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1 hour ago, Km411 said:

I have noticed quite a few providers will say something to the effect of “all ages, ethnicities welcome” or “into older men” or “disabilities welcome” and similar statements. I think these guys are true professionals. People are who they are, and have their turn ons and offs, but to me a good provider should not have these kinds of limitations. But I’m not a provider and don’t walk in their shoes….

I see your point. 
but I will always recognize that the “personal” professions (massage, escorting, etc.) are going to involve some form of prejudice and “ism”.  
 

What I always say is this:

if one has discrimination issues when it comes to: school admissions, employment, housing, or general civil rights, then they are dead wrong. 
 

But of one has their biases based on who they want to touch or have sex with, then I have no place telling them that they should be “equal opportunity”. It’s their bodies, and their choice. 
 

just be real about that, and respectful. 

On 2/3/2024 at 4:15 PM, Guest said:

Don’t waste your time on Roux. Wasted hours chatting with him until we confirmed a meeting. When i asked him about his compatibility with asian men, he decided we shouldn’t meet anymore. He claimed we were no longer “compatible.” When someone tells you who they are, trust him. He should’ve been straight (no pun intended) about his racial preferences from the beginning and shouldn’t have wasted my time. 

I’m glad you brought this topic up. As a black man, I wish everyone were just flat out honest with their racial preferences. It would make a lot of things easier; from sites like RM and MF to even dating and hookup apps. 
 

The era of wokeness, shaming people for hiding their “preferences”, just promotes dishonesty and confusion. 
 

Personally, I’d love for profiles to clearly state what they prefer by race, age, and body type, so I will know who to reach out to, and who to block. 
 

Playing the code game to determine if I’m someone’s type is annoying. And I want to know if I’m not compatible with someone because I’m black, rather than be left in confusion. 

20 hours ago, Boaxxx said:

I've always seen a number of providers from Brazil but then lately there seems to be so many from Venezuela and Colombia which makes me wonder why? Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining as I think they are gorgeous but I've just noticed lately that so many are from those particular countries. Are most of them actually train massage therapist or to think they're just offering a sensual/erotic experience?

Most of them are not trained. As
masseurs, they are selling you sex appeal, and the thought that the massage may go further, but skills are rare. 
 

Easy answer:

Fantastic bodies

Awesome exotic looks

Big “parts” 

add an insatiable libido to the mix and they have found their niche. 
 

But many of them have found the easier benefit of becoming “masseurs” (with no training or skills) . It’s easier to make 200-300 bucks by slathering oil or lotion on some horny guy, without having to actually have sex with him. 
 

His rates include what I call the “beauty inflation fee”

In his mind, his potential clients aren’t  paying for a massage at all, nor should they expect a good one… What they are paying for is to be in the presence of someone that looks as good as him. 

men are shallow… and a man in this business who understands the “capital” of his good looks is smart. 
 

For for all of the hot guys on massage sites who charge high rates (when they typically have no massage skills or training) because they are “worth it”, I say more power to them and use what they got to get what they want while they are in their prime. 

On 1/28/2024 at 4:56 PM, pubic_assistance said:

I stated the FACT that everyone has also reinforced.

If you want an older masseur in NYC, you're better off on the apps.

No one has proven me wrong.

 

People have also “reinforced” what I said about you. 

Does that make my statements “facts” too?

based on your logic, it does 😎

On 1/26/2024 at 9:51 AM, pubic_assistance said:

News flash:

People are attracted to what they are attracted to. EVERYONE makes judgements about what and who they are attracted to ( and who they are not ).

MOST gay men want YOUNG GOODLOOKING providers.

That's why MOST ALL "Men's Spas" staff their business with YOUNG guys.

FACT

We've heard lots of opinions here as to whether NYC is a landscape for the old-man fetish at spas..and the conclusion was that MOST older providers are working independently. There were a few (very few) exceptions to the rule mentioned which is what the conversation is about: "Massage Parlor with older masseurs".

Too many people here, keep rattling-on about the merits of hiring an old man without providing any suggestions about where to find one in a Men's Spa in New York.

Please stay on topic.

 

Says the person who got OFF topic. 

The OP specifically asked for spas with Older masseurs. 

You decided to give your personal opinion of what you thought about older providers. 

Not once did anyone in this thread ask for your personal opinions on age or personal preferences. 
 

