Need advice

[kaboom35]

I met up with a pretty popular NYC escort a couple of times and we hit it off well.   I made a third appointment last year and I unfortunately had to cancel very last minute.   Things happen.  I apologize profusely but I am assuming he was upset and blocked me on rentmen chat.   That’s the only way we communicated.   Do I attempt to contact him again through regular text? Do I mention who I am or let him just see me if we meet again?   I’m not trying to trick him, but I don’t know if he’ll agree to meet with me if he knows who I am because of the last time I canceled abruptly.  Or do I just let him go and move on? 

[56harrisond]

The provider made a decision to block you, I'd respect that decision. Move on and hire someone else.

[savantsav]

You could reach out, apologize again and offer to put a deposit for a meet.

Edited January 12 by savantsav

[DMonDude]

24 minutes ago, kaboom35 said:

or let him just see me if we meet again?   I’m not trying to trick him, but I don’t know if he’ll agree to meet with me if he knows who I am because of the last time I canceled abruptly.

Especially do not set up a meet with him via text and "surprise" him with it being you in person. That would be incredibly creepy. Despite your intent for it to not be tricking him, that's exactly what that would be and would be very very weird for you to do.

What @savantsav suggested isn't a bad idea and is the only way i think it'd be ok to reach out again (otherwise i'd say yeah just move on). But i do think if you do it you need to be upfront in the initial text. Remind him who you are and what happened, apologize, and suggest you'd like to continue to hire him but that if you do have to cancel last minute (because stuff happens sometimes) you will give a deposit/cancellation fee. Then the ball is in his court to ignore or accept.

[Nightowl]

By blocking you despite your profuse apologies, he made the situation awkward for both of you.  You could try reaching out and apologizing again but if he ignores or rebuffs you, you’re going to feel even worse.  I personally would move on to someone else.

[Luv2play]

I think the mistake you made was not offering a cancellation fee when you had to cancel at the last minute. I have made that my policy. If it’s last minute I pay half the hourly fee. If it’s a day earlier I pay $50 or so. I have never been blocked as a result. 

[+ JamesB]

The only time I’ve ever had to cancel on the same day of the appointment was due to a bike accident. I offered to pay whatever he felt was fair, and even though it was only the second time I’d booked him, he told me not to worry about it. The next time we met, I paid him 1.5 times his rate.

It sounds like you missed the chance to make things right at the time of the cancellation, and he’s clearly no longer interested in working with you. Take it as a learning experience, move on, and find someone else.

[aiseeya]

You should have offer cancellation fee for his inconvenience.

That said, time to move on. He block you, so dont be acting creepy.

[Braziliancutee]

I mean when you cancel last minute u need to offer to pay… don’t need to be 100% of the total amount but at least something. Bc we organize our schedules, we make plan with the money and we refuse other clients to meet you. So is very frustrating for us bc looks like u as client don’t “care” a lot with us. If I was you contact him offer to pay at least the double (bc last time) and things will be fine.

[Mark_fl]

I agree with most of the "move on" crowd, but I think a simple text saying, "I'm truly sorry, and understand if you don't want to see me, but I'd love the chance to make it up to you." 

Then let it go. You've said your piece, and left the ball in his court if he wants to try again. Personally, I don't want the stress when hiring, but apparently this guy is worth it to you.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I agree with others who said you can send him a text restating your apologies, offering a deposit, etc., and his response to that is your final answer. But as someone who is also in NYC, there's a pretty big group to choose from so maybe just move on. 

[Muscleking]

On 1/11/2026 at 6:41 PM, kaboom35 said:

I met up with a pretty popular NYC escort a couple of times and we hit it off well.   I made a third appointment last year and I unfortunately had to cancel very last minute.   Things happen.  I apologize profusely but I am assuming he was upset and blocked me on rentmen chat.   That’s the only way we communicated.   Do I attempt to contact him again through regular text? Do I mention who I am or let him just see me if we meet again?   I’m not trying to trick him, but I don’t know if he’ll agree to meet with me if he knows who I am because of the last time I canceled abruptly.  Or do I just let him go and move on? 

 

I agree with reaching out again and offering to put things right. That might mean paying for the appointment you cancelled, as well as the new one.

This happened to me once due to a business meeting. I’m usually very punctual, and fortunately I’d been seeing this guy for a while, so he knew it wasn’t something I do habitually. Even so, I still offered to pay for the appointment I missed, simply because I knew his time was just as valuable as mine.

You could offer something similar. If he doesn’t respond, move on and find someone else, there are plenty out there.

[+ 7829V]

On 1/11/2026 at 3:41 PM, kaboom35 said:

I met up with a pretty popular NYC escort a couple of times and we hit it off well.   I made a third appointment last year and I unfortunately had to cancel very last minute.   Things happen.  I apologize profusely but I am assuming he was upset and blocked me on rentmen chat.   That’s the only way we communicated.   Do I attempt to contact him again through regular text? Do I mention who I am or let him just see me if we meet again?   I’m not trying to trick him, but I don’t know if he’ll agree to meet with me if he knows who I am because of the last time I canceled abruptly.  Or do I just let him go and move on? 

If I cancel just a few hours before the meeting, I’ll pay the fee. That feels fair.

But if I cancel days in advance, I don’t feel the need to pay it. That’s plenty of time for them to book someone else.

[jeezifonly]

There must be at least one other provider in that tiny barely-gay town who can delight you for an evening or two. Go find him. 

[mtaabq]

Dude, he blocked you. Yes, it sucks to have to cancel last-minute and yes, it sucks to get blocked. By blocking you he has sent a very clear message. Life is not always black-and-white, but in this instance I feel that it is. You asked for advice - I believe that it would be best for you to let it go and move on.