Monarchy79

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

You seem to be completely misunderstanding my point.

I said we shouldn't judge others for their turn on's. I equally believe you shouldn't be judged for your turn OFFS

We go around this wheel all the time here. Only you have ownership of your sexual preferences. As long as you're not a child molester or a rapist it's no one's place to judge what you like ( or dislike ) or  make negative comments about one's right to express said likes (or dislikes)

I understand you clearly. 
I simply disagree with you.

let’s be honest here,  
the term “preferences” started being used in the realm of sex, dating and hookups to as a means to soften what’s really taking place, which is bias, and a plethora of “isms” . It was a way for people to make their prejudices sound less offensive. For example, a guy saying on a hook up app… “no black guys, and no Asians” appears flat out racist….but adding the phrase “just a preference”,  gives the false illusion that the person is free from bias…. 

To give some accurate historical  context of the phrase:

”Just a Preference”, became the catch phrase of white men with bias, as a way to excuse the social protest that  racial and other minorities made against “no blacks, no asians, not fats, and no fems”, from apps such as Grindr. 

Now going back to you….

I see nothing “wrong”, with your preference for circumcised penises. And I agree that people shouldn’t be judged for their preferences. 

But if someone’s preference is rooted in bias, then they aren’t exonerated from being called out for it. And calling the people who address it “judgmental” loses its validity, the moment you call uncut penises “gross”, as that is a judgment too. 
 

On 3/2/2024 at 11:43 AM, pubic_assistance said:

We shouldn't judge people for what turns them on…….

 

……. I am often grossed-out by the sight of an uncut penis. So if I am with an uncut Latino guy, I can't bring myself to perform oral on him. 

Just how I'm wired.

 

In one single post, you stated how one shouldn’t judge others…. 

Then you did exactly that… judged others.

You not liking an uncut penis, doesn’t make that uncut penis “gross”. You just don’t like it. 
 

On 3/15/2024 at 12:36 PM, Medin said:

 I happen to find felching, fisting, PAs, and face tattoos to be "gross", but is that also off-limits to mention here?   

Those are purposeful acts and adaptations that someone chose to perform and implement: 

One’s uncircumcised penis is something that they are born with. And one’s circumcised penis is something that they more than likely did not choose. 

This is why using pejorative terms to the latter is considered offensive and inappropriate. 

You don’t have to like it, but you don’t need to verbally describe your disgust for it in an insulting manner either. 
 

On 3/15/2024 at 8:13 AM, Medin said:

This is a paid service.   When was the last time you went to a restaurant and the menu listed Beef, Chicken, Fish, etc?   Most likely you want the details.   The same goes with escorting.   If I'm paying $300+/hour, I want to know what I'm paying for.   

True, 

But when your “specifications” veer off so far from the menu, then this speaks more about the mind and intentions of the customer, rather than the restaurant or provider of the service. 

It seems some of these preferences lean towards sociopathic reflections of control more than anything. 

If you’re looking for a bottom, why does the “status” of his foreskin matter? 

“Butt Butter Churning”

18 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

So true. I've saved myself thousands of dollars going the #1 and #2 route. 😋

Agreed. 

The release of the tension built up from our libido can literally clear the mind and help men in better discernment and making smart decisions. 
 

Many mistakes that men make regarding hiring escorts, massage guys, or even hooking up for free are due to sexual urges superseding general common sense. 
 

Most men who pay for these services, do so out of convenience, not out of need. 
 

So a “hot” guy who hires, isn’t looking for a discount. He’s looking for a good experience with specific standards & requirements. 
 

it’s important that people understand that most people aren’t hiring out of desperation. So when a “hot” guy entertains the idea of hiring a professional, he’s not even thinking about a “discount”. 
 

Given that this is a military medical professional, I wonder if there has been any assessment of why this predatory behavior seems to be to easy to ensnare victims? I have two theories:

1.) From basic training, soldiers are conditioned to follow orders (without question), from those who are in roles of authority. As doctors are considered to be in a role of medical authority, it could make sense to a solider to follow the instructions of a Doctor, even if he’s not comfortable with it, or even if it doesn’t make sense, even allowing him to be touched in ways that makes him uncomfortable. 
 

2.) The conditioning from training solders that strips their overall sense of privacy. They are trained to shower naked in front of each other, sleep  and change  clothes in open areas,  and even bathrooms have toilets with no partitions. Gaining this sense of ambivalence to nudity and lack of personal privacy could leave a solider to not think twice of stripping in front of his doctor, even when his purpose for the visit doesn’t logically  require it. 
 

