The dude just won't leave!

[KeepItReal]

Had a very interesting experience Friday evening. Had a...gentleman caller, shall we say, stop by to see me.  Full marks all the way through. On time, looked exactly like his pics, hot and a real hand full. But he just wouldn't leave! Dropped hints, asked about his plans for the evening. Offered him a ride. Dude just wanted to hang out. At one point I thought he was just gonna spend the night. 🤭

Has something similar ever happened to one of you? How did you handle it? 🤔

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[BuffaloKyle]

I would've said I gotta get ready for work. Or texted a friend to give me a call fast so I could pretend I had an emergency to attend to. 😅

I did recently have a provider over and he couldn't get an uber ride home. They kept cancelling his request. It was super late at night probably why because coming over he got an uber quick. So I hung out with this guy for a very long time afterwards before he finally took me up on my offer to drive him home.

Edited June 5, 2023 by BuffaloKyle

[Strafe13]

I’ve had that happen with an amazing escort but during an incall at his place. I didn’t mind because he was so adorable and didn’t charge for the extra time. Some providers do this because they really enjoy getting to meet all kinds of different guys.  Maybe he just really liked you? 😍

[+ purplekow]

Despite being in a sexual service profession, escorts personal lives are not much different than anyone else.  Some have rich and varied friends.  Some are married.  Some are lonely and enjoy having someone with whom to interact, off the clock.  Directness probably would have been best.  When I have been in this situation, I have informed the escort that while I enjoy spending time with him, he is welcome to stay for a bit, but I have early plans for the morning, and he will need to be out by a specific time.  I have also invited an escort to join me at dinner but suggest we take separate cars to the restaurant.  

[+ azdr0710]

may've not wanted to return to a bad situation at his residence?

lives alone and just wanted to hang with a super-duper cool person like KeepItReal on a Friday night?

lucky you!

 

 

[BonVivant]

Can be a nice problem to have. 

[johnjohn]

I have a guy , hes really nice we play for few hrs,  then the same way, he does not want to go home

I tell him to come on earlier but he has to be gone by 11 pm, but is closer to 12:30 am before i can get him out the door.

 

[rvwnsd]

I've had this happen with a few guys, including a couple who became regulars. They did not charge for the hang-out time and I liked them, so I didn't mind. I simply preapred for them to be over for a couple of hours.

[DWnyc]

Be careful … sometimes this can be the prelude to requests for money, a place to crash for a few days etc

Not always, but it can happen 

Edited June 5, 2023 by DWnyc

[dbar123]

I once had this happen to me…an escort who wanted to stay the night after our 2hr session. Turned out that he had a fight with his bf who had thrown him out and he had no place to stay. It became a bit uncomfortable and I didn’t want to be pulled into his drama. I wound up driving him to a friends house on the other side of town. Was afraid that if he stayed the night I would face the same drama the next morning. 

[MuscleDaddyRWC]

5 hours ago, The_Impeccable_George said:

Reminds me how I met my current friend. We met at 10 pm for what we thought would be a couple of hours, he left the morning after next.

Lol, my husband and I met up with a guy on Scruff one Friday night and he stayed the weekend.  And then every weekend for 3 years.

After 11 years, he's pretty much my closest friend. 

[SirBillybob]

Did you forget the paycheque? I have occasionally lost my head and hovering ensued. Then slapped my own forehead and compensation issued to move on. 

[+ Pensant]

It happens occasionally. This year a newish provider spends so much time off the clock that we’ve evolved into a quasi-BF relationship. 

[TorontoDrew]

Another good thing about incalls.  You can leave.

[LostUpstate]

If I liked the guy, I’d be happy to have him for a little longer to chat. I had one provider who came to my apartment in Manhattan and he stayed an extra 20 minutes chatting and having a beer, so I thought I was lucky. Then he looked at the time and realized that he was late to meet a friend and had to leave. 

I visited another provider in Brooklyn and we chatted for about 20 minutes after and then I felt like I should leave, because I didn’t want to take up his time. He didn’t seem to want to push me out, and continued to talk with me. 

For me, a little conversation is nice, I always find something to talk about and intelligence is as sexy as the physical attributes of the guy. I met one provider in Hell’s Kitchen and he was very disinterested, was a terrible conversationalist and was anxious to have me leave because he had another client booked soon after our meeting. I’ll never hire him again. 

