Request you haven't made to a provider or client

[MassageCommunityMember]

Whether you're a provider or client,  is there something (info, action, stop action) you've wanted to ask the person on the other side of the experience that you haven't?

If there is something, what was it, and how did you overcome your initial hesitancy? 

[SecretProvider]

Just ask what you want. I guarantee we have heard it or something similar. 

 

My most wild one was someone asking me to kill them.  obviously I didn't do that. 

[Nightowl]

My request is pretty mundane:  As a client, I want a masseur I’ve been with over a dozen times to film me topping him to climax, with me in control. I’ve tossed out hints but haven’t asked directly.  My polite upbringing and the fact that he advertises as a masseur rather than an escort deters me from being that direct.

[SecretProvider]

16 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

My request is pretty mundane:  As a client, I want a masseur I’ve been with over a dozen times to film me topping him to climax, with me in control. I’ve tossed out hints but haven’t asked directly.  My polite upbringing and the fact that he advertises as a masseur rather than an escort deters me from being that direct.

don't ask, don't get. 

 

[Nightowl]

19 minutes ago, SecretProvider said:

don't ask, don't get. 

 

I know, I know….

[savantsav]

CNC probably.

[Becket]

I don't know why it embarrasses me, but I like a lil' spanking before receiving. Somehow it loosens me up, both physically and mentally. 

Shhhh! Don't tell anyone. 

[NYXboy]

1 hour ago, savantsav said:

CNC probably.

I suspect this fantasy is way more common than you think. 

[nate_sf]

1 hour ago, Becket said:

I don't know why it embarrasses me, but I like a lil' spanking before receiving. Somehow it loosens me up, both physically and mentally. 

Shhhh! Don't tell anyone. 

Don't be embarrassed... lots of guys like spanking.

[MscleLovr]

3 hours ago, Becket said:

I like a lil' spanking before receiving

I enjoy giving a light spanking before topping, especially if it’s to a muscleboy with a bubble-butt.

I love getting my cock worshipped fully but initially I had a provider who didn’t like the taste of cum. So I had to concentrate on pulling out before climax. It was very frustrating for me.

So on later hirings, I decided to speak about it in advance. I simply related how I wanted to get oral to completion, and not have to worry about pulling out. I offered some flexibility by saying I didn’t care if a guy swallowed my load or not. 

Luckily I met a couple of muscleboys who were skilled oralists. Each of them told me they enjoyed pleasing a top by swallowing loads. 

[+ poolboy48220]

12 hours ago, savantsav said:

CNC probably.

For those who don't know the acronym, Consensual Non-Consensual. I've asked for that as "I like a guy who takes charge; some mild domination." I had a longer conversation about it with a no-longer active escort who sounded like he got it exactly. 

[Boaxxx]

I am hesitant at times to ask for something specific because I think the provider is going to think that I am either weird (for lack of a better word) and trying to engage in sexting. Even with providers that I have been with more than once I feel uncomfortable asking for specifics. I think erotic massages are great and I would like to see it build from there, the element of surprise, with a hood being placed over my head (the masseur says it will help eliminate outside distractions and further relax me) my legs spread and my ankles bond to the corners of the table and headphones placed on me playing erotic trance/hypno tape.  And while he is at it he can introduce another set of hands into the mix during the session (another element of surprise). I understand that if you don't ask you don't get but I also don't want to hear no and then feel embarrassed. One can dream. 😈🙂 

[+ glennnnn]

I need oral sex!!  For me, a fuck is not finished until somebody swallows, (preferably me) so all things "cum"  are really critical to my full enjoyment of sex. (I really love CUM) I was too shy to ask a provider or lover to cum in my mouth for many years fearing he would judge me. When I did ask a few times, I did not get much encouragement so i just did without the taste, consistency  and  satisfaction that is basic to me getting off. (I really  love CUM). Now I specify that I expect his cum in my mouth at first contact, and if he says  no, which still happens, i try some where else.

[+ DrownedBoy]

In ideal roleplay, I'd have them wear certain costumes, but I wouldn't dare in real life.

I'm sure those costumes would offend people. Especially if they're culturally or racially coded.

Edited Friday at 10:46 PM by DrownedBoy

[Aaron 90]

Spit and Piss play 

[SecretProvider]

On 11/14/2025 at 2:33 PM, Boaxxx said:

I am hesitant at times to ask for something specific because I think the provider is going to think that I am either weird (for lack of a better word) and trying to engage in sexting

I am going to help you with this.  Reach out to a provider you have had a good time with before and send this: 

"Hello again. I really enjoyed our session last time, and I wanted to ask about a specific scenario to see if it is something you could help me organize.  I would love an erotic massage, and I would like to see it build from there, with elements of surprise added in. I would like a hood being placed over my head (the masseur says it will help eliminate outside distractions and further relax me) my legs spread and my ankles bond to the corners of the table and headphones placed on me playing erotic trance/hypno tape.  And while I am in this situation you can then introduce another set of hands into the mix during the session (another element of surprise).

