How long have you been doing this?

[Mark_fl]

Im just curious for providers how long you've been providers, and clients, how long and how often you've hired?

Hopefully this is confidental enough that people don't mind sharing. It might give some perspective on posts here.

Personally,  I'm 60 and had no male interaction since fooling around with a friend at age 13.  In the last year I've started to explore with some guys. I had 2 1-hour hires and realized that wasn't going to work for me, so I arranged a 2 day visit with someone on a work trip, which worked out perfectly.  

Not sure if and when I'll hire again, as quick interactions aren't enough for me to have a comfort level.

[Braziliancutee]

I have been doing escort since January. And I don’t do this full time. I still learning a few things.

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve been doing sex work for about 8 years. Not full time. It’s too difficult to do full time in terms of energy, security and health. I think it’s a great job. 

[SecretProvider]

I started very loosely when I was 21. Then over the next 10 years, every few years I would dip in and out for a few months.when I needed extra cash. 

Then when I was 30 i decided to dip my toes back in it to supplement my income and save for a trip through Europe.

When I got home I lost my job to a company restructure and I started doing sex work full time and was making way more money than I was working my shitty full time job anyway. 

It's been just over 7 years now full time. 

 

[Nightowl]

My situation is similar to yours.  I had my first experience with a boy when I was about 12 and didn’t try it again until I was over 60 when I hired for my first erotic massage.  In the past 4 years I’ve hired both masseurs and escorts, averaging about once per month.  I wish I had started earlier.  I don’t do what you call “quick interactions” either.  I research potential hires really thoroughly to minimize the risk.  Fortunately, I’ve found a couple of guys whose company I enjoy and hope to keep patronizing.

[+ purplekow]

I had minimal male to male contact as a teen, once I received a BJ and got paid and the other a drunken frot session with a friend.  Two years after my wife died, when I was 50, I found that sex with women left me feeling empty and guilty.  I decided to try having sex with a man.  I started hiring very selectively and for the most part part for 15 years I hired frequently but only one or two escorts in a rotation. Lately, I have hired and used dating apps much more frequently.  This is especially so  since my move to Palm Springs.  I feel great about my choices to do so and agree with the other posters who suggested that doing more earlier seems like it would have been prudent.  I do not know exactly why I was reticent.  At this time, though I see women on occasion, I am more active with men.  As I age, I have found that women I have met are more interested in a long term situation while men are more casual and escorts, of course, generally are not looking for a long term relationship with their clients.   I am friends with many of the men I have hired over the years even though I do not see them professionally any longer.    

Finances are not a major issue but they do lead me to be a bit conservative about my hiring.  

[maninsoma]

I hired my first escort in my early thirties.  Even though I was in a relationship at the time, my partner was very sexually active outside of our relationship and I wanted to have an experience with someone who was very much my type that I probably wouldn't have been able to get just by going out cruising.  Ironically, though the guy I hired was very sweet and handsome he didn't perform very well sexually, I think mostly due to a medical issue he had.  I don't think I hired another escort for several years, but I did hire men for erotic massages on occasion.  My hiring became a lot more frequent in my forties simply because I had the means to hire more and I also was no longer in a relationship.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I started having gay sex at 13 and came out at 16. Since most of my 20s were during the height of the AIDS crisis, I very cautious about sex and could count on my fingers how many partners I had up to 25. I got sober that year and it made me braver. HIV was also becoming more of a treatable disease tho I still practiced safer sex. I met my husband when I was 28 and we’ve been together ever since. We were monogamous with room for erotic massages together or separately after we married. In Spain one of those massagers turned into a full on threesome. And we loved it! All the fears we had about jealousy or envy fell away. We ended up hiring another escort before we left Spain. 

Over the past 6 years, we’ve hired in spirts while also meeting some guys in person - especially while on vacation- and used the apps from time to time. The apps - as many of you know are pretty awful. And it’s even harder for a couple especially since we’re not into the whole “daddies” vibe. And mostly we’re hit on by guys in their 20s who want to bottom for us. It’s just not our scene. 

