*AZ Law Change Warning

[BCMan]

Curious from those that live there, how restrictive or permissive is NYC? Is it a police priority or relatively rare? Thanks!

[Venite]

7 minutes ago, BCMan said:

Curious from those that live there, how restrictive or permissive is NYC? Is it a police priority or relatively rare? Thanks!

As an NYC resident, police are not focused on this. It is not a priority for cops, and in fact, the Mamdani administration has inclinations towards decriminalizing sex work. Offices like the Manhattan and Brooklyn District Attorneys have largely stopped prosecuting consensual sex work entirely.

I would still not be too public about one’s exploits, nor would I begin to lack discretion, but NYC is not a hotbed of police forces spending time and money pursuing men looking to see other male providers for sex.
 

If there is any substantial focus, I suspect it is mostly on heterosexual sex work, where concerns about women being trafficked are more important.

Edited yesterday at 09:04 PM by Venite

[Cretus]

5 minutes ago, Venite said:

As an NYC resident, police are not focused on this. It is not a priority for cops, and in fact, the Mamdani administration has inclinations towards decriminalizing sex work. Offices like the Manhattan and Brooklyn District Attorneys have largely stopped prosecuting consensual sex work entirely.

I would still not be too public about one’s exploits, nor would I begin to lack discretion, but NYC is not a hotbed of police forces spending time and money pursuing men looking to see other male providers for sex.
 

If there is any substantial focus, I suspect it is mostly on heterosexual sex work, where concerns about women being trafficked are more important.

I second this. I’m never in fear about this kind of thing in NYC given the city’s lack of focus on these issues. I’m especially not worried about these issues when the new guy I’m seeing has at least 30+ reviews on RM.

Edited 23 hours ago by Cretus

[TJMS]

I always thought it legally odd that a woman can do whatever she wants with her body, other than sell herself for favors. The only legitimate concern may be health related issues, but other than that, but out. This goes for men as well! 

[marylander1940]

17 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

All clients in Arizona should try to stick to verified providers that have feedback on here. At least it shouldn't deter legit providers from visiting.

Good idea but cops can always arrest a provider and search his phone and email to find his communications with clients and arrest them.

[mtaabq]

I’m sandwiched between Arizona and Texas (New Mexico) and wasn’t aware of the law change in AZ, where I hire frequently. I also did not know that hiring is a felony in Texas. (Doesn’t surprise me, though.) I agree that most law enforcement agencies probably are focusing on men hiring women, but that doesn’t mean we should let our guard down. But I’m not saying anything that the men here don’t already know. My thanks to the OP for posting this info. 

[DMonDude]

5 hours ago, Charlie said:

I don't understand the logic beyond making the payer criminally liable, but not charging the receiver, who was the one who created the financial exchange in the first place.

I think it's to disincentive clients from buying which then may have upstream affects (or so they hope). They think if less clients are willing to take the risk because of increased punishment, then sex workers will find other work and traffickers will have less incentive to traffic potential victims into the job. Everything the U.S. does in terms of anti-sex work law is generally from the logic (however genuine or not) of stopping human trafficking and exploitation. Trafficking victims get swept up in stings and can get charged like they're committing the crime of their own free will.

That's generally agreed upon as wrong and also just bad optics. So there is now more pivoting to putting more criminal onus on the clients in an attempt to address that in a round about way, dry up the customer base and the rest subsides on it's own (which is silly in my opinion). Rather than just decriminalizing or legalizing + properly regulating the sex work part like other countries do and focusing law enforcement priority on actually targeting the traffickers.

[Luv2play]

7 hours ago, Foreverfun said:

I did a subsequent search on AI as well and found the following results:

1st Offense charged as a Felony - Texas, Arizona

2nd Offense charged as a Felony - Georgia, Illinois, Nebraska, Florida

3rd Offense charged as a Felony - North Carolina

4th Offense charged as a Felony - Pennsylvania

Good old Pennsylvania. Brotherly love and all that. Well Philadelphia anyway.

[Dsca58]

I’m sure many of you were too young to remember the scandal on the United States Senate. It was announced that several senators were having sex with their teenage male pages. Of course it all got very hushed up very quickly. I wonder how much of it is still going on

[Vulgarii]

On 9/11/2026 at 1:49 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

All clients in Arizona should try to stick to verified providers that have feedback on here. At least it shouldn't deter legit providers from visiting.

 

These laws are often pushed by disgruntled women that want a payday for the regrets they made in the past, like that one that did a dumb dance behind the ceremony when whatever shut down Craigslist Personals was being signed into law. [Edited to remove political reference.]

That made things worse for everyone all around.

[Vulgarii]

6 hours ago, Trick said:

Is there a chance that this will be nationwide?

 

That will be very interesting to see because more people resort to prostitution in a bad economy.

Also a lot of women will complain about misogyny but refuse to support rights for prostitutes because they know that more relaxed attitudes and support for sex work will threaten the little control that they have at home...Why put up with a girlfriend/wife's BS when you can just go out and get satisfied elsewhere? 

Prostitution is big in the gay world and we know how it is.

[Boaxxx]

So what is the safest way in general to discuss rates and to exchange money with a provider in order to protect oneself?

[PVink]

Anyone care to share their own experience being confronted by LE on this topic?  What are warning signs?

