Thanks for all the feedback and replies!
Some clarification, since I think a couple of things got mixed together. These are two different masseurs and two different situations.
Masseur A — He has a child, and every now and then I’ve given him an Amazon gift card for his kid’s birthday. He is no longer with the mother of his child and is currently in another relationship. And that’s basically it. I don’t know much about his relationship, nor do I need to. We have our sessions, we enjoy each other’s company, and that’s it. I don’t even initiate texts with him. When he’s going to be in my area, he gives me a heads-up and we meet. Our sessions are usually around 2.5 hours. The boundaries there have always felt pretty clear to me.
Masseur B — This is the one expecting a baby. He sent me the link to their baby registry; I didn’t ask him for it. I picked out a few gifts, which were delivered to the home he shares with his GF. I thought that would be the end of it, other than maybe a quick thank-you text. I never ask about his GF or their relationship. We talk about other things in his life — how his parents are doing, work, etc. — but I deliberately stay away from his romantic life.
And yes, I completely understand the point several of you are making: by sending gifts from the registry, I opened that door myself. I’m not suggesting that his GF did anything wrong by sending me a thank-you note. Quite the opposite — it was thoughtful and gracious.
What surprised me was my own reaction to it. Because our sessions are pretty sensual, receiving such a detailed and personal note from his GF suddenly made those two worlds feel much closer together than I was comfortable with. I’m almost certain she doesn’t know the nature of our sessions, although obviously I don’t know what he has or hasn’t told her. That realization made me feel a little bad for her and, frankly, a little uncomfortable.
So I think some of you are right that I blurred the line myself without really thinking through what that might mean. Lesson learned. 😂
For me, the less I know about that part of his personal life, the better. I’m perfectly comfortable with the relationship I have with him; I just don’t want his personal life and my relationship with him to collide.
