What do you expect or prefer in a provider's home, when you're going to THEIR place (for those providers who host) ?

[Kris_Canada]

I realize some escorts and clients don't care.  They just want a place to fuck.  But I'm curious about what matters to each of you, when it comes to heading to his place for incalls.  Any horror stories for how BADLY his place was set up are welcome as well (remember: no names).  And accolades for those whose homes/condos/apartments were exceptional, or if the decor and layout enhanced the hotness of it all?  Please share.  🙂

 

The basics:

- clean living space, bed and bathroom

- he lives in a safe area (unless you're fetishizing heading to the grungier part of town because you get off to a more seedy vibe when out for some tail?)

- the obvious supplies (lube, condoms as an option, hand towels, wipes, etc)

 

Any other MUSTS ?

 

Some nice-to-haves I'll toss out there, see if they're important to folks: 

- easy access to transit (not everyone wants to use transit during the pandemic, but this was probably important before--for my part, I'll drive over if there's parking there or nearby, or I'll taxi or Uber or walk over, depending)

- suitable dining and entertainment options, maybe?  If you're more of a dinner & a show overnighter than a 1-hour pound session guy

- pool and gym ?  (if condo living--I realize most people's houses don't have gyms and pools)

 

Water bottles and electrolyte drinks like Gatorade (or better) at the ready, to always be able to offer hydration?  That's something I like to do.  Mints and gum somewhere obvious, maybe?  Mouthwash and dixie cups in the bathroom.  Though guys always seem to come clean and fresh.   But as an option.

What temperature do you like it set to (what do you enjoy in your own home?) ?  For sex, do you want it a bit warmer because you're gonna have your clothes off, or prefer it cooler because you guys are about to work up a sweat?

 

What else?  Be as practical or raunchy as ya like.  😉😏😈  First things that come to mind.

Edited August 29, 2021 by Kris_Canada
spelling mistake, plus thought of another question to ask ya'll

[+ keroscenefire]

Safe area is very subjective. Often the "safest" areas are town are far from transit and not as easy to get to. Most downtowns often have higher crime but are much easier to get to and often are where many escorts seem to live. That's definitely the case in Denver anyway.

I do like a guy that has a hot setup though. My two sexiest escort environments were this one dom escort in New York that had a small apartment with a sling set up, plastic wrap on the floor, toys set up and porn playing on the TV. Just instantly a hot, hot scene. Also had this guy in Denver who had a rather grungy room in some ways. It was just a couch and a coffee table, but he actually had a projector TV and a white wall where he played floor-to-ceiling porn while we were together. Those both were memorable.

Most of the time it's just been in hotels or bedrooms. Mostly they've been clean but I do agree if it's particularly gross that is kind of a turn off. 

[Guest Strip4me]

Sure. I’ll go…

-shower (and an offer to join 😈)

-I like music. (I know some folks don’t care)

[maninsoma]

I don't care about clutter, but I do care about cleanliness.  I'm not talking about needing to pass a white glove test, but if the sheets are obviously dirty or if the bathroom clearly needs to be cleaned it's a major turn off. 

The other thing that's important to me is discretion.  I'm not happy when I'm obviously seeing the previous client leave as I arrive or if I see someone arrive as I depart.  I'm not thrilled if I walk through/by a room with someone else in it.

[Kris_Canada]

10 hours ago, keroscenefire said:

Safe area is very subjective. Often the "safest" areas are town are far from transit and not as easy to get to. Most downtowns often have higher crime but are much easier to get to and often are where many escorts seem to live.

True, "safe" is subjective.

I considered being a suburban escort for a while (there aren't a ton, least not near Toronto/in Ontario) because they seem like underserved areas and by luck, all the gents I attracted while living there were awesome and all except one have become repeat clients...plus the guys I traveled to in the 'burbs while living downtown were/are also great.  But in the end, there just aren't enough dudes hiring in the 'burbs (or not enough willing to hire close to home, at least--many go to the city or the hotels near the airport for encounters).  It seems that living downtown where there's a higher volume of people and you're closer to more hotels, is the better bet.

Maybe some providers on here have had success entertaining in the 'burbs long term, though.

Thanks for sharing, loved reading about the two hot room set-ups.

Whether to have porn playing or not when the guy comes in is an interesting call.  Over the years, I've had guys ask for some to be playing in the background, whereas others have commented that they don't like it when other providers have porn on because they're concerned or annoyed at the possibility that the provider is stealing glances at the porn rather than concentrating on them.

