Is it common for providers to ask for a client’s pic?

[Vulgarii]

I wanted to add too that prospective clients will actually send me nude pictures with visible warts on their genitals and ass.

 

I don't care if they are skin tags, I'm not going to touch anything near that. Now imagine if I had just agreed without seeing any pictures? 

...and then in person I've seen fuzzy animals and plants growing, perhaps remnants of dying monkey pox outbreaks, and horrors beyond my comprehension, as well as whole toilet paper sheets nestled in-between the cheeks.

But nooooo! As a provider I should service everyone!

[+ Jamie21]

22 minutes ago, Vulgarii said:

as well as whole toilet paper sheets nestled in-between the cheeks.

Oh yes I’ve had that recently. It wasn’t a whole sheet but was a bit of paper 😱. He ought to have showered properly.

But I don’t ask for pics from clients. I just deal with any unpleasantness appropriately, which may impinge on their experience. I prefer not to have a picture of the client, it’s not necessary. 

[GentJ]

I've said it before in other threads, but not in this one...

I hardly ever ask, but I for one really appreciate a picture or two. It's not for evaluation purposes; it's so I can have that small measure of familiarity ahead of time. At some level, everyone has an innate discomfort about strangers, and knowing what the person looks like ahead of time helps to mitigate that. Sure, I can go ahead anyway--that's part of the business, but it's just really nice when it's not a totally cold intro. People have pictures on their LinkedIn profiles too, because people are wired not to fully trust what they can't see. It's not like they won't do business with someone who isn't hot enough. This is also why I like to chat a bit before the first meeting. The meeting is going to be a lot more fun if we establish a bit of familiarity and comfort ahead of time.

[RayK]

This doesn’t happen often, but a potential provider in Vegas just asked me for a face pic.  I’m not comfortable with that.   Am I being needlessly uptight?

[+ Gar1eth]

Just now, RayK said:

This doesn’t happen often, but a potential provider in Vegas just asked me for a face pic.  I’m not comfortable with that.   Am I being needlessly uptight?

Some providers do ask. I've always told them exactly what I look like. But I haven't sent a picture. You need to do what you feel comfortable with. Don't let the guy pressure you. 

[+ SirBillybob]

Interesting inquiry. It hadn’t come up to date.

[ThirdEye]

Has definitely come up. Discomforting in my opinion, though they have a right to ask, as I have a right to deny.

Edited Tuesday at 01:11 AM by ThirdEye

[+ azdr0710]

it's a much-discussed quandary here on the forum.......many/most forum clients absolutely do not send any personal pictures, presumably for internet privacy with this hobby......other clients (much fewer) are fine with it......there is occasional forum concern that the provider is obviously wondering what the client looks like and screens as a result....... 

personally, I offer a very accurate summary of my stats and vibe early on, but never a picture...... 

Edited Tuesday at 01:43 AM by azdr0710

[Alchemy]

I've never been asked but I usually supply one, anyway. That way they can tell me I'm handsome. lol

Edited Tuesday at 01:47 AM by Alchemy

[hwic04]

Hey RayK. By any chance was the potential provider in Vegas NateVegass? He asked me for a pic also. DM me for the text exchange I had with him. I had him figured out pretty quickly.

[jusmeinbr]

I’ve only been asked for a pic one time (though on one other occasion one provider expressed disappointment that my RM profile had no face pic).  I regret sending one to the provider who requested it, and I will merely state that both were out of the business within two months of entering the arena.  I have no intention of ever sending another if a future request is made of me.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

43 minutes ago, hwic04 said:

Hey RayK. By any chance was the potential provider in Vegas NateVegass? He asked me for a pic also. DM me for the text exchange I had with him. I had him figured out pretty quickly.

I haven't seen NateVegass's profile on RM for a few months. 

I enjoyed my time with him, but he did seem to be looking for a permanent sugar daddy. 

[BuzzLiteQueer]

I always include my description in my initial inquiry to the RM.  If he asks for a pic, I tell him (honestly) I don't send pics but would be glad to facetime, etc. with him.  Very few take me up on that but, instead, go ahead with meeting after I reiterate the description found in my first contact.  IMHO, NEVER send a photo.  No good can come of it; only mischief (and not good mischief)

[Rudynate]

On 3/30/2025 at 2:58 PM, d.anders said:

I know this probably doesn't apply here, but I wonder if there are actual legal restrictions or ramifications to asking for a photo, depending on the state. When I worked in corporate, we were not allowed to ask potential hires to submit a photo with a resume due to liability issues. I don't know if this liability issue still exists, but I wonder if there is a law covering the service sector. Can a beauty salon or massage spa ask for a customer photo before booking an appointment?

My profile has it too, but I don't think they allow nudity. I don't like surprises, so I voluntarily offer a nude photo. If a provider has no desire to touch my body, I prefer to know about this before I lie on the table or pay for a service.

[Rudynate]

I supply height and weight.

[+ Gar1eth]

On a slightly different note -on most of my hook-up app profiles I've written that I don't respond unless they have a picture or send one with the first message. As it turns out-I will  often respond without a picture.  But usually early in the conversation, I say they need to send one. If they say they can't for whatever reason, usually end the conversation. 

[Rudynate]

On 10/27/2025 at 11:27 PM, Gar1eth said:

On a slightly different note -on most of my hook-up app profiles I've written that I don't respond unless they have a picture or send one with the first message. As it turns out-I will  often respond without a picture.  But usually early in the conversation, I say they need to send one. If they say they can't for whatever reason, usually end the conversation. 

 

I'm the same.  If I like a guy's profile, of course I'm going to start a dialogue.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I don't mind sending a face pic because I won't meet a provider without one. But that's once all the details have been worked out. Similar to what @GentJ said, knowing what someone looks like creates some sense of familiarity. I use photos that are more or less publicly available, so if someone ever attempted to use them against me, I'd say, "They took that from X website." That's partly why I don't understand most guys' reluctance to send a face pic. Unless you have no social media presence or business online, almost anyone can find a public photo of you. 

[Spikeguy]

If you FaceTime can’t they take a screenshot and just have your face pic anyway?

[jeezifonly]

"I'm 5'11, 217 - sorry, I don't have a photo. 

But I can send you a couple links to courtroom artist's sketches. One's more recent than the other. Would that work?"

[SecretProvider]

It's not common, but it is appreciated.

If you are not comfortable with it - describe yourself. Don't just say "im a bit big"  if you are 500lbs.   Don't forget to tell them you have a huge Santa like beard, etc etc.  and especially don't forget to tell us if you have some kind of disability - we need to be prepared for what comes through the door. 

You are better off seeing someone who can satisfy you than someone who will not. 

[Wings246]

10 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

I'm 5'11, 217

This is not descriptive enough.  217 can be pure muscle mass or "something else"......   🤪

[pubic_assistance]

7 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

Don't just say "im a bit big"  if you are 500lbs.