*"Straight" providers

[Veryshyone]

In my area, I am seeing an increase of "straight" providers advertising on RM. Curious to know if anyone has had any experiences with these providers?  I am a bit skeptical but do have fantasies about being with a straight guy.

[mtaabq]

30 minutes ago, Veryshyone said:

I am a bit skeptical but do have fantasies about being with a straight guy.

Dude, you just answered your own question. A LOT of gay men fantasize about being with a “straight” man and a lot of gay men only seek out “straight” men. In my opinion, and in many cases, “straight” is nothing more than a marketing ploy to get business. I am old and way too cynical. That said, check the guy out, vet him well, hire, and have fun. (And, to be fair, a lot of men who enjoy and seek out sex with other men don’t identify as gay. I’m not telling you anything you don’t know.) 

Edited yesterday at 12:56 PM by mtaabq
To make an addition.

[56harrisond]

 

[Mark_fl]

I don't think anyone really wants a straight guy. They want a straight acting guy to do gay stuff with them and maybe act like it's their first time with a guy...but they want them to get into it, so at the very least they want a bi guy.

Perhaps some might want a straight guy who closes his eyes and imagines it's a girl, but I'd have to think that's more rare.

[theplayerking]

The best providers (and porn actors) are gay and more than a little slutty in real life. They found a way to professionalize their lifestyle and get compensated for something they enjoy doing anyway.

Truly straight providers are just in it for the money and generally crap in bed. It’s like going to a restaurant with a chef that doesn’t like to cook and is not interested in food. You may it something on your plate, but it’s not going to be as delicious as it would be if the chef actually enjoys what he does.

[astro]

A few years back I hired a straight guy who was a hockey player (you can easily find his team, games and pics online if you look). Super hot face, killer body, the whole package. But he was 100% just in it for the cash — service was lazy, zero effort.  

I was new to this and ignored a bunch of obvious red flags. Ended up wasting money and having a really disappointing experience.  The whole thing put me off hiring anyone for over two years. 

[Veryshyone]

6 hours ago, mtaabq said:

Dude, you just answered your own question. A LOT of gay men fantasize about being with a “straight” man and a lot of gay men only seek out “straight” men. In my opinion, and in many cases, “straight” is nothing more than a marketing ploy to get business. I am old and way too cynical. That said, check the guy out, vet him well, hire, and have fun. (And, to be fair, a lot of men who enjoy and seek out sex with other men don’t identify as gay. I’m not telling you anything you don’t know.) 

My question was was seeking feedback from anyone who has hired a "straight" provider. I completely understand the desire.

[jeezifonly]

"Straight" is a self-reported characteristic, and can range from 100% true to 100% false. Height, weight, and even penis size can be evaluated and considered data. The proof of a provider's genuine sexual attraction is solely in the impression of the client following the paid session. Some providers get away with misrepresentation by limiting interaction, I imagine. It's impossible to know anyone's exact Kinsey number without risking a Restraining Order. 

[Mark_fl]

When I hire, I want a masculine gay guy. I like women, and if I wanted feminine, I'd find one.

Nothing turns me off a profile quicker than a thong, drag, or someone bending over showing me a gaping hole. 

I want a regular guy who happens to be gay.

[soloyo215]

I agree about that being a marketing strategy. It's a fantasy. However, make sure that you find out what exactly "straight" means to the particular provider that you are interested in. You'll be surprise to find what that implies in terms of what he's willing (or unwilling) to do.

Not my preference (I find nothing wrong with perfectly fine gay men, and to me "straight" doesn't mean "better"), but I don't see anything wrong with some wanting to fulfill a desire to be with a straight guy.

Edited 22 hours ago by soloyo215

[+ KensingtonHomo]

6 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Nothing turns me off a profile quicker than a thong, drag, or someone bending over showing me a gaping hole. 

Internalized homophobia is horrible. May you heal. 

[Occasional]

I feel I might be tempted by a straight guy who makes it clear in his profile that he's looking to receive oral.  Men give the best blow jobs!  At some level, I think that a lot of straight guys realise that.  And I get pleasure from giving men pleasure - when I'm in the mood for that.

A competent massage as a warm-up would add to the appeal . . . 

[d.anders]

20 hours ago, Veryshyone said:

I am a bit skeptical but do have fantasies about being with a straight guy.