But I do want to congratulate you. I want to award you with the “Troll of the thread” award. 🍾🏆🥇🏆🎖️ as you have gone above and beyond, to not only veer off topic, but to insult other members on this thread.

I commend you for your outstanding efforts.

Congratulations!!!

-and to the moderator… we don’t need this thread closed, nor do we need any adversarial actions. If you want to hold someone accountable. It’s @pubic_assistance. His exchanges in the threads clearly prove this.-

Good Day Everyone!!! 😘

On 1/18/2024 at 8:29 PM, caramelsub said:

I’ve never heard of homosexuality being part of tribal hunting culture in many parts of Africa, though I’m not trying to negate your claim. All I know is most of Africa is very homophobic. With strict gender roles for men and women. Men work and make a living while the women do domestic things, stay home and raise the kids. Most Africans in the continent (not really the ones who have immigrated to America and Europe) are very conservative because of their religious beliefs.

Those religious beliefs were programmed into those African cultures through colonialism, from European Settlers. 

Homophobic beliefs came from that source. 
 

On 1/18/2024 at 8:29 PM, caramelsub said:

I’ve never heard of homosexuality being part of tribal hunting culture in many parts of Africa, though I’m not trying to negate your claim. All I know is most of Africa is very homophobic. With strict gender roles for men and women. Men work and make a living while the women do domestic things, stay home and raise the kids. Most Africans in the continent (not really the ones who have immigrated to America and Europe) are very conservative because of their religious beliefs.

Homosexuality is visually depicted on ancient artifacts , in hieroglyphics. 
 

3 hours ago, BSR said:

Elise Stefanik did have a tough question waiting for Gay, but Gay's response to the easy question ("Does calling for the genocide of Jews violate Harvard's rules on bullying and harassment?”) left Stefanik so flabbergasted that she never got to ask the "set-up" question:  "What are you going to do about it?"  That was the question Stefanik expected Gay to fumble because the first question is a no-brainer, as evidenced by Gay's retraction days later.

Forget the hearing, Gay's fate was sealed when for much too long she allowed calls for genocide of Jews to be expressed openly and freely at Harvard.  

The reason why Gay “failed” at answering this question was because she gave the exact same answer that she (along with any other President of a University) would give, if the subject of hate were blacks, homosexuals, or any other marginalized group that people are protected by the misinterpretation of free speech to abuse. 
 

She (strangely) didn’t understand that although misinterpretations of free speech can be used as a method to defend harmful language being spewed about other marginalized groups, this does not apply to Jews. 
 

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Guess we aren't going to be friends 🙃

 

Actually, I’d love to be your friend. You need someone to call you out and hold you accountable. 

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Sorry you feel that way.

 

The classic backhanded apology. 
 

I rest my case. 

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Interesting viewpoint. But no.

Doesn't matter. Some of the others found some stale bread to recommend.

I personally have never seen anything but young twinks.at those locations. Apparently they hide the old men in the back. Must be a special request as a fetish.

Ummm….

it does matter. How one delivers his message usually determines how the receiver accepts that message, if it’s correct/incorrect, true/false. 
 

The issue with your statement is not that it’s incorrect, because I agree with you.  
 

It’s  that you are an arse in your delivery. 
 

You can’t present caviar on a pile of cow dung, and expect people to eat it. 
 

16 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

 

I am equally confused about why "sweetie" is insistent I am wrong but simultaneously can't seem to find what they are looking for.

It’s because your delivery is atrocious (and you know it) 
You enjoy being trite. 
You also enjoy acting surprised when someone calls you out on it. 
 

I use rewards based credit cards a lot. 
and I always use them for large purchases… here’s my system:

1.) use card with points, make big purchases…. Pay the full balance off, and then use the points to get gift cards or travel rewards.

2.) use other rewards cards to department stores and go crazy during their “buy more save more”, themed promotions. especially the ones where they offer you gift cards for the amount you purchase. 
I specifically do this at Saks and Bloomingdale’s and will just pay the card off,  before the next due date and then accept the gift cards. 
 

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Sidebar:

Gay circuit events still exist?  Hell...  Who goes to these kinds of things?  Did the younger gay gens adopt them?

From what I remember going to a few in the mid-2000s, the music was pots-and-pans shit, the costumes ridiculous and the meth/k/x/coke flocked the multitude of crackheads like the swallows of Capistrano.