It’s  almost as if these environments can make people very vulnerable to sexual predators. 

I’m much better off now. During COVID, I saved tons of money though not being able to travel, dine out, and lost the need to buy clothing, shoes, accessories for such entertainment. Then I received some work bonuses. Maximized my annual retirement contributions, and padded an IRA. 

Then with the idle time, I started playing around with penny stocks and cryptocurrencies and made some extra money off of those (yes, Dogecoin and Shiba Inu Coin), and purchased some Bonds too. 

I just saved and grew money. 
And once I came back into the “real” world, post-COVID, I maintained some of the habits and have been good ever since. 
 

I also started doing more things for myself at home:

1.) No more facials…. I bought a

microdermabrasion wand, a facial steamer, and an LED mask and can do that at home, with the same effect.

2.) Manicures, pedicures, and any other grooming treatment? I have the tools and do it myself now. 
 

3.) I don’t even get my shirts laundered anymore. I bought a steam press machine and do that at home too. 
 

That saves me hundreds of dollars monthly. 

This biggest concern with age should be ensuring that the person is of legal age to engage with. Other than that, people are simply being petty. 
 

Young, old, or in-between, either you have it going on, or you don’t. 
 

On a style perspective, I think that the polish and color should go with one’s overall aesthetic for it to “work.”
 

If a guy has the entire rocker look & vibe and has some black polish on a few fingers, it can work. (Think, Lenny Kravitz or Jared Leto) Or a dude with clear, coated, well manicured nails, whose style of dress is just crispy and sharp (very “Phineas Cole”), I can see that too. 
 

However, whenever I see these guys out here with bad haircuts, terribly styled bargain bin H&M outfits, busted shoes, with overgrown crayola nail colors, it just cracks me up. 
 

a lot of what cracks me up with what I see is not even about the masculine vs. feminine thing…. It’s just that everything’s is so poorly executed. It’s the overall lack of good taste. 

14 hours ago, jackdallas said:

Is it right for escorts to ask for payment before and what do you do when they cannot perform?

It’s not right or wrong. It’s their discretion, just like with any service. 
1.) many attorneys require retainers

2.) home contractors for renovations may negotiate a deposit 

3.) Many physicians want your co-pay up front. 

The provider of any service has the right to determine their payment standards. You as the customer have the right to either accept those terms, or decline service and find services from a provider who has payment standards that are in accordance with your standards of business. 
 

Life is very simple. 

Very Sketchy… 

Sting Operation-Level Sketchy

On 3/1/2024 at 5:38 PM, DrownedBoy said:

You haven't viewed America through Fox news...

You don’t even need that. Just go through the history of comment threads on this site. 
 

On 2/26/2024 at 11:16 PM, Bjjx said:

This has also cross my thinking,due to influx of migrants here in NYC,IS THERE A POSSIBILITY THAT THIS GUYS BELONG TO A GANG? And the moment that you have the act of passion with this people they migth come your place and assault,rob and even kill you and get your belongings,it’s good if your place has a doorman/security in the lobby of your building,if not your toast.

Just for fun, 

look up the details of the following murderers who have been escorts:

1.) Joshua Hunter

2.) Jason Marshall

There are many more. 
guess what none of them were? Latino.

Statistically , the likelihood of you getting chopped up and tortured to death is highest with a nice “wholesome” looking white boy who satisfies all of those Cody Fisher twink fantasies so many people seem to have. And further, let’s not get into general hookups. it’s not the Latin “migrant” or the black “hood” guy that’s going to kill ya… it’s that white, bearded leather daddy that’s going to dismember you and eat your parts for Thanksgiving dinner…. 
 

The false image of the white male “nice guy” has lead to many naive people ending up dead…. Jeffrey Dahmer, Mark Latunski and Ed Buck can confirm that. 

On 2/26/2024 at 11:16 PM, Bjjx said:

This has also cross my thinking,due to influx of migrants here in NYC,IS THERE A POSSIBILITY THAT THIS GUYS BELONG TO A GANG? And the moment that you have the act of passion with this people they migth come your place and assault,rob and even kill you and get your belongings,it’s good if your place has a doorman/security in the lobby of your building,if not your toast.

LOL.

So MS-13 and the Latin Kings have colluded a major robbery scheme to pose as escorts now? 
 

let me guess, any black escort who wears a baseball cap is a “thug” too? 
 