So we hire on average once or twice a month, and a bit more when traveling. We’ve had mostly really good experiences with a few duds.  We tend to have one or two guys that we see for a few months and then sometimes they stop working or the thrill is gone. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to experience a guy we haven’t seen in a while which is fun. Overall, it’s been a great addition to our sex life. We still enjoy just being together as well and hiring has improved that because it makes us communicate more. 

[Jay17403]

I have been hiring since early 20’s.  First it was hustlers in the parks or cruising areas that just made things easy when I was in the military.  Once I was out AOL came along and it seemed easier and more of a sure thing than the bars.  Eventually that morphed into the really great days of Craigslist and Backpage. The options on finding high quality real time guys has definitely suffered. I have always just found it easier and less stressful and I will be the first to admit paying for it is a huge turn for me. I am not someone that needs a “connection” to have sex and enjoy it and for the most part prefer things more impersonal and never do the boyfriend thing. 

[DMonDude]

I first started hiring just over a year ago. It was something i had been thinking about for a while but never went through with. During the first week of November 2024 I was over stressed, over worked, under sexed, and wanted to treat myself to something nice. I dove into the deep end and hired 3 guys for a 6 hand massage for my very first hire. I didn't know about this forum or know anyone to ask how this worked at the time, so i was truly going in fully blind. I was terrified walking up to the AirBnB thinking "I'm either going to have the best time ever or this is fake and I'm about to get arrested/kidnapped/killed", luckily it was the former! I went a little crazy with it and saw those 3 guys 2 more times that same week before they left town 😆.

Edited November 30, 2025 by DMonDude

[+ Charlie]

I had my first gay sexual experience when I was 17, and from then on I was pretty active sexually. At 25 I settled down with a partner, but we had an open relationship in which both of us felt free to have sex with other men when we felt so inclined. When I was 35, my father died, and after returning home from his funeral, I was feeling depressed, but my partner was out of the country at the time, and I didn't feel like cruising, so for the first time I tried hiring a professional provider through an agency that advertised in The Advocate. The AIDS crisis in the 1980s slowed down all my sexual activity. By the time I was 55 I wasn't doing much cruising (or having much success at it), so virtually all of my infrequent extramarital sexual activity was with pros. When I was 60, I discovered this site, and I began talking about sex more than actually having it. The last time I hired was in 2011, so there are very few providers discussed here about whom I could comment from personal experience.

[+ SirBillybob]

Since the eighties, knock on wood into my nineties. 

[BeamerBikes]

Out gay since 18, had a nice period of fun from 18-21, then the deskjob and good paychecks added to my waist line.  28yo started a long term caregiving arrangement that last 12 years.  Somewhere along the way in my 30s, I started a strip club habit and then hiring occasionally.  It was easier than trying to date and explain how I can’t host because my mom lives with me.  
 

Now pushing almost 50yo and terminally single, I’ll occasionally look on Grindr but I don’t have an issue with paying for massage or other companionship. Go out of my way to treat everyone with some respect and kindness.  If I end up dating again, I’d be open to it.  Just don’t expect the strip club habit to go away.  Hiring negotiable.  I’m a bit set in my ways, and don’t want to date someone clutching their pearls at a little fun.  

[JT_416]

I was introduced to sex at a young age by a family friend. Mostly consensual. The first time someone paid me, I was in high school. I hadn’t asked for money, but he insisted I take it. This was after he finished in me. I think he felt guilty, even though I kept telling him it was ok and that I had wanted it. After that, I figured it would be a good way to make some money on the side and save for school. I also found it kind of flattering that men liked me that much that they would pay. 

[Gilfson]

I’m coming up on 2 years now. I’m looking to stop  within the next year or so. And move on to other things. But I have to say 95 percent of my clients have been great guys and I’ve been pretty lucky not to have any dangerous or rough situations!

Edited 18 hours ago by Gilfson

[AtlantaDude]

On 11/29/2025 at 3:02 PM, Braziliancutee said:

I have been doing escort since January. And I don’t do this full time. I still learning a few things.

You are cute as fuck. 

[Braziliancutee]

4 minutes ago, AtlantaDude said:

You are cute as fuck. 

❤️

[AtlantaDude]

Come to Atlanta? 