[DWnyc]

11 hours ago, The_Impeccable_George said:

And what is wrong with this? ☺️

 

Nothing I guess. Plus you score a few more points on the member scorometer as a newbie as we react.

 

[marylander1940]

16 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

Had a very interesting experience Friday evening. Had a...gentleman caller, shall we say, stop by to see me.  Full marks all the way through. On time, looked exactly like his pics, hot and a real hand full. But he just wouldn't leave! Dropped hints, asked about his plans for the evening. Offered him a ride. Dude just wanted to hang out. At one point I thought he was just gonna spend the night. 🤭

Has something similar ever happened to one of you? How did you handle it? 🤔

. 

Enjoy, he wasn't a clock watcher! 

Sometimes being a hand full or not is in the eyes of the beholder. 

12 hours ago, DWnyc said:

Be careful … sometimes this can be the prelude to requests for money, a place to crash for a few days etc

Not always, but it can happen 

Good point! In general afterglow talk is not included in the fee but I see a situation when an escort after doing the deed might run the clock in order to get 2 hours of pay. 

Fortunately in this case and like in so many described on here the provider simply loved the conversation and wanted to hang out. That's been the case for me and some of my regulars are good friends because of that. 

[Michael PhD]

I had a masseur come over to my hotel for a 90 minute session. We had a lot of fun after the session ended and we both fell asleep as it was late. He woke up around 4-5 am and was a bit worried when he noticed multiple missed calls from his husband. After explaining what happened, he invited me over to meet him and his husband on my next visit to his city. That was 5 years ago. We still meet when I’m in his city and will spend a night or two with them. An unexpected but welcomed outcome from all this. If he’s a nice guy and there is a connection, maybe worth exploring? 

[wsc]

In the days before RentMen, when you sought talent in bars that catered to the trade, I met and hooked up with a handsome, well-endowed young man who was agreeable to driving to my place, then about an hour's drive from the city. Later he would call to see if I was interested, and I'd invite him to come down from DC. Then, he began showing up unannounced and uninvited, expecting a "session" and full payment. He did this twice. The second -and last- time, I simply told him he needed to find an ATM closer to home because this one is now closed. Never saw him again.

[ncc1701d]

had that happened many years ago with one of the "famous" ones from here. HOt session and he stayed, and next thing I know we were done with round 2 and 4 hrs into a 1 hr call. It was late so I fed him some food before he left. In hindsight it may be his way to entice more business (which it worked!!)

[KeepItReal]

12 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

Did you forget the paycheque? I have occasionally lost my head and hovering ensued. Then slapped my own forehead and compensation issued to move on. 

Nope - account was settled. I didn't want to create the impression that there was more to be had. 

[SirBillybob]

6 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

Nope - account was settled. I didn't want to create the impression that there was more to be had. 

I was half joking. It would not take that long for the question “Are you forgetting something”? 😏

[+ Tygerscent]

On 6/4/2023 at 8:44 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

I would've said I gotta get ready for work. Or texted a friend to give me a call fast so I could pretend I had an emergency to attend to. 😅

I did recently have a provider over and he couldn't get an uber ride home. They kept cancelling his request. It was super late at night probably why because coming over he got an uber quick. So I hung out with this guy for a very long time afterwards before he finally took me up on my offer to drive him home.

Ya… lyft does that too~ you request a ride and then somebody picks it up and then you can see them coming to get you and suddenly they drop your ass and the app start searching for a new driver… That could happen five or six times before somebody actually makes it to the spot you’re standing at waiting for the ride. One time I waited for almost a half an hour, because these drivers kept dropping my request for a ride. Luckily, I didn’t really have to be anywhere other than to check into my accommodation but, it did make me think about other people that had places to go: work, pick up their kids from daycare, pick up their dogs from doggy care… That sort of thing. Trying to get to the hospital for emergencies. Those are real situations in life too. The Whole dropping rides thing seems a bit inconvenient~   
 One time I was up at Twin Peaks for an appointment and I got out probably 3 AM. I called Uber and it took the guy probably 20 minutes to get to me. I see him come around the corner, I reached out for the door because he slowing down, and he suddenly looks like his phone and takes off as I’m touching the door. I can’t even begin to express my surprise. Since he was still on my app, I’m texting him asking him where he is going. He says he’s got a better deal taking somebody to the airport. I couldn’t believe this guy was just leaving me stranded out there because he had a better ride~ Of course, I then had to contact Uber to explain I wasn’t a no show~ Uber gifted me a free ride and allowed me to reschedule but, it wasn’t the first time that it happened. So I dumped Uber all together and I’ve been using Lyft ever cents but, now Lyft seems to be doing this dropping thing. It’s not in every city. It’s really in certain cities that it’s prominent in my experience. Some places are actually much more responsible about picking up their passengers. 

