Am I too old?

[TJMS]

Look for providers who want Daddies! I always tell them my age right up front

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

You're never too old to get naked with another guy.

[+ purplekow]

You are not hiring in order to satisfy the escort, unless that is part and parcel of what you enjoy.  The escort is being hired to satisfy you.  It does not matter to most escorts if the hair is gray or gone, as long as the money is green and you are clean, polite and respectful.   

Quite frankly, I have hired escorts who are nearly as old as you are or perhaps even a bit older.  Aging will certainly change your sexual abilities but you just need to develop new abilities and adjust them to your current level of activity.  Let your imagination run wild and relax and enjoy and be grateful that there are providers out there who are willing  to share their physicality and their expertise with you.   

I look back on 60 with wistfulness Those were great days.   I look forward to 80 with anticipation and the desire to astound myself and my partner with what I have learned and what I can do as a partner and a person.   If you want it, you can have a satisfying sex life, it just is different than it was 10 years ago and what is will be in 10 years.  Enjoy the journey.  

[+ purplekow]

4 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You're never too old to get naked with another guy.

That is the succinct, definitive answer.  

[+ Charlie]

It depends to some extent on why you are having sexual activity. If you think of yourself strictly as a consumer, then it shouldn't matter how old you are. If you are concerned with whether the attraction is mutual, then it gets more complicated. I stopped hiring at 68 because I could no longer convince myself that the provider was as turned on by sex with me as I was by him, and I realized that was psychologically important to me. I was actually in pretty good shape for my age (I had worked out at the gym regularly since I was 21, and I was still actively athletic (tennis several days per week), but I couldn't get past what I saw in the mirror when I woke up in the morning (Would I have been turned on by me? NO!). Age is just a number, but what you look like is real. For most of my hiring days I had been attracted to providers my own age, but that was no longer true, and I couldn't deny it. Don't stop hiring just because of the date on the calendar, but because of the kind of satisfaction you are hoping to get out of hiring.

[+ purplekow]

2 hours ago, Charlie said:

It depends to some extent on why you are having sexual activity. If you think of yourself strictly as a consumer, then it shouldn't matter how old you are. If you are concerned with whether the attraction is mutual, then it gets more complicated. I stopped hiring at 68 because I could no longer convince myself that the provider was as turned on by sex with me as I was by him, and I realized that was psychologically important to me. I was actually in pretty good shape for my age (I had worked out at the gym regularly since I was 21, and I was still actively athletic (tennis several days per week), but I couldn't get past what I saw in the mirror when I woke up in the morning (Would I have been turned on by me? NO!). Age is just a number, but what you look like is real. For most of my hiring days I had been attracted to providers my own age, but that was no longer true, and I couldn't deny it. Don't stop hiring just because of the date on the calendar, but because of the kind of satisfaction you are hoping to get out of hiring.

I solved this man in the mirror issue by not looking in the mirror.  I also avoid photos.   It is hard to deny aging when you look at yourself and see an old man reflected bacl.  I choose instead to look inwardly and imagine what I look like and in that case, I am slender, with a full shock of brown hair and a pleasing if not traditional handsome face.  Would I have sex with that guy, I sure would.  So will men who can see past the obvious facade and see that person in me.  I probably do not want to have sex with men who cannot see that version of me no matter how superficially beautiful they are.   .  

Edited December 9, 2024 by purplekow

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Charlie said:

It depends to some extent on why you are having sexual activity. If you think of yourself strictly as a consumer, then it shouldn't matter how old you are. If you are concerned with whether the attraction is mutual, then it gets more complicated. I stopped hiring at 68 because I could no longer convince myself that the provider was as turned on by sex with me as I was by him, and I realized that was psychologically important to me. I was actually in pretty good shape for my age (I had worked out at the gym regularly since I was 21, and I was still actively athletic (tennis several days per week), but I couldn't get past what I saw in the mirror when I woke up in the morning (Would I have been turned on by me? NO!). Age is just a number, but what you look like is real. For most of my hiring days I had been attracted to providers my own age, but that was no longer true, and I couldn't deny it. Don't stop hiring just because of the date on the calendar, but because of the kind of satisfaction you are hoping to get out of hiring.

