Why did you quit?

[Nightowl]

I’ve seen a number of guys on this forum indicate that they no longer hire which makes me wonder why.  If you stopped hiring or stopped massaging/escorting, can you share what led you to that decision?  

Update: just realized this probably belongs under “hiring.” Admins, feel free to move it.

Edited May 5 by Nightowl

[+ poolboy48220]

I can't imagine that I would flat-out quit, but I've definitely slowed down since I started in my mid-20's. Less desire as I get older, a bit more careful about money, and much pickier about finding a guy I would hire.

[marylander1940]

I won't quit... but some might and have because of:

• lack of desire
• cost of living
• economic uncertainty
• changing personal circumstances: relationship, finding fulfilling free sex with other guys, 
• downsizing / rightsizing expenses

[MscleLovr]

I stopped hiring years ago when I met my partner.

He is an intelligent, kind, much younger man. if he were to die or break up with me, I might reconsider.

I have the strong impression, however, that very few providers - who are my ideal type (handsome, young muscle-bottoms) - would want to offer their services to a man in his 70s.

[jeezifonly]

A gifted masseur I repeat-hired a while back was in med school. Once he hit residency, he had offsetting FT income, and no time to do massage. Pity. He had great hands. 

[dcguy20]

I have to be in a very particular mood now to hire, which I noticed is slowing down. This is true even with guys I have had a great time with. 

[marylander1940]

7 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I stopped hiring years ago when I met my partner.

He is an intelligent, kind, much younger man. if he were to die or break up with me, I might reconsider.

I have the strong impression, however, that very few providers - who are my ideal type (handsome, young muscle-bottoms) - would want to offer their services to a man in his 70s.

MANY clients are your age or older.

Most escorts accept all clients no matter age, size, etc. they simply take into account the client's expectations to make sure they're compatible. 

[Nue2thegame]

8 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I stopped hiring years ago when I met my partner.

He is an intelligent, kind, much younger man. if he were to die or break up with me, I might reconsider.

I have the strong impression, however, that very few providers - who are my ideal type (handsome, young muscle-bottoms) - would want to offer their services to a man in his 70s.

I’m your age and just getting started. 

[Nightowl]

1 minute ago, Nue2thegame said:

I’m your age and just getting started. 

I’m that age too and only started four years ago.  I’ll keep going until the rejections become too frequent, the funds run out, or my body no longer cooperates.

[MscleLovr]

7 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Most escorts accept all clients no matter age, size, etc.

I wasn’t making any observations about escorts in general or meaning any disrespect towards sex workers and clients.

I merely observed that my ideal type (handsome young muscle-bottoms) don’t usually want old clients. When such guys think of older tops, they imagine them being 35-55.

I’ve known various escorts socially through the gym. Over the years, I’ve heard several express their views on servicing old clients 70+. Of course, it is a business and most realise that older men with money can make reliable clients. 

[+ Pensant]

For me, it’s the declining quality and attractiveness on offer compared to ten or fifteen years ago. I also have a lot of other things going on in my life these days, all fulfilling, which leaves me less time for this hobby.

[mtaabq]

14 hours ago, dcguy20 said:

I have to be in a very particular mood now to hire, which I noticed is slowing down. This is true even with guys I have had a great time with. 

I would like to echo this sentiment. I only seem to hire when I travel. In my home city I am quite fortunate to have two f**k buddies who are very accommodating. On the road, when the desire and funds are there, I’ll hire. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I’m not hiring less but I’m hiring from a smaller pool.  As @Pensant indicates, quality options are few and far between and I’m taking a concerted focus on quality (and importing talent for weekend trips is not cheap…so predictable is important)

[+ Charlie]

I simply lost interest in it as I aged, as I did with a lot of other things that I enjoyed when I was younger. I would rather give the money to charities and causes that I care about. (If there were a rest home for homeless old providers, I would rather donate to them.)

[marylander1940]

11 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

I wasn’t making any observations about escorts in general or meaning any disrespect towards sex workers and clients.

