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Or join the forum and say good things about Miguel. 

Welcome to the forum Musclelover69.  I see you just joined an hour ago.
To reply to your post: Not sure what Miguel’s skills or his being newly jacked has anything to do with the simple fact that he took a good faith deposit from me and disappeared. I had seen Miguel once before this incident happened and he knew I was legit, so any stalker thing he might have experienced had nothing to do with his decision to rip me off. You say “there must be a reason” he did this, yet when I reached out to Miguel several times to learn this very reason, I was ghosted by him. He had plenty of opportunity to provide a reasonable explanation and/or reimburse me. 

Guys strutting around in leather, trying to get laid. It’s not complicated. 

I agree that you are making this a bigger deal than it is.
I assume you messaged none of them -- that they first messaged you after noticing you viewed their ads?  If that's the case, then if you know you never want to meet certain of them you can simply ignore them.  You aren't required to book someone just because you looked at his ad.  If you do think you want to hire one or more of them at a later date, though, I think you can simply reply and say that you aren't prepared to meet with them now but will reach out at another time to schedule something.  End of story.

When I first opened my store in 1987, I had just turned 24 years old. I was fortunate that I had some 'small business managerial experience' behind me (while I put myself through college) and had some mentors who had their own business over the past 5+ years advising me. That's what made me successful from the beginning - but I still had a huge 'learning lesson' ahead of me with customers.
Some of the best advice I got early on (from a neighboring storeowner who had been in business for 7 years - she owned a children's toy store) : "Don't let your customers run your store,"  meaning : do what you can for your customers, but set boundaries and limits. You don't say "Yes" to everyone and every thing. It's OK to say 'No'; your customers respect you even more for setting your limits.
I think this advice goes to providers, as well. (This goes on 'price negotiations' as well - if someone hesitates over a price, you stand firm. If they want you they will pay the price for your services.)  
She also said to me, "This is your business - don't let it become your grave."  Such sound advice, and true for providers as well - set your working hours / travel days, etc.  and learn to take time off and keep time to yourself each week. She told me to 'learn to lock the doors and walk away' (not worrying about customers I might 'miss' when I'm closed - they will come back). 
My advice to providers - 'Learn to shut the cell phone off and put it away, until you're back from your refresher time (whether it be a weekend, a Monday & Tuesday, a week's vacation, etc.). '  Don't worry about clients you might miss when you're 'closed for business'; they will come back.

Who the fuck cares? This is another example of the dumbing down of our forums.

I agree its difficult to figure out, so I've come to the conclusion, you just have to ask the provider!   

It has happened several times over the course of hiring. Most recent was last month. He even confirmed the appointment, too. Heard from him 2 hours after said appointment, and said no thanks when he offered to come by. They never get a second chance. 

The younger generation's way of thinking is the result of parents from our generation telling them that they deserve everything good and nothing bad. That has translated into self-entitlement, self-centeredness, and attention seeking. It's not that cut and dry, but overall, culturally speaking, that's what we can normally expect from them. Additionally, some providers seem to think that because we're the clients and willing to pay them, that we are also willing to wait or put up with whatever nonsense they come up with.
Like others have mentioned, be clear about the scheduling and timing, and cancel if he's not willing to honor your schedule. Of course, within reason, meaning, sometimes there are legitimate reasons for being late.

Anyone remembers Tony Zerega? Very hot and sweet man. A lifetime ago....

Grindr is for the young and handsome/pretty.  It seems to work much better if you're in a big city.  Having said that, it's mostly a waste a time for me.  I am honest in showing my actual body and age and, as others have mentioned, I let other's reach out to me if they are interested.  It very rarely leads to a connection.
I am SO HAPPY, I grew up in an era when there were no smartphones.  The hook-up spots were campus bathrooms, adult bookstores, and backrooms in some of the bars.  No bots in the equation at all.  You saw exactly what you were going to get and they were there for the same reason as you were.   Not nearly the number of games that go on today with the hook-up aps.   Much simpler and more honest IMO.

You need thick skin if you’re going to play in the Grindr et al. sandbox.
People are cruel. And if you care, you’ll get hurt. 
No…like seriously THICK skin.
Over the years I can remember exactly two "really fun" hook ups from the apps. That’s a really shitty return on the huge time investment. Not to mention the tremendous ego damage.
Just hire. It’s so much easier. 

I have the opposite experience.
I have had a few hook ups with couples. In both instances I was turned OFF when they started making-out with each other.
When I hire I want to be the center of attention, not be witness to someone else's romantic connection.
 
