New providers every time — or finding a few regulars?

[Tajoki]

Curious how other clients approach this over time.

Early on, it seems like a lot of people try different providers — exploring profiles, seeing what the experience is like with different personalities and styles.

But I’ve also noticed that some clients eventually end up seeing the same providers repeatedly once the chemistry is right.

In your experience, which approach actually works better?

Does the experience improve once someone already knows your body, preferences, and rhythm — or does it start to feel less exciting compared to meeting someone new?

Interested to hear how others here approach it.

[savantsav]

Haha I kinda have a "tier" system:

Hookup with Benefits: 1hr bookings usually from people new or visiting town.

Friends with Extra Benefits: 2hr+ bookings with guys I've had good fun/chemistry with. About 3 guys on rotation.

Boyfriend with Benefits: 3+hrs, overnights, travel. Keep 1 guy usually and is sort of the one I move my calendar around, fly around, travel, etc.

 

Recently "broke up" with my latest BWB after almost two years as he was not performing as well as he used to. So been testing the waters around.

Edited Saturday at 10:29 PM by savantsav

[DMonDude]

46 minutes ago, Tajoki said:

Does the experience improve once someone already knows your body, preferences, and rhythm — or does it start to feel less exciting compared to meeting someone new?

Both. Even when it gets very good with a long time regular it can also sometimes get repetitive, which can happen in relationships too. So i gotta change things up and keep it fresh after a while. So when i was hiring more actively i had regulars i loved seeing repeatedly. They'd get about 60% of my spending. 20% would go to trying new guys on my own. And the other 20% would go to a mix where me and my regulars who like group fun would find new guys to try together, usually either friends/colleagues of theirs or guys i found on RentMen.

There would sometimes be overlap there where i'd send him some guys RM link and he's like "oh i know him/worked with him before" or he sends me some guy and it ends up being someone who was already on my wishlist.

[big-n-tall]

Each person has their own preferences and so one approach isn't better than the other.

Some people want only the constantly new... some want only the comfort of someone they know and who know them (on whatever level)... and some like a mix of the two.

Personally, I enjoy regulars and the occasional new hire. For me, the more I see someone and get to know them... I get more attracted to them (to a point). So much so that just knowing I'm going to see them again arouses me greatly. With my regulars, usually the experiences I have have always been just as good or better than the previous time we met.

I hire new providers because sometimes someone comes along I find hella attractive whom I've never met. Also i hire new because over time regulars retire or don't travel as often to my area. So I am filling the gap so to speak.

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

I spent 18 months going through a series of experiments.  I generally hire 2-3 times/month for travel and weekends - never less than overnight and usually 2-3 nights.  So connection matters.   After suffering through a few dramas and disappointments over a pool of about 20-30 guys, I’m focused on 5 who are mature, intelligent, and sober.    Might I experiment with others?   Maybe.  But I don’t need to change a good thing with the ones I have 

Edited to add:  one or two is not enough.  One side or the other risks excessive dependency - either emotional, financial, or both 

Edited Saturday at 11:28 PM by PhileasFogg

[Mark_fl]

I'm relatively new to this game, but I find the hiring process stressful. I've tried to rehire one I was comfortable with, and that would be my standard MO. I don't enjoy working out the logistics and worrying if they are as advertised,  will show up, try and upset me, not like me, etc.  

Maybe some day I'll do this enough to get bored with someone, but I think I'd mix it up with a known provider first 

[Midwestguy89]

It all depends on what I’m looking for and how I’m feeling. 
 

I often rehire the same 3-4 guys but they all sort of fit different ways. I also can’t resist trying out new guys. If I know what I need and don’t want to risk a new guy being bad then I’ll go with my regular. But I like to switch things up and also have some consistency.

[Wings246]

It largely depends on my mood and what kind of “flavors” (looks, skill sets, etc.) I desire at the moment.  It’s very similar to deciding on what kind of restaurant to visit for dinner: do I want the comfort of a familiar taste from the restaurant that I know I love or do I feel adventurous for a new cuisine tonight?