[Mark_fl]

I'm just glad I only hire for time and companionship.

[+ azdr0710]

2 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

So what is the safest way in general to discuss rates and to exchange money with a provider in order to protect oneself?

 

there will be different suggestions and I'm no expert, but here are mine:

- meet only with well-established providers discussed and "approved" here in the forum (yeah, not always possible)

- use terms like "donation" and "for your time only" in pre-meet planning when money talk comes up (yes, a little cliche and silly)

- in the very first contact (text or email??), don't mention money at all....politely and briefly say "hi", mention your stats, and time/date you hope to meet....be to-the-point, discreet, and professional 

- when money talk comes up in pre-meet planning (the provider will usually?? offer his rates first), agree or decline to his terms....if it's a go, tell the provider that you'd like to pay at the end, tell him that you don't want to talk money at the meeting at all, and ask for his agreement to these terms.....of course, never equate sex and money when talking.....if law enforcement is conducting a sting (with either an undercover provider or client), they most want/need to get it on tape that money is being exchanged for sex....the undercover agent will quickly get to the point in person ("ok, just to confirm, you said $150 for a blow job, right?")......stings are a complicated, risky, and costly operation and they want to get as many arrests as possible in a short time.......most of these last comments are my observations of a sting video I saw many years ago posted by a provider who was arrested....he tried to divert the conversation when "sex for money" came up, but the cops were on a mission.....

- you can also ask the provider to first meet you in the lobby for a drink and chat (on the clock, of course!)....if a sting is in progress, law enforcement would never agree to a time-waster like that!!....but some legit providers may also not agree to such a public meet! 

Edited 15 hours ago by azdr0710

[rvwnsd]

16 hours ago, Cretus said:

Thank goodness I don’t live in one of these states. I feel for folks who do live in these areas.

Regarding new providers,  I wouldn’t necessarily rule out the seeking of non-regulars.

 Guys you haven’t seen yet and who are well-reviewed should always be an option, especially when their accounts are many years old.

Every state is but one legislative session away from a similar law being passed. Amid the growing concern over human trafficking the low-hanging fruit is attempting to reduce demand by punishing the source of the demand, i.e. the buyer.

Why are these laws passed? Because it is difficult for any legislator to oppose a bill that is tied to reducing human trafficking and/or prostituting minors.

[Cretus]

5 minutes ago, rvwnsd said:

Every state is but one legislative session away from a similar law being passed. Amid the growing concern over human trafficking the low-hanging fruit is attempting to reduce demand by punishing the source of the demand, i.e. the buyer.

Why are these laws passed? Because it is difficult for any legislator to oppose a bill that is tied to reducing human trafficking and/or prostituting minors.

This first claim is a huge overstatement. There is no evidence for that proposition, and I’m being blunt here because this entire thread might begin to needlessly scare people who are in areas (such as NYC) where they don’t  need to have fear of cops spending resources and time investigating gay men seeking time with other gay men. 
 

As of 2026, the states are nowhere near a situation where every state is “one legislative session away” from making buying sex a felony. Texas is the major outlier. It made paying for sex a state jail felony even for a first offense in 2021.
 

If by “one legislative session away” you mean there is already a viable bill, political coalition, or near-term legislative pathway in every state, there is no evidence for that.

Everyone, just look up your local area and see whether it is a concern for yourself. Do not conclude that you need to stop seeking services or time because of posts in this thread. 
 

I will continue to seek in NYC comfortably given the fact that this is not a focus of law enforcement in this city.

 

[studchaser]

Assuming you aren't involved in a sting how would this be discovered? 

[Kevin Slater]

15 hours ago, Charlie said:

I don't understand the logic beyond making the payer criminally liable, but not charging the receiver, who was the one who created the financial exchange in the first place.

How does one party "create a financial exchange"?  It takes two.

Kevin Slater

[Peter Eater]

17 hours ago, Just Sayin said:

I wish our state legislators could focus on issues like health care, education, homelessness, housing, etc.

Sex workers don’t have a lobby, which makes the industry easier to abuse for deflection purposes.

[Peter Eater]

21 hours ago, jcmiami1 said:

I had no idea it is a felony here in backwards Florida!

See 5.(a)2&3. Also, don’t trust AI.

https://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&URL=0700-0799/0796/Sections/0796.07.html

[Peter Eater]

16 hours ago, TJMS said:

I always thought it legally odd that a woman can do whatever she wants with her body, other than sell herself for favors. The only legitimate concern may be health related issues, but other than that, but out. This goes for men as well! 

Obviously a woman cannot do whatever she wants with her body. What an odd claim to make in 2026!

[pubic_assistance]

10 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

So what is the safest way in general to discuss rates and to exchange money with a provider in order to protect oneself?

Hire for "erotic massage" first. 

Don't discuss sex online.

After the massage and you've paid for the massage and tipped (well)...THEN ask about escorting. A police officer isn't gonna massage you, and jerk you off.

[Milo Janus]

As George Carlin said (paraphrasing): Why is it illegal to sell something that's legal to give away?

[TJMS]

"Obviously a woman cannot do whatever she wants with her body. What an odd claim to make in 2026!"

Not in the Islamic world, but in the Western World, yes!