 

My personal sex life is a casualty of being in this biz. It’s one of the tough costs of doing this work that clients fortunately don’t have to think about. The question for me is not how, but if I do it at all.
Oftentimes I lack desire for sexual intimacy outside work for a number of reasons:
1) At any given time, I’m emotionally and sexually spent, and can’t do any more if I wanted to. I would have to do double duty work of advocating for my own needs in addition to (yet again) focusing on others’ needs in order attract their interest and commitment to meet. I don’t hire, but I see the appeal. I’d rather have someone focus on my needs and not their own for a change.
2) Opportunity costs. I’m concerned that wasting my mojo on something unpaid may affect my ability to provide a stellar experience for the next client. That next client may only be willing to request a same day appointment. I have to be ready, or prepared to miss out on that income I need to make my life work.
3) there’s the psychological mind fuck dynamic of: “I could be getting paid $XXX for this right now and I’m giving it away for free.”  Almost like volunteering your professional skills and time for an uncharitable cause. My personal fulfillment in the experience has to exceed that psychological barrier by so much that I can let it go and actually enjoy myself. That’s a tall order, at least for me.
4) I have no time, patience, or energy for it. I could spend weeks on apps and never get anywhere. Lots of frogs out there. I know because I use apps for work and man, it’s pretty bleak. What little time left I have outside work is better spent on other things.
5) Clients are all over the apps. It would be a nightmare trying to manage who’s blocked, who’s a client, who’s a potential client that I just don’t know yet. People know what I do and want to hire me or talk about work on the app, or spend chat time comparing hiring with hookups as if they are exactly the same thing. Boring. Then there’s worrying about presenting yourself the wrong way and losing clients because of it…it’s all just too much to manage. 
6) STIs. The fewer encounters I have, the less likely I will be to contract or transmit an STI. I constantly consider my clients and want them to feel comfortable that I’m not being unnecessarily reckless. I have way less sex compared to many of my non-provider peers, even though this is my job. My clients, on average, aren’t having that much multiple partner sex either, but it varies. When I’m out of commission due to recovery time from clearing an STI, that’s lost income. So yeah, it’s a cost to consider, and one I want to minimize.
7) Few people are worth my time.
😎 I have a partner. His needs come first after work obligations. Recreational activity is necessarily limited to the periods we decide we’re open. So…the preceding points notwithstanding, it ain’t gonna happen when we’re not open anyway!
9) Considering all the above, the planets will sooner align before I get some off the clock.
So my answer is: I just don’t. The deck is stacked, at least for me. Then again I’m sure other providers don’t put as much thought into all this as I do, and they’re probably better for it. 

Yes! We used to go together to Rockhard DC! I just checked my phone, and our last contact was in October 2021. I just texted him. If he responds, I will report back.

Indeed, aging makes us less attractive for most young men. However, it makes me sad when I see older men who think they are unattractive for ALL younger men. I wish them a better luck. 

I assume some similar reasons when providers stand up clients.  I have traveled to hotels where an escort is staying and rang and texted them, only to be ignored.  I have had confirmed appointments at my home where the provider simply never showed up and didn't reply to texts asking where he is.
So my #1 reason is that some people are just inconsiderate and think that plans made with others don't need to be kept if they decide to do something else, whatever that may be.
 

It’s tricky. I always try to give with an open hand, but a simple "thank you" card goes a long way towards insuring that same generosity is there the next time an "unexpected need" arises. And it always does arise eventually. 
To me the worst is finding out that your generosity to help a relative "pay the rent" was instead used to fund a vacation in Florida because "it’s been a really stressful time for us and we felt like we deserved it" (no joke). 

Pretty sure there is function to view anonymously.  
You’re way overthinking it - they are offering professional services, I doubt your profile makes them “interested” or not.  If interested, just contact them directly by text/whatsapp.  Not complicated 

I find it weird when I get those messages from providers asking if I am interested in scheduling an appointment.
Obviously I'm not.
I looked at the profile and didn't message him.
Pretty clear to me that he was a "pass".
 

I have met Jay numerous times over the last couple of years. He's an amazing guy who never disappoints. He's incredibly sexy and skilled at what he does, as well as a kind and sweet personality. He radiates great energy when you are with him. 

Is it just me…or is as though his many messages in this thread sound so much like the words and phrasing used by another provider who is a totally different person…? Even the need to inundate us with responses. Just…uncanny similarities.

Have you tried waiting until after 4 p.m. to book a room? They drop their prices since it's unlikely they'll get customers. I've saved about a third of the overpriced, undeserving hotel fees that way.
If there's no events near the hotel, and no reason to expect it would fill up, you can get roomd a lot cheaper. 
I've done this several times when grabbing rooms to meet providers in. Again, it only works on down days.

I would say Kris Parkes if he came to DC more often. 

No kissing + no oral = absolutely no hiring.