SMALL ISSUES WITH PROVIDERS THAT GIVE A BAD RAP

[Medin]

On 8/6/2023 at 1:56 PM, Ali Gator said:

Lately, I have had many providers (both escorts and masseurs) with very bad breath. When questioning them in a friendly manner (not bringing up the subject of their breath) I find out they have been eating at local Asian restaurants (Thai, Korean, Vietnamese) and the odors stay on their breath and on their bodies. (One guy stunk of garlic and lemongrass). They are not scents which I find sexy nor appealing in any way. Please brush your teeth and use mouthwash ! 

On a similar note, walking into a hotel room and the provider is eating or has smelly food in the room.   This happens way too often and kills the mood for me.  I've had a few that reek of certain foods that permeates the room and usually means they'll have terrible breath as well.   Breath is another one.  A quick rinse with the Listerine just before the client arrives is always appreciated. 

[ICTJOCK]

On 8/6/2023 at 1:09 PM, Coolwave35 said:

I hate being interviewed by a provider. Keep the chit chat light and simple and then let’s get it on. 

I like direct and to the point!

[+ HeyDude]

As unthinkable as it may seem, I’ve had at least two escorts on separate occasions, get into bed and attempt to launch into action while chewing gum ! 
I struggled to find non-judgmental words, that they had to remove the chewing gum before kissing and sucking, without expressing the edge and disbelief that I was feeling at the time.
 

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[marylander1940]

On 8/6/2023 at 1:09 PM, Coolwave35 said:

I hate being interviewed by a provider. Keep the chit chat light and simple and then let’s get it on. 

I get your point but providers must get a hold of the conversation in order to ask the right question and give information specially now by text. Sometimes clients just don't know what to ask

Where are you?

When are you looking to getting together?

What do you get into?

My issue or advice to them is to be polite and at the same time know how to get to the point while making plans with potential clients. 

 

Edited August 8, 2023 by marylander1940
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[+ Coolwave35]

4 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

I get your point but providers must get a hold of the conversation in order to ask the right question and give information specially now by text. Sometimes clients just don't know what to ask

Where are you?

When are you looking to getting togeher?

What do you get into?

 

Nah I mean in person. 
 

what do you do for work?  Why are you in town?  How many siblings. Those kinds of things. 

[marylander1940]

7 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

Nah I mean in person. 
 

what do you do for work?  Why are you in town?  How many siblings. Those kinds of things. 

Got it. Based on the subject I thought you were talking about how they approach you. 

[jeezifonly]

If a Provider is being paid for his time, I have an issue when a good portion of my reserved time is spent engaging with his phone. Choose me or the phone. That is not “a bum rap”, and comes pretty close to being a rip-off.

I’ve always discussed some of my interests before we meet. Poor hygiene is not “a bum rap” it’s a health risk.

I buy incall services only. A roommate or relative present in the provider’s house or flat?  Not a “bum rap” but a privacy issue for clients, and demands disclosure before the booking. 

I am among the lucky ones who have never lost a lot of money over small things. 
 

 

[+ goosh69]

I lot of these seem like ultra specific to you guys posting, and NOT things that give escorts “bad raps.” I mean by all means wear antiperspirant in the freaking hottest summer in human history. Don’t assume some small minority of guys who want you to stink represent the typical clientele.

Edited August 8, 2023 by goosh69

[Archangel]

I hate playing Twenty Questions ever, regardless who. You can just tell if someone is actively listening or going through a checklist.

[+ bashful]

Not following their own instructions.  A provider said the day before the appointment, he would text hotel location, and day of, he would reconfirm. 

Day before, no text.  I got a hotel to avoid time driving in/out before and after the appointment, so should I wait around, or cut my losses and head back home.

He did text day of, but still no location.  Had to ask.  We met, but not a good match.  Should have followed my instinct to go back home.

[NyGold]

On 8/7/2023 at 1:20 PM, Archangel said:

I normally hire for multiple days. So we end up going out together. I can’t stand when he has to spend more an hour getting primped to go. I also can’t stand when he’s more or less ready the need to change a piece of clothing…Let’s go! 

That’s called the full boyfriend experience lol 

[marylander1940]

On 8/7/2023 at 11:34 PM, jeezifonly said:

If a Provider is being paid for his time, I have an issue when a good portion of my reserved time is spent engaging with his phone. Choose me or the phone. That is not “a bum rap”, and comes pretty close to being a rip-off.

I’ve always discussed some of my interests before we meet. Poor hygiene is not “a bum rap” it’s a health risk.

I buy incall services only. A roommate or relative present in the provider’s house or flat?  Not a “bum rap” but a privacy issue for clients, and demands disclosure before the booking. 

I am among the lucky ones who have never lost a lot of money over small things. 
 

 

Unfortunately the younger they are the more likely to spend time on the phone even during a one hour appointment. 

[marylander1940]

A messy or full of clutter room is a big disappointment!

A more extreme case!

Edited August 10, 2023 by marylander1940

[Archangel]

2 hours ago, NyGold said:

That’s called the full boyfriend experience lol 

Ain’t that the truth! 😂 👍🏻 

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 8/6/2023 at 1:43 PM, marylander1940 said:

It's always a polite thing to say: "I am about to do mouthwash, would you like to join me?"

