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On 3/27/2024 at 6:56 PM, Simon Suraci said:

What a weird experience. That guy doesn’t know what he’s doing. I’m sorry you had to navigate such an uncomfortable predicament with an unprofessional provider.

That guy knew exactly what he was doing….. 😎

Tipping isn’t exactly “mandatory” in the US. 
It’s a “pressured norm” in the US. 

I wanted to also make another point.

I thought of all of the other professional  services where a provider would visit a client’s home: Barbers, manicurists, nannies, plumbers, electricians, private chefs. None of them separately ask their clients to arrange them Ubers, or to cover some related transportation cost. 
 

If I were an escort, instead of “nickel & diming” clients, I’d just factor it into my standard rate. 
 

The client wouldn’t think about it, I’d have my transportation covered, and we’d both have a seamless, smooth experience. 
 

That feeling in your gut wasn’t indigestion…. 
listen to your inner voice telling you “no”. 

16 hours ago, fs12395 said:

 I usually ask for 90 minute sessions. Over a few sessions, I find that the session is maximum an hour long.

 

Suggested Solution:

Book 60 minute sessions moving forward.

The rate will now be a direct match with the service. 

At the end of the day, the deposit issue is a bit of a gamble for both the provider and the client.

For the provider, the deposit gives a form of “insurance”, increasing the likelihood that the potential client WON’T flake.

For the client, the deposit, gives a form of “liability”, increasing the likelihood that the potential provider WILL flake. 

The provider’s time is precious, and the client’s money is precious, and both are trying to ensure they don’t waste either. 

However, if a potential client flakes on a provider, that provider can recoup the time wasted by booking someone else, or revising his schedule. 

if a potential provider flakes on a client, takes his deposit and disappears, his financial loss is pretty much set, and he can’t recoup his loss. 
 

To each his own….

I do believe in procedures to enhance and maintain one’s appearance to make them look and feel better… 

but I’ve never been a fan of “alterations” (i.e, implants, nose jobs, height surgeries etc.) I feel like people are (for the most part), created in a way where everything fits; And one’s height goes with everything else (shoe

size, hand size, head size, shoulder width, etc.) 

So although  someone who will  get this surgery will be happier with being taller, someone with a trained eye will easily see that something is a bit “imbalanced” with their entire proportions. 
 

On 3/26/2024 at 1:51 AM, APPLE1 said:

I feel like flaking for something better, is directly linked to ALL XY chromosomes!

It is…. But it’s a bit different for homosexual men, because dick and ass is always available. Which is why so many gay men flake out on each other… in one scenario, a gay man can be wavering between a hookup on a app, a bar/nightclub, the gym, sex party/orgy, hiring a masseur or an escort, or even public cruising. He’s always flaking for something better, because the likelihood of something better is actually possible. 
 

For a straight man, he doesn’t have many easy options for women. And many options can burn his pockets, as your average woman isn’t simply down for easy sex, especially because of the culturally imposed norms regarding a woman’s “virtue”. If he wavers for too long, he can wind up stuck with blue balls, or entertaining a lot lizard/crack whore…. LOL. 
 

On 3/26/2024 at 11:16 AM, Rod Hagen said:

Most complaints in this thread concern unprofessional behavior, yet almost no poster is willing to hire professional masseurs.

 

Not exactly. 
The unprofessional behaviors that most people are mentioning are u acceptable for any and every type of body worker…. Professional, licensed or otherwise. 
 

Such things as poor hygiene, being incoherently high, and providing sketchy hosting environments is mutually exclusive from one’s level of “certification”, as a professional. This is just universally poor customer service. 

15 hours ago, BeefyDude said:

speaking of music, pick appropriate music.  One guy had quite loud Hip Hop music.  Not disrespecting the music, but NOT appropriate for a massage. He had to step out of the room.  I ran over and turned the volume down.  When he came back he cranked it up.

Yes that is partially on me for not saying something. BUT (always a but) a good masseur would ask if the music (temp lighting etc) is ok before proceeding and throughout the massage - IMHO

There are some genres of music I believe should never be played during a massage… rap music is one of them. Add rock, heavy metal, techno and any form of “club” music to the mix of music “no-nos”

Interruptions. 

A while back, I had a masseur who kept stopping, going to get the massage product, having to pee, then sipping on water. He didn’t understand that a massage is supposed to be a full flow….. 
 

2 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

"Sex and the city" used to be a parody, now it's a reality. 

Pussy is not worth what it used to. 

I should clarify that I’m referring to “free pussy”. 

it’s value is in the fact that a man will get access to stick his dick in it. 

On 3/13/2024 at 3:48 PM, marylander1940 said:

Why just gay men? 

Are you implying bi men and straight men are less flaky? 

When a straight man gets the opportunity to get some pussy, he’s not going to flake. 
 

And if he does, it’s because he has the option of better pussy to get. 
 

I think with setting times for various purposes, people have relied more on over communicating useless information. Instead of texting back & forth on an ETA, like it’s a moving target,  Just set a firm time, state that you’ll text them when you either park, or when your Uber drops you off, and you’re done. 
 

Easy sensible example:

”Hey let’s hook up.”

” Cool, your place or mine?”

“Mine? What time is good?” 

“10pm”

”ok. Cool. I’ll text you when I park.” 

