Providers who work 9-5, what are your tips n tricks?

[TorontoTwunk]

Happy Monday!

I'll be getting back into the bizz in the new year, currently in a full-time role in my vanilla life; wondering how other providers who have a 9-5 or a similar role during the day manage their time?

Clients do you prefer mornings, afternoons, evenings, or weekends?

Ideally, I'd only be doing this hobby in the evenings and weekends.

xoxo

TT

[DMonDude]

I used to have a provider i hired regularly who had a 9-5. I also work during the day. We'd always meet sometime between 9pm and midnight on weekdays, or any time on a weekend. Was never a problem.

[GentJ]

It's really all over the map in terms of times. I find that Clients usually fall into the following groups related to timing:

 

1. Retired (9-5 works great) ✅

2. On vacation (9-5 is possible here, you need to be in a vacation destination) 😎

3. Working from home (These guys often hire for a quickie between meetings)✅

4. Business travelers (Won't work for 9-5 usually) ❌

5. Working a normal job (won't work) ❌

 

Of course it's up to you which of these you take on.

[TorontoTwunk]

23 minutes ago, GentJ said:

It's really all over the map in terms of times. I find that Clients usually fall into the following groups related to timing:

 

1. Retired (9-5 works great) ✅

2. On vacation (9-5 is possible here, you need to be in a vacation destination) 😎

3. Working from home (These guys often hire for a quickie between meetings)✅

4. Business travelers (Won't work for 9-5 usually) ❌

5. Working a normal job (won't work) ❌

 

Of course it's up to you which of these you take on.

Good point! Yeah, I WFH; but def couldn't take on clients during business hours. I'm sure I'll find a rhythm

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 hours ago, TorontoTwink said:

Happy Monday!

@TorontoTwink, the link to your Rent Men profile in your signature seems to be out of date.

[TorontoTwunk]

Just now, Vegas_Millennial said:

@TorontoTwink, the link to your Rent Men profile in your signature seems to be out of date.

Yes, it is! Currently, not advertising; getting back into the biz in the new year.

xo

tt

[BeamerBikes]

2 minutes ago, TorontoTwink said:

Yes, it is! Currently, not advertising; getting back into the biz in the new year.

xo

tt

It appears you are nailing it in the building a demand phase of marketing 

[mtaabq]

I will say as a client that it’s nice to see in the profile that a provider has 9-5 job (or something to that effect) and maybe a note or two as to when the provider is available. It sets reasonable expectations and (hopefully) prevents me from asking stupid questions.

[TorontoTwunk]

Just now, mtaabq said:

I will say as a client that it’s nice to see in the profile that a provider has 9-5 job (or something to that effect) and maybe a note or two as to when the provider is available. It sets reasonable expectations and (hopefully) prevents me from asking stupid questions.

Yeah, 100% would communicate that to the client. In the past, I would get clients who would be upset if I didn't give them an answer in the 5 min window they texted me in. 

[Simon Suraci]

5 hours ago, TorontoTwink said:

wondering how other providers who have a 9-5 or a similar role during the day manage their time?

I didn’t. It was all too much. After years of weekend and evening provider work (about full time, just opposite schedule) and working a full time 8-5 job in an office, I just about collapsed. My well being suffered, but I made good money.

So I quit my straight job and now work for myself providing services full time. Best decision ever, for pretty much all aspects of my life.

One of my friends works full time from home. He makes enough to pay all his bills. He does our work part time nights and weekends for extra money, and for his personal fulfillment helping others in this unique way that we do. He only sees regulars now, doesn’t advertise anymore. He works with me for clients who want us for groups though. Kind of nice having premium access! I think stopping advertising after retaining a certain number of regulars is his way of limiting what might otherwise become unmanageable, contrary to my approach. He’s smarter in that regard. More power to him.

@DznNYC has a full time job. He will have more to contribute. He’s in a busy season at the moment however, so maybe it will take more time for him to see this and comment.

