Handjobs a letdown?

[Mark_fl]

Maybe it's me (usually is 😉), but I'm really only interested in an oral happy ending to a massage. It's easy enough to say that with an escort, but it seems over the line for a sensual massage.

Is anyone else like this and how do you broach rhe topic? Frankly, I can jerk myself off. Sure, it's nice when it's someone else, but I really want what I can't do myself ;).  Not interested in anal, so it seems like getting an escort is a bit of overkill.

Thoughts or tips to not make this awkward or offend a masseur?

[maninsoma]

I'll be blunt (I frequently am):  You think that hiring an escort for oral only is a "bit of overkill" but isn't hiring a masseur for oral sex the reverse?  That being said, a lot of guys advertise as masseurs yet it's clear they are actually doing sex work, and a lot of guys advertising on Rentmen focus on massage.  I don't think any masseur that I hired whom I asked if more was on the table for an additional fee were offended, but I definitely received a lot of "no" answers along with many "yes" answers with an indication of how much more compensation they expected.  And, as I have posted previously, I have had numerous experiences where masseurs went a lot further with me than I anticipated.

I guess my advice is that as long as you aren't hiring men off websites where it's clear they are not offering gay-male focused massage, you should feel comfortable asking for what you want.  Just don't be a jerk about it and expect escort-lite experiences for the same price as a rub-and-tug.

[DMonDude]

What Maninsoma said.

Escorts aren't "over kill" (some even charge less for oral/side only sessions), you don't have to do anal or "go all the way" with escorts just because they're escorts. And any masseurs who offers HE is at the very least used to being asked if they offer other services beyond that, and plenty of them do. There's a ton of overlap in providers and services they offer on RentMasseur and RentMen.

Just ask the masseur if they offer extras and if they say yes, mention you would like to receive oral and see if they say yes.

[Becket]

Yes, you should always ask. And the provider can always decline.  Once a provider was awesome, the sex was some of the best I ever had. Then I asked to cuddle for a few minutes and he looked at me as if I wanted to munch on the contents of his colon. Made a horrible face then dressed and left in a flash. 

One never knows what the provider will or won't do unless you ask.

[ACluelessGent]

Masseurs who give handjobs are escorts. And what is this "provider" thing? Why not escorts? It is amusing to see a forum for escort reviews to avoid the word escort. Let's start calling the escorts escorts. 🤣

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, ACluelessGent said:

Masseurs who give handjobs are escorts. And what is this "provider" thing? Why not escorts? It is amusing to see a forum for escort reviews to avoid the word escort. Let's start calling the escorts escorts. 🤣

What's in a name? That which we call a rose,
By any other name would smell as sweet.

 

[Becket]

1 hour ago, ACluelessGent said:

Masseurs who give handjobs are escorts. And what is this "provider" thing? Why not escorts? It is amusing to see a forum for escort reviews to avoid the word escort. Let's start calling the escorts escorts. 🤣

I do not want to be called a john. Nor do I think that the word "provider" is the same as, and should be replaced by, a couple of the words one could use instead of "provider." And I would disagree. A massage appointment is NOT the same as an appointment between a provider and a client. 

Yes, we all know what this is, we all know what goes on. I appreciate the words at which you seem to roll your eyes. These words demonstrate a level of mutual trust and respect for both parties in the appointment. And please don't roll your eyes at me either. I see you, LOL. I am NOT some politically correct progressive "panty waist" (my Dad's favorite words), liberal, tree hugger, save the whales dude. In truth I am a good ole boy from the deep south who loved his mama, baseball, hot dogs, apple pie, and Chevrolet. I can't stand the PC police. 

But I like the guys who do this for a living. And I like the guys who give them money  for their "time." And yea, I want them to like me as well. It's my fantasy. I'm not paying for a hot young guy's time who is gonna do nasty things with me. I'm taking that hottie on a date. And we are gonna enjoy each other's company. And if I play my cards right, I might get lucky later on. That's my fantasy. Don't muck it up by making me face reality. I got plenty of reality at home.

LOL Tongue in Cheek, etc. etc. 

Edited 22 minutes ago by Becket
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