What we look like - Why does it matter so much now?

[d.anders]

20 minutes ago, Monarchy79 said:

Simple Issue/Simple Solution.

If an escort asks for a picture and you don’t want to send one, don’t send one. 
 
Move on. 

Party pooper. 🙂  It's much more fun to come here and diss the rejection. Everyone needs a little therapy now and again.

4 hours ago, AlexW said:

I even told him I was looking forward to meeting him and that he was very handsome.

I was told this was a red flag. Telling a stranger that "he's very handsome" before meeting him implies you are not attractive. Of course the provider could be absolutely wrong, but red flags are still red flags.

[AlexW]

That could be it. I complimented him before we met!

[HockeyMan]

Many clients, including myself, demand a lot from escorts. Many escorts are selective with clients. Sometimes they'll ask for stats or pics. They're not gonna go above and beyond for a client who puts no effort into their appearance.

That being said, escorts should exercise discretion when asking for photos. Deleting messages when needed, burner phone, etc all helps.

[AlexW]

I agree, however I think this should be disclosed on their listing so there are no last minute surprises. 

[Nue2thegame]

22 hours ago, HockeyMan said:

That being said, escorts should exercise discretion when asking for photos. Deleting messages when needed, burner phone, etc all helps.

Agree but in reality many don’t. What happens in cyberspace stays in cyberspace. Forever. 

[Nikba]

Some younger providers also looking for connection, father figure, comfort zone, chemistry with much older guy, an ideal of daddy "body type",  look and of course personality. I was told, If all things match their imaginary ideal, it makes a lot easier for them to provide such services. Providing pictures, desire, and info on experiences of what to expect is a fair game for both sides for me as myself looking for specific look and activities. 

[d.anders]

On 3/28/2026 at 8:38 PM, AlexW said:

I complimented him before we met!

I think compliments are OK, you just have to be careful with the wording. Maybe better to say "Hot pics," than "I think you're very handsome."

[+ DrownedBoy]

I'm getting requests for face time, etc., from providers. You can be sure if they want a WhatsApp or SnapChat talk, they're not serious.

I continue to turn down any photo/facetime requests. Some younger providers turn the rest of the hiring process into a joke if you turn down the photos, so I have to cut them down to size and block them. Entitled little brats - if you only want to spend time with attractive people you're in the wrong business.

[Mark_fl]

2 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

I'm getting requests for face time, etc., from providers. You can be sure if they want a WhatsApp or SnapChat talk, they're not serious.

I think that's a generalization. I contacted a provider in NJ where I planned on being a couple of weeks later and wanted to have something set up. His communication was good, and he did ask me to video chat through WhatsApp almost immediately.  

I figured if I wanted him to hold a date for me two weeks out, he had the right to know I was real and had no problem doing it. We had a pretty good meet up as well.