Is it rude to ask to not be scheduled in between appts?

[LuckyLechon]

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

[nomad]

Not at all.  He may actually like it because it allows him to see others that don't have the same concern.  Depending on what you're looking to do he may prefer to see you first or last or on a day of the week where he isn't as busy.  Could work out well for both of you.  Just talk to him.  

[+ FrankR]

Just now, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

You can ask for any time slot be it peak hours or slow hours - he may be flexible, but you are entitled only to the time you are paying for with a provider - expecting additional time so you are not rushed, is disrespectful of his time.  If you want more time to leisurely get dressed etc, book more time and compensate him accordingly

[LuckyLechon]

2 minutes ago, FrankR said:

You can ask for any time slot be it peak hours or slow hours - he may be flexible, but you are entitled only to the time you are paying for with a provider - expecting additional time so you are not rushed, is disrespectful of his time.  If you want more time to leisurely get dressed etc, book more time and compensate him accordingly

i wasn't asking for more time. you can feel rushed and still have only the time you paid for, it's a vibe that i don't enjoy cause i can pick up on it: that they are mentally not in the moment. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I’d say anything’s fair to ask for.   But if you’re asking him to forgo compensation reserving himself for you, then he deserves fair compensation for the sacrifice. 

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

If you don't want to feel rushed book for 2 hours or book an overnight, even better fly him to you for an entire weekend. 

How do you know if he saw a guy 30 mins before and has another guy right after seeing you? 

It's a business..... busy days happen, slow and dead ones also happen. 

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

i wasn't asking for more time. you can feel rushed and still have only the time you paid for, it's a vibe that i don't enjoy cause i can pick up on it: that they are mentally not in the moment. 

This isn't directed at you but sometimes feeling rushed, unsatisfied, etc. is in the eyes of the beholder.

[SecretProvider]

Unless he is honest and tells you that he has another appointment before or after  - you should have no way of knowing during your session. 

If he is honest and tells you when you ask and you know it upsets you to hear it, don't ask. 

 

[DMonDude]

I feel like you gotta just book a longer session. Even on a "slow day" you never know when another client of his may book a slot directly after yours, which would mean he'll have a hard out in order to be ready for that next client. You can't really ask him to put more time between his sessions, it's up to his time management and financial reasoning for how many sessions he does a day and how closely he does or doesn't book them to each other. The only part you can control is how long your session is.

Edited June 26 by DMonDude

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

14 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

Instead of asking "I'd like a 90-minute session tomorrow at 2pm, but please make sure no one else is scheduled immediately before or after me", I word my requests like this:

"I'd like a 90-minute session anytime tomorrow afternoon, between 1pm and 4pm, at whichever time is most convenient for you".

This way, the masseur or escort will naturally choose a time that allows him to cleanup/rest/travel because he knows the entirety of his day, I don't.  There might be other doctor appointments, gym time, or day-job activities he needs to attend to besides other clients, and giving him a time range rather than a specific request naturally allows him to choose a time for me that he can be adequately prepared and not rushed.

 

[Mark_fl]

It's none of your business what he does before or after you. I would point out that you want to make sure you don't feel rushed, and let the professional handle it. He may ask you to book a longer block. He may start wrapping things up earlier so it doesn't seem abrupt. He may not book anything immediately after you, to make sure he isn't. He may decide that you aren't a good client for him.

Communicate your concerns is usually the best advice.

Edited June 26 by Mark_fl

[soloyo215]

19 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

I don't necessarily think it is, but I'd suggest to address the actual concern without getting into his scheduling. I find it OK to express that you don't want to feel rushed. No one does.

[+ Jamie21]

I avoid booking appointments back to back. It’s too stressful and I need a bit of time to wind down and prepare for the next client! Back to back sessions draining! 

 

[aiseeya]

20 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

One can surely ask but I am not convinced many providers will entertain unless you are a regular or you book a longer session. Time is $$$$ for providers.

[nomad]

29 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I avoid booking appointments back to back. It’s too stressful and I need a bit of time to wind down and prepare for the next client! Back to back sessions draining! 

 

I wish more of the guys were as considerate.  I don't get the ones that try to see more than 3-4 clients a day.  Sure, it's their right.  But my mind always goes to where am I in the chain of guys using the real estate and is as fresh as it should be.  

[TR1989]

It’s not rude to ask imho as long as you ask nicely.