I understand both providers need to be paid each- is this something you would be comfortable doing? I have wanted to ask for a while but I have been worried  that you would think I am either weird (for lack of a better word) and trying to engage in sexting."

Send this and after you get a reply - discuss logistics ONLY. (ie, rate, time, place) 

I would encourage you to reach out to a provider you had a good time with before because they already know you and know that you are a legit client.

ENJOY! its a sexy fantasy.  

 

[jeezifonly]

I have never requested a provider to help me move a dead body. Instead, I'll find one who hosts, and then deal with it later once Mother gets home. 

 

[Jay17403]

As someone mentioned if you don’t ask you don’t get. I used to be embarrassed but know I just say it. I love to be rawdogged from behind and the escort telling me the name of the guy or girl he was thinking about when he got off after he pulls out. 

[Boaxxx]

5 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

I am going to help you with this.  Reach out to a provider you have had a good time with before and send this: 

"Hello again. I really enjoyed our session last time, and I wanted to ask about a specific scenario to see if it is something you could help me organize.  I would love an erotic massage, and I would like to see it build from there, with elements of surprise added in. I would like a hood being placed over my head (the masseur says it will help eliminate outside distractions and further relax me) my legs spread and my ankles bond to the corners of the table and headphones placed on me playing erotic trance/hypno tape.  And while I am in this situation you can then introduce another set of hands into the mix during the session (another element of surprise).

I understand both providers need to be paid each- is this something you would be comfortable doing? I have wanted to ask for a while but I have been worried  that you would think I am either weird (for lack of a better word) and trying to engage in sexting."

Send this and after you get a reply - discuss logistics ONLY. (ie, rate, time, place) 

I would encourage you to reach out to a provider you had a good time with before because they already know you and know that you are a legit client.

ENJOY! its a sexy fantasy.  

 

Wow, thanks for the advice. What's your consulting fee? I may need to use your services in the future. 😉

Also, if any providers are interested in the scenario, hit me up and let's see if we can work something out. 😜

Edited 11 hours ago by Boaxxx

[+ purplekow]

When I first started hiring I did not know what I wanted.  That led to many enjoyable but not exhilarating experiences.  Once I figured out what I wanted, I had no difficulty asking for it or initiating it and seeing what the response was.  While the original experiences were fun the latter ones are the ones I will be thinking about upon my exit from this earthly toil. I may not get to heaven, but it will seem like it when I am on the road.  

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I love receiving an occasional BRUTAL throat-f****. (I won't go into it, but I was brutalized in my past.) However, I see these adorable, skinny twinks (and twunks), who aren't able to deliver.

A year ago, in my city, there was a twink who kept getting bad reviews. I reached out to the reviewers, and all of them said the same thing: He was a major a**hole. That made me highly intrigued. I ended up hiring him, and he 100% delivered. After I posted a positive review, a client reached out to me and said I had a lot of nerve to give this POS a five-star. However, how can I regret giving that rave review? (I do get why other clients hate him, though.)

[+ Jamie21]

On 11/14/2025 at 5:52 AM, nate_sf said:

Don't be embarrassed... lots of guys like spanking.

Definitely. I often give a guys ass a playful exploratory spank in a session. If it gets a positive response (pleasured groan, a wiggle of the ass, or it lifting up in expectation of more) then I’ll smack it again, but with slightly more intensity and slightly less playfully. The client usually gets the hint and is encouraged to ask for more. Then my paddle, flogger or strap comes out and he gets his ass reddened! 

A few clients have discovered a penchant for that kind of massage (or elements of it) in their session. I think it’s part of my job to introduce them to things they were not previously aware they liked or that they were too inhibited to ask for. It’s great to explore like that with a client. 
 

[soloyo215]

11 hours ago, purplekow said:

When I first started hiring I did not know what I wanted.  That led to many enjoyable but not exhilarating experiences.  Once I figured out what I wanted, I had no difficulty asking for it or initiating it and seeing what the response was.  While the original experiences were fun the latter ones are the ones I will be thinking about upon my exit from this earthly toil. I may not get to heaven, but it will seem like it when I am on the road.  

I was in a similar place when I started. I kind do the same since I never crave the same thing from the same provider. But once I'm clear about what I want, I let the provider know, and it's never been anything too difficult to do.