What we look like - Why does it matter so much now?

[Whoisyourdaddy]

The last guy who asked me for a picture stood me up for another client. I walked past them in the hotel lobby. For the record, he had negative reviews on RM and here, so I was being foolish.

What made me most upset was that he made me go to the hotel. I wasted a week talking with him and then another day trying to meet him.

[jeezifonly]

11 hours ago, mtaabq said:

Good morning. It would appear that my take on it is very different. I’ve always assumed that I was being asked for a pic so the provider would know for whom he was opening his door or whom he could expect when the door was opened when he arrives for the session. I’m sure there are providers who’ve chosen not to work with me upon seeing my photo or reading my profile. And, for me, that’s all right. I do not wish to work with someone who doesn’t wish to work with me. Apologies if I do not have a firm grasp on the topic being discussed. 

If personal safety is the issue, the pic can be requested once the appt is booked. Requested ahead, it's obviously used as an "I don't feel like it" filter.

I live in a large market, have never been asked, but have decent recent face shot to send. Happy to move on to another provider if I don't feel like it.

[pubic_assistance]

12 hours ago, mtaabq said:

I’m sure there are providers who’ve chosen not to work with me upon seeing my photo or reading my profile. And, for me, that’s all right. I do not wish to work with someone who doesn’t wish to work with me. Apologies if I do not have a firm grasp on the topic being discussed. 

I think you have the firmest grasp of the subject. The people who are declaring it "wrong" and "unprofessional" to ask.for a photo are the ones who are lost. 

[viewing ownly]

A very few advertisers put in their ad that it doesn't matter what you look like, just arrive clean and with a positive vibe, treating him like you'd like to be treated. Those tend not only to be the best hires for me, but also the best people to be around more than once. 

The most surprising guy I saw who listed this was a handsome stud in his late twenties who has now been out of the massage biz for about two years. Could he gel well with a guy nearly twice his age? I was clean, I was nice, as was he, and it was tremendous. 

 

[+ Pensant]

I’d guess that less than 5% of the providers I’ve met requested a face pic. I’m decent looking for my age, so I was willing to oblige. They all responded “handsome!” and we ended up with a hot session.

[jackcali]

I don't provide a face pic, but several times I've had providers hosting incalls meet me on the street near their places.  I assume that's partly for safety but also partly so that they can walk away if I am extraordinarily ugly.  But, since I'm only ordinarily ugly, it's never been a problem.

[+ sniper]

On top of the personal safety issue, it could also be to make sure you aren't someone they know from their regualr life,  which could get awkward. Say the provider turns out to be your coworker? Or brother-in-law?

[la_connor]

1 hour ago, sniper said:

Or brother-in-law?

You just planted a fantasy I hope my sister's husband doesn't see in my eyes at dinner next week.  Sis would kill me.