He’s been in prison. Is that a deal-killer for you?

[InterestingGuy]

If you find out an escort that you’ve never met before has been in prison - does that instantly make you decide to never meet him?
 

I have pros and cons (no pun intended intended) regarding this subject. I have met several escorts multiple times where I found out LATER that they did time, but I would never have know initially - and they were all great experiences. 
 

But I’m not naive - and knowing beforehand gives me pause. I’d like to hear other opinions and experiences with this situation.

[MscleLovr]

I’d like to feel that I’d consider all the circumstances (eg teenage indiscretion, taking part in civil protest or other misdemeanor)…but I fear my instinctive reaction would be to say NO immediately.

I’m not proud of this, but I feel it adds a layer of risk to engaging with a stranger. It seems to me that visiting a stranger at his place or inviting him into your own and spending time together is hazard enough.
 

Most times, things will go swimmingly…but you don’t want to be that rare unfortunate incident. 

[kben]

If the escort shared with you directly that he’s been in prison, I’d say you can at least discuss with him to see if you feel comfortable enough going forward with a meeting. 

[+ Charlie]

I am wondering how you would find out that an escort has been in prison--it is unlikely that it would be in his ad. To me, the relevant info would be the source of information and how reliable it is. Then the question would be what he was imprisoned for.

[KevinFL]

9 minutes ago, Charlie said:

I am wondering how you would find out that an escort has been in prison--it is unlikely that it would be in his ad. To me, the relevant info would be the source of information and how reliable it is. Then the question would be what he was imprisoned for.

Well there is a provider's ad currently that directs you to their Social Media accounts which all reference time in Jail and pics, etc... to show it's true. 

So it's out there. 

[Cretus]

34 minutes ago, MscleLovr said:

I’d like to feel that I’d consider all the circumstances (eg teenage indiscretion, taking part in civil protest or other misdemeanor)…but I fear my instinctive reaction would be to say NO immediately.

I’m not proud of this, but I feel it adds a layer of risk to engaging with a stranger. It seems to me that visiting a stranger at his place or inviting him into your own and spending time together is hazard enough.
 

Most times, things will go swimmingly…but you don’t want to be that rare unfortunate incident. 

I love the honesty here. 
 

As much as my conscious self would like to preach tolerance and non-prejudice due to one’s past circumstance…..

 

My instinctive, primal, survival oriented, subconscious self would fixate on the idea of potential violence occurring against me. 
 

If the only information I was given was that he went to prison before, I would probably instinctively pass. However, I might meet up if I learned what he was accused of doing. 

Edited December 14, 2024 by Lolito

[+ azdr0710]

Have met with at least a few guys who spent a decent amount of time in prison (not jail) at some point. A couple are very well-known around here. If I hadn't known, I never would've guessed. All were/are worry-free and, to me, it makes the meeting much more scorching 🥵 

[+ sniper]

Would depend on what it was for. Drug possession...well frankly that's luck of the draw, wouldn't faze me.  Battery/theft/rape/manslaughter would def be an issue.

[Kippy]

Only if they slap me around! 😝

[MikeBiDude]

Well, then there’s the provider I bailed out once! 30+ years ago, County jail, no details to discuss. 

[StableMentalDefective]

I'll let you know once he's released... In about a year

I never get the order of operations right in real life either.

[+ purplekow]

8 hours ago, Charlie said:

I am wondering how you would find out that an escort has been in prison--it is unlikely that it would be in his ad. To me, the relevant info would be the source of information and how reliable it is. Then the question would be what he was imprisoned for.

I called a an escort and in discussing the arrangements on the phone, he mentioned that he had only been escorting for 2 months.  As he was in his 40s, I asked how it was that he was starting this career at that age.  He plainly said, I just got out of prison.  I considered several things, his honesty in that reply, how hot his pictures were, the safety of the meeting hotel and then again how hot he was.  I met him in the bar of the hotel and after a brief conversation, we headed up to my room. He was fresh out of prison wher he must have spent a lot of time at the weights.  Ultimately it was a very hot and sweaty encounter and I still hire him now and again several years later.   