The fantasy almost never matches the porn scene, unless the guy is bi, and he's into you. The truth is, there are a lot of sexually curious men among us. There are also many guys who dislike labels, and have no interest in being labeled. I have been sexual with men who identify as straight. I don't recall any of them who had the desire to kiss, but they enjoyed sucking, or at least licking my shaved cock. I've never experienced a "straight" guy who wanted to lick ass, but there are many bi guys who do.

11 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Nothing turns me off a profile quicker than a thong, drag, or someone bending over showing me a gaping hole. 

I can do without the gaping hole photo, but I sometimes wore a thong in the 70's, especially at a summer pool. I used to enjoy my fully tanned body, until I realized I enjoyed a tan line more. Also, if you don't have a drag persona, or at least a drag name gifted to you by a gay friend, it's highly likely we won't be close friends. I absolutely love masculine men who embrace their feminine self.

[Mark_fl]

6 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Internalized homophobia is horrible. May you heal. 

Thanks, but if I need your help, I'll be sure to ask for it. Things turn me off on women as well. I guess I just fear everyone. Sorry, but if I hit a nerve, I'm not the one who needs help dealing.

[+ DrownedBoy]

17 hours ago, Veryshyone said:

My question was was seeking feedback from anyone who has hired a "straight" provider. I completely understand the desire.

I hired a nearby straight guy on RentMen who seemed on the level. He claimed he'd kiss, but changed his mind after the first kiss, then used a text as a pretext to leave and grab the money. Turned out to be a homophobic meth addict who bragged on social media about ripping "f@gs" off.

Let the heteroes go to hell; I'll stay with my tribe.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

2 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Thanks, but if I need your help, I'll be sure to ask for it. Things turn me off on women as well. I guess I just fear everyone. Sorry, but if I hit a nerve, I'm not the one who needs help dealing.

I didn't offer you help, and no nerves were hit. I've long since deconstructed all the anti-queer and misogynistic ideas I grew up with. I hope the same for you. 

[mtaabq]

2 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

I hired a nearby straight guy on RentMen who seemed on the level. He claimed he'd kiss, but changed his mind after the first kiss, then used a text as a pretext to leave and grab the money. Turned out to be a homophobic meth addict who bragged on social media about ripping "f@gs" off.

Let the heteroes go to hell; I'll stay with my tribe.

I’m very sorry that happened to you. If it’s any consolation, I experienced a very similar situation, right down to the pretext of the provider answering a text. It’s probably happened to a lot of us. 

[mtaabq]

4 hours ago, d.anders said:

The fantasy almost never matches the porn scene

Truer words …

[mtaabq]

18 hours ago, Veryshyone said:

My question was was seeking feedback from anyone who has hired a "straight" provider. I completely understand the desire.

With that in mind I will say that I haven’t hired anyone who identified as “straight” in years. And my memory is that those scenes were less than satisfactory. But, as many in this community will tell you, your mileage may vary. I wish you well and hope your experience is excellent. 

[Mark_fl]

25 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I didn't offer you help, and no nerves were hit. I've long since deconstructed all the anti-queer and misogynistic ideas I grew up with. I hope the same for you. 

Your need to comment on my post at all says otherwise, but if it helps you cope, go right ahead. I'm done with this conversation,  so if you want the last word, have at it.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

15 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

Your need to comment on my post at all says otherwise

Again, you're mistaken. You made a bunch of homophobic comments. I pointed them out. It's not about you "hitting a nerve" or me "coping." I'm a very successful person, in a two-plus-decade relationship with a large family and friends. I just stand up when people are smearing my community. In the future, keep your nasty, homophobic comments to yourself. 

[Cooper]

Administrator’s Reminder

Gentlemen, You know our policy: attack the issue not the person. 

Time to return to the topic and stop this bickering. 

Ignoring a warning is a violation of our Guidelines. 🙏

[danteig]

Again, as in the locked thread for the Philly provider, CAN WE STAY ON TOPIC AND DISCUSS SEX WORKERS WITHOUT TRYING TO CHANGE SOCIETY? 
 

the revolution is not gonna start at a website called The Company of Men ffs… 🤣

[+ José Soplanucas]

Rather than trying to find one explanation for all the providers who self labeled as straight, do you not think that all of the narratives are possible? Some may be actually straight, some may not be straight at all but just marketing, some may be anything in between, above and below. Instead of arguing, and trying to debate the explanations we do not prefer, why we do not just have fun brainstorming imagining all the possible scenarios? 

[savantsav]

I do not touch any guy that's either straight or isn't but puts 'straight' in their profile. I already made my peace at 17 to not touch or fawn over straight guys.