Since I’m still quite inexperienced in this, my safety net formula is: 80% regulars + 20% new guys.  This has generated an acceptable risk-benefit ratio for me so far.

[liubit]

Not very original myself: I love my regulars, but I do “cheat” on them often enough by sampling other treats who then might become part of my pool of regulars themselves. Variety spices consistency. 

[+ JamesB]

My ideal situation is to have 3 regulars, along with a mix of familiar and new visitors. That said, at least for me, finding a new regular lately has been quite difficult. I’m currently down to 1.5 regulars and I haven’t been able to fill the open spots. And no, I didn’t actually cut a provider in half. He simply started his own business and although he still sees me, getting our schedules to match has turned out to be no easy task, so I count him as half.

[hungry4darkmeat]

I love having my regulars who I can rely on for consistency - I currently serve a young master who allows me to hire others but only if he’s there and gets paid more than them which makes it expensive.

I’ve “cheated” a few times but really only with other/former regulars. I really hate being disappointed and hate wasting time and money on disappointments so when I find someone who is ready, willing and able to meet my needs and meets or surpasses my expectations I will rehire them whenever I can and refer them to other clients.

Ive got a small crew of providers who have impressed me in the past who i typically hire to work together for group sessions when I can afford it. My master gets it for himself when im on a budget.

[+ purplekow]

YES to both.  I have had regulars I have seen for as long as 15 years.  I also hire new men for the variety and to search out new regulars.  In NJ, I had four regulars and an occasional new friend.  Since I have moved to California, only one of those regulars has visited.  That has forced me to boldly go where many men have gone before, to RM to check out the menu.  I have found one gentleman who I have seen once a month or so for 2 days at a time.  There have been a few other men I have seen twice or three times and a few who were one and done.  

In reality, I have not missed the NJ regulars all that much, though I would certainly welcome them should they come out this way.  When I first moved here, I did try to tempt two of the them to come for an extended visit and picking up the travel expenses, but without success.  I speak with three of the four NJ guys on a regular basis, just to catch up and compare notes.  

So while regulars are comfortable and known, there is something exhilarating about a new guy when he turns out to be someone you want to see again and again. 

[HockeyMan]

My area used to get a lot of visiting escorts. So I mainly tried new ones. We get fewer visitors nowadays. So I see regulars more often.

[Rayphactor]

Limited experience here, only hired 5 providers in 10 years. Just recently found a provider I want to be a regular with due to the connection/chemistry. I only hire when I travel for work, and with virtual meetings, I'm doing a hell of a lot less travelling than I did when I was young. I live in a rural area, so no opportunity to find a local provider that matches my wants.

[Nightowl]

Once I find a few providers I like, I stick with them, and try to hire them wherever finances allow.  Every now and then I’ll try someone new but I always come back to my established regulars.  Right now I’ve got one gentleman whom I’ve hired about 15 times and another that I discovered here on CoM and have hired four times.  Unless one of them leaves the business, I probably won’t be shopping around anytime soon.  To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.  My selfish hope is that I’ll help keep them in business…

[Wings246]

2 hours ago, Nightowl said:

To me, hiring is very intimate, both physically and mentally, so once trust is established, I’ll hire the guys I’ve come to know.

I share the same feelings.  I bet some of us here do as well.  That's probably why a few members here use the concept of "cheating" to describe seeing someone new.  I know the analogy is a joke, but loyalty / faithfulness is a very strange factor that can somehow influence the decision making process.   😅

[Decatur Guy]

Interesting topic! As with many of the other people who have replied, I tend to go with regulars over new hires but do both. That's because I also find the first-time hiring process increasingly problematic. But even more, I find the encounters get better around the third meeting onward. 

Of course, providers leave the biz, move out of town or things fizzle, and the only way to find new regulars is to do the first-time thing again. And then sometimes, I just spot someone new who really gets my attention. But I'd say 75% of my hiring is repeat business.