Contacting a High-Profile Porn Star for Escort Services?

[herbertfreimann]

Hey everyone,

I’m trying to get in touch with a specific porn star for escort services but running into some obstacles. I’m subscribed to their OnlyFans, but it seems like they don’t handle their account directly (probably due to their large following). Messaging about escort services on OF or X (Twitter) gets flagged instantly, making it difficult to reach out. Also, I checked - they don't have a rent page, they are too high profile for this. 

For those with experience, is it the same on Instagram? Do DMs there also get flagged if you mention escorting?

Also, for those who have successfully arranged something like this—how does payment usually work? Have you ever paid half in advance for an international booking? I’m in Europe, and they’re in the US, where I’d be traveling. Just trying to figure out the best way to approach this while minimizing risks.

Any insights or advice would be much appreciated!

[SirBillybob]

Why mention escorting up front on any platform? Do you think these content creators assume you are reaching out in the hopes of braiding each other’s hair? Let the ‘hall monitors’ that exist and screen assume your intentions are honorable, such as reciprocal hair-braiding.

First click on the Message function on their Instagram account. There are various setups for messaging from which he will have chosen; some versions suggest openness to collaboration. You would reference having subscribed to his OnlyFans account. Compliments, blah blah. You could mention your upcoming visit and provide your digits for WhatsApp, etc. I’d say you are not in Kansas, Toto, but in terms of trade legalities y’are because he is. 

Edited February 28 by SirBillybob

[Archangel]

I have had zero success – being direct or indirect. I chalk it up to the social curse upon me. I reach out with little hope of hearing back. 

[BuffaloKyle]

2 hours ago, herbertfreimann said:

Also, I checked - they don't have a rent page, they are too high profile for this. 

Cade Maddox, one of the biggest gay porn stars there is has a rentmen ad. So no one is too high profile for that. I simply would say the porn star you would like to get with doesn't escort.

Your best bet though is to ask whoever is handling the OnlyFans page that you are interested in booking the star for a private event and that you'd like to talk to them personally about it.

[SirBillybob]

There needs to be a hook that moves you from being a complete unknown to somebody worth communicating with, not simply “I’m from Europe, and I want to begin engaging in a prostitution arrangement while having offered no additional $tat$.” So, an Instagram page of your own that they will see, along with messaging using that platform, that captures interest in your resources and other features that may be essential to an entity that likely picks and chooses assignments. Or “I’m so-and-so and I hope you treated yourself to a great outing using the $250 tip I sent on d/m/yr.” Where I’ve been successful there had been a context of self-revelation that broke the ice. What could be simpler? You want one single thing and he wants a different single thing. 

Edited March 1 by SirBillybob

[aiseeya]

$$$ moves needle. Just say you are looking to book them 3x market rate/hour for a private event. 

[nate_sf]

Don't use OnlyFans to arrange a meeting. It's a violation of their terms of service: "OnlyFans is an online community. Creators and Fans cannot use OnlyFans to discuss or arrange in real life meetings." The conversation will get flagged by their AI and they'll block you from communicating with each other. Plus all the big names use chatters, so you're not talking to the real person anyways.

IG is probably the best bet, and those guys get hit up all the time. "DM for inquiries" is another code I've seen there a lot.

[jeezifonly]

Not all guys performing in gay porn provide compensated service off camera. He is a performer, and simply may not be interested any one of his fans beyond keeping them subscribed.
If he’s a really big success on OF, then hour for hour, escorting is likely a losing financial endeavor. You searched his name here, I bet, and if nobody had something to say, it’s a reasonable guess he is not a provider. 
 

 

[Andysquestions]

I’ve had the same problem trying to hire Rocco Steele, as well as Legrand Wolf. Nick Capra is on RM, and he never responded to me.

But I like Ayaeeya’s suggestion and may need to try that.

[Colton]

3 minutes ago, Andysquestions said:

trying to hire … Legrand Wolf.

Doesn’t he have an age limit only slightly higher than his brother with the same last name.  

[pubic_assistance]

14 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

There are various setups for messaging from which he will have chosen; some versions suggest openness to collaboration

@SirBillybob found the magic word: "collaboration".

