Are you a cop?

[+ Trebor]

In all my 15 years I’ve been hiring. I got asked a question today I’ve never had before. A fairly well known and reviewed escort that I’ve never seen before ask me if I was law enforcement or a government official. I replied NO. are you?  To which he replied NOT. Is that unusual?  Should be concerned ?  Thoughts???

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

11 minutes ago, Trebor said:

In all my 15 years I’ve been hiring. I got asked a question today I’ve never had before. A fairly well known and reviewed escort that I’ve never seen before ask me if I was law enforcement or a government official. I replied NO. are you?  To which he replied NOT. Is that unusual?  Should be concerned ?  Thoughts???

I once hooked up with a guy who afterwards asked me if I worked for the government.  It turns out he was a firefighter and he recognized me from a committee meeting we were both in.

[+ purplekow]

At this point in time, I am concerned that anyone could be working for the government and not in a good way.  Asking is peculiar in that the answer is almost always going to be "No" even if he does work for the government.  

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

3 minutes ago, purplekow said:

...I am concerned that anyone could be working for the government and not in a good way...

Agree! 

 

[BuffaloKyle]

Facts:

Police are not required to identify themselves as law enforcement, even if asked directly.

Police are legally allowed to misrepresent who they are when conducting investigations.

These tactics are common in sting operations, particularly in prostitution cases.

Relying on the misconception that officers must reveal their identity can lead to legal trouble. 

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I don't know why escorts ask or put in their ads no law enforcement.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

The topic of suspected law enforcement showing up pretending to be a client or an escort has been discussed here dozens of times (that I can remember) in various threads.  I don't remember who shared it, but the best advice I heard was: 

When you or he shows up for the appointment, immediately start with a long passionate kiss when the door is first opened.  That SHOULD be enough to guarantee that the other person is not an undercover cop.

[Nightowl]

Earlier this year I was asked whether I was a cop, apparently because I asked for an erotic massage from someone who advertised them on RMass as one of his services.  I couldn’t convince him that I wasn’t and he subsequently blocked me.  His loss.  That’s the only time it’s ever happened but I guess some providers are jumpier than others.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

It turns out he was a firefighter 

That’s hot. 👏

[+ Just Chuck]

I was a firefighter and (technically a cop) deputy fire marshal in the 1990's.  I would have answered no to the question. Unless you were telling me about your arson plans, I didn't really care.   I remember inspecting asian massage parlors  that were clearly just brothels and I only addressed the matters that made the building less fire safe and left them alone on everything else.

Getting into the seedier underside of the city as an observer was one of the more enjoyable parts of that job now that I look back at it.

 

[+ purplekow]

Some people just look like a cop.  My brother in his younger days was always being mistaken for a cop.  He was tall, broad shouldered and carried himself with a certain swag that sang out "cop".  He got out of many a traffic ticket just by his cop look.  Even now, in his eighties, he still gets mistaken for a retired policeman.  

On the other hand, my godson who works undercover, spends a lot of time making sure he does not have a look that makes him stand out.   Fit but not muscular, unshaven but not with a groomed unshaven look.  Clothing that fits less than perfectly and which easily hides concealed weapons.  All an all, he looks like a schlub on hid way to the hardware store who is trying to handyman a home problem.  Recently saw him at a family pool party and under all of that, he is built like the Statue of David.  

Edited June 18 by purplekow

[+ Just Chuck]

I have a young man who calls me “the father he never had.” (I got a Father’s Day card from him that I’m going to frame this year.) Who was a Border Patrol Sergeant and is now a Special Agent for another agency. He’s tall, broad-shouldered, and muscular. He’s also found that he enjoys cooking and craft beer. So, looks like a cop. But his mannerisms are definitely not cop-like. If you heard him on the phone and didn’t see him, you’d think he was an English literature teacher.

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

When you or he shows up for the appointment, immediately start with a long passionate kiss when the door is first opened.

Especially if he’s in uniform 😍

[KrisParr]

I was a probation officer for several years as I worked my way through grad school. I carried a very impressive badge that was housed inside a flip-top leather case. One time when I went on a “date” (wink, wink) I inadvertently left my badge inside my jacket pocket. And within a few minutes of arriving at my date’s place, when I took off the jacket, the badge fell out onto the floor and flipped open. The poor dude about had a heart attack. It was a mood killer for sure, and it took some effort to convince him that my arrest powers were for juveniles only. My dates during this time were always in far-away places.

[soloyo215]

3 hours ago, Trebor said:

In all my 15 years I’ve been hiring. I got asked a question today I’ve never had before. A fairly well known and reviewed escort that I’ve never seen before ask me if I was law enforcement or a government official. I replied NO. are you?  To which he replied NOT. Is that unusual?  Should be concerned ?  Thoughts???