On 2/26/2024 at 1:25 AM, FrankR said:

Your compassionate point of view is always so heart warming @pubic_assistanceWhere to meet will have to be agreed, just like with non-immigrant providers. Unless you speak the provider’s language and can have a voice conversation ahead of time, I doubt it will be worthwhile @Massageguy99  Especially if you enjoy a solid massage, which I assume from your chosen name.

Although @pubic_assistance was being an arse (per usual 😎), his statement is highly valid. 
In cities where there’s a surge in migrants, they do stay in dwellings that do not allow them to host (shelters, tax payer-funded hotels), and many of them (the guys and the girls), have found that escorting and prostitution is a lucrative way to make a lot of money. So it’s no surprise that there’s a surge of non-English speaking providers right now. 

21 hours ago, afterfallhours1 said:

 it’s been almost the whole day already. I don’t know what to do, I’m horny and no one messages me back on dating apps so I’m using rent men but none of the guys I’ve messaged replied back. 

1.) Jack off

2.) Blast off

3.) Take a cold shower

You’ll be over it in less than 10 minutes. 

On 3/2/2024 at 10:19 AM, BaronArtz said:

Having safe sex will protect me against HIV but not against other STDs.

How do you define “safe sex”? 
I’m asking, because if you’re referring to condoms, they are statistically the most effective in transmission prevention from a multitude of STDs. 

21 hours ago, UncutDad said:

He's a very hot man.  But your description of the experience is what I expected.  Personally, I wish he would just go massage women or work in a spa.  I have no doubt there are hundreds of gay men that have blue balls from resisting the desire to get off in his presence.  I've been to many straight massage therapists that do not advertise on gay massage sites. I wish he would do that.  It's like going to an ice cream store and them just giving you an empty cone.  😞

Unfortunately, Tito will continue to snooker gay male clients with the false sense of possibility. 

In the massage business, it’s far more lucrative to be independent, unlicensed, and have a gay male clientele, than work in a spa (where they get a huge cut), massage women (with strict requirements of draping, etc.) and overall make less money. 

Many straight men have realized the “gold mine” of tapping into luring the temptations of gay men, with disposable incomes, who will risk the irritation of blue balls just for the hopes of getting with, or turning out a straight man.  Even gay providers understand that if they present themselves as “stereotypically masculine” and call themselves “straight”, they can increase their revenues. 

So at this point, with all of those who have confirmed that Tito is straight and strictly therapeutic, if anyone books him with the hopes that they will be the one to get him to play with them, then they deserve every ache from those blue balls. 

HPV, Monkeypox, Pneumonia and Meningitis vaccines….. get them all. 
 

2 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

OP note: one more time! I wonder if women had been assaulted the system would have reacted as fast? 

Army doctor faces charges he sexually assaulted 41 patients

WWW.ARMYTIMES.COM

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An Army doctor faces arraignment over charges that he sexually assaulted 42 male patients he treated while working as an anesthesiologist.

 

Well the likelihood of male victims coming out to allege sexual abuse is much lower than women. Then add the military component to it, and the probability further lowers. 

1 hour ago, Km411 said:

I have noticed quite a few providers will say something to the effect of “all ages, ethnicities welcome” or “into older men” or “disabilities welcome” and similar statements. I think these guys are true professionals. People are who they are, and have their turn ons and offs, but to me a good provider should not have these kinds of limitations. But I’m not a provider and don’t walk in their shoes….

Yup, 

This is the code language to inform potential clients of various ethnicities, sizes and ages, that they won’t be rejected. 
 

What I do when reaching out to a provider is this: 

In my initial “Hello” message, I provide some type of “color-corrective”emoji, so they’ll know I’m not white (see below). 
 

👍🏾👏🏾

1 hour ago, Km411 said:

I have noticed quite a few providers will say something to the effect of “all ages, ethnicities welcome” or “into older men” or “disabilities welcome” and similar statements. I think these guys are true professionals. People are who they are, and have their turn ons and offs, but to me a good provider should not have these kinds of limitations. But I’m not a provider and don’t walk in their shoes….

I see your point. 
but I will always recognize that the “personal” professions (massage, escorting, etc.) are going to involve some form of prejudice and “ism”.  
 

What I always say is this:

if one has discrimination issues when it comes to: school admissions, employment, housing, or general civil rights, then they are dead wrong. 
 

But of one has their biases based on who they want to touch or have sex with, then I have no place telling them that they should be “equal opportunity”. It’s their bodies, and their choice. 
 

just be real about that, and respectful.