That was one of the best descriptions of circuit events. Ever. 

Aside from my earlier post, I completely understand that most guys now are “anti-condom”, which is a reality. 
 

I just had an idea: 

I would love to see medical organizations partner with advocacy groups and conduct a study, where for at least one year, at all gay-themed, circuit events, Prep, DoxyPrEP, and the “Peanut Butter Shot” are all administered as part of registration and entry. 

Then monitor the numbers for STD transmission rates following. 

I think this would have a good impact. 

On 7/29/2023 at 1:41 PM, TruthBTold said:

It looks as if they are beginning to study the possibility of not wearing condoms during sex and not worrying totally about acquiring STDs.  They are (at least in the Lancet) still worrying about some unintended side effects.  We shall see.  And I am interpreting it to mean this is why the non-condom wearer is either on PrEP or on 2-1-1 PrEP.  Here's hoping.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2023/07/24/doxypep-std-sti-prevention

These medications were developed as an added layer to safe sex practices, and were never intended to replace them. 

These meds also aren’t intended for lifetime use either… 

So the idea of having a permanent prescription for these and being an extreme “sex positive” barebacking/felching cum dumpster (or depositor), won’t be sustainable in the long run. 
 

These pharmaceutical companies have a demonic sense of humor. 
 

It seems like any drug that has a convenient benefit to the consumer always has terrible side effects.

7 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Maybe her BMW was a programmed to drive like a woman, too, and therefore it would still get lost!

LOL…..

I agree!!! The level of indecision, getting lost, and asking questions that occurs with women are exhausting.

Earlier this summer I was shopping in a store and this woman was driving her husband crazy…. Peppering him with questions, suggestions, and indecisions. 
 

He was exercising the patience of JOB with dealing with her…. 
 

He looked at me with sadness as if we could trauma bond…. 
 

I said “sorry dude, I’m gay… I don’t  have those problems. 

I’ve been stood up once. It turned out to be a blessing, after I found his terrible reviews. 
 

I saved some potentially wasted cash by being stood up. 
 

On 8/2/2023 at 2:21 PM, marylander1940 said:

Even in DC... folks get lost and I'm talking about nowadays with iPhone and google maps, picture before without it. 

Folks from Maryland are famous for driving into the city using the avenues and not being able to get off from them and check the numbers of the streets, while Virginians who most of the time take 14th St bridge know how to find the other numbers.

I know some might use it as an excuse but do folks actually get lost? Do they go to another Hilton hotel? If your hotel room is 1420 do you have to explain that's on the 14ht floor? 

Lack of common sense and critical thinking is a plague that has impacted many. 

Even  with a smartphone, Google, GPS, and cars that will drive for you, people will still get lost and can’t seem how to figure things out. 

I had an associate (we all live in DC), who could never make it to brunches or dinners on time as she was always lost. This one particular time, she called me from her 2020 BMW, asking me for directions. All she had to do was enter the address into the dashboard of her car. 

At this point, when anyone is “lost” or “confused” about anything, and either google or AI can answer the question, I don’t even respond. 

I think that they type of massage one expects depends on the source/paradigm by which you hired them:

1.) Hired  from a “physical therapy” perspective, from your healthcare provider? Therapeutic with absolutely no expectation of Happy Ending? 

2.) Professional Spas  (like High-End Hotel Spas and high-end Spa Chains): Therapeutic with no expectation of Happy Ending.

3.) Sites like Rentmasseur, Rentmen and Masseurfinder: Sensual to Erotic Massage with a happy Ending. 
 

On 10/29/2022 at 3:08 PM, Luv2play said:

Why in heaven's name would a normal, well adjusted person need a therapist? 

Because a normal, well adjusted person doesn’t exist. 

15 hours ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

The reason why I’m posting all these messages, is to show that these things I talk about are reality, and nobody can gaslight that existence. 

Dude, the only person who is doing the “gaslighting”, is you. And you’re gaslighting yourself. 

You’re so deluded in your conundrums of “battles”, that you can’t even see your role in being a CONTRIBUTOR in ever single circumstance you’ve mentioned being a “problem” with a client. 

But I will give you your due credit, Barnum & Bailey has nothing on you…. You know how to entertain in these forums and put on the “Greatest Show on Earth!!!”