As a man also up there in years, I understand where you’re coming from. But my advice would be: don’t make that assumption or decision for the provider. Even when I was younger, I couldn’t really know if a provider was genuinely attracted to me—and honestly, that was never something I could control then or now.

Is my body the same as when I was 25? No. But I’ve learned it’s not about trying to get inside the provider’s head. That’s not something I need to question. At the end of the day, this is a business transaction. Let the provider decide how they feel about you, and I can say with certainty that for true professionals, it comes down to respect, decency, kindness, and hygiene. Focus on what you bring to the connection and the moments you share together.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I am younger than you and still hire primarily for convenience. But, I agree with @Jamie21 that a big part of it is your self-perception. I was SO insecure when I was younger, particularly around sex. The older I've gotten, the more secure I feel in terms of what I want and my body. Sure, I'm not 25 but I'm quite fit for my age, look at least a decade younger, and I remain flexible. So I don't struggle to keep up with a younger provider. I think @Vin Marco is on to something: regular exercise - particularly strength training - is essential as we age. I would add a good stretching routine to that. 

[myophile]

5 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

And I'm going to take the liberty to say it because he never would... he ( myophile ) has a pretty incredible story and history.. he may be 66 ( hard to believe ) but he's built the physique and has the physical abilities of a MUCH younger man. He continues to inspire me. It's been said that muscle is the organ of longevity and it's been proven to me to be true 😉💪🏽

Thank you for those kind words, O Thou Inspirer and Source of Amazing, Mind-Blowing Encounters!

[KevinFL]

17 hours ago, White Daddy Top said:

Basically, the headline. I'm 60 and wondering if I'm just too old to be hiring. I do so irregularly, but have noticed that when I provide my stats, prices are high, and the encounters have become less intimate. Maybe that's just the general trend, but am I looking at a time soon (or has it already passed) when I just won't find anyone who will let me hire them?

I understand totally how you are feeling. I am in your same age group and my viewpoint will be unlike others I'm sure.

I'm not going to tell you at 60 years old to start eating better, hitting the gym, etc.. to me that sounds shallow and that the issue is your body just isn't that "hot" enough for someone to appreciate your business as a client. We're old, mature, wrinkled, etc... and that's just the way it is...

I stay fit to be healthy and not to impress a provider. Those days are over and I acknowledge it.

I'd encourage you to adjust your expectations when you hire and accept that you're 60 and now in the more mature "client" age group. I ask many more questions prior to meeting up with someone and I'm much more clear on what I'm hoping for in a session. That has helped improve my experiences but certainly hasn't made them always successful. There will always be those that will tell you what you want to hear and just make it transactional. But, for me prior communication has helped, and likely eliminated some of those just out for the "money-grab".

My other tip is to accept that someone's wonderful experience shared on here with a provider may not even be near what you may experience. There are certainly clients on these boards that are very attractive and are sure to share that "YMMV" and amaze with their success rates with attractive providers. I'd be cautious taking those experiences and expect them to be yours as you'll be set up for even worse disappointment thinking that you're obviously not getting the same experience as others because you're just not as hot as them. So, you obviously  need to spend more time in the gym.

Just Appreciate and Savor the "Wins" along the way and we'll still find some memorable times along this journey. 

Edited December 9, 2024 by KevinFL

[LaffingBear]

Too old is situational.  I'm pretty sure there are plenty of hires who enjoy the company of 60 year olds.

I decided I was too old at age 62 or so.  But that was about me.  I'd look, consider ads, etc.  And come up with reasons not to hire.  Recognized I was never following through.  

But it wasn't ever really about the escorts... or if it was, it was things I was projecting or assuming.  And, I was seeing guys at age 59-62.  I guess I just burnt out after covid.  When the thought "I'd rather read a good book" is the outcome of considering hiring, that's about me, not the guys or the industry.

I guess my point is, you might be too old and have reached a point that hiring no longer satisfies... but not necessarily to old for the marketplace.   

