Boyfriend Experience

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

19 hours ago, domonkasshu160 said:

Do I have a right to complain since it never explicitly was advertised as a "boyfriend experience"?

Take it up with the California Board of Sex Workers.  State your side and show the ad, and see if the State will force the sex worker to be more explicit in his advertisements and contracts going forward.

Edited January 25 by Vegas_Millennial

[FBuddyLA]

Hi Guys - Can any one of you tell me what I should expect in a boyfriend experience? I've been searching for an answer but can't really find anything concrete.  Thanks.

[+ José Soplanucas]

9 minutes ago, FBuddyLA said:

Hi Guys - Can any one of you tell me what I should expect in a boyfriend experience? I've been searching for an answer but can't really find anything concrete.  Thanks.

I bet you there are many definitions. To me, it is a role play situation where the participants interact as though there were an affectionate bond between them. Even when we know that not all relationships are like that, you would expect sweetness, engagement, and connection, without the need to become romantic. "Romantic" would be an appropriate bonus that you can ask for.

As contrast, think of a worshipping scenario, or a G4P scene where the "straight" is disengaged and not into you while you are sucking his dick. 

[Mo Mason]

For me, the ideal boyfriend experience involves a lot of physical contact.  Touching.  Caressing.  Kissing.  Massaging.  Cuddling.  Slow dancing.  I don't experience very much physical contact with others until I hire for it.  The physical closeness and touching is what really defines the experience.  

[jeezifonly]

Whatever your ideal boyfriend experience winds up being, the most important part for clients to remember is that, for the provider, it's a booked session. 

[Nue2thegame]

Agree that it’s subject to wide interpretation. Conventionally, I think it means a full menu with lots of physical interaction (kissing, caressing, cuddling etc.). For me, it comes down to how I feel after the encounter - was there good chemistry, mutual excitement, good convo, mutual interests and most importantly, do I really want to see him again? But I have a high bar. 🙂‍↕️

[Mo Mason]

Your "boyfriend experience" is based on how you feel after the encounter?  That doesn't make sense.

[KeepItReal]

4 hours ago, Mo Mason said:

Your "boyfriend experience" is based on how you feel after the encounter?  That doesn't make sense.

Actually it does. That is when you start thinking with your big head and not your little head.  Suddenly you can be more objective about the experience. 

[Mo Mason]

Excuse me.  I try to be sarcastic and it comes across as rude... sardonic.  I'm just drunk.  I didn't mean any offense.  Your BFE's are your own experiences. 

[+ ApexNomad]

So often, and understandably, the “boyfriend experience” gets tangled up with real emotion. That’s probably the flaw in the term itself. A term of art that has no business in this business. 

I prefer to think of it as a No-Illusions Experience: connection, chemistry, affection,  but with clarity. 

Cuddles, conversation, presence: yes.

Confusion about what it is: no.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I think the most important take away is to be open in communication with your selected provider.  My preferred method of contact is written , so I send a text message, email or RM message to the provider , state this is who I am, so there are no surprises , being  65 year old bear, and describe the sort of session I am interested in, give my limits, time frame and suggested date.

I find this works really well as it gives the providers an opportunity to decline the booking if it is not going to work for them, and when it all comes together it results in a much more satisfying session with providers who earn their $$ and creates a win win situation 

[+ SirBillybob]

I don’t do them but I read. I think it’s arguing about money and sex, then sometimes having make up sex after walking away to cool down or not. 

Edited Thursday at 01:31 PM by SirBillybob

[Peter Eater]

6 minutes ago, SirBillybob said:

I don’t do them but I think it’s arguing about money and sex, then sometimes having make up sex after walking away to cool down or not. 

Actually, that’s called an Imminent Divorce Experience.

 

[+ SirBillybob]

31 minutes ago, Peter Eater said:

Actually, that’s called an Imminent Divorce Experience.

 

The IDEs of any month. That would suggest the financé stage had been previously achieved. 

Edited Thursday at 02:03 PM by SirBillybob

[+ SirBillybob]

On 4/1/2026 at 5:46 AM, KeepItReal said:

Actually it does. That is when you start thinking with your big head and not your little head.  Suddenly you can be more objective about the experience. 

Especially if you forget the payment due to conflating two versions of reality and need a gentle reminder. 😏

Edited Thursday at 02:07 PM by SirBillybob

[Rudynate]

On 5/7/2024 at 10:25 AM, MscleLovr said:

For me, ‘Boyfriend Experience’ suggests a more romantic, loving encounter. It is the very opposite of a ‘Wham, Bam, Thank You Sir’ date.

Obviously it depends on your companion but I would expect the date to comprise lots of foreplay with hugging, kissing with tongue, displays of affection and cuddling after sex. It would usually include oral sex and/or topping/bottoming. 

You would need to discuss the particulars beforehand. Depending on your wishes, the date might be just a physical session. If it is to be followed by dinner (or going out to a bar or club) together, you may want to discuss public displays of affection beforehand.
 

My reason for stating this is that I once hired an LA jock-boy for a weekend in San Francisco. We had an intense and very sexual time the night he arrived. The next morning when we went to brunch, I was startled that he took my hand as we walked together. I enjoyed it even more when he kissed me in the cafe. I’ve always been out but I had no idea that he’d be so demonstrative in public

 

To me it is "mild" vs. "wild." "Mild" to me means affectionate, romantic, etc.  "Wild" means edgy, piggy, kinky, exploitive.

[+ Jamie21]

I offer it. Basically it’s for the client to decide what they want included and then to ask for it. Could be a dinner, cinema visit, walk in the park, sauna visit, accompany him to a corporate event as his plus one….whatever. Would always involve some sex but it’s not exclusively sex or erotic massage although those things are involved as part of the whole experience. It has always included a level of intimacy that might not happen in a regular booking such as kissing, cuddling, and usually involves quite a lot of talking. The sessions last from a few hours to a day….I don’t do overnights, although that’s often part of a bf experience. Basically you’re playing the bf role but the challenge is reminding the client that it’s a job without that detracting from the fantasy of what you create. That’s the difficult part. 

[pubic_assistance]

8 hours ago, Rudynate said:

 

To me it is "mild" vs. "wild." "Mild" to me means affectionate, romantic, etc.  "Wild" means edgy, piggy, kinky, exploitive.

I never hire for BFE service, but I agree with @Rudynate. THIS has always been MY understanding of the differences in repertoire.

Tender, romantic and connected as opposed to my usual prefernce. Which is  down-n-dirty animal sex.

[Rudynate]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I never hire for BFE service, but I agree with @Rudynate. THIS has always been MY understanding of the differences in repertoire.

Tender, romantic and connected as opposed to my usual prefernce. Which is  down-n-dirty animal sex.

Oh Yeah!!

[starman05]

I knew one, but he retired.

Done "correctly," sadly, tragically, you can be ruined for anything that you try to find "for real." 

A provider told a client: "Go find someone for real; it's not about me leaving you; you have to leave me." 

Bastard.