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Greetings! I implemented a change this morning to require new accounts (less than 30 days old) to require moderator approval for new posts in an effort to mitigate some of the recent increased spam attacks. Once a new account has 5 unique pieces of content approved (new topics, replies, etc), they’ll automatically be updated to no longer require moderator approval. Again, this is only being done as a spam mitigation mechanism. I’m not looking to censor new users or prevent discussion. Posts that are not spam and that don’t violate the community guidelines will be approved as quickly as possible. I would just ask that folks remember we have a small team of volunteers who moderate the site and this is a side gig for all of us. So if it takes a little bit of time for us to see/approve a topic, it’s not personal! Thanks! Rob

I am not well prepared to deal with all the hair growing from my ears.

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. What you describe is serious, it sounds like stalking and harassment and you deserve to feel safe. Based on best practices for situations like this, here are some steps I would strongly recommend: 1. Cut off all contact. Block his phone number, email, social media, and any other channels. Don’t respond to messages or calls, even if they’re apologetic or manipulative. If he creates new accounts or uses unknown numbers, document them but do not engage. If you haven’t already, you may send a single clear message such as “Do not contact me again” (ideally via email so it’s traceable) and then stop responding entirely. 2. Document everything. Keep a detailed log of every incident, dates, times, screenshots, voicemails, emails, and any evidence that he knows your address or has compromising information. This documentation is vital if you need to involve law enforcement. 3. Make a safety plan. Since he knows where you live, be prepared in case of an unexpected visit. If he ever shows up or makes direct threats, call 911 immediately. Regarding your question about authorities in different counties. Yes, they can do more than just take a report, though it depends on the specifics. And yes, you can absolutely file a restraining order (also called a protective order or order of protection) against someone you've never lived with, as long as their behavior meets the criteria for stalking, harassment, or threats; living together isn't required.

You didn't ask this question of me so I hope you don't mind if I post a response. Any time I'm asked a question that I do not wish to answer I respond with, "Why do you want to know?" (That shuts down most people.) I use that same answer in a workplace or professional setting when I'm asked point-blank if I'm gay. (On one occasion I was asked if I was gay by a co-worker in front of our boss. Before I could answer my boss said, to my co-worker, "If that were any of your business you would already know that answer to that question. Get back to work.") When asked by a total stranger I usually reply, "Forgive me, but I don't know you."

I am retired now, so I have time to take that annoying hair one by one.

Or, when he comes over to wash the car and asks for your hose, you can ask him to clarify which one he means...

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In his defense, not everyone who acts "really gay" is actually a homosexual. In this case, I guess they hit the nail on the head...but I've known many men over the years who *pinged* my gaydar but who chose to LIVE as a heterosexual man. As far as WHY someone like this feels obligated to share his lifestyle with the general public is beyond me. I miss the days when everyone (mostly) minded their own business and looked the other way. Why haven't we progressed as a society to the point where your sexuality is a NON issue ? WHY does everyone seem to be SO bent on sharing their pronouns and offering up admissions of taking it up the ass ?

not the way to ingratiate yourself with the forum and a longtime member, seeing as how you joined 90 minutes or so ago......if you aren't the provider himself or a friend, you're nevertheless doing him no favors........

Definitely always worth being careful, but just some perspective... It's very easy to get scared by things like this happening but you should also remember that extreme cases are the ones you hear about most, but that doesn't actually mean they are happening frequently or guaranteed to happen. For every hookup that goes wrong to this extreme there are literally hundreds if not thousands if not tens of thousands of hookups that go perfectly fine, but that's not newsworthy/clickable or worth making a Netflix show about (referencing Dahmer there). It's similar to how flying on a plane is statistically the safest way to travel but many people are terrified to fly because the once out of whatever bajillion flights that does have something go wrong is what everyone hears about and fixates on, because it's so rare. But the way media reports about a plane crash hits your brain subconsciously leaves you with the feeling of "omg this must happen all the time! Flying is soooooo dangerous! I shouldn't get on planes!". Those same people will then all get in a car, every day, and not think about the fact that a car accident is statistically millions of times more likely to be how they'd be injured or die. No one thinks about that or is actively afraid of it or lets it stop them from driving to and from work everyday because the risk is so normalized and non-sensationalized and not covered by the news unless it's a horrific 20 car pileup on the highway. There were a little over 36,000 car accidents every day, across the U.S. in 2021. A little over 13 million for that year. That same year, there were "just" a couple dozen commercial plane crashes out of a little over 6 million total operated commercial flights globally. But because of the media, planes are the one everyone's nervous about. This obviously is not a 1:1 comparison to Grindr crimes vs successful hookups, but the fear one feels in both is because of Availability Bias. So... Yeah, take reasonable precautions and be safe of course. Learn how to identify red flags like they mention in the video, but you should still live your life too.