 

[+ Tygerscent]

On 6/4/2023 at 8:34 PM, KeepItReal said:

Had a very interesting experience Friday evening. Had a...gentleman caller, shall we say, stop by to see me.  Full marks all the way through. On time, looked exactly like his pics, hot and a real hand full. But he just wouldn't leave! Dropped hints, asked about his plans for the evening. Offered him a ride. Dude just wanted to hang out. At one point I thought he was just gonna spend the night. 🤭

Has something similar ever happened to one of you? How did you handle it? 🤔

. 

Well, I guess there’s some comfort in knowing that this person is not a clock watcher. I tend to linger on as well. I’m not very responsible/concerned about time when it is with regard to me~ I don’t take multiple Clients per day anyways~   (Don’t feel it’s fair to Clients or myself).
  I may actually become annoyed when someone starts looking at their clock the second you walk in the door and start timing what’s going on, (play time and showers etc)~ it’s awkward when suddenly they are wrapping things up because they feel like the clock is ticking. It’s not relaxing at all.
 I’m generally conscious and responsible about their time and I know that some people want to be respectful of my time and so, they’re trying not to linger on themselves due to that. I don’t expect people to pay me extra for staying longer when it’s perfectly my choice to linger on. Sometimes people do take advantage of your time and they premeditate you’re staying longer and longer and longer when you haven’t planned on or can’t stay longer, but they also have no intention of paying beyond for the initial session that was originally scheduled. That is to be frowned upon~ Those are boundary issues and typically people that push that particular boundary issue also test other boundaries along the way. So, it’s easy to sort them out.
 I like the bond and enjoy when we can share something on a human level. To me that’s adding content to the context~ 

 I can usually tell when somebody is “over it”and wants to move on with their day or evening… You hug, and then there’s a quiet moment and then they hug again slightly longer, kiss & pat you on the shoulder/back the way a mother does or they give a sigh or they ask you what the rest of your day is looking like… You know… simple social markers of letting you know that it’s time to go home. It’s all good… I don’t know how other people are but, I’m really fine with somebody saying that it’s time for me to go home. That’s honest. You have to respect that people might just want to relax by themselves afterwards or have matters to tend to or just want some personal time… maybe they have to go other places or have another boy coming. It’s not a big deal.  There’s no need to make excuses or create some fantastic story about why the evening is over… You just say it’s been really fun and now you would like a little bit of time to yourself. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and it’s honest~  If the two of you have had fun, you can always add a little confident reassurance by saying, “I’d love to see you again sometime… Stay in touch~?”~   
 There’s also a lot of guys who like that extra time to build a connection and that’s really fun and rewarding too. There are some guys I’ve known for over 20 years… We’ve buddied up through significant parts of each others lives. It’s not like the clock strikes 12 and suddenly you jump in to your tennis shoes and dart out the door. You know, time gets a little sloppy, but honestly who gives a fuck~ One can get all freaky about time or together you can enjoy being on that incredibly deep level that adds something to your lives. It doesn’t have to go on all night or become some thing completely engolfing of the two of you but, It’s fun on a human level and sometimes I think it’s just necessary for us as human beings and connect beyond a prescribed hired date situation~  After all, we are people first and we are more than just an hour appointment~  Play time is Groovy baby but, we are three dimensional beings and have need beyond that~ (hot dog~!!! I get to use another Austin Powers gif here~! Fuck ya~!!! ).

Edited June 6, 2023 by Tygerscent

[+ glutes]

Why do people pay 'providers'?

To leave.