So that is how you can find out if they were in prison and make an individual decision.  

I must admit, the prion part was a turn on once we in the room as it adde an element of possible danger to the encounter.  

[viewing ownly]

I noticed how you worded your inquiry. Truth be told, if it WAS a deal-killer, we wouldn't be able to give our two cents - just something a blue light that a police  detective uses might find. 😵

Note: this emoji is described as "dizzy face", but since the eyes are the letter "X", implying death, that's what I'll go with!

[marylander1940]

9 hours ago, InterestingGuy said:

If you find out an escort that you’ve never met before has been in prison - does that instantly make you decide to never meet him?
 

I have pros and cons (no pun intended intended) regarding this subject. I have met several escorts multiple times where I found out LATER that they did time, but I would never have know initially - and they were all great experiences. 
 

But I’m not naive - and knowing beforehand gives me pause. I’d like to hear other opinions and experiences with this situation.

Depends on why he went to prison.

If it's for drug use of possession, unlike other guys he got caught.

Many folks after serving time have few choices available and escorting is one of the safest, obviously as long as they have the looks, mindset and stamina do it... 

 

Does he look like any of this guys?

 

Edited December 15, 2024 by marylander1940

[samhexum]

From what I've learned from porn, men who've been to prison are great at (and love) gay sex.

[guru68]

To some degree it would depend on the specifics, but it would likely be a strike against for me - particularly if either violence or drugs were involved.

[smorgasbord]

A guy casually mentioned he'd been inside for under two years. Nothing violent. 

We were already at mine but made sure he didn't know my full address (I picked him up & dropped off a distance away in the evening) and dropped a fake roommate who lived in my spare room periodically into the conversation.

I'd already packed away anything valuable or small enough to be quickly pocketed to remove any temptations.

To be fair, I'd have done much the same regardles. 

[D21howie]

The deal breaker will be if it was for murder. Molestation, or sexual assault.  Drugs will be if still using but if he is in recovery I have no problem 

[guru68]

I'm glad I never had the opportunity to hook up with Sebastian Young as I'd often fantasized - he did not end well.

[+ azdr0710]

I periodically have mentioned here in the forum that, on the rare occasion that I meet with a new person, I'll write down all the particulars about him on a piece of paper and leave it on the floor in the middle of my living room........that way, when my friends break down my door after a few days of no text or phone answers, they'll know who killed me...... 

[+ glutes]

Half the escorts on Rentmen look like they've been in prison.

[SirBillybob]

8 hours ago, StableMentalDefective said:

I'll let you know once he's released... In about a year

I never get the order of operations right in real life either.

He’s celibate for you for a year? What a gusher that’ll be!  

[DCLogan]

If you use a payment app, you might find it shows you the provider’s real name. If you Google his name, you might find a mug shot. If you’re like me, you might find the mug shot hotter than his RM profile pic. 

[BaronArtz]

That brings back fun memories.

In the 1990s Cats and Stella's were hook up bars where clients could have a drink and mix with escorts in attendance.  Both bars were conveniently located near the Port Authority Bus Terminal.  On Friday nights, buses from the Corrections Department would drop off released prisoners at the Port Authority.  These guys, testosterone levels at their peak, would be totally eager to turn a few tricks - or more - at Cats or Stella's.  And make some $$$$ in the process.  It was total debauchery.  

This was a time you could actually meet an escort at a bar, check out the goods in the men's room and take him to a nearby hotel that rented rooms by the hour.

Memories!

 

Edited December 15, 2024 by BaronArtz

[Vin Marco]

On 12/14/2024 at 10:45 AM, Charlie said:

Then the question would be what he was imprisoned for.

Good point. I would think that the nature of the crime would be a significant deciding factor.