How long have you been doing this?

[Mark_fl]

Im just curious for providers how long you've been providers, and clients, how long and how often you've hired?

Hopefully this is confidental enough that people don't mind sharing. It might give some perspective on posts here.

Personally,  I'm 60 and had no male interaction since fooling around with a friend at age 13.  In the last year I've started to explore with some guys. I had 2 1-hour hires and realized that wasn't going to work for me, so I arranged a 2 day visit with someone on a work trip, which worked out perfectly.  

Not sure if and when I'll hire again, as quick interactions aren't enough for me to have a comfort level.

[Braziliancutee]

I have been doing escort since January. And I don’t do this full time. I still learning a few things.

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve been doing sex work for about 8 years. Not full time. It’s too difficult to do full time in terms of energy, security and health. I think it’s a great job. 

[SecretProvider]

I started very loosely when I was 21. Then over the next 10 years, every few years I would dip in and out for a few months.when I needed extra cash. 

Then when I was 30 i decided to dip my toes back in it to supplement my income and save for a trip through Europe.

When I got home I lost my job to a company restructure and I started doing sex work full time and was making way more money than I was working my shitty full time job anyway. 

It's been just over 7 years now full time. 

 

[Nightowl]

My situation is similar to yours.  I had my first experience with a boy when I was about 12 and didn’t try it again until I was over 60 when I hired for my first erotic massage.  In the past 4 years I’ve hired both masseurs and escorts, averaging about once per month.  I wish I had started earlier.  I don’t do what you call “quick interactions” either.  I research potential hires really thoroughly to minimize the risk.  Fortunately, I’ve found a couple of guys whose company I enjoy and hope to keep patronizing.

[+ purplekow]

I had minimal male to male contact as a teen, once I received a BJ and got paid and the other a drunken frot session with a friend.  Two years after my wife died, when I was 50, I found that sex with women left me feeling empty and guilty.  I decided to try having sex with a man.  I started hiring very selectively and for the most part part for 15 years I hired frequently but only one or two escorts in a rotation. Lately, I have hired and used dating apps much more frequently.  This is especially so  since my move to Palm Springs.  I feel great about my choices to do so and agree with the other posters who suggested that doing more earlier seems like it would have been prudent.  I do not know exactly why I was reticent.  At this time, though I see women on occasion, I am more active with men.  As I age, I have found that women I have met are more interested in a long term situation while men are more casual and escorts, of course, generally are not looking for a long term relationship with their clients.   I am friends with many of the men I have hired over the years even though I do not see them professionally any longer.    

Finances are not a major issue but they do lead me to be a bit conservative about my hiring.  

[maninsoma]

I hired my first escort in my early thirties.  Even though I was in a relationship at the time, my partner was very sexually active outside of our relationship and I wanted to have an experience with someone who was very much my type that I probably wouldn't have been able to get just by going out cruising.  Ironically, though the guy I hired was very sweet and handsome he didn't perform very well sexually, I think mostly due to a medical issue he had.  I don't think I hired another escort for several years, but I did hire men for erotic massages on occasion.  My hiring became a lot more frequent in my forties simply because I had the means to hire more and I also was no longer in a relationship.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I started having gay sex at 13 and came out at 16. Since most of my 20s were during the height of the AIDS crisis, I very cautious about sex and could count on my fingers how many partners I had up to 25. I got sober that year and it made me braver. HIV was also becoming more of a treatable disease tho I still practiced safer sex. I met my husband when I was 28 and we’ve been together ever since. We were monogamous with room for erotic massages together or separately after we married. In Spain one of those massagers turned into a full on threesome. And we loved it! All the fears we had about jealousy or envy fell away. We ended up hiring another escort before we left Spain. 

Over the past 6 years, we’ve hired in spirts while also meeting some guys in person - especially while on vacation- and used the apps from time to time. The apps - as many of you know are pretty awful. And it’s even harder for a couple especially since we’re not into the whole “daddies” vibe. And mostly we’re hit on by guys in their 20s who want to bottom for us. It’s just not our scene. 

So we hire on average once or twice a month, and a bit more when traveling. We’ve had mostly really good experiences with a few duds.  We tend to have one or two guys that we see for a few months and then sometimes they stop working or the thrill is gone. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to experience a guy we haven’t seen in a while which is fun. Overall, it’s been a great addition to our sex life. We still enjoy just being together as well and hiring has improved that because it makes us communicate more. 

[Jay17403]

I have been hiring since early 20’s.  First it was hustlers in the parks or cruising areas that just made things easy when I was in the military.  Once I was out AOL came along and it seemed easier and more of a sure thing than the bars.  Eventually that morphed into the really great days of Craigslist and Backpage. The options on finding high quality real time guys has definitely suffered. I have always just found it easier and less stressful and I will be the first to admit paying for it is a huge turn for me. I am not someone that needs a “connection” to have sex and enjoy it and for the most part prefer things more impersonal and never do the boyfriend thing. 

[DMonDude]

I first started hiring just over a year ago. It was something i had been thinking about for a while but never went through with. During the first week of November 2024 I was over stressed, over worked, under sexed, and wanted to treat myself to something nice. I dove into the deep end and hired 3 guys for a 6 hand massage for my very first hire. I didn't know about this forum or know anyone to ask how this worked at the time, so i was truly going in fully blind. I was terrified walking up to the AirBnB thinking "I'm either going to have the best time ever or this is fake and I'm about to get arrested/kidnapped/killed", luckily it was the former! I went a little crazy with it and saw those 3 guys 2 more times that same week before they left town 😆.

Edited 10 hours ago by DMonDude