Odd question. If a person asks me that I'd really recommend him to get his vision checked.

Questions: Do you look, move or act like a law enforcement officer? Or maybe there was something in the conversation that made him think that you were looking for certain information?

Hopefully it's not like he's developing some kind of paranoia.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I hope people realize that undercover officers can and do lie when asked this question.

There is no rule that they have to identify themselves.

[JayCeeKy]

3 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

When you or he shows up for the appointment, immediately start with a long passionate kiss when the door is first opened.  That SHOULD be enough to guarantee that the other person is not an undercover cop.

The first time I hired DOMDADDYFORU in Atlanta, as soon as I closed the door, he whipped out his impressive schlong and ordered me to "Touch it"  - he is under the impression that a cop would NEVER touch another man's tool. I was totally willing to comply with his TERMS OF SERVICE - even though I have my doubts that this is a reliable process to detect law enforcement. 

 

[+ JamesB]

Apparently, I don’t give off cop vibes, I've never been asked if I am one. 

[+ ApexNomad]

3 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I have a young man who calls me “the father he never had.” (I got a Father’s Day card from him that I’m going to frame this year.) Who was a Border Patrol Sergeant and is now a Special Agent for another agency. He’s tall, broad-shouldered, and muscular. He’s also found that he enjoys cooking and craft beer. So, looks like a cop. But his mannerisms are definitely not cop-like. If you heard him on the phone and didn’t see him, you’d think he was an English literature teacher.

Tell us more. 😊

[BrooklynIrish]

5 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Agree! 

 

Ugh. This jackass. 

[caramelsub]

Yes I have been asked if I was a cop or affiliated with law enforcement on many occasions. I don’t think twice about being asked about it. They are trying to protect themselves. I just tell them no, obviously. I have been asked if I was a cop by text message, over the phone, and in person before meeting. I have even had escorts ask me to lift my shirt up, and frisk me before meeting. I think it’s because I’m younger in age than most traditional clients. (I’m not trying to brag😉) 

[TonyDown]

I had a housemate in college that would joke about being arrested. 

"Whatever you say orificer," he would say. 😁

 

Never had a provider ask if I was.

Years ago I got pulled over for a brake light out, along the coast.  He was young, tall, handsome, boyish and surprisingly wore short pants.  I'll never forget how friendly he was.  If more clever I'd have dropped some kind of hint 😜 

[+ Just Chuck]

13 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

Tell us more. 😊

I retired as a martial arts teacher in 2017.  When I was teaching, I had a lot of young men in their late teens through mid-thirties train with me. A few of them made lifelong connections with me.  I was coach, counselor, and advisor to several of them.  

The one I mentioned before who's now a special agent had never had his biological father really "in the picture."  

Another one who I remain very close with is the son of one of my closest friends who died of a terrible disease when the son was in college.  I he told me that I was like another dad to him.  Out of respect to my deceased friend, I suggested we use the term "uncle" and it stuck.  So, we are nephew and uncle by-choice.

[+ Just Chuck]

12 hours ago, TonyDown said:

 

His shoulder patch has Cirillic Alphabet characters and the cars have long skinny white license plates.  I'm not sure what country that is, but he's beautiful!

[+ Charlie]

17 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I have a young man who calls me “the father he never had.” (I got a Father’s Day card from him that I’m going to frame this year.) Who was a Border Patrol Sergeant and is now a Special Agent for another agency. He’s tall, broad-shouldered, and muscular. He’s also found that he enjoys cooking and craft beer. So, looks like a cop. But his mannerisms are definitely not cop-like. If you heard him on the phone and didn’t see him, you’d think he was an English literature teacher.

I'm not sure whether to laugh or feel insulted.

[+ ApexNomad]

9 hours ago, Just Chuck said:

I retired as a martial arts teacher in 2017.  When I was teaching, I had a lot of young men in their late teens through mid-thirties train with me. A few of them made lifelong connections with me.  I was coach, counselor, and advisor to several of them.  

The one I mentioned before who's now a special agent had never had his biological father really "in the picture."  

Another one who I remain very close with is the son of one of my closest friends who died of a terrible disease when the son was in college.  I he told me that I was like another dad to him.  Out of respect to my deceased friend, I suggested we use the term "uncle" and it stuck.  So, we are nephew and uncle by-choice.

That’s incredibly beautiful. The kind of presence you offered—steady, supportive, fatherly even when not biologically so—is rare and deeply meaningful. It sounds like you gave those young men not just skills, but a sense of belonging and guidance when they needed it most. “Uncle by choice” might be one of the most honorable titles a man can carry.