*RM users* How important is having a number there for you?

[HotFaceBud]

QUESTION for RENTMEN USERS, SPECIFICALLY CLIENTS:

I don't have my number listed in my profile, but curious if that hinders me, or just screens the weirdos and freaks and spam?  So, my question, how important (or not) is it that there is a phone number listed in someone you are considering...? Thanks in advance!

[jackcali]

Client here.  I tend to reach out to a potential hire a few days in advance and use the RM chat function to ask any questions about his ad (and ask to see private pics if he has them) and also to point him to my RM profile, which has a decent amount of information about me.  That's easier than transmitting all that info via text.  The issue, though, is that it sometimes takes an escort a few days to respond, by which time the window for hiring has passed.  I'm guessing you won't get many same-day hires if you don't have a phone number.  

Good luck.  

[mike carey]

I know there are differing opinions, but like @jackcali I tend to open any conversation in RM chat and move to other means if that becomes necessary. (Also, asking the question here will have generated traffic to your ad.)

[+ JamesB]

I usually prefer texting, simply because most providers respond faster there than through RM messages. That said, it wouldn’t stop me from reaching out to someone who only uses RM, unless I’m trying to set something up within the next 24 to 48 hours.

[+ ApexNomad]

2 hours ago, HotFaceBud said:

QUESTION for RENTMEN USERS, SPECIFICALLY CLIENTS:

I don't have my number listed in my profile, but curious if that hinders me, or just screens the weirdos and freaks and spam?  So, my question, how important (or not) is it that there is a phone number listed in someone you are considering...? Thanks in advance!

It doesn’t bother me, but once things move toward scheduling, I prefer to exchange numbers so we have a reliable point of contact for any day of situations.

Current photos matter more. Many of yours are 12–14 years old, and that’s a bigger issue than not having a phone number.

[+ PhileasFogg]

2 hours ago, HotFaceBud said:

QUESTION for RENTMEN USERS, SPECIFICALLY CLIENTS:

I don't have my number listed in my profile, but curious if that hinders me, or just screens the weirdos and freaks and spam?  So, my question, how important (or not) is it that there is a phone number listed in someone you are considering...? Thanks in advance!

Very important to me.  I’m not going to constantly sign in to RM to check for messages.  I prefer text 

[DMonDude]

I start an interaction on the RM messages but prefer to move to texting or other messaging app at some point. Once it becomes time to meet it's just more efficient to text travel updates and "i'm here, what's the gate code?" or whatever type messages. I don't bother with using RM on my phone and even if i did just for browsing, i never enable any website to send notifications to my phone.

Also, seconding what @ApexNomad said. Current photos are important. In addition to the upload date being shown. Some of us can tell by the image quality/resolution or roughly by what phone you have in a selfie how old the photo is and very very old photos are not a good look either way 🫣

Edited Monday at 11:27 PM by DMonDude
Added comment about photos

[HotFaceBud]

1 hour ago, PhileasFogg said:

Very important to me.  I’m not going to constantly sign in to RM to check for messages.  I prefer text 

Thanks.  I meant posted to the profile... I prefer chatting via text too, once initial contact has been made.

[+ PhileasFogg]

42 minutes ago, HotFaceBud said:

Thanks.  I meant posted to the profile... I prefer chatting via text too, once initial contact has been made.

Sorry I misunderstood.  Normally I’d extract it from the “Call Me” link.  From my experience, it’s not common for me to find it in the ad but I’d be fine either way 

Edited Tuesday at 01:13 AM by PhileasFogg

[+ Act25]

I'm fine with starting with the RM chat.   I have had a few outcalls using only RM chat and it's worked out fine.  

But, after a bad experience getting into a provider's building, I will not do an incall without a number to text. 

 

[Nue2thegame]

I haven’t used RM chat. I’m unlikely to proceed with contacting if there is no phone number posted for texting. 

[mtaabq]

I’m with @jackcali here. I begin with RM messenger & I ask the provider to review my profile. If he responds in the affirmative I ask to switch to texting after that. That has worked for me for a number of years. As always, your mileage may vary. 

[jeezifonly]

Some guys specify what NOT to do to reach out.

If you choose the phone icon, the pop up used to offer text msg - not sure current status of that. If provider has not enabled, reach out via RM. I have success with the former. 

[Mark_fl]

On 4/27/2026 at 8:29 PM, HotFaceBud said:

Thanks.  I meant posted to the profile... I prefer chatting via text too, once initial contact has been made.

Perfect. Not a problem at all. I think it also changes the expectation. You sometimes feel like if someone doesn't answer a text fairly quickly, you're not that important. But nobody expects an immediate response from an email. 

As long as you move serious conversations to text or phone, I think it's ideal.

[BuffaloKyle]

I prefer starting with RM messenger chat. I have my client page filled out completely with all my stats and what I'm looking to get into so saves me right off the bat from texting all that to a provider. I prefer messenger chat as well then to get a feel for the provider and can easily disengage if it's not going to work out.

[b2bf]

Not a problem. I use to exclusively use RM messenger but that caused numerous delays. I think few people have moved to the RM Messenger app which at least gives real time notifications. I now tend to use WhatsApp with a link to my RM profile but I wouldn't be bothered by Messenger only.

[FLFunSized]

If the ad states “text only no calls” or something like that then I will look for a number and text them. Otherwise I’ll do the RM message. I prefer the provider to tell me exactly how they want to be contacted. 

[theplayerking]

It’s faster to txt so it’s my preferred option, especially as so many providers take a while to respond. 

[HotFaceBud]

14 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I prefer starting with RM messenger chat. I have my client page filled out completely with all my stats and what I'm looking to get into so saves me right off the bat from texting all that to a provider. I prefer messenger chat as well then to get a feel for the provider and can easily disengage if it's not going to work out.

Can I say I LOVE that you have your client page filled out completely??!  Thank you!  Such a good thing to do, not only to show you are serious, but to, you know, give insight and information into you, where, what, etc, etc... as you say, is it going to "work out".... It is so strange the, let's call it, attitude that some people can have in treating/dealing with other humans.  It's like, COME ON!  Information is useful to all involved!!

[Nightowl]

 I research providers carefully before putting myself in their hands.  If I don’t have a legitimate phone number that I can research, I won’t let him into my home or meet him in a hotel.  The phone number is less critical if he is hosting since he’s the one taking the risk of having me in his home.