NO, you shouldn't ask directly about escorting. It will get them banned on some sites and others will get you banned. I don't know why so many members here need to be constantly reminded that prostitution is still illegal in most destinations.

I've met multiple models by reaching out on Twitter and asking for a COLLABORATION.   Here's MY standard pitch:

"Good afternoon. I am a mature athletic male, and successful real-estate investor in New York City. Interested in scheduling a collaboration with you. Please let me know if you'd be interested in teaming up".

[nate_sf]

4 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

@SirBillybob found the magic word: "collaboration".

NO, you shouldn't ask directly about escorting. It will get them banned on some sites and others will get you banned. I don't know why so many members here need to be constantly reminded that prostitution is still illegal in most destinations.

I've met multiple models by reaching out on Twitter and asking for a COLLABORATION.   Here's MY standard pitch:

"Good afternoon. I am a mature athletic male, and successful real-estate investor in New York City. Interested in scheduling a collaboration with you. Please let me know if you'd be interested in teaming up".

Oh man, I feel so naive! I'd always thought "open to collaboration" was only directed at other OF models wanting to find others to do content with. Good to know it's got broader implications, I had no idea.

[nate_sf]

10 hours ago, jeezifonly said:

Not all guys performing in gay porn provide compensated service off camera. He is a performer, and simply may not be interested any one of his fans beyond keeping them subscribed.
If he’s a really big success on OF, then hour for hour, escorting is likely a losing financial endeavor. You searched his name here, I bet, and if nobody had something to say, it’s a reasonable guess he is not a provider. 
 

 

It was a while ago, but when I was doing more porn I encountered this on shoots. There was almost a taboo with admitting doing escort work. I remember when it came up in one shoot a guy said something like "but that would be prostitution, and that's illegal!" And I thought "wtf?"

I imagine things have relaxed a bit given all the increases in social media and visibility, but there are probably a number of guys who still draw a bright line between porn and escorting (er, "collaborations" 😆).

[SirBillybob]

15 minutes ago, nate_sf said:

Oh man, I feel so naive! I'd always thought "open to collaboration" was only directed at other OF models wanting to find others to do content with. Good to know it's got broader implications, I had no idea.

That’s how I see it, other creators. I wouldn’t reach out for collab on OF if I wanted to hook up but I would look for indicators of Instagram, less so X because messaging on X seems more complicated, and I would try messaging on IG without censorship, including my phone contact. Once on WhatsApp the seduction moves up a notch. His Instagram account is also unlikely mediated by a broker, middleman, or, as you say, chatterer, what have you. I assume IF you wanted to TRY to write your phone # on OF and get away with that you would delineate it as five five five, &c.

Edited March 1 by SirBillybob

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

13 hours ago, aiseeya said:

$$$ moves needle. Just say you are looking to book them 3x market rate/hour for a private event. 

This is exactly right.

If you have the money to get someone's attention, you will.

[Archangel]

29 minutes ago, nate_sf said:

Oh man, I feel so naive! I'd always thought "open to collaboration" was only directed at other OF models wanting to find others to do content with. Good to know it's got broader implications, I had no idea.

I’m not looking to have my time monetized. I’d be worried if I said anything about collaboration that it might end up “out there” despite being clear after the fact – if indeed “collaboration” is the magic word.

Do we know this from widespread anecdotal experience that “collaboration” is the shibboleth? 

[SirBillybob]

29 minutes ago, Archangel said:

I’m not looking to have my time monetized. I’d be worried if I said anything about collaboration that it might end up “out there” despite being clear after the fact – if indeed “collaboration” is the magic word.

Do we know this from widespread anecdotal experience that “collaboration” is the shibboleth? 

I think that collaboration as a term, as jargon, neutralizes intent that could be judged as inappropriate or bending the specific rules of a platform. I see it in the OF context as referring to content creators conjoining in some way. In the IG context it seems broader, brand affiliation, eg, clothing, gym supplements poster boy sponsorship, “DM for collab” … usually desexualized, but erotic material in an OF account where the holder has explicitly linked their IG account opens the door to more openly risky IG messaging because IG (and X) are not monetized up front in the same way as OF but could offer a springboard for trade earnings. Some OF creators are also registering PayPal in their overarching platform list, some degrees of separation from their OF, a Linktree listing for example, although it conceivably deprives OF of the standard 20% tip cut and may add an additional mode of communication about money.

