Ever ask or been asked to change physical appearance?

[Boaxxx]

For clients, have you ever asked a provider to change an aspect of their physical appearance? And for providers, have you ever been asked?

Examples:

- Trim a beard, go a few days without shaving, grow a goatee

- Trim a hairy chest, don't trim for a week or so if you do, trim/shave pubes, shave balls, shave ass

- Cover up tattoos, wear a temporary tattoo

Other aspects that aren't directly physical but yet visual would be to wear a baseball cap, cowboy hat, glasses, boots, workout gear, jockstrap, wrestling singlet, suit and tie, etc.

[DMonDude]

I've definitely considered costume requests, but never pulled the trigger on asking yet.

Things like changing facial/body hair or covering tattoos or anything like that are things i generally wouldn't consider asking a provider to do. I just don't have enough interest or specific desires for that and because since it's something that would also affect other clients decision making in hiring them, i would think it's something they'd likely not agree to without charging a ton extra for it unless it's a change they were already going to do anyway. Body hair in particular, clients can be super particular about and the provider can't switch styles/regrow the hair fast enough to appease everyone. So it just seems easier for the client to hire another provider with their preferred look to me (but also is easy for me to say in a big city with a ton of providers).

[Nightowl]

I wouldn’t even consider it.  If a regular provider grew a beard or shaved one off, I might comment on which looked better, but I would never suggest they shave their chest, get a nose job, or consider investing in a toupee.  Likewise I wouldn’t appreciate a provider who told me I should do any of those things unless we had transitioned from a business relationship to a close friend relationship.

[soloyo215]

I have my preferences, but I've never asked for anything in that respect to providers.

[maninsoma]

I think I have asked about a provider's current look when they have photos with some discrepancies that are easily changed (short hair versus long, beard versus clean shaven), but I would not out of the blue ask someone to change his looks since it seems like it would be akin to saying, "You'd be hot were it not for your mustache; will you shave it for me?"  That seems pretty rude to me unless you have reason to believe that sometimes the provider is clean shaven and sometimes he isn't.

[SecretProvider]

I have received the following requests -

come clean shaven. let your stubble grow out. trim your chest hair, shave your chest hair. make sure balls are sooth, shave all your pubic hair, let your pubic hair grow out, wear cologne, don't wear cologne. 

Wear a suit and tie. Wear gym clothes. Wear preppy clothes. wear a cap. wear boxers. wear white briefs. wear no underwear. Wear jockstrap. answer the door with just a towel on. be having sex when I walk in and join. Wear your socks for a few days. wear same underwear for a few days. 

The list goes on and on.  As always  - it is best to JUST ASK what you are wanting. 

Side note - it can be pretty rude to say to not just a provider, but anyone, things like "i preferred it when you had smooth chest/long hair/no tattoos etc etc' 

[Boaxxx]

Just to be clear I have never asked nor have I even thought of asking a provider to make such changes. However I heard of someone who had made such a request and I found it hard to believe and wondered if others have made such requests.

[CuriousByNature]

If i ever meet up with someone I might ask them to bring me a hamburger.

[liubit]

2 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

Wear your socks for a few days. wear same underwear for a few days. 

I have a scent fetish. Other than this ☝️☝️, plus do NOT shower before our meeting and do NOT wear perfume or deodorant, I do not ask for more. I hate facial hair, so if a provider has a full beard, goatee, or mustache, I simply do not hire his services. Stubble is ok. 

Edited Friday at 04:39 AM by liubit

[BuffaloKyle]

The only thing I have requested is to not arrive with too much of a beard as I like to kiss. But that is only if I see in a provider's photos instances of him sporting both a clean shaven and bearded look. I also preface my request by stating if it's not an inconvenience as it's not a deal breaker.

[+ Pensant]

7 hours ago, liubit said:

I have a scent fetish. Other than this ☝️☝️, plus do NOT shower before our meeting and do NOT wear perfume or deodorant

I think that’s a fairly common request, which I often request. Years ago in SoCal, I had a few twinks with beautiful legs shave or wax them, and they had no issue with it at all. I even paid for a full body wax for a few, which they loved. My tastes in that department have since changed. I too hate mustaches and beards, so those in that category never make my buddy list. Tattoos don’t bother me either.

[+ poolboy48220]

For guys who have pictures of both smooth and hairy chests, I've asked them whether or not they're hairy at the moment. It does affect my decision to hire and my enjoyment of the session. 

[BaronArtz]

I have never asked a provider to change his appearance except if is part of a fetish scene.  I have somewhat of a shaving fetish.

A masseur I see regularly shaves my entire genital area before we start the massage (and the play time).  He does offer body grooming as part of his repertoire so it doesn't feel awkward asking for it.  I also love stroking myself while watching a hot guy shaving his chest.  So far I have only done that with Cam models as part of a private show.  Very few decline that request.  Tempting to take that script 'live' but I have not done it yet ... I mean, what is the worst that could happen?  They can always say no.

[+ JamesB]

I’ve never asked a provider to change their appearance but I have asked for clarification on how they currently look. Some profiles include a mix of photos showing different styles, like shaved and unshaved body or facial hair, etc.

[jackcali]

On 4/30/2026 at 11:08 PM, CuriousByNature said:

If i ever meet up with someone I might ask them to bring me a hamburger.

I was meeting a regular in LA years ago for an overnight, but he got stuck late at work and we missed our dinner reservation.  I suggested he pick up In-N-Out burgers for us on the way over, which he did and which we ate cold between fucks.  One of my favorite dinners ever.  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 5/1/2026 at 12:35 AM, liubit said:

I have a scent fetish. Other than this ☝️☝️, plus do NOT shower before our meeting and do NOT wear perfume or deodorant, I do not ask for more. I hate facial hair, so if a provider has a full beard, goatee, or mustache, I simply do not hire his services. Stubble is ok. 

I'm the exact opposite. I have a painfully sensitive sense of smell. Anything musky, or that could be classified as "body odor," is an immediate end to the experience for me. I also can't tolerate anything but the slightest hint of cologne. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I prefer clean shaven.  Once or twice, I might have said “it would be nice if…” but not to someone with a beard…I avoid beards 

[Jack Vernon]

Providers have asked me if I had any requests or preferences prior to the appointment which I appreciated.  Once I asked a provider to wear the tighty whities from some of his pics, neither of us realized he forgot that detail until he was leaving, so he sent me some nice custom pics later on.  

 

[jeezifonly]

Attire (I like to unwrap a gift slowly...) and grooming products are the only things I would ask. In accommodating my request, the provider has the ability to restore his default for the next client, merely with routine shower (or not) and clean clothes (or not)  

[CuriousByNature]

16 hours ago, jackcali said:

I was meeting a regular in LA years ago for an overnight, but he got stuck late at work and we missed our dinner reservation.  I suggested he pick up In-N-Out burgers for us on the way over, which he did and which we ate cold between fucks.  One of my favorite dinners ever.  

Appropriate choice of burger place.

[MscleLovr]

I prefer guys with good bodies to wear sexy underwear.

When I find a fit-bodied guy who’s happy to comply, I get him to model a range of briefs and jockstraps for me. I see it as part of good foreplay. I’ve found several guys who actually find it arousing as I do.

Some guys have asked me if they can keep some underwear after a date, and I’m happy to oblige. A couple of guys I dated regularly got into the habit of calling me beforehand to ask me if I wanted them to wear a jockstrap and what colour I’d like to see on them.

[HockeyMan]

I've asked providers to not wear cologne or to wear my preferred underwear type. But I've never asked a provider to change his appearance. I don't hire providers who don't meet my preferences for appearance and grooming.