Height Difference - A Turn On/Off

[nomad]

Does being with someone shorter or taller than you turn you on or off?  Some of the porn pairings purposely put a really small or short person with a normal height or taller than average height person.  I find it distracting.  I don't mind being with someone close to my height.   Prefer they be taller than me.  But I try to avoid being with someone that is shorter than me by more than 4".  Height bias?  What is your preference?  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I generally prefer to be with men taller than me. I'm 5'11", so that rules out like 60 percent of US men. But it's a preference, not an absolute. I've had lots of fun with men of various heights. I had a great time with a 5'7" Venezuelan guy in PV. Obviously, if someone is significantly shorter or taller than me, it can limit what we do in certain positions. But a skilled lover and good communication can make nearly any height differential work. 

My ideal height is 6'2"-6'5". We recently spent a lovely time with a guy who was 6'5." Bottoming for him was so easy and natural because he could easily kiss me, talk to me, and so on. 

[DMonDude]

Yeah i'm the one they do those pairings for 😆. I love big height/size disparity. I'm 5'5" and i love 6'+ guys. I'm pretty typical in that i love bottoming for tall guys. I don't enjoy the challenge presented to some sex positions if i'm the one topping a tall guy. I know it can be done, i just don't enjoy it as much. I love how heavy large tall guys feel when they're on top of me and i love when their dick is proportional to the rest of them and i like the struggle of taking it. I like feeling like a giant got his hands on me and i'm at his mercy 😆 

I also love verse flip flop fuck time with my fellow short kings though too. And every now and then when i as a 5'5" guy find a real cute but masculine 5'0" - 5'4" guy... 🫦

Edited Thursday at 03:08 PM by DMonDude

[Boaxxx]

Yes, I'm 5'2" and love being with a guy who is 6'+. There's a guy in the area who is 6'6" who is definitely on my bucket list. 

[Wolfer]

I love both. I'm 6' and I love it when a guy is a lot shorter than me or taller than me. Interestingly I don't meet a lot of men who are around my height, but I love those too. 

I just love fucking men. 

[Colton]

I usually only hear that I'm a good kisser from those who are shorter than me.  

[+ Just Chuck]

I like how different heights of guys makes different parts of an encounter stand out.  Sixty-nine position works the very best with a guy who’s the same size as I am.  I feel a little ridiculous topping a guy who’s much taller than I am.  

Kissing while standing is one of the activities where the height differences really feels different.  Leaning down to kiss a shorter person or tilting your head back to kiss a taller person both feel unique.  

[DunwoodyGuy]

Recently I've developed a surprisingly strong affinity for very tall guys (6'3, 6'4, 6'5) with long legs, and I've just arranged to live out this fantasy with someone who is 6'5. We'll see if the reality lives up to the fantasy.

[MscleLovr]

27 minutes ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

I've developed a surprisingly strong affinity for very tall guys…..I've just arranged to live out this fantasy with someone who is 6'5.

Just an aside. I dated a blond Aussie some years ago. He was a blond muscled giant, 6’5 with a great chest and an excellent bottom. On our first date, I didn’t give it much thought beforehand but it proved to be a workout in a good way.
He was quite something to move around physically, put him in various positions as I wanted, having his legs on my shoulders while I pounded his ass, and even keeping my dick inside him as he came.

[jackcali]

In my mind's eye, I always see a rough parity in height.  I'm currently 5'9" and prefer men who are 5'7" to 6'0", though I've drifted both above and below that range with perfectly happy results.  

Edited Thursday at 01:42 PM by jackcali

[+ Pensant]

I prefer someone taller, although my three rotating regulars are only 5’7. I’m 5’11.

[MscleLovr]

To answer the OP: my preference is for muscled guys who are the same height as, or somewhat taller than, me.

As an affectionate but dominant top, I find love-making much easier with taller guys. When it’s just sex, I can readily top a short king but it isn’t as fulfilling emotionally. 

I’ve only once had the experience that I suspect short guys have with a much taller guy.
I was in Buenos Aires and I arranged to meet ‘Diego’, a versatile, long-haired muscled blond.
I went to his apartment one very hot afternoon; he had good AC and we promptly stripped down to our briefs.
When we saw we both had on the same brand of tight white briefs, we laughed.
Diego was maybe 6’3 and he had a great upper body (more bodybuilder than athlete).

It then became awkward as we both tried to take charge.
Tho he said he was versatile, he expected to top…but I never bottom.
He dealt well with the impasse by saying ‘Relax. Let me do all the work. I’ll take good care of you’. 

In retrospect, what he did was very vanilla. He spent a lot of time stroking my body and kissing me repeatedly. He only took off my briefs when he’d made me very stiff, and I couldn’t last long as he sucked me off. He then wrapped his arms around me and held me tight. I was very much ‘the little spoon’. He insisted we nap together for about half an hour. 