I don't mind it either way.  It's hot background noise, but not required.  Will happily put it on if requested, or have it on already if I'm with a regular who I know enjoys it.  Best bet seems to be to default to having it playing, and the gent can ask for it to be turned off.

[Kris_Canada]

5 hours ago, Strip4me said:

-shower (and an offer to join 😈)

Hot.  Always offered, yep.  That should always be automatically offered at the end of a session. 🛀💦

 

5 hours ago, Strip4me said:

-I like music. (I know some folks don’t care)

To help set the mood, yeah.  If I was asked to provide massage (and I usually find a way to work some in there anyway), always have some relaxing music or nature sounds on (would be nice to do some sessions out in the woods at a cottage, cabin, or home-in-the-forest and have the background ambiance be the actual sounds of nature).  A large percentage of my hires want half the session spent on massage and the other half getting pounded anyway.

Sometimes at hotel outcalls, the guy has music going already, which is nice, because you find out what he likes.  🙂  I should ask ahead of time, from now on.  5+ years of doing this (four if you subtract the break of the pandemic) and it just never occurred to me to ask that in the initial chit-chat of setting up a quickie or overnight--"What music do you like?"  🤦‍♂️

I'll remember to have some music playing for the non-massage sessions as well, from now on.  Music to fuck to, yeah!

[Kris_Canada]

1 hour ago, maninsoma said:

The other thing that's important to me is discretion.  I'm not happy when I'm obviously seeing the previous client leave as I arrive or if I see someone arrive as I depart.  I'm not thrilled if I walk through/by a room with someone else in it.

Re: roomies or someone having their spouse or significant other home

I tried doing this with a roomie for a year, a few years back.  90% of the time, I'd just pay my roomie $20 and he'd take a hike for an hour and go visit a friend, go get laid, or get some grub.

When he wouldn't or couldn't leave, I'd tell any short-notice clients that my room mate was home, he knew what I did (plus sometimes did it himself--roomie still occasionally gave massages to older couples--couples' massages were his specialty, apparently), and that he'd mostly be in his room.  No one ever refrained from hiring me because of him being around, but I could tell it made a one-off client uncomfortable one time.  Which is when I decided I'd be living solo the next apartment or condo I had.

My longtime regulars, the odd time they'd come to me rather than me travelling to them, they didn't mind the roomie being around.  They'd chat him up a bit post-coitus, when they were getting their shoes back on.  Very friendly, very relaxed vibes, those times.  Apparently roomie had a big dick, but I never got to see it.  We weren't into each other like that, lived very different lives, and he was a friend-of-a-friend.

He was a flight attendant, away all the time anyway, and I knew his schedule, so it wasn't hard to make incall appointments only when he was absent.

[Kris_Canada]

1 hour ago, maninsoma said:

The other thing that's important to me is discretion.

On the topic of discretion, how do you (and anyone else who wants to chime in) feel about concierge/security at condo and apartment complexes?

Do you feel more comfortable entering a provider's home when it's a walk-up entrance (right to his door, like at a brownstone), as opposed to having to run the gauntlet of front entryway & buzzing him, going through lobby and sometimes past concierge/security, then the elevator or stairs ?

Do you like it when he comes down to let you in/greet you at the front entrance or lobby, or would you rather not see him (maybe because you don't wanna be seen with him) until you're at the door to his unit/suite?

If it's an apartment/condo, does a concierge being present make people feel self-conscious, or is it reassuring that you're in a relatively safer building?  Or just..."whatever"/you're neutral about that aspect?

[maninsoma]

I don't mind entering a building with a concierge as long as I don't have to check in with them to say where I am going.  So far I have never visited an escort where that was required.  Most people who live in larger buildings just have intercom systems where they can buzz you in and then you are on your own to take the elevator/stairs to their unit.

 

As for roommates, I don't mind if someone has one but if he's home during appointments then hopefully he can be in another room with the door closed and not be making enough noise that his presence is obvious. 

[John]

I often find that when I go to a provider's house I expect it to be as nice as mine and forget the places I lived when I was a 20- or 30-something.

I have also twice been to places that while immaculately clean and decently furnished were devoid of any personality or indications that someone actually lived there (in both cases I am sure the provider did). I always hope to see some signs of the provider's (I hate that word) life so that I might know him better for being in his home. 

[jeezifonly]

Y’all have covered all my expectations, except for the porte cochère. (I will have spent time doing my hair!)