I merely observed that my ideal type (handsome young muscle-bottoms) don’t usually want old clients. When such guys think of older tops, they imagine them being 35-55.

I’ve known various escorts socially through the gym. Over the years, I’ve heard several express their views on servicing old clients 70+. Of course, it is a business and most realise that older men with money can make reliable clients. 

They might have some preference about younger in shape clients like and appreciate when they meet guys like that but they are escorts they want out money.

Most guys that I know always find something the light in a client for inspiration besides taking Viagra.

[marylander1940]

2 hours ago, Charlie said:

I simply lost interest in it as I aged, as I did with a lot of other things that I enjoyed when I was younger. I would rather give the money to charities and causes that I care about. (If there were a rest home for homeless old providers, I would rather donate to them.)

Have you tried testosterone to boost your libido? 

I've been doing it for 5 years. Great choice!

 

Edited May 7 by marylander1940

[+ JamesB]

While I’m still actively hiring, I have to agree with @Pensant. The drop in quality lately has been pretty discouraging. Sometimes the amount of time wasted searching and filtering through disappointing experiences honestly makes me feel like giving it up altogether.

[+ Charlie]

22 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

Have you tried testosterone to boost your libido? 

I've been doing it for 5 years. Great choice!

 

My doctor wanted to give me something to boost my libido, but I told him my life was easier without it.

[+ Gar1eth]

Lack of funds. On top of that even if I had the funds-and  maybe it's just sour grapes -since I don't-but there aren't as many guys (in Dallas at least) that I'd be interested in as there were years ago. 
 

I like masculine gay athletic/muscular guys  who are either versatile or bottom. And here's the kicker - I prefer  Europeans and not Latin American heritage guys. That doesn't mean I haven't hired Latinos before. I have. And generally I've had a good time. But my number one type-think of Tom Chase or Trey Rexx back in their glory days. And most of the guys advertising in Texas these days seem to be Latino. 

[CheckCar]

I haven’t completely abandoned hiring, but I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to (so much so that sometimes it feels like I’ve quit). My reasons:

• The frequency of poor-to-non-existent massage skills (since I primarily stick to masseurs), even from those who’ve received flattering reviews from others on this site
• The amount of time and effort it takes to “research” new potential providers every time my current go-to moves away, leaves the business, or offers increasingly underwhelming service
• My growing concerns as I get older about safety (especially with a new provider, given how physically vulnerable we can be as clients) and privacy (again, especially with a new provider)
• My desire (while there’s still time) for a more fulfilling intimacy with someone who might actually be into me, not my payment for service

 

[geminibear]

In 2018, I stepped away from traditional hiring and ventured into the world of sugar dating, finding it far more compatible with my lifestyle, needs, and desires. After a few initial tries, I found an incredible local guy, and we shared a highly successful, mutually beneficial 7-year arrangement.

He became my best friend. Together, we learned and respected each other's boundaries, needs, and expectations. I enjoyed supporting him with a modest allowance and gifts, and in return, I had a reliable, wonderful companion to share my favorite things with—including weekend getaways, clothing,  concerts, sporting events, and over ten amazing vacations. We communicated almost daily, sharing flirty texts and photos just to stay connected without the feeling that I needed to pay him or was wasting his time. When we planned getting together I knew I could always rely on him not to cancel and to always be up for and ready to play if I so desired. I understand that this isn't the case for every sugar relationship and I do consider myself extremely lucky to have found him and kept his interest for so long.

Our arrangement ended amicably this past February as life took us in different directions, though we remain close friends and still text daily and I still occasionally get a naked pic.  Now, I am considering returning to the world of hiring.

[dbar123]

I stopped hiring as my tastes have changed. I started wrestling and I’ve found a bunch of local guys who enjoy wrestling each other. It makes everyone a bit horny so the sexual interactions are actually more engaging and satisfying….and free. I’m spending more of my money on massage. After wrestling I really need it.

[TUOT89]

For me, 

declining quality and/or becoming too picky

and a strange experience with one of my last hires. 

(At the time, the experience was somewhat scary, but now it is just a strange memory.)