How come providers don't answer calls?

[afterfallhours1]

I've been trying to hook up with providers in NYC but a lot of them goes straight to voicemail or most don't have a voicemail set up when I call. 

[big-n-tall]

They may be actually busy, but most I think prefer text over actual calls. Have you tried texting your inquiries?

[+ DrownedBoy]

A lot of escorts, if they're busy, won't even bother following up if they have enough business. That's especially true of younger ones.

My advice - they don't respond, you cross them off your list. There's a lot of other guys out there who want your money.

[jeezifonly]

Text. Don’t leave voice msg. Don’t ask for voice call until appointment set. 

[Shawn Monroe]

Maybe they are in an appointment? 

[+ ThroatCummer]

How many times do you answer the phone in your real life when someone who calls isn't already in your contact list? 

For me: ZERO 

[Oakman]

I am going to guess you are 60+ years old? This business doesn’t work with telephone calls. That is a reality you’ll need to adjust yourself to.
 

Don’t call unless you’ve been invited to do so. Put yourself in the provider’s position. He’s not sitting at a desk waiting for phone calls. He may be at his day job, running errands or doing any number of things. Managing dozens of inquiry calls, many of which may not be serious inquiries, is an imposition. Making an initial inquiry and negotiating the meet-up by text message (on the app he requests) is going to be convenient for him.

Edited February 14 by Oakman

[mike carey]

1 hour ago, ThroatCummer said:

How many times do you answer the phone in your real life when someone who calls isn't already in your contact list? 

For me: ZERO 

I'm more inclined to answer calls from mobiles than from landlines, and started this approach when close to zero land line calls were real while a reasonable proportion of mobile ones were. It helps that caller ID here shows the town on land line calls but not on mobile (and mobiles don't have geographically linked numbers). That call I'm getting from rural Queensland or Thailand ain't gonna be someone I know, and they can text or leave a voicemail. If those are in Chinese, I know I made the right decision.

And 'BigDickTop' whose profile I left a track on won't know my phone number.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, ThroatCummer said:

How many times do you answer the phone in your real life when someone who calls isn't already in your contact list? 

For me: ZERO 

Even people I do know go to voicemail. 

[+ ThroatCummer]

51 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

Even people I do know go to voicemail. 

My voicemail message literally says:  "You've reached [my name]. I don't regularly check voicemail, so if you need me, please send a text, e-mail, or reach out through any one of the 100 more modern communication methods for a response. *BEEP*"

[NYXboy]

I wouldn't even call my own family without texting first. 

If an unknown number called me I would never ever answer it.  Even worse if it was a private number. 

Always text first - it is good manners. 

[Pd1_jap]

Who actually talks over the phone anymore? 

Always text. 

[+ Jamie21]

I prefer a text or WhatsApp. I’m often busy, or in public/with others so it’s not convenient or appropriate to be discussing booking details with clients on the phone.

I have one regular client who always calls to book, and his name comes up so I know it’s him and I answer. That’s fine, because all we discuss is availability and booking. He’s an older guy (I’m guessing 70’s) so I understand why he wouldn’t text. All my other clients book by text or email. If there’s complicated questions then I sometimes offer a phone call. With people’s busy schedules it’s so much more efficient to engage via text. 

[Keenan]

If I'm at my day job or around other people I know I typically won't answer the phone.  Personally I prefer that the client text or email me to setup the appointment and then afterwards we can talk prior to the appointment if necessary.  

[ShortCutie7]

I hate phone calls in general.  They are incredibly disruptive unless planned/scheduled in advance. In fact, one of the reasons that I don’t even text providers (I instead communicate via RM messenger) is that I don’t want them calling me!

[Shawn Monroe]

6 minutes ago, ShortCutie7 said:

I hate phone calls in general.  They are incredibly disruptive unless planned/scheduled in advance. In fact, one of the reasons that I don’t even text providers (I instead communicate via RM messenger) is that I don’t want them calling me!

Thank you. disruptive - especially if you’re returning a missed phone call.

but a lot of people don’t have good phone etiquette. They don’t know how to have an efficient conversation, they’ll meander and continue doing the other thing they were doing before the phone call started, and you’re just holding a phone up to your ear and waiting. 
 

when I started, I’d try to take and return phone calls. But when I realized how uncourteous people could be, I all but stopped. 

[+ ThroatCummer]

There's also a setting at least on your iPhone to "Silence Unknown Callers" so if they aren't already in your contact list, your phone never rings at all.  I have this set at all times. 

Sure, I miss some important calls from maybe an insurance company or the state where I live, but they always send a notification e-mail or a USPS mail letter if it is really important. In 2025, I seriously have no use for answering anyone who isn't already in my contact list. It's good fraud/scam prevention as well. If at all possible, I urge others to do similar. 

 

[soloyo215]

On 2/13/2025 at 6:27 PM, afterfallhours1 said:

I've been trying to hook up with providers in NYC but a lot of them goes straight to voicemail or most don't have a voicemail set up when I call. 

Probably busy or maybe they might prefer text. Please keep in mind that they do have to weed out people who might probably look/feel problematic to them or time wasters. Have you tried texting? Do their profile specify preferred method of communication?

They might also not be available when you call.

Best wishes.

[afterfallhours1]

4 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

There's also a setting at least on your iPhone to "Silence Unknown Callers" so if they aren't already in your contact list, your phone never rings at all.  I have this set at all times. 

Sure, I miss some important calls from maybe an insurance company or the state where I live, but they always send a notification e-mail or a USPS mail letter if it is really important. In 2025, I seriously have no use for answering anyone who isn't already in my contact list. It's good fraud/scam prevention as well. If at all possible, I urge others to do similar. 

 

Ah that makes sense and why I call guys I've never met or chatted before and it goes straight to voicemail. I hate when they do this, it's their job to take clients

[Oakman]

24 minutes ago, afterfallhours1 said:

Ah that makes sense and why I call guys I've never met or chatted before and it goes straight to voicemail. I hate when they do this, it's their job to take clients

Sweetheart, you sound very entitled. No one takes calls. You’d have similar luck writing them letters. Learn how to adapt, not complain. 

[Cretus]

Providers have also mentioned time wasters who look to jack off while having the conversation for free.

[BuffaloKyle]

I know I'd want all the pertinent details of a session to be in texts. Such as time, place, and rate so there is no possible confusion on either end. Do all that over text and then you can ask for a phone call.

[+ ApexNomad]

18 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

Who actually talks over the phone anymore? 

Always text. 

[Simon Suraci]

I agree with much of the above. We do not operate like other businesses. It’s just the one guy handling everything, with few exceptions. We do not have receptionists available to answer calls during specified business hours and you probably don’t want to chat with a receptionist anyway… or an AI bot for that matter. Expecting us to provide on call receptionist services and still do our jobs is… unrealistic, to put it generously.

Texting is standard, unless you are using another messaging platform. Calls are long a thing of the past, unless you message to request a call first. Some of us, like myself, are happy to schedule a call. The chances of your provider being in a private, quiet, safe, undistracted environment with full availability and attention for your questions at the exact moment you want to call … is quite low.

Here is a link to a related discussion with more elaborating comments:

 

[ShortCutie7]

1 minute ago, Simon Suraci said:

The chances of your provider being in a private, quiet, safe, undistracted environment with full availability and attention for your questions at the exact moment you want to call … is quite low.

EXACTLY!  This concept applies to every phone call ever, which is why I will never understand why some people automatically default to calling (or expect me to pick up if they call me while I’m at work etc).