How long between Sessions?

[XIX]

This is a bit of an odd question but what is the ideal length to see a masseur/escort if you want to use their services on a regular or semi regular basis? I imagine there is no single answer but would like to see what the average is. 

[Rudynate]

I will probably will never achieve frequent flyer status becasue I don't hire often enough, and I'm in it for the novelty - so after 2 or 3 visits, I don't usually go back. 

[+ sf westcoaster]

For those, very few,  that I consider regulars, the frequency varies between six and eight weeks.  

[Jamie21]

It varies. Some of my regular clients return annually (they live abroad usually). A recent regular has had 7 sessions in the past 3 months. Most of my regulars come between 4 and 6 months. I think it’s important to keep things fresh, especially with sensual massage. 

[big-n-tall]

It varies for me depending on escort willingness, my expenditures for each month, and escort's/my availability. To me if a guy remembers you after 2nd time... you're a regular.

One guy who was kind of local, I saw 1 to 2 times a month. We also did extended trips. He moved away.  There is a local masseur I saw about every two months. I wanted to see him at least month but circumstances kind of prevented me from doing so. He's currently on hiatus sadly. If he returns I'd try to see him at least once a month for sure. There is an escort I met last year (although I first contacted him early 2020... damned pandemic). I bring him to see me about every 3 months. I've seen him 3 times. We are planning another meet up late Summer/early Fall. He tells me I one of the few people who has hired him consistently. According to him I'm his main regular.

Most providers I've seen repeatedly, it's usually whenever they travel to my area. As mentioned above... I sometimes bring people to me. The times between seeing them can vary.

[XIX]

16 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

It varies. Some of my regular clients return annually (they live abroad usually). A recent regular has had 7 sessions in the past 3 months. Most of my regulars come between 4 and 6 months. I think it’s important to keep things fresh, especially with sensual massage. 

Maybe it's just me but 7 sessions in 3 months seems like a lot but who am I to judge? 

I suppose it's somewhat like booking a holiday, it's something to look forward to. 

[sjmuktop]

It really does vary. Sometimes I will have three sessions in a single month or sometimes only one or even none.

Sometimes I'll have a consecutive run of several months where I hire (at least once a month) for every month. Then I might go through a period of a couple or so months where I don't hire at all. Or I might hire one month and then not for the next four or five. 

With me it really is extremely variable and without any kind of consistent pattern.

[Jamie21]

6 hours ago, XIX said:

Maybe it's just me but 7 sessions in 3 months seems like a lot but who am I to judge? 

I suppose it's somewhat like booking a holiday, it's something to look forward to. 

It is quite a lot, obviously he enjoys it. 5 of those sessions were with just me and 2 of them were with me and another masseur (a different guy each time) so there was a bit of variety. I also vary my routine so that it doesn’t get too familiar yet still keeps the essence of why he comes back for more (that’s a delicate balancing act). You have to keep things interesting and fresh, even if someone is booking weekly. 

[MuscleDaddyRWC]

I'd like to get a weekly massage but it's not in the budget.  I have 2 guys I alternate between and go every 3 weeks to one or the other. 

[+ The Big Guy]

It’s not unusual for me to go 2 - 3 times a month.   I want MT and HE and since I don’t have a partner, this is how I get needs met.  

[pubic_assistance]

On 5/2/2023 at 11:29 AM, XIX said:

what is the ideal length to see a masseur/escort if you want to use their services on a regular or semi regular basis?

When I keep a busy workout schedule at my Muay Thai gym, I see a therapeutic masseur twice a month. If I'm making money that month I will treat myself to an additional  erotic session for fun.

[DWnyc]

I’ve had a mixed bag on repeats. A couple turned into weird friendships where lines got blurred on both sides and it got awkward despite best intentions. One tried to scam me on the 3rd meet and had it not been for that there might have been more but if so it would have crowded out  others and the variety for me is part of the fun.

The guy I’ve seen most regularly has been solid and reliable, with irregular patterns - once every 2 months to once every 5 or 6 and somehow the balance works where he’ll send a random photo or joke because it’s relevant in some way to something we’ve talked about and vice versa and it doesn’t feel like I’m being clingy or he’s indirectly hitting me up. Right before one holiday at a scheduled appointment we just ended up talking as he was very down about family stuff - and he initially wouldn’t take the fee but I told him it was a holiday gift. He invited me back that night in a much better mood and that would fall under the “freebie” category 😊

[Rod Hagen]

"Regular" is a funny term.  Escorts want regulars, often times clients want to be considered regulars.  I would like to think what we are talking about is clients and escorts who see each other often enough to be friends, close friends, but his thread has already touched on the unfortunate side of the "regulars" discussion, reduced rates.  How "regular" do you have to be to be (getting away with) paying less than others? "What do you charge for REGULAR clients?"  Sigh.

There are several clients who are very very very much my friends whom I see weekly, there are others I see once or twice or three times a month.  And, there are some I only see once a year, or less, but our communications between visits are intimate enough, and I don't necessarily mean sexual, that we consider each other to be regulars.  So, I guess, Regular can be a feeling, and too often it's a bargaining tool.  Those men who call themselves regulars before they've met me, or after one meeting, in a rate-reduction gambit, are not going to be folks I consider regulars, even if I do see them fairly regularly.  

Edited May 4, 2023 by Rod Hagen

[Gary]

Interesting question, how long between sessions.  One idea:  once a week for an hour each time.  $250/$300 x 50 = $12,500/$15,000 annually.  A possible variant could be every other week.  3 hr (block) week 1 and 1 hr week 3—with weeks 2&4 off.  As a comparison, I used an athletic trainer three times a week, $100 per session, for 2-3 years.  