9:50pm….

”Hey, I just parked” 

“Cool. Come up around 9:55 and I’ll buzz you in.” 

Done. Simple & efficient. 

On 3/21/2024 at 8:39 AM, marylander1940 said:

Last night I made arrangements to see a provider I've met before just 7 blocks away. I'm at 16th and T NW and he was staying at 11th and U NW.

He asked: "How long will it take you to get here?"

"Whatever it takes me to get dressed and walk 7 blocks" I said to him. 

 

You play a significant role in the lack of clarity in confirming an ETA in this scenario. 
 

Why not just set an actual time? 
 

How was this guy supposed to determine what “whatever it takes me to get dressed and walk 7 blocks”, means in terms of time? 
 

Hello, 

Bumping this up to see if anyone else has tried this guy out. 

I’m looking to test the waters this week. 
 

1 hour ago, Buff Daddy said:

That's it? 2 plus years. I Know someone in Florida who got 10 years beating up his Sisters BF because the BF was abusing her.🙄

Hard lesson: Never get involved in domestic violence issues. 
Women need to stop calling their male family members and call the cops. 
 

12 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

 

I should point out my first sexual experience (full on sex) was with someone who was 17 when I was 14 (a rather significant difference at that stage) I considered myself extremely lucky to have learned about sexuality from a more experienced and mature woman.

Does it become "rape" only because the person is male instead of female ? 🤔

I’m glad you made this point. 

My first sexual experience with a man was about 17 as well… and the man was 30. We both knew he could get in trouble and (from looking back at the entire scenario of how he even met me) one could say he was a bit “predatory”. However, I was a willing participant and really wanted that experience, and it was one of the best sexual experiences I ever had. 

On 3/17/2024 at 8:50 AM, pubic_assistance said:

I agree.

So much easier to deal with when it's an ugly person..

You nailed it. 👍🏾

18 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

And then there’s the “bro code” mentality… and the possibility that come of them were okay with it at the time~ Males process sexuality differently than women at time~ there have been so many times that I’ve heard guys talk about having sex with somebody besides their partner and justify it by saying it wasn’t sex, because it was only a blowjob, or was only a hand job… it was sex with another guy and I with a woman and therefore doesn’t count to sex. Not throwing any judgment at all but, it’s definitely something I’ve heard from guys in the past~ I’m really not picking any sides here… I’m just adding an element to the conversation~ 

I’m in full agreement with you. 
And with the clips you posted, it reminds me of this: most of the sexually “questionable” things I’ve had happen to me in my life has always been in  male concentrated environments (sports, locker rooms, even hanging out and getting a little buzzed) with “straight” men. 

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

No. I am not.

I simply coax them into wearing a jockstrap,  I make them think I have an underwear fetish, not a revulsion to uncut dick.

So now you’ve confirmed  dishonesty and manipulation (hence the “coaxing”) too. 
 

You’re a true class act. 

39 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

We all have an origin story.

Which is why it's ridiculous to attempt to apply YOUR standards of what's "normal" sexually to another person with a different origin story. Sexuality is a private matter with lots of subconscious drivers. 

For whatever reasons I generally favor men with dark hair and brown eyes. So Latino men often catch my attention...but I usually pass knowing what I'm going to have to deal with down under. (Unless they're SO sub that i wont be expected to reciprocate). So I sympathize with the OP who started this thread.  There are some places in Latin America where hospitals will recommend circumcision for baby boys. So it's not an impossible find.

In a pinch, I  just ask an uncut bottom to wear a jockstrap so I don't have to look at it. 🙈

I’ve never set any “standards” for anyone’s preferences. 

I set standards for decorum, consideration and respect. Those are the “standards” you have difficulty comprehending and demonstrating.

But I understand that your “subconscious drivers”, and your “origin story” will usually lead you in the same direction every time. 
 

33 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

We all have an origin story.

Which is why it's ridiculous to attempt to apply YOUR standards of what's "normal" sexually to another person with a different origin story. Sexuality is a private matter with lots of subconscious drivers. 

For whatever reasons I generally favor men with dark hair and brown eyes. So Latino men often catch my attention...but I usually pass knowing what I'm going to have to deal with down under. (Unless they're SO sub that i wont be expected to reciprocate). So I sympathize with the OP who started this thread.  There are some places in Latin America where hospitals will recommend circumcision for baby boys. So it's not an impossible find.

In a pinch, I  just ask an uncut bottom to wear a jockstrap so I don't have to look at it. 🙈

Are you telling those Latino men that you have sex with (who are uncut bottoms), that you think their uncut penises are disgusting? 

Since you’re unabashedly blunt, with no concern for insulting others in these forums in these forums, I wonder if you behave the same way in those scenarios too. 
 

4 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Most likely true. I grew up in an all white American small city where everyone was circumcised. So that's what looks "normal" to me. It's a reasonable argument that had circumcision not been the standard, I wouldn't be repulsed by it. But the fact remains that I didn't see an uncut dick for many years. So my mind says "yuck" when I see one. Nothing I can do to change that.

Well….. sharing that you grew  up in an all white American small city, and your mind saying “yuck”, to things that weren’t the “standard”, based on your environment, this speaks volumes to your pathology, how you think, and the comments you make in these forums.