard that income over ours.

I don't think it's age shaving, I think he might've had bad acne problems in his teenage years and he's working on those with peels and treatments.

Oh he does multiple bookings for sure. He didn't cum, I did. Yes, the pictures are outdated, he's still muscular but know he's in this late 40s for sure.

I did a few weeks ago, he's got a huge dick and is always hard I'll say, but he does seem to be gay4pay so don't expect a gay time haha

TBH It was less about being more invested than he and more that I hadn't yet figured out whether the cum part was a non-negotiable for me or not, until it was. Thanks for the feedback though appreciate it.

We texted yesterday and I thanked him for the good times I had in the past few months but that I couldn't continue with our multi-hour commitments as I require my non-negotiables to be fulfilled. I told him I understood if that was difficult for him and that I completely understand if he could not deliver consistently. I told him next time you're here or I'm there we can catch up for an hour because his bf dickdown experience is amazing but I am moving on, looking for someone who can consistently deliver. That's it, he thank me for the time together, he wished me well in finding someone that can and that was it. I find funny/sad in this thread people sort of telling me to "snap out" "you caught feelings" "you don't need to break up with someone you're paying" when I have been perfectly aware of what's going on, there were no 'caught love feelings' and I'm not just going to ghost someone that has been providing a good service repeatedly (yeah, not great but good) or cuss them out. The people OK treating others like that really put into perspective why @SecretProvider is here calling many of you out on how you treat providers.

Yes 100%, and as a business I still want to keep the network connection by not being a dick or jerk about it. That's what I'm asking for suggestions/feedback here. You don't have to burn bridges with people that have provided you with good service even if it wasn't the best, regardless of the type of job involved. I am not having a hard time making the decision to let them go, that decision has been made. I'm asking for suggestions on how to do it at that professional and personal level that isn't ghosting them or worse.

Of course there's No Strings. That's not the issue, is that I'm not a jerk to just ghost them or cut them off in a mean way. I don’t fuck my gardener but I’m still gonna feel sad if I had to fire him after almost a year of work.

He's never told me why, but I have the suspicion that he uses cialis/viagra to stay hard and it might be painful or uncomfortable to stay hard and cum.

Oh I didn't come in with a follow up. He reached out a few weeks after, I told him I was gonna be in Miami later that month, I told him we could do two hours he said he was excited, lets do it. Throughout the week he was texting me about it. The day before I said "OK See ya tomorrow at 8PM" he said "Yes!" The day of I texted him at noon "Hey still on at 8 right?" no answer. Around 5PM "Hey let me know if we're still on so I can get ready". He never replied. Never showed up. I blocked him everywhere, there's no point with him, 100% flake.

Yea I can get that and no this was always over text. I mentioned it was something I expected over text about 8 months when we started, he said it was difficult but he would try... then about 4 months ago after our second overnight where it also didn't happen, and most recently last week which is where he said over text "I told you I have a hard time cumming and you reminding me is offputting". I think it's clear now that he can't deliver that consistently which is perfectly fine, as other say I have to move on and find someone that can consistently deliver that. I 100% understand if it doesn't happen if it was just one hour, maybe even two because I know cumming might kill the rest of your day/evening if you have other appts, but he didn't cum either in any of the overnights. Thanks for the insight!

Thank you for the feedback, is really appreciated.