[Whippoorwill]

I first discovered the magic of massage when I was in my early 20s and living and working in Iran (1960s, before the repressive Islamic government). Everyone traditionally went to public baths, where there were masseurs for hire. A massage was about 25¢. I soon discovered, it was another 25¢ to get fucked. Let's say I had a lot of massages. Then when I was in my 40s (1980s) and living in San Francisco, I had frequent massages for back pain. It wasn't too long before my favorite masseur asked me, "Is it OK if I touch your cock?" From then on, we were both naked on the massage table going at it. My ex-husband, his current husband, and a number of our friends all patronized this hunk. I think the going rate was about $20 "all inclusive." Ten years ago I discovered RentMasseur, and went to see a comely young man who advertised on both RentMasseur and RentMen. I signed up for a one-hour RentMasseur session. At some point, still on my stomach, he rammed his cock up my ass. I was shocked, simply shocked. And sold on the idea that I could pay to get exactly what I want. The rest they say is history. 

[soloyo215]

I can trace my hiring street hustlers all the way back to the 80s. Not intending to hire, but some street hustlers in the area where I was living when I was college, approached me and I'd get with them and give them money. I guess I thought that because I didn't intentionally look to hire, it didn't count. That pattern continued through my 30s. In my 40s I was more concentrated in my family, so no hiring. Then, intentionally hiring, purposely looking to hire, about ten years ago.

[MaybeMaybeNot]

I have been on this site for 9 years. I mostly joined because I loved the fantasy of it all and enjoy reading other people's stories.  In 2024, I actually went ahead and had a heavenly massage. It was so worth it! Since then, I have tried to book a few more times,  but it hasn't worked out. (That masseur moved shortly after,  and my attempts to book with a provider while traveling back home has never worked out.) Unfortunately, my industry has taken a downturn,  and so has my expendable income. Otherwise, I would enjoy something more frequently.  

Edited 7 hours ago by MaybeMaybeNot

[+ purplekow]

42 minutes ago, MaybeMaybeNot said:

I have been on this site for 9 years. I mostly joined because I loved the fantasy of it all and enjoy reading other people's stories.  In 2024, I actually went ahead and had a heavenly massage. It was so worth it! Since then, I have tried to book a few more times,  but it hasn't worked out. (That masseur moved shortly after,  and my attempts to book with a provider while traveling back home has never worked out.) Unfortunately, my industry has taken a downturn,  and so has my expendable income. Otherwise, I would enjoy something more frequently.  

Unless I am mistaken, which certainly could be the case, your avatar is a picture of you.  If that is that case, I believe you are on the wrong end of the hiring dynamic. 

[Rudynate]

I have been hiring for close to 30 years.  Sometimes pretty regularly but also intervals of many months between encounters.  Mostly, my experiences have been good to great. There are a few standouts, though. One of my most memorable experiences was my very first one - an attractive young guy that I met in front of Cala Foods on 18th St. in San Francisco and he took me back to his flat.  I have a husband and we have sex regularly and I don't do badly on hookup sites.  And I've had my share of duds.  Hiring was always a fantasy for me.  When I was in my 20s I fantasized about hiring Gordon Grant.  My last hire was a few months ago - a wonderful Brazilian guy - he counts as one of my standouts.  I find the whole scene mostly easy and friendly.  A lot of times on this board, there is an adversial undercurrent from clients.  I just don't feel that - for the most part I admire providers and the unique talent they possess.

Edited 6 hours ago by Rudynate

[uclablueyes]

Going down memory lane. My first experience was in 2005 in West Hollywood. I went for my first gay massage and I was hooked. I remember that I was so horny that the guy saw my dick when I disrobed and we didn’t even get to the massage table before I was fucking him and cumming in him. Then we would move to the table and the massage would start and I would cum again. I used to see him every other week as I couldn’t afford it every week even though it was just $80 which is a bargain nowadays. He ended up introducing other things and I recall I ended up fisting him twice. It’s the only person I have ever done that with and it was at the start of my sexploration with escorts. 20 years later and I have been with quite a few and I have great experiences (and others not so great) but the great ones live rent free in my mind and I love it!

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve been working as a masseur for 7 years. Best job I ever did.