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Providers like this need to be “outed” - with the ability for them to defend themselves of course which is why forums like this are good. At some point if what you say is accurate this becomes akin to extortion, preying on client fears for safety, discretion etc - would help to know who he is if you’re comfortable sharing. The few times I’ve tried to leave without fully paying a donation for reasons I consider fully justified, it’s turned ugly; the most disengaged / high / drunk / entitled / narcissistic (etc etc) provider still wants his cash at the end of the day.
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: What would you do?
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: What would you do?
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In more than one of these cases I’m pretty sure specific individuals were targeted using the location feature - so someone already on some kind of list was lured into a trap where they generate evidence to use against them, rather than it being a general trap for anyone unlucky to engage with the cop.
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Providers removing erotic, & current clientele not liking it.
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How long do you wait for a provider to respond?
DWnyc replied to Your Man in Arlington's topic in Questions About Hiring
I don’t have a specific time to wait. I’ll reach out to multiple people as it’s rare I'm looking for a specific person, more looking to fill a specific schedule, and I like to have options. Took me a while to realize in the early days that providers don’t have dedicated 24/7 call centers servicing them so I don’t mind the varied response times - as long as we don’t get into the dynamic of them expecting me to be immediately responsive when they choose to engage, and that it should turn into a booking no matter what. If any only reply after I’ve made other plans, I’ll either politely decline or say now won’t work maybe later (and if they show fury at that, they go on the crossed out list). And if they’re reasonable I may even engage a little with full disclosure I’m getting info for the next time and it saves back and forth if there is a next time. -
DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: How long do you wait for a provider to respond?
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See me always, or see me never again
DWnyc replied to viewing ownly's topic in Questions About Hiring
Providers aren’t always the most rational or strategic. Though I can see someone interpreting a “no” as “I didn't actually enjoy our session” and so determining you’re no longer a realistic prospect worth cultivating. Not unlike the online hookup world where the etiquette seems to encourage ending on a positive note but it being acceptable to ghost / block the minute you walk out the door. Later in the month isn’t odd. I’ve even had providers reach out for later the same day if I’ve indicated I’ve enjoyed the experience - I don’t think they’re assuming you’re made of money as much as trying to monetize an apparently positive experience. -
Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
DWnyc replied to Jarrod_Uncut's topic in Questions About Hiring
No individual can determine whether something is “too” expensive - the market does a fine job of that. If supply (of what you’re offering and at what price) has insufficient demand - it’s too expensive. if on the other hand you are turning people away you’re likely underpriced and the market will welcome you raising prices and making a fine profit. Whether or not you make ends meet (and then some) has nothing to do with what a client will be willing to pay. If you have financial goals unmet with what you’re doing, you need to reevaluate those choices as many of us likely have had to do. -
Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
DWnyc replied to Jarrod_Uncut's topic in Questions About Hiring
I like the talk too. One of my selection criteria is if a provider seems they can engage. Which is why the act that many put on at the negotiation stage of one word grunts or “I’m too busy to even talk to you” is a turn off beyond the immediate physical aspect. -
DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
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Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
DWnyc replied to Jarrod_Uncut's topic in Questions About Hiring
Bingo Which of us has not complained about our jobs to someone at some point, including about compensation, even though most of us wouldn’t trade the security of a paycheck without a backstop or real probability of a better alternative. -
DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more
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Marc in Calif reacted to a post in a topic: Thoughts on deposits
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Marc in Calif reacted to a post in a topic: Thoughts on deposits
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I think that holds for providers who top as well
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Discount for in shape, good-looking and younger clients?
DWnyc replied to marylander1940's topic in Questions About Hiring
The most frequent reason I’ve been offered discounts is because the figurative rent check is due, and a discount is better than a zero revenue alternative, or it’s a means to getting more overall (tips, extended or repeat bookings, referrals). Most providers are business people first and foremost, and they’re not going to take a loss or a lower margin just because they’re going to enjoy part of their job more than they otherwise might. I think there’s a little game some don’t understand especially if they consider themselves above average. The seasoned provider will see through that, and just as he might tell someone he appreciates their humor / intelligence / kindness / power in real life etc (when he actually sees the self perception) he can play on that and validate with a gesture that brings in more in the long run. That’s smart business. -
Same writing style, same compliment said a different way (he’s so funny, he knows how to tell a joke, he makes me laugh … etc) and you know something funny is going on. And I assume when providers reappear with a new name/account it’s because of a negative review that was actually genuine and cut too close.
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Well I have been told that the size of the tip (of donation) is what brings most joy
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Negative vs Negative on Prep
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Exactly - they’re often the ones posting on this issue repeatedly.
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I would expect either me or the person I’m meeting, whether a provider or a dentist or a long lost relative visiting town to confirm at least the day before and definitely the day of. Not hard to do in this era of instant comms. “I’m about to leave, ETA xyz, are we still good?” has saved me from much hanging around for someone else running late or not wasting time on someone who can’t or won’t make it anymore. A provider who will ditch you because of a more lucrative opportunity or because they can’t keep to schedule for whatever reason can do so regardless even at the last minute. Don’t be the cause of any uncertainty at their end.
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DWnyc reacted to a post in a topic: Finding the right balance of booking too early vs. missing out.
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The only point on AI here is that there are people who will be fooled now more than they would have been (checkout new apps available to everyone that allow you to create a mock app on your phone in seconds), just as they may have been when photoshop first became available - and the larger point about personal responsibility for one’s self still overrides. Everything else (eg the point about seroconversion between tests) opens up debate on those issues. That could be fine and informative for many whether new on here or not. If we can tolerate noise on all resulting discussion.
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It’s just good practice for Thanksgiving
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