Edited March 1 by SirBillybob

[d.anders]

This notion that anyone has price seems ridiculous to me.

There are a lot of professional actors who want no part of illegal activity, and the risks associated, or direct sexual contact with fans, and the risks associated. It seems to me, if someone doesn't want to participate in a given service, there are easy ways to make that clear. Not providing an ad, or a business email for private contact, are just two ways to avoid unwanted solicitations. I would assume that if a performer wants such inquiries shut off, breaking the barrier might piss them off further, even with a ton of money attached. Be careful what you wish for. A lot of people don't appreciate pushy, aggressive behavior.

[+ Jamie21]

If you mention collaboration you’d likely need an Onlyfans profile. Collab is the term used by guys who want to make content with other Onlyfans models. I get requests from guys to collaborate, the first thing I do is look to see if they have an Onlyfans profile and how many followers they have. If they have no profile then I ignore it or decline. 
Sometimes models have (on their IG or X page) a link to their agent or contact for enquiries or their social media links which may link to their website. I’d guess that if he’s difficult to contact then he probably doesn’t escort. Someone open to the proposition would have some way of being able to receive discrete enquiries. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

6 hours ago, d.anders said:

This notion that anyone has price seems ridiculous to me.

There are a lot of professional actors who want no part of illegal activity, and the risks associated, or direct sexual contact with fans, and the risks associated. It seems to me, if someone doesn't want to participate in a given service, there are easy ways to make that clear. Not providing an ad, or a business email for private contact, are just two ways to avoid unwanted solicitations. I would assume that if a performer wants such inquiries shut off, breaking the barrier might piss them off further, even with a ton of money attached. Be careful what you wish for. A lot of people don't appreciate pushy, aggressive behavior.

I don't disagree with your sentiment, but you also have to understand your audience here.

The psyche is simple:  Offer a hot guy money- unless his rate is way past your ability and then criticize him loudly for being too expensive and not THAT hot.

It's far too easy to look at a guy as a commodity when the only perspective he's putting online is a great body and a big dick.

[d.anders]

10 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

you also have to understand your audience here

I don't see that ever happening. Too many people baffle me.

[pubic_assistance]

21 hours ago, Archangel said:

I’d be worried if I said anything about collaboration that it might end up “out there” despite being clear

That's never been a problem for me.

No one has ever filmed my encounters.

I like the lights dimmed during sex so they wouldn't even be able to film, anyway.

It merely opens up the conversation and you discuss your details to another communications method. Once you say you're an "older successful businessman" it's pretty clear you're not contacting them to get your hot ass on camera but you're interested in a different kind business arrangement. Only a dimwit would miss that distinction.

Edited March 2 by pubic_assistance
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[Guest]

I mostly watch twink porn. In that porn subculture, you can hook up with a few popular actors from RM, and they can hook you up with the others. Be prepared to spend some crazy money, though. Also, a significant percentage seem to be struggling with substance abuse (thus their skinniness), so you have to tread carefully.

[Archangel]

39 minutes ago, ihearttwinks said:

A significant percentage seem to be struggling with substance abuse

At first, on the heels of your remark about money, I thought you were going to say a significant portion struggle with money management. I’m always so surprised how these guys who make multiple hundreds of dollars per hour and sometimes more than I make in a month for two or three day arrangements never seem to be able to get stabile financially. The substance abuse may play into that…

[Rudynate]

On 3/1/2025 at 10:53 AM, d.anders said:

This notion that anyone has price seems ridiculous to me.

There are a lot of professional actors who want no part of illegal activity, and the risks associated, or direct sexual contact with fans, and the risks associated. It seems to me, if someone doesn't want to participate in a given service, there are easy ways to make that clear. Not providing an ad, or a business email for private contact, are just two ways to avoid unwanted solicitations. I would assume that if a performer wants such inquiries shut off, breaking the barrier might piss them off further, even with a ton of money attached. Be careful what you wish for. A lot of people don't appreciate pushy, aggressive behavior.

Who said "anyone has his price?"  It is a fact that some have a price and the only way you will find out whether that's true for the man of your dreams is to ask.