[buckguy]

Depends. Hagen makes a good point about expectations of different sorts of regulars and there probably also are guys who have unrealistic expectations of intimacy and friendship. Not every “regular” relationship will evolve in the same way. Guys who derive a lot of their income from travel may not see someone “often” but may see them on every visit or every few visits to their city, being a regular can be more elastic for them than for someone who rarely travels.

[marylander1940]

On 5/2/2023 at 11:29 AM, XIX said:

This is a bit of an odd question but what is the ideal length to see a masseur/escort if you want to use their services on a regular or semi regular basis? I imagine there is no single answer but would like to see what the average is. 

If I could I would hire daily. Why not? Unfortunately is not on my budget. 

[Jamie21]

On 5/2/2023 at 4:29 PM, XIX said:

This is a bit of an odd question but what is the ideal length to see a masseur/escort if you want to use their services on a regular or semi regular basis? I imagine there is no single answer but would like to see what the average is. 

I’d say it’s around 8 inches.

 

[cany10011]

3 regualrs. One of them is an overnight. Each one brings something different. One is a dark haired athletic adonis who is extremely submissive, another is a twunky blond swimmer at Columbia and the other is more geeky yet sexy guy who provides a nice bf experience.  I usually schedule M/W and Friday/Saturday pending my other social commitments and work travel . But usually aim to meet each regular weekly. Yes, it means I have a lot of towels and laundry. 

Edited May 21, 2023 by cany10011

[MscleLovr]

I had several regulars over the years, tho I only hired when I was between boyfriends.
 

Frequency varied a lot. I saw each regular at least 1x a week, generally for an overnight date. I recall one regular, a nice guy who didn’t want an overnight date, so in the first flush of lust, I’d date him for 1-2 hours 3-4x a week. I’d take my regulars on weekend trips at first. Once we’d established full compatibility, I’d invite a regular on an overseas vacation. 
 

One aside: I got to know very well a young man who was not only splendid physically but also very versatile in bed. He had wonderful reviews here. One night, he confided over dinner that I was his only regular - he’d been so surprised when he started working that so many clients always wanted variety (a new guy) and no matter how great the date went, his clients didn’t repeat. 

[TruHart1]

I have found over the years I’ve been hiring, regulars have been the norm for me. If I find an escort who furnishes an excellent session, he will become a regular. However, I do have a very strict budget for escorts so my hiring patterns are shaped by that. Before the pandemic I traveled to Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas and NYC on a pretty regular basis to see some of my regulars. A few also made regular trips to my city.

Right now I am down to one regular guy at the moment who travels to my city every two weeks or so, though my budget only allows me to spend time with him about once a month. Another escort whom I saw regularly was affected by the pandemic and is just beginning to travel to me again. He was a regular I saw for many years and we plan to meet again in August. I saw him every three or four months, two times on each visit.

 I do still try to hire new escorts who interest me now and then, only I find hardly any are regular material for me. As for the regular guys I used to travel to, I keep in touch with most of them (most have actually become friends, even the ones who have retired) but because of that stupid pandemic, I just don’t travel right now! Basically my budget is what makes me keep my regulars down to only once a month or so.

 I’ve also found over the years that I am usually more satisfied with each regular escort if I don’t see them more than once a month, unless I’m just so horny I let my little head override my financial concerns!!! 😮😮😮

TruHart1 😎

[harlow]

I’ve never had a good escort stick around long enough for me to be considered a “regular”. As soon as I think I’ve found the perfect one they move or retire. AndrewK comes to mind among others 😢

[+ purplekow]

Well I have about 4 regulars.  One I see once every three to four months though it was once a month, the lustre came of the encounters and so I see him less often, mainly as his oral is spectacular.  I have another regular who I see when I am in his city or he is on mine.  We speak or text several time a day and I would never pass up a chance to see him though he is not in the top two of sexual experiences, he is very good in bed and very challenging intellectually.  The third regular I see was often as he is will to come visit me.  He sex is great and I enjoy some of the benefits of being a regular in that he spends more time and owe have a fun time out of bed as well as in it.  The most recent guy to achieve regular status has been seen 5 times in three months.  He is relatively new to escorting and he came with certain sexual boundaries, many of which I have crossed, ,much to his surprise.  Having a younger, very muscular escort extending his boundaries at my request or due to my persuasion is very much a turn on and he will stay a regular for a while.  The other three regulars have been men I have been seeing for 5 to 10 years.  There is one other escort who I see semi regularly.  He lives about four hours away and as a result, the number of times I see him has been limited.  have sen him about 8 times in the last 2 years.  He is the one most likely to fall off my hiring routine.  

One of the men I hire regularly is hired by men and women in about equal numbers.  He always refers to the women as being in his rotation.  He has never mentioned other men to me. so I have no idea as to whether on not I am in a "rotation."

[arnie]

I have not had a regular until now because no one checked enough boxes until now.   Not that they flaked out or didn't give service, just never clicked enough.  Had only seen one guy twice prior and he was less than stellar on the second go round.  So I have seen this guy 3 times and await the 4th.  He comes to town about every 2 months or so and that the the frequency.  Still checking out new experiences, up to no,  had hired maybe 4 times a year.  Not sure if I will be exclusive with this guy as often or what I will do ongoing.  

[+ nycman]

It takes a special man, but over the years I’ve had 3 "regulars". Each time I saw them about once a month. They were all amazing men and I could have easily fallen in love with all 3. Thankfully this message board helped me to keep my mind clear and my head on straight. I still miss all 3 and would give anything even to just have the opportunity to take them to dinner. 

[marylander1940]

3 hours ago, The_Impeccable_George said:

Once a week for sex and 2-3 times for lunch, dinner, drinks.

different rate for social encounters that don't include intimacy?