Provider couldnt get it up

[Racoon31]

So i made a post few days ago about wanting to hire a guy but he was unavaliable so i decided to get someone else for 2hrs 250e + travel paid found him thru site called ,,romeo'' he had few reviews so i thought itd be fine he was younger lik 29years old (for context im 24 years old and i look completely fine) he came we started slowly but he couldnt get it up at all saying he could and if he does wed just finish 2 fast making excuses that its ,,cold'' in the house? After that he asked me to turn on some videos i did and again nothing... I got so pissed off i just paid him 100 just to leave worst exp of my life did any of u go thru something similar? Id link his profile but im p sure he deleted it since i cant find it just wanted to vent my frustration dont think ill be doing this again and wanted you guys to share stories if u had something similar happen legit.

[Nue2thegame]

Hey, it happens. Unfortunate for all concerned.  I wouldn’t give up on the hobby but pick a site with legitimate reviews, like this one or even a well reviewed provider on RM and try again. You also need to develop some patience- something that I didn’t have a lot of at 24. Your poor guy  probably isn’t cut out for this business but learned a valuable life lesson. You should get back on the horse and look forward to much better times ahead. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Racoon31 said:

for context im 24 years old

That much is obvious.  Helpful hints:  punctuation and capitalization are your friends.   Using them will make you appear less naive and therefore less likely to be taken advantage of in the future.

 Similarly, avoid hiring a man who does not use punctuation or capitalization in his communication with you.  It shows he is either inexperienced at best or a flake at worst.

Edited 17 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[Nue2thegame]

2 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

That much is obvious.  Helpful hints:  punctuation and capitalization are your friends.   Using them will make you appear less nieve and therefore less likely to be taken advantage of in the future.

 Similarly, avoid hiring a man who does not use punctuation or capitalization in his communication with you.  It shows he is either inexperienced at best or a flake at worst.

Good luck with that. You and I aren’t 24 (or 29), I’m pretty sure, and we went to a different school. Somehow 20 somethings learned to communicate and even sometimes get laid, I’m told. 

[JB_Studio38]

2 hours ago, Racoon31 said:

So i made a post few days ago about wanting to hire a guy but he was unavaliable so i decided to get someone else...

 

I got so pissed off i just paid him 100 just to leave worst exp of my life did any of u go thru something similar? Id link his profile but im p sure he deleted it since i cant find it just wanted to vent my frustration dont think ill be doing this again and wanted you guys to share stories if u had something similar happen legit.

Well at least you gave him something for his effort. Kind of how like the game show Jeopardy gives contestants $1,000 even if they had a 0 score. So don’t feel pissed or ripped.

That said, part of it is the pitfalls of hooking up with strangers, and trying to find other options when your plan A isn’t available. And unfortunately when deciding to “go with someone else”, there’s no guarantee that other person will live up to your expectations as the 1st  pick may have. 
 

And not saying you should have done this but, that’s part of why it’s good practice to be somewhat versatile “if” the opportunity presents. That way you’re not totally reliant on their dick or ass working, to get pleasure 😜 

[Mark_fl]

Providers are human. I'm sure there was a level of disappointment and embarrassment on his part as well. Treat them like anyone else you would have had to your house. Respectfully,  and let him leave with dignity, not "paying him to leave." While I've not had this experience,  if that was what you hired him for, i cant imagine would have charged you and just written this one off, and then reevaluated if this was the right line of work for him.

[Racoon31]

24 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

Providers are human. I'm sure there was a level of disappointment and embarrassment on his part as well. Treat them like anyone else you would have had to your house. Respectfully,  and let him leave with dignity, not "paying him to leave." While I've not had this experience,  if that was what you hired him for, i cant imagine would have charged you and just written this one off, and then reevaluated if this was the right line of work for him.