[+ Jamie21]

I used to combine sex work with a demanding full time job, plus other commitments. It was too much and I had to decide what to let go. I liked the regular income from my conventional job (which was extremely well paid) and I liked the excitement and variety of the sex work. I wanted it all but it was so challenging and I was ending up short changing both careers. I didn’t like having to compromise on either job but events resolved things for me. Covid happened, I had the opportunity to leave the conventional job with a lump sum, and it enabled me to focus fully on sex work (including making films). I now mix the sex work with other work that is very flexible and I can enjoy the variety and independence that this model brings. 

If you’re going to do sex work properly you’ll find it’s extremely difficult to do that around a 9 to 5 job. You need to be extremely flexible with time when doing sex work otherwise you’ll find yourself turning away a lot of business and that will be irritating at best. Now I can be available at the times clients want (within reason) and fit my other work around that. I’d say once you’ve built up regular clients you’ll probably need to carve out more time from your 9 to 5. Of course these days with flexible work hours and WFH it is a bit easier to fit other commitments around that. 
 

[TorontoTwunk]

4 minutes ago, Jamie21 said:

I used to combine sex work with a demanding full time job, plus other commitments. It was too much and I had to decide what to let go. I liked the regular income from my conventional job (which was extremely well paid) and I liked the excitement and variety of the sex work. I wanted it all but it was so challenging and I was ending up short changing both careers. I didn’t like having to compromise on either job but events resolved things for me. Covid happened, I had the opportunity to leave the conventional job with a lump sum, and it enabled me to focus fully on sex work (including making films). I now mix the sex work with other work that is very flexible and I can enjoy the variety and independence that this model brings. 

If you’re going to do sex work properly you’ll find it’s extremely difficult to do that around a 9 to 5 job. You need to be extremely flexible with time when doing sex work otherwise you’ll find yourself turning away a lot of business and that will be irritating at best. Now I can be available at the times clients want (within reason) and fit my other work around that. I’d say once you’ve built up regular clients you’ll probably need to carve out more time from your 9 to 5. Of course these days with flexible work hours and WFH it is a bit easier to fit other commitments around that. 
 

Nice! Yeah, my 9-5 is very flexible I also WFH all the time. In the past, I worked a vanilla job during the evenings; and it didn't work with my clients as they were only willing to meeting during the evenings. Hopefully, I find a good rythm; not looking to see many clients when I get back into the bizz.

xx

TT

[SecretProvider]

I started to do part time straight job to balance the sex work but it was too frustrating when I had to turn down bookings because of my day job.

full time sex work was better for me. 

 

[DznNYC]

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!

Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 

I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  

 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 

One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  

Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.

Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 

 

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, DznNYC said:

Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.

 

Actually, if you are actually reporting the right amount of income,  the ACA will cover most, if not all, of the premium. I know nobody here would ever think of not reporting all their income, but if you are able to report the right amount of taxable income, either through actual earnings or pulling income out of pretaxed income like a Roth IRA, its actually very cheap, if not free.

Sometimes it pays to be the editor of a financial planner.

[TorontoTwunk]

1 hour ago, DznNYC said:

I definitely maintain a 9-5 work life and a strong part time escorting life.  It can be challenging.   I’m exhausted 24-7.  But I make it work!

Typically I limit mid-week after work bookings to one in a week.  And I limit those to known regulars who prefer to bottom only.  That way I go directly from work to gym to shower to client.  I try to keep Fridays through Sunday as available for extended client situations as much as I can.  But realistically, I can only fill Friday, Saturday, OR Sunday.  Ambitious as I might get, I still do need day to myself. 

I usually end up taking about 3-4 bookings a week.   There's admittedly all kinds of drawbacks to this situation.  

 If you’re like me, you want to help out every guy who reaches out to you, even if you know it’s logistically impossible for you.  I think it's probably part of my provider brain wiring, I want to show up and provide for everybody.  I literally hate saying no.  But I end up having to say no a lot.  There are entire client populations who are only looking during business hours.  Or weeknight business travelers.  Or I get endless recurring message from the same guys: "Available Tuesday over lunch?"  Unfortunately, never.  I think part of what drives me toward providing is the genuine desire to say yes to everyone.  So the repeated nos do become draining. 

