Is it common for providers to ask for a client’s pic?

[hwic04]

Do you comply if asked?

[Danny-Darko]

11 hours ago, hwic04 said:

Do you comply if asked?

No, it's not common but it does happen. I NEVER do. It's not a dating app or a hook up. You're buying a service from him, and if he isn't "up for the job", then he shouldn't be in the business. (no pun intended) I do always describe myself in detail, age, looks, body shape, cock size, likes and dislikes.

I have no problem with a provider that looks at porn or closes his eye and fantasizes about whatever to be able to perform and get himself off. 

Edited March 31 by Danny-Darko

[BaronArtz]

I very rarely get asked, but I don't mind it.  I would not send nudes though.

[big-n-tall]

It's very rare, but it does happen. As long as I have been doing this hobby I've only been asked for a pic of myself (before meeting) a handful of times. I tend not to send a picture, but I have done it once or twice.

Edited March 30 by big-n-tall

[DavidNY]

Move to questions about hiring*
yes they sometimes ask, no I never send.  It’s often how scams work.  I will do a video call for an overnight or something.

[Rudynate]

My user profile on RM includes my photo, so nobody has to ask.

[NYlove]

Yes. Some of them ask . I prefer to send as if im not their type it's better they say no. And I won't be wasting money&time 😌 

[+ jeezopete]

I once asked a provider who only had body pics on his ad, "Do you have any face pics?" His response, "Yes do you?"

That was the end of our conversation.
 

[Jack Vernon]

I've been asked and I offered it.  I didn't have an issue with it personally.  I offer those pics up willingly to people I hookup with on apps so how is sharing them with an escort any different?

 

[Walt]

35 minutes ago, DavidNY said:

Move to questions about hiring*

One needs to click on the three dots at the top right of any post to ask the moderators to move a thread.

The moderators do not read everything, just what is brought to their attention.

 

[56harrisond]

 

[Boaxxx]

I've never been asked but I'm sure some providers do on occasion. I'm not sure I would send if I was asked. That said I generally do send a pic after an appointment has been made. My take on it is that I usually know plenty about them (based on the pictures in their profile) so I send a picture or two of me in kind. Many may say this is unnecessary, which is fine, but for me personally I feel better sending a pic prior. I see no need to be a surprise when they open the door.

Edited March 30 by Boaxxx

[+ ApexNomad]

A provider has every right to request a client’s photo if they choose. It’s their prerogative, and if they state it in their ad, even better—then the client can decide if it’s even worth pursuing without wasting time.

Personally, only a handful have asked for a photo, and while I don’t exchange pics, I offer a FaceTime instead. That approach works beautifully, except for one provider who had the audacity to charge me for a FaceTime call after I politely declined to send a photo.

Ultimately, I get the client sentiment: you’re paying a lot of money for a service, so your looks shouldn’t matter. I get it. For some being asked, that could already set a tone and be a dealbreaker.

And for many providers, that’s absolutely the case—they take you as you are, no matter how you look or how old (legally of course), and everything is great. But some providers prefer to see a client first for their own reasons, and that’s their choice. Just like it’s yours to accept or move on.

[handiacefailure]

Been asked a couple times, and like deposits, if I am asked I either decline or simply dont respond

[d.anders]

7 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

A provider has every right to request a client’s photo if they choose. It’s their prerogative

I know this probably doesn't apply here, but I wonder if there are actual legal restrictions or ramifications to asking for a photo, depending on the state. When I worked in corporate, we were not allowed to ask potential hires to submit a photo with a resume due to liability issues. I don't know if this liability issue still exists, but I wonder if there is a law covering the service sector. Can a beauty salon or massage spa ask for a customer photo before booking an appointment?

1 hour ago, Rudynate said:

My user profile on RM includes my photo, so nobody has to ask.

My profile has it too, but I don't think they allow nudity. I don't like surprises, so I voluntarily offer a nude photo. If a provider has no desire to touch my body, I prefer to know about this before I lie on the table or pay for a service.

[+ ApexNomad]

1 hour ago, Danny-Darko said:

No, it's not common but it does happen. I NEVER do. It's not a dating app or a hook up. You're buying a service from him, and if he isn't "up for the job", then he shouldn't be in the business. (no pun intended) I do always describe myself in detail, age, looks, body shape, cock size likes and dislikes.

I have no problem with a provider that looks at porn or closes his eye and fantasizes about whatever to be able to perform and get himself off. 

I agree - it’s not common, but it does happen. 

Even with the money you’re paying, you don’t mind if a provider looks at porn or closes his eyes? That part has never happened to me, and I must say, I would not like that. Sure, are they probably fantasizing about someone else when they’re fucking me, perhaps. But if they are, they do a good job in pretending they’re not. I would hope that they are enjoying it as much as I am. But who knows.