It sounded way worse in post thn it actually was in person i just said i wasnt feeling it anymore and told him id like to call it off and id pay him for hour somehow i sounded more pissed while posting this thn i was with him 

[Racoon31]

1 hour ago, JB_Studio38 said:

Well at least you gave him something for his effort. Kind of how like the game show Jeopardy gives contestants $1,000 even if they had a 0 score. So don’t feel pissed or ripped.

That said, part of it is the pitfalls of hooking up with strangers, and trying to find other options when your plan A isn’t available. And unfortunately when deciding to “go with someone else”, there’s no guarantee that other person will live up to your expectations as the 1st  pick may have. 
 

And not saying you should have done this but, that’s part of why it’s good practice to be somewhat versatile “if” the opportunity presents. That way you’re not totally reliant on their dick or ass working, to get pleasure 😜 

Learned a lesson i guess i was just wondering if anyone had smth similar happen to them im kinda curious how they reacted i sounded way more angry in this post.. i was just kinda dissapointed i guess 

[DMonDude]

I've experienced this before during a 4 hand massage a long time ago. One guy couldn't get hard when it got time for the fun part and left early and i continued with the other guy solo, still gave the other guy a little something cause he still did the massage though. Wasn't a big deal at all. Stuff happens and performers sometimes have off days or might have personal life stuff on their mind, and like all the rest of us, we still gotta show up for work and do the best we can (but sometimes it's too much and you just gotta call out/leave early).

I've had experiences where they don't do everything they agreed on in messages/texts, and i've had experiences where they just weren't good at "performing" in the sense of pretending to be into it/into me/helping to create "chemistry". Which is somewhat a buzzkill obviously. There's plenty of threads on this forum about bad experiences, flakes, no shows, etc (both from the client and the provider perspective). However, i've also had FANTASTIC experiences as well.

It's all just part of the game. Just because they are hired professionals doesn't mean it will always go perfectly every time. When you do this hobby, you are taking a chance on what the outcome will be. Sounds like your first two tries weren't great, but like with a lot of things, you have to sift through the bad to find the good, and the good usually makes the search worth it.

[+ Jamie21]

Ok as someone who is a provider and performer in porn let me give my perspective:  It can happen, and be quite unexpected. It’s certainly happened to me on occasions when I’ve been with clients and when making porn.

We’re all human and can have off days (or just be tired from a sequence of clients). It’s also happened with guys I was filming with when they couldn’t get hard. It’s actually more common than you might realise, especially with guys who have sex professionally. I know guys who inject their cock with trimix before a film shoot because they want to be sure of getting hard. 

The most important thing is to understand how best to react to it if the guy you hired isn’t hard. You shouldn’t make an issue of it. Try something different, do some massage or stretching together, focus on touch, intimacy and breathing. You’ll find as soon as you remove the expectation that he should get hard then more than likely he will get hard. But if you make a big issue about it then you can be 100% sure it isn’t going to happen. 

[Whoisyourdaddy]

I recently met a young guy who couldn't get hard. I'm into servicing guys, so a hard cock is preferable. However, he had beautiful, soft skin, and I loved caressing and kissing him all over. It had a very calming effect.

I'm always going to pay their rate. Some sessions are duds, but I'm ultimately paying for their time.

(It's also not the end of the world if they don't cum.)

Like Jamie says above, there's always massage, rimming, and other types of body worship.

[hungry4darkmeat]

I’ve had this happen with providers before as well which is why I now always have viagra and cialis on hand just in case they need it. I totally understand that it happens and isn’t a big deal as long as the provider doesn’t try to charge you full price and/or is able to make it happen eventually in one way or another that satisfies the client. Patience and a good attitude goes a long way towards helping resolve that problem 

[Rudynate]

I've had great luck - never had it happen.  I hardly ever take chances when I'm choosing a guy to spend time with - I go for experience and maturity.  Recently, though, I have spent time with a  couple guys in their mid-20's - totally new thing for me. Both were just great - and I found that a a young partner with a strong libido jolts my libido.  I'll probably be seeing more of these mid-20 guys.