One of the benefits of a part time situation is that I don't run the risk of burnout.  If I show up at a booking, I know it's my only one of the day.  I'm charged up.  I'm horny for it.  I've got the mental and sexual energy to be who I need to be.  I have a confidence that my client is getting the best version of me in a way that I might not have if I was seeing multiple clients in a day.  

Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.

Suffice to say, the flexibility of sex work is a major bonus in my life, and I'm not looking to give it up anytime soon. 

 

Thank you, for such a detailed response! Yeah, its going to be a challenge; I've done it in the past only seeing around 2-3 clients per a week. I admire your drive! 

xx

tt

[Simon Suraci]

Another way to address healthcare access is to own a business with one or more business partners. You can get a group plan through a broker this way, and there is no limit on what you can report for your provider business income. My partner and I are only a two person farm business, but we get to hand select our health insurance plans to suit our needs, and we write off all of our farm business expenses and healthcare expenses, including premiums.

With ACA coverage, you may only have a few plan options in your state. Same with coverage through an employer, only a few options that may or may not meet your particular healthcare needs. That may be fine for most people like me with uncomplicated needs, but leaves a lot of us falling through the cracks.

My partner has a lot of complicated health issues. He is only capable of working part time. This is one of many reasons I continue to work as a provider. With our group plan, a broker helps him hand select a plan offering coverage for all of his specialty healthcare providers. The premium is quite high, at over 1k / month, but he maxes out his out of pocket expenses early in the year. Virtually all of his care is free after that. Just one of his half dozen specialty healthcare providers, for instance, would have cost him 38k over the whole year.

I would be fine with an ACA or employer sponsored plan, but me being a part of our group plan gives my partner access to lots of benefits we wouldn’t have if we were beholden to employers or state healthcare.

[jackcali]

On 12/8/2025 at 4:17 PM, TorontoTwunk said:

Nice! Yeah, my 9-5 is very flexible I also WFH all the time.

I regularly saw a provider who had a pretty serious day job that let him WFH a couple of days a week.  We would meet at his apartment for an hour or 90 minutes when we were both between business meetings.  There was some coordination involved but we rarely had trouble finding a time to meet at least once every week.  It worked great for us both.  

[nate_sf]

4 hours ago, jackcali said:

I regularly saw a provider who had a pretty serious day job that let him WFH a couple of days a week.  We would meet at his apartment for an hour or 90 minutes when we were both between business meetings.  There was some coordination involved but we rarely had trouble finding a time to meet at least once every week.  It worked great for us both.  

This is similar to my situation. I have a hybrid 9-5 that allows me some WFH days. If I need to meet someone during the day, I coordinate it with my WFH schedule and then block off the time on my calendar as a long lunch. I'm obligated to bill 40 hours per week so have to make up the time elsewhere.

But most of my clients are wanting to meet evenings. That works out well with the 9-5, but as others have mentioned, can make for some long and tiring days. If I'm meeting a client at 9 pm and need to get up the next morning at 6 am, that takes a toll (and just becomes worse with age, lol). I only take a few clients a week though, so like @DznNYC mentions, it becomes a highlight of the day that I look forward to.

[BuffaloKyle]

As a client I usually prefer evenings as that's when I'm horniest usually. I also like to hire on off days of work as even though evenings would be after work for me sometimes I can have an unexpected hectic day at work. Then I want nothing else but to come home and be alone to relax. I'd hate then for a preplanned session to fall on one of those days.

Can't wait to see your ad when it's back up @TorontoTwunk! I prefer younger guys and I'm close to you in Buffalo, NY.

[moonlight]

On 12/9/2025 at 6:33 AM, DznNYC said:

Do I imagine my life as a full time sex worker?  Absolutely!  Is that remotely possible for me given the nature of the US health care system.  For sure not!  How do full time providers solve the health insurance dilemma?  No idea.

I've pondered this situation a lot. There aren't many good options. I imagine many providers are uninsured. Some may be lucky enough to have a partner whose employer plan they can hop on. Otherwise you're pretty much left to the individual market, and ACA subsidies are decreasing while premiums are also increasing for other reasons too. 

Wouldn't recommend the uninsured route... that might work until it doesn't, painfully, all of a sudden.