I had the same concern about a month ago. I asked a masseur (a regular) if he had any availability on X day. He said he was pretty booked that day but asked me what time was I thinking that I wanted to come in. I said I could come in  between X and Y hours but that “I’d really prefer to see you when you’re not so busy.” He said unfortunately it’s often like that unless you book in advance. He then proceeds to offer me a few optional dates on which I would get his “full energy.”

The masseur knows his schedule best and if you are respectful he may try to accommodate you. No guarantees but worth the try. 

 

Edited June 27 by TR1989

[DMonDude]

16 hours ago, nomad said:

I wish more of the guys were as considerate.  I don't get the ones that try to see more than 3-4 clients a day.  Sure, it's their right.  But my mind always goes to where am I in the chain of guys using the real estate and is as fresh as it should be.  

It depends on how professional they are and how long a session their clients are booking, and what the provider is doing during the session. A provider i know usually sees 5-7 clients in a day. but it's usually a 1-2 hour session and most of them are massage + HE or sometimes extras. And doing this is his full time job and setting his own hours. With proper time management it's completely doable to see that many clients in a day and still have time between to be clean for the next. It's mostly just a matter of preference like Jamie21 said with needing the mental down time. Your concern of where you are in the line and if they are clean/dirty or not isn't directly correlated to how many clients they have booked, but to their professionalism.

On the other hand, i've known guys who see very few clients a day but have sessions running up against each other or their own personal life obligations or have shown up to a session not clean because they booked a client for right after they got off work at their day job. And it's because they're unorganized and not good at time management, not because they see too many clients per day.

Edited Saturday at 03:54 PM by DMonDude
Needed clarification

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

8 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

It's none of your business what he does before or after you.

Amen!
If you book an hour from, let's say, 4:00 to 5:00, what the provider does before 4PM or after 5PM is none of your concern. Whether he goes bowling, plays bridge, knits sweaters, or sees other clients, that is his time. As long as he is clean, hygienic, sober, and provides you with the services he promised, in a satisfactory manner, you shouldn't be making untoward requests, infringing upon his valuable time, unless you plan on paying him for it.
Bozo's 2¢.

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🤡

Edited June 27 by BOZO T CLOWN

[+ JamesB]

I don't mean to be rude but what a provider does before or after your appointment is really none of your business. The only thing that should concern you is what they do, or don't do, during the time you've paid for.

To be honest, asking these kinds of questions is unlikely to get you an honest answer anyway, they'll simply tell you what they think you want to hear.

[TonyDown]

I want the massage table and the masseur to be fresh and clean.  Unfortunately there have been disappointments.

 

[+ Jamie21]

8 hours ago, nomad said:

But my mind always goes to where am I in the chain of guys using the real estate and is as fresh as it should be

Most clients are like you in that respect but I do have a couple of clients who like to see me ‘after usage’ and unshowered. They’ll book towards the end of the day and specifically ask me what’s happened earlier and they especially appreciate it if I’ve bottomed. Used goods are an attraction. 

[nomad]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

Used goods are an attraction. 

We all move to a different beat.  To each their own even if it's not for me. 🙏 I commend your dedication.  

[jonasfoleson]

On 6/26/2026 at 3:15 AM, LuckyLechon said:

This is probably asking too much of a provider but is it selfish to ask to not be scheduled when he's at peak business? I don't wanna feel rushed.

Not rude per se but an imposition. They schedule as needed. 

[JB_Studio38]

On 6/26/2026 at 6:08 PM, nomad said:

I wish more of the guys were as considerate.  I don't get the ones that try to see more than 3-4 clients a day.  Sure, it's their right.  But my mind always goes to where am I in the chain of guys using the real estate and is as fresh as it should be.  

In this regard, that is the oft assumed idea. However not everybody is high volume or even takes on multiple clients.

Also there’s no promise of picking a particular time that may be fewer or more clients than another. I simply list my available hours (3 pm to midnight for outcalls or Noon to Midnight for Outcalls) but it doesn’t mean I’m seeing clients back to back during that time. That’s just a window of time I’m available during, in which I often may only schedule 1 client in a day, sometimes 2. But I’m rarely taking 3-4 or more in a day.

[SecretProvider]

Days when you are seeing 3-4 clients a day are rare even for the most busy of guys. 

I'm not saying it doesnt happen - it does, but not often.