Every session I attend, I give the provider a small bottle of mouthwash. Some are classy enough that they don't even need it.

[big-n-tall]

My two issues with providers come down to communication and scheduling.

If I give full details or ask a question, I would hope I get full details or responses back. Especially if the prover asks me directly or through copy in their ad.

The thing that bugs me the most is scheduling and lack of commitment. On a recent trip I set up meet-ups with 3 providers (at different times/days). All were no shows. Two actually told me they were on their way. And of course they weren’t. The third seemed like a lock.He was excited for the meet up and said he had the time. I made contact a couple days before the met up date/time. When I texted to confirm the day of… crickets. He contacted me just under 2 hours before the meet up time saying he wasn’t coming. His excuse, he had a hectic day at work and wouldn’t be coming. He could have told me that earlier. When he never responded to my confirmation text, I knew he wasn’t coming. No apology for wasting my time.

For communication issues, I may sometimes give a little leeway and keep trying… but 3 strikes and you’re out. After that I won’t try to contact them again, ever.

If you make a commitment and can’t make it be upfront and honest. If it’s a good excuse then Im willing to try again some other time. You say you’re coming and don’t contact me until a relatively short time before with a lame ass or no excuse about not coming… I’m done and won’t ever try contacting that person again. One of the guys was very well reviewed. He even came to my area this week. He’s off the list forever.

[Jamie21]

6 hours ago, big-n-tall said:

On a recent trip I set up meet-ups with 3 providers (at different times/days). All were no shows.

That’s so bad. I mean just sooooo shit of them. I’m sorry for you. That kind of behaviour isn’t a peeve it’s a big flapping red flag with flashing warning lights. 

Stuff can happen that prevents one from fulfilling a commitment but to just be silent and then come up with some lame excuse last minute is unprofessional in the extreme. It strikes me that these guys who you scheduled with view their clients as suckers who they can mess around with impunity.

There’s an arrogance and dismissive attitude in their behaviour which probably is evident if you did actually get to meet them. In that respect you might consider it a lucky escape. 

[Bokomaru]

11 hours ago, big-n-tall said:

On a recent trip I set up meet-ups with 3 providers (at different times/days). All were no shows.

This mystifies me. When someone is getting (generally speaking) $300-$500 an hour in cash you’d think they would be highly motivated to show up. My initial thought is that some providers lives are such a mess that they can’t make rational decisions, and I know that this is the case sometimes. But it doesn’t seem to explain the amount of flakiness that occurs.
 

Maybe they just aren’t motivated that much  by the money, in contradiction to what is often stated on this forum. “I’m tired” is the type of excuse you often hear. Too tired to make $800 in two hours? I guess it’s just an on-the-side thing to do, when it’s convenient? I’m not a provider so I can’t really fathom why this happens so much. 

Your opinions? 

[dbar123]

49 minutes ago, Bokomaru said:

Maybe they just aren’t motivated that much  by the money, in contradiction to what is often stated on this forum. “I’m tired” is the type of excuse you often hear. Too tired to make $800 in two hours? I guess it’s just an on-the-side thing to do, when it’s convenient? I’m not a provider so I can’t really fathom why this happens so much. 

Your opinions? 

Some of these guys still want the money without the effort. I’ve had my share of escort “corpses” show up at my door. Would rather have them flake out and not show up at all.

[Bokomaru]

14 minutes ago, dbar123 said:

Some of these guys still want the money without the effort. I’ve had my share of escort “corpses” show up at my door. Would rather have them flake out and not show up at all.

Great point! It’s just that it’s hard to keep that in mind when you really look forward to having a good time with a hot guy and get a cancellation instead. 

[dbar123]

1 hour ago, Bokomaru said:

Great point! It’s just that it’s hard to keep that in mind when you really look forward to having a good time with a hot guy and get a cancellation instead. 

I used to take it personally when I got a no show. I’ve experienced enough limp zombies to realize that it’s a money saving blessing

[+ DrownedBoy]

22 hours ago, dbar123 said:

I used to take it personally when I got a no show. I’ve experienced enough limp zombies to realize that it’s a money saving blessing

Agree. Practically all my no shows are due to:

1. The provider booking at the same time as me

2. Providers who are lazy and careless about time and punctuality 

I've learned the hard way that if a provider starts to ask for changes in time after you made an agreement,  cancel. They're trying to meet someone else during your time.

[bigdipper]

One of my peeves is when providers complain about what they are missing because I scheduled my appointment at that time. If you wanted to meet your friends or go to the gym, just say so and offer to reschedule!

[Rudynate]

On 8/6/2023 at 3:28 PM, dbar123 said:

I once showed up to see a provider with a stack of 20’s that I left on the dresser before the session. He immediately picked the stack up and slowly counted it. I thought that move was in bad taste.

Once, I had someone do that.  I had laid the cash on a table and he counted it in front of me.  I just thought "wow, how low-rent."

[starman05]

I left the fee on the table after a massage with a first time for me provider

 

he had chatted about finding it really hard money wise since he’d recently moved to the city we were in

 

he said wow I see a lot of 10s and 20s , do u mind if I count it

 

he was over 5he moon to see I’d thrown in a tip

 

i hope he’s ok