MuscleDaddyRWC

Last year I hooked up with a guy via BBRTS and as I was leaving his house he popped up as a suggested friend on Facebook. I figured they looked at my phone records or else matched us via location.

If I see a provider is offering a discount I still pay full rate plus tip. I've had people try and negotiate with me in my business and I always dislike it.

I once arrived at a masseur's house to find a guy working on a car in the driveway. I was starting to say hi are you... and the guy said if you're looking for (masseur name) just go in the front door, up there stairs to the right. I would have appreciated a heads up. (It was for an erotic massage and I would have been thrilled if the other guy participated, but alas not.)

I didn't want to hijack the clothing option thread so starting a new one. That thread prompted the question that I have -- which obviously I've never asked any of the providers I've used over the last 30 years. It seems to me about half the time my providers have started the massage naked, getting undressed at the same time I do. The rest of them start in shorts (or shorts & tee) and then take those off at some point before I flip over. It didn't seem to matter if it's a first or return session. Any of you do the second routine? I'm just curious what might be behind it.

That drives me crazy too. I'm fairly detailed in what I'm looking for so it's apparent they either didn't read or they're not good at conversing. And just yesterday some guy posted on Sniffies a specific act he was looking for and I responded that I'd like to do that to him. His comeback was "hey, what's up?" 🤷‍♂️

I generally text; I'd prefer WhatsApp but seldom know I'm advance who uses it. A lag in getting a response doesn't bother me because I figure they're with a client. I sometimes message within RM only so I can leave a review. I haven't used email since hiring off Craigslist.

It doesn't, no. But I can't tell you the number of therapeutic sessions I've had that involved a happy ending. I just thought his response was a little over the top. (How many threads here we seen discussing the line between sensual and erotic?)

Totally agree! But you take your chances nonetheless. One guy had a sensual option listed (since removed) and when I asked about MT he responded that I was a disgusting creep and if I wanted sex to hire an escort.

I view anonymously because I'm not necessarily going to be hiring today or tomorrow and I don't want anyone to misinterpret why I don't contact them quickly.

As a mature man, I'm ok with this -- providing there is more than just a quick hand job. I'd rather pay than go through fruitless hours on the apps.

Seems to me the new convention (in general, not specifically massage/escorting) is to text first asking about availability to jump on a phone call.

I have a good friend and we discuss who we hire (and kind of rate them), make suggestions for the other, and sometimes make each other aware of our plans "in case". Another friend knows and we talk about my hires because his relationship is currently closed and he lives vicariously through me.

Interesting he's using that name. Damien Stone the former porn star is in San Francisco and on RM under the same name.

Isn't this why we use 'massage therapist '?

My tax guy was a top until around 55. Then he found the joy of bottoming and hasn't looked back. I'd like to do the same but my hole isn't cooperating...with toys anyway.

I've seen him a couple of times. He's very good.

I'm seeing dollars and massage types so they've either fixed it or it's rolling out to servers slowly.

Well, actually, my doctor's gay and I've felt him up at the Folsom Street Fair when he was in his assless chaps. (Just returning the favor.) Professionalism aside, he's interested, just not acting on it.

Lol, my husband and I met up with a guy on Scruff one Friday night and he stayed the weekend. And then every weekend for 3 years. After 11 years, he's pretty much my closest friend.

Yeah, this.

Does anyone else besides me not ask cost in their initial communication with a masseur? I look at the reviews and see what others have paid so that gives me an approximate budget.

Most of the providers in San Jose seem to live in the same building according to Map Me.

Exactly why I was leaning against it.

I matched with a guy on Scruff a couple years ago and neither of us ever contacted the other. Then, not realizing he was the same guy, I hired him off RentMasseur last year. I realized all this after the second massage session. I've seen him couple of times since but haven't said anything, still unsure about wrecking the professional relationship.

Yeah, I don't mind paying for a month, looking at the videos and then cancelling.