Provider with picture giving the finger

[+ SirBillybob]

12 hours ago, Alabastrine said:

That is genius. Where has that gif been hiding? 

A little birdie flipped on him.

Edited July 16 by SirBillybob

[marylander1940]

On 7/14/2025 at 8:55 AM, KensingtonHomo said:

I haven't seen this much. I suspect it's guys trying to look tough or edgy. It wouldn't bother me if it's just a single photo. 

I find myself put off by profiles that have no smiling pictures, where every facial expression is like "tough guy" - also ones that have multiple hardcore sex videos. I prefer to leave some stuff to my imagination. 

I agree with you. I don't like pictures of them with guns fie example .

I care more if they show any kind of attitude in their description or too many rules that make them sound difficult to approach - contact...

I think giving the finger is nothing but a picture trying to make them look like rappers 😂 

[GTMike]

Flashing fingers like in "Westside vs Eastide" poses are gang type affiliations signs and codes that got adopted by more mainstream youth culture.

So like they're being "OG's" (Original Gangsters). It just became commonplace like saying I;m having fun at this party bitches! I'm a baller.

The singular flipping the bird photo while also prominently displaying their foot for example is signaling something different in the "Alpha Master" culture. 

Let's move on.

[dcman]

I take it to mean that they want to fuck me.

[DunwoodyGuy]

Automatic and irrevocable PASS.

[jeezifonly]

It fits into the same category as the face pic, yowling at the camera with the tongue out. 
 

Immediately crossed off the invitation lists. 
“No Garden Parties, Gallery Openings or Liederabends for you, dude”

[Decatur Guy]

It's definitely not a selling point for me. If I like everything else about the profile and it's just in there one time, I usually let it slide. But if he's giving the finger in other pictures, too, and generally gives a sketchy vibe, I move on. 

I think some Tops do it because they think it makes them look tough. I think there are better poses to get that "service me vibe" across.

For instance, of picture of him in a relaxed manspread while sitting in a chair with an erection and big grin on his face. Give me a couple of those and an easy-going Alpha vibe in the write-up, and I'm likely at least ask your rates. 

Edited July 21 by Decatur Guy

[SometimesBi]

Gee, and here I was hoping this topic would have revealed the finger pic as a way for the provider to suggest he offers prostate massage 😏😁 

[Nightowl]

9 hours ago, SometimesBi said:

Gee, and here I was hoping this topic would have revealed the finger pic as a way for the provider to suggest he offers prostate massage 😏😁 

That’s it !  You’ve cracked the code!

[jeezifonly]

15 hours ago, SometimesBi said:

Gee, and here I was hoping this topic would have revealed the finger pic as a way for the provider to suggest he offers prostate massage 😏😁 

I need reassurance that he knows what he’s doing.

[Oakman]

On 7/14/2025 at 4:23 AM, bcbg1205 said:

I see a number of providers giving the finger in their RM pictures. For me, this is an instant pass.

Agree. Hard pass. Fuck you too, bro. Next. 

I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.” 

[+ SirBillybob]

Oh, now somebody's upset ...

[Rudynate]

I've never understood it - I've wondered if there was some hidden meaning that I wasn't in on.  If I was really taken with the guy, I wouldn't let it stop me from contacting him, but it seems silly and unnecessary.

[+ SirBillybob]

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Edited August 14 by SirBillybob

[+ DrownedBoy]

4 hours ago, Oakman said:

I also avoid guys sticking their tongues out in photos. It’s a pose that says “I am trash.” 

On the contrary - ads don't list tongue length, so I find that a wonderful evaluation opportunity.

Edited August 14 by DrownedBoy
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[MikeBiDude]

If you’re going to court GenZ then you will have to just ignore the 3 finger salute and the stuck out tongue.

[DMonDude]

It's hilarious to me that this is something that bothers some guys so much. Having your middle finger up in a photo isn't a literal "F you don't hire me". It's just something younger people do to look non-chalant/casual/cool. It literally doesn't even register to me as something crazy, it's just a pose people do in pictures as a default. I might piss some of you off for saying this, but if a middle finger or a tongue out in a photo is a "hard pass", you're kinda showing your age (and on the other end of this, so am i to be fair) 🫣

[+ ApexNomad]

27 minutes ago, DMonDude said:

It's hilarious to me that this is something that bothers some guys so much. Having your middle finger up in a photo isn't a literal "F you don't hire me". It's just something younger people do to look non-chalant/casual/cool. It literally doesn't even register to me as something crazy, it's just a pose people do in pictures as a default. I might piss some of you off for saying this, but if a middle finger or a tongue out in a photo is a "hard pass", you're kinda showing your age (and on the other end of this, so am i to be fair) 🫣

I’m so old my middle finger’s got arthritis, it’s retired from photo ops.

 

[+ SirBillybob]

10 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

I’m so old my middle finger’s got arthritis, it’s retired from photo ops.

 

The important thing at any age is to have the option to signal that one speaks honestly, with a fucked tongue. 

[Mark_fl]

To add to an old topic. Things that generally make me pass on an ad:

Excessive piercings and tattoos

Obscene gestures 

A lot of hair facial or otherwise.

Gaping asshole photos

And while these aren't an automatic pass, I don't get excited about jockstraps or bikini briefs/thongs.  The latter group not very manly to me.

A lot of pictures with tongues sticking out.

I think I just prefer a more subtle sexuality vs. IN YOUR FACE.

[marylander1940]

On 7/14/2025 at 10:12 PM, NYXboy said:

so many guys clutching their pearls on this thread. lol. 

It comes with the territory!

I wish it was an Olympic sport!

Edited 10 hours ago by marylander1940

[NYXboy]

29 minutes ago, DunwoodyGuy said:

I AM old--and I'm STILL ALIVE--which means I've earned the right to tell you I don't give a flying f*ck if you think I'm "showing my age." It's my money, I've earned it, and I can spend it however I want. If I choose NOT to spend it on someone who thinks it's cool to stick his middle finger out, then to quote Miss Bessie Smith (I told you I was old!), "T'AINT NOBODY'S BIZNESS IF I DO." 

there is a difference between being old and showing your age. You sound like Grandpa Simpson screaming at the clouds with your reply here. 

 

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 11/28/2025 at 10:05 AM, Mark_fl said:

To add to an old topic. Things that generally make me pass on an ad:

Excessive piercings and tattoos

Obscene gestures 

A lot of hair facial or otherwise.

Gaping asshole photos

And while these aren't an automatic pass, I don't get excited about jockstraps or bikini briefs/thongs.  The latter group not very manly to me.

A lot of pictures with tongues sticking out.

I think I just prefer a more subtle sexuality vs. IN YOUR FACE.

Why not just say you want a polite, smooth twink/jock who wears tighty whiteys? 

I don't understand the need to point out all the things one dislikes. It makes folks sound dull and close-minded. 

[Nue2thegame]

On 8/14/2025 at 5:39 PM, DrownedBoy said:

On the contrary - ads don't list tongue length, so I find that a wonderful evaluation opportunity.

Agree - for those of us who are looking for a good rimming. Not into beastialty (another turn-off for this thread) but otherwise looking for someone that resembles an anteater in certain ways. 

[Mark_fl]

44 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Why not just say you want a polite, smooth twink/jock who wears tighty whiteys? 

I don't understand the need to point out all the things one dislikes. It makes folks sound dull and close-minded. 

Because that wasn't the topic of the post?  But if being judgemental about other people's turn ons and offs makes you happy,  have at it.