[+ ApexNomad]

3 minutes ago, d.anders said:

I know this probably doesn't apply here, but I wonder if there are actual legal restrictions or ramifications to asking for a photo, depending on the state. When I worked in corporate, we were not allowed to ask potential hires to submit a photo with a resume due to liability issues. I don't know if this liability issue still exists, but I wonder if there is a law covering the service sector. Can a beauty salon or massage spa ask for a customer photo before booking an appointment?

My profile has it too, but I don't think they allow nudity. I don't like surprises, so I voluntarily offer a nude photo. If a provider has no desire to touch my body, I prefer to know about this before I lie on the table or pay for a service.

The legal implications of requesting a photo depend on the industry and the intent behind the request. In employment law, asking for a photo with a resume can raise discrimination concerns under federal laws like Title VII of the Civil Rights Act. Escorting operates in a completely different legal gray area.

Without going down a rabbit hole, let’s just say providers generally have more discretion in choosing their clientele, as they are not considered public accommodations like beauty salons or spas, which are subject to anti-discrimination laws. A provider asking for a photo is usually about comfort, safety, or personal preference rather than unlawful discrimination. Ultimately, while a business open to the public must be careful, an independent provider has more freedom to set their own terms.

[d.anders]

1 minute ago, ApexNomad said:

Escorting operates in a completely different legal gray area.

I did assume that.

2 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

A provider asking for a photo is usually about comfort, safety, or personal preference rather than unlawful discrimination.

But how does one truly know intent? I suppose in the escort sense, discrimination would be very difficult to prove, and who among us would dare bring a case? LOL.

[+ ApexNomad]

3 minutes ago, d.anders said:

I did assume that.

But how does one truly know intent? I suppose in the escort sense, discrimination would be very difficult to prove, and who among us would dare bring a case? LOL.

Welcome to legal challenges.

Proving intent is often tricky, especially in discrimination cases. Direct evidence (like an explicit statement of bias) is rare, so most cases rely on circumstantial evidence, patterns of behavior, or disparate impact (when a policy disproportionately affects a protected group, even without explicit intent).

BUT, the escort industry operates in a very legal gray area, particularly here in the U.S. (I should clarify that), making legal challenges difficult, especially in discrimination cases. Providers, being independent and often working in jurisdictions where escorting is prohibited, don’t have to adhere to the same anti-discrimination laws as businesses that serve the general public. Even if discrimination were to occur, the nature of the business means that legal action is unlikely, as most individuals wouldn’t risk bringing a case under these circumstances.

So, bottom line: it’s highly unlikely that someone would pursue a discrimination lawsuit in this context, particularly given the legal risks involved.

[+ JamesB]

As others have mentioned, it’s not common, but it does happen. I’ve been asked a couple of times myself. Providers have every right to set whatever conditions they feel are necessary for their work, just as I, as a client, have the choice to comply or take my business elsewhere. Similar to deposits, my answer to a picture request is always no.

[DavidNY]

I’ve found it’s good for me to have some rules for myself so I don’t get scammed or in a less than good situation. This is one of them.  I’ve learned to be very careful about ANY personal information with someone I haven’t built significant trust with.  I use a burner number, no real name, pics, address, job, etc.

 I do get why they might want a pic.  I would not be able to work with some people if I was doing their job, but that’s why I don’t do the job.  I’m too picky, lol

[The Dude]

Asking for a pic is a deal breaker for me; immediate communication cut-off. Once you send your pic out there, you have no control over what a total stranger will do with it.

[Danny-Darko]

9 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

I agree - it’s not common, but it does happen. 

Even with the money you’re paying, you don’t mind if a provider looks at porn or closes his eyes? That part has never happened to me, and I must say, I would not like that. Sure, are they probably fantasizing about someone else when they’re fucking me, perhaps. But if they are, they do a good job in pretending they’re not. I would hope that they are enjoying it as much as I am. But who knows.

That is when I hire Straight men usually. I want them to get off if possible so whatever works for them. But yes, some hot younger gay men are not into old men and do do it for the money! As long as we all get what we want. I never have hired for "BF Experience" because I'm not going to fool myself even in roleplay. 

Edited March 31 by Danny-Darko

[Km411]

I’ve only been asked for a pic once, and it was for a possible overnight. I had no problem providing it given the circumstances (and never thought of FaceTime as an alternative). I also provide pics on apps, including face pics, but only use pics already on the internet (there are plenty of them). I like the idea of it; it makes that first meeting easier.

[ShortCutie7]

I wouldn’t send a pic but do think it is important that providers request stats (if not already in the client’s profile) so they’re not in for any surprises… as a short guy, I would hate for a provider to be unpleasantly surprised by and/or not able to perform due to my height.