I still recall the date clearly because it was so unusual for me. I don’t usually go for bodybuilders; I didn’t take charge; I didn’t get to decide what happened or do any work; and I didn’t get to put his body to good, hard use. 
He made it all about me being worshipped by him, and he did bring me to a shattering climax. 
Yet it was an intensely erotic afternoon, and I was profoundly relaxed as I went back to my hotel.

 

 

[big-n-tall]

15 hours ago, nomad said:

Does being with someone shorter or taller than you turn you on or off?  Some of the porn pairings purposely put a really small or short person with a normal height or taller than average height person.  I find it distracting.  I don't mind being with someone close to my height.   Prefer they be taller than me.  But I try to avoid being with someone that is shorter than me by more than 4".  Height bias?  What is your preference?  

Height has never been something that turns me off. I'm about 6'2", give or take a few centimeters, so most people I meet are shorter than me anyway. Because of that, I've never been particularly picky about height. I've been attracted to plenty of shorter guys, short kings, and on the rare occasion I meet someone taller than me, that's definitely appealing too.

I'm a pretty big guy myself. One of my regulars once told me I have the build of a retired linebacker—and yes, he meant it as a compliment. Lol. While I'm surprisingly flexible for someone my size, I'm not exactly doing gymnastics in bed, so a guy's height has never really been a practical obstacle.

When I first started hiring, I was a lot more versatile. I hadn't bottomed much before, so I figured hiring a professional would be a good way to ease into it with someone experienced who could show me the ropes. Most of the providers I met happened to be shorter than me, which only reinforced that height really didn't matter.

As I became more comfortable with bottoming—and, honestly, as I've gotten older and less interested in it overall—I discovered some unexpected preferences. I developed a bit of a thing for shorter, muscular guys with confident, assertive personalities. At the same time, I found myself really attracted to taller, muscular men who were more submissive and wanted me to take charge. 

One thing I do enjoy is being able to scoop up a short king, pull him into a deep kiss, and carry him to the bed—or wherever the fun happens to be. If he's lean enough, I can occasionally pull that off with guys closer to my height too.

At the end of the day, if I find a guy attractive, his height is pretty low on the list of things I care about. I've never really had a preference either way. At this point... any guy, any height, almost any shape, whether he is aggressive or submissive, if I'm in to him he can get the "D". 😆

Edited Thursday at 05:58 PM by big-n-tall

[+ JamesB]

I generally prefer guys who are shorter than I am, which works out well since I'm 6'2". That said, I honestly can't remember ever turning someone down because of their height. It's a preference, not a dealbreaker.

[soloyo215]

On 6/17/2026 at 10:33 PM, nomad said:

Does being with someone shorter or taller than you turn you on or off?  Some of the porn pairings purposely put a really small or short person with a normal height or taller than average height person.  I find it distracting.  I don't mind being with someone close to my height.   Prefer they be taller than me.  But I try to avoid being with someone that is shorter than me by more than 4".  Height bias?  What is your preference?  

Yes. I don't prefer guys who are much taller than me. I have turned down guys because of them being too tall for my taste.

[cany10011]

When you‘re kissing in bed, you’re pretty much the same height. Though 69 with someone taller may require more flexibility. Other than that, no preference as long as there is good chemistry and hygiene. 

[Proximusss]

I prefer taller masseurs. I am 5’6 and all the masseurs I have hired have been 6ft+. 

[mtaabq]

As another commenter said it’s all about chemistry and hygiene. That said, when it comes to BDSM scenes I actually prefer a smaller man; anyone who reads my postings already knows that I’m weird, but being dominated by a smaller-framed man is such a turn-on to me. At 6’3” many men are shorter than me. I’ve had the pleasure to know several tall providers (as well as one really sexy, really tall former boyfriend), which made kissing standing up a genuine pleasure. I’ll admit, also, to a penchant for beefy, stocky short kings, the kind that used to be called a “fireplug”.

[nomad]

6 hours ago, Proximusss said:

I prefer taller masseurs. I am 5’6 and all the masseurs I have hired have been 6ft+. 

Why?  When you're horizontal for the session?  Unless you are doing full service.  

[jonasfoleson]

if it's on paid work, i don't care. 

[Proximusss]

3 hours ago, nomad said:

Why?  When you're horizontal for the session?  Unless you are doing full service.  

Taller men are just a physical preference for me. Perhaps my only physical preference. Besides, my masseur and I often start the fun standing up. My current masseur and I have started incorporating BDSM into our sessions and his height makes it possible to explore more positions. 

Edited 3 hours ago by Proximusss

[+ purplekow]

Well I only am concerned about height when we are laying down.  If his cock is taller than mine, I am all for it.  

I do like to pin a man against the wall and hold his hands over his head as I kiss him roughly.  This works better with a shorter man, but ultimately, I find dominating a taller man, especially a muscular taller man to be my favorite.   So taller, shorter or the same height, all are great but what I like to do with them is different.  

[+ PhileasFogg]

Not a turnoff, but I do better with guys my own size because of more options with positions 

[BonVivant]

Not a requirement; my usual range is same height to taller. A fantasy is to be dominated by a 6’5” guy with a massive penis appropriately scaled.