Boyfriend Experience

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

19 hours ago, domonkasshu160 said:

Do I have a right to complain since it never explicitly was advertised as a "boyfriend experience"?

Take it up with the California Board of Sex Workers.  State your side and show the ad, and see if the State will force the sex worker to be more explicit in his advertisements and contracts going forward.

Edited January 25 by Vegas_Millennial

[FBuddyLA]

Hi Guys - Can any one of you tell me what I should expect in a boyfriend experience? I've been searching for an answer but can't really find anything concrete.  Thanks.

[+ José Soplanucas]

9 minutes ago, FBuddyLA said:

Hi Guys - Can any one of you tell me what I should expect in a boyfriend experience? I've been searching for an answer but can't really find anything concrete.  Thanks.

I bet you there are many definitions. To me, it is a role play situation where the participants interact as though there were an affectionate bond between them. Even when we know that not all relationships are like that, you would expect sweetness, engagement, and connection, without the need to become romantic. "Romantic" would be an appropriate bonus that you can ask for.

As contrast, think of a worshipping scenario, or a G4P scene where the "straight" is disengaged and not into you while you are sucking his dick. 

[Mo Mason]

For me, the ideal boyfriend experience involves a lot of physical contact.  Touching.  Caressing.  Kissing.  Massaging.  Cuddling.  Slow dancing.  I don't experience very much physical contact with others until I hire for it.  The physical closeness and touching is what really defines the experience.  

[jeezifonly]

Whatever your ideal boyfriend experience winds up being, the most important part for clients to remember is that, for the provider, it's a booked session. 

[Nue2thegame]

Agree that it’s subject to wide interpretation. Conventionally, I think it means a full menu with lots of physical interaction (kissing, caressing, cuddling etc.). For me, it comes down to how I feel after the encounter - was there good chemistry, mutual excitement, good convo, mutual interests and most importantly, do I really want to see him again? But I have a high bar. 🙂‍↕️

[Mo Mason]

Your "boyfriend experience" is based on how you feel after the encounter?  That doesn't make sense.

[KeepItReal]

4 hours ago, Mo Mason said:

Your "boyfriend experience" is based on how you feel after the encounter?  That doesn't make sense.

Actually it does. That is when you start thinking with your big head and not your little head.  Suddenly you can be more objective about the experience. 

[Mo Mason]

Excuse me.  I try to be sarcastic and it comes across as rude... sardonic.  I'm just drunk.  I didn't mean any offense.  Your BFE's are your own experiences. 

[+ ApexNomad]

So often, and understandably, the “boyfriend experience” gets tangled up with real emotion. That’s probably the flaw in the term itself. A term of art that has no business in this business. 

I prefer to think of it as a No-Illusions Experience: connection, chemistry, affection,  but with clarity. 

Cuddles, conversation, presence: yes.

Confusion about what it is: no.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I think the most important take away is to be open in communication with your selected provider.  My preferred method of contact is written , so I send a text message, email or RM message to the provider , state this is who I am, so there are no surprises , being  65 year old bear, and describe the sort of session I am interested in, give my limits, time frame and suggested date.

I find this works really well as it gives the providers an opportunity to decline the booking if it is not going to work for them, and when it all comes together it results in a much more satisfying session with providers who earn their $$ and creates a win win situation