Getting frustrated by people showing me lists. 😎

I had the pleasure to meet with https://rentmen.eu/Gentleman_Justin this afternoon. I saw his posting in the forum and while I don't typically jump at providers w/out any reviews yet, I decided to hit him up on RM messenger to inquire about meeting. He responded well and before I knew it I was taking a bit of a long lunch to entertain him at my apartment. Looks like his pictures - dare I say even better - and was a pleasure to spend time with. Hit me up for details.

Hey guys. I’m very glad I found this forum. I went to the Zona río place and had a massage with Mr. Adrian. It was really nice but nothing too sensual or erotic, which is good because I was just looking to relax. Although, I really liked when he massaged my thighs and glutes. I liked when the massage turned sensual but without becoming sexual. Which Mr. Do you recommend besides Mr. Adrian to go with a massage like this ? Thank you guys !

Realizing that I have to deal with decades of accumulated possessions in order to move to the next phase of my life. I GOT TOO MUCH STUFF!

You can file a restraining order against someone you never lived with definitely yes. You also need legal counsel.

I live 12,000km away and I know that you can walk from Edmonton to Calgary in less time than it takes to fly from either to Ottawa.

Edmonton, Ottawa then Calgary? At least look at a map take it a little believable.

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Ugh, that's the worst. $300 for 90 minute sensual massage that has upsells is ridiculous.

Sorry to hear this happened to you. A few questions: 1. How long has he known you? 2. When did you cut off the relationship? (if this is very recent, could he be acting out?) 3. Does he know where you live/have access to you other than via text/chat? No matter what the answers are, your safety is most important. If violence is a possibility, it might be wise to let other friends of yours know what's happening so they can check in on you and monitor. Also, consider going to the authorities and letting them know that someone you had a casual relationship with is making threats to your safety - if that is the character of his threats. But also consider if a visit from the authorities might push him further over the edge. Hopefully he will calm down and move on. But please keep yourself safe.

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I wondered about the location and time of this picture... ...then found this one, taken from another angle, but with the same building in back... ...which suggests a demonstration of the need for nude beaches in San Francisco.

Okay! Buh-bye!

How to say "no" nicely and forcefully.

Another logo that was considered:

Dental insurance is crap. Never covers anything substantial. I've spent over $10K on my teeth over the last 15 years.

A friend of mine uses the local dental college for dental work. Much cheaper.

My objection is the opposite: guys who offer only “legitimate” massage yet think they should be paid as much as the guys who provide sensual. You want the extra pay, do the work.

I want to be fucked by a hottie; but, I want to fuck a cutie

Yes, I saw on bp RM he has his first positive review. Off to a good start.

I met with Tan this afternoon. He matched his pics online. If anything, I would say he's more handsome in person. He has a very fit, muscular build. We met at a location in Midtown. (Some of you may recognize the location as a former spa.) He said he hosts in Flushing too. The massage was above average. A solid B in my opinion. He did some nice work on my shoulders and arms, good stretching of my legs. And I was happy with the end of my massage too. I "accidentally" touched him a few times during the massage and I discovered that he has some very sensitive areas on his body (in a good way). Oops! My bad. lol I can definitely recommend him. I'm looking forward to seeing him again. He's a genuinely nice guy and he's very accommodating with requests. I think I will ask about the Thai massage mentioned above for my next visit. That could be very interesting.

I saw you did fill that out and I'm glad to see kissing on there! 💋