[FaustOust]

7 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

And I'm going to take the liberty to say it because he never would... he ( myophile ) has a pretty incredible story and history.. he may be 66 ( hard to believe ) but he's built the physique and has the physical abilities of a MUCH younger man. He continues to inspire me. It's been said that muscle is the organ of longevity and it's been proven to me to be true 😉💪🏽

I think that was a thoughtful and kind remark to make to a client in this forum— and a confidence booster for everyone.  Some escorts are  all about getting others to praise their looks and physiques, but you choose to lift others up.  True beauty need not draw attention to itself for others to recognize it.  Keep being the truly beautiful you.  

[RayK]

60 and up is not too old.   I applaud you for disclosing your age when contacting providers, but plenty of them will gladly meet with you.  I'm over 60, and always manage to have a great time with escorts.  Those who don't respond ( or choose to decline ) are missing out.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

4 hours ago, purplekow said:

I solved this man in the mirror issue by not looking in the mirror. .  

I'm imagining your house looking like someone should be sitting shiva with all the mirrors covered.

[jeezifonly]

9 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Agreed!

 

You are what you eat?

Then I am one happy asshole. 

[dcguy20]

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town. I didn't hire anyone for several months after that. 

[MikeBiDude]

1 minute ago, dcguy20 said:

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town. I didn't hire anyone for several months after that. 

Now THAT’s over thinking things? 

[marylander1940]

1 minute ago, dcguy20 said:

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town. I didn't hire anyone for several months after that. 

A lot of guys retire way before 65... I know folks who did it in their late 40's. 

I don't think you should overreact. 

[dcguy20]

It was just an odd thing to say. I might have taken it the wrong way, but I can't help how I felt at the time it was said. 

[marylander1940]

4 minutes ago, dcguy20 said:

It was just an odd thing to say. I might have taken it the wrong way, but I can't help how I felt at the time it was said. 

Maybe he doesn't know much on the subject! Some young folks don't know much about social security.

If you enjoyed meeting him before, give him another chance and explain to him that you're too young to retire yet. 

Edited December 10, 2024 by marylander1940

[Luv2play]

10 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

And I'm going to take the liberty to say it because he never would... he ( myophile ) has a pretty incredible story and history.. he may be 66 ( hard to believe ) but he's built the physique and has the physical abilities of a MUCH younger man. He continues to inspire me. It's been said that muscle is the organ of longevity and it's been proven to me to be true 😉💪🏽

I don’t intend to take this thread off topic and certainly not intended to be political but did y’all see pictures of RFKJr the other day shirt less and on a trapeze like contraption with another much younger man doing acrobatics? 
 

Just an astounding physique for a 60 something yo man. The guy does some serious gym routines. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

56 minutes ago, dcguy20 said:

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town. I didn't hire anyone for several months after that. 

There will always be a handful of young, immature brats who think they can make it as an escort by only going for younger attractive people. They're not professional.

A professional will help you feel good and better around yourself.

(besides, an experienced provider here was doing guys in their 90s when he was in his 20s)

[Spikeguy]

5 hours ago, Luv2play said:

I don’t intend to take this thread off topic and certainly not intended to be political but did y’all see pictures of RFKJr the other day shirt less and on a trapeze like contraption with another much younger man doing acrobatics? 
 

Just an astounding physique for a 60 something yo man. The guy does some serious gym routines. 

He will be 71 next month.

[jeezifonly]

Age is just a number.

So is an hourly rate.

If a provider wants to limit clientele by age, they can make it up in volume with 30yr-olds I guess. 

[Whippoorwill]

60? Child! I am in my 80s, and this morning I hired a very hot provider, had an incredible time, and have been walking around all day with a hardon, thinking about our time together. I look my age; I never had a good body, and take viagra. What I have is a good attitude, a genuine interest in my providers, and a caring personality. I proudly tell them my age in our opening conversation, which invariably brings a “wow that’s great” type reaction. It helps that I target providers who claim to be in their mid to late 20s (and are undoubtedly a decade older), have been around the block, and don’t think that they’re god’s gift to the world, even though they have a fabulous body. It also probably helps that my preferred boys are Asian, whose cultures revere age. Also, when I am home and not traveling I have two regulars with whom there are mutually caring relationships. 

if you want to hire, do it. If a provider only wants to be hired by young hunks like himself, he’ll be out of business in a month.