j r Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Just curious how much other guys spend for this hobby on average every month. It can certainly add up. I manage to keep it pretty reasonable with one regular at a time every month or six weeks depending on our schedules, plus a massage here and there, which adds up to about 7 or 8K per year. Wonder about others.
LuckyLechon Posted February 23 Posted February 23 (edited) I’m new to this so I haven’t made it a full year so I can’t calculate that far out. Definitely a few grand. I’ve had a good time. One thing I’ll say though is a number of my meetups were duds. So, I am hoping to get a better instinct about who I should and shouldn’t book. Anyone have tips? lol That way I can spend more on the good providers Edit: a few grand is referring to the last 4-5 months, not the last month Edited February 23 by LuckyLechon j r 1
Postiche Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Since the beginning of 2026, I have spent 21k on escorts. I gotta slow down cause I am exhausted. There are just too many delights to sample. Boaxxx, Your Man in Arlington, + Vegas_Millennial and 3 others 3 3
savantsav Posted February 23 Posted February 23 About 35/40k a year on whoever is my current "boyfriend with benefits" (travels, overnights, etc). About 10k/yr on the rest. + DrownedBoy, + Vegas_Millennial, Boaxxx and 2 others 3 2
Andreas Porter Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Spent 3780 for 2025. And 945 since the beginning of 2026. MassageCommunityMember 1
DMonDude Posted February 23 Posted February 23 (edited) More than i should but not enough to put myself on the street. I only spend money on this that i get from working over time. 2025 was a particularly hard working year and it was also my first full year of hiring so i was mostly still in "oh my god this is new and awesome!" mode. Definitely a good couple grand over the course of last year. I'd be spending like @savantsav if i could though, they're living their best life 😆 Edited February 23 by DMonDude clarified spending was over a year, not per month + Just Chuck and ShortCutie7 2
MassageCommunityMember Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Dang what do you guys do for a living?! 😅 + Just Chuck, j r, DMonDude and 4 others 6 1
savantsav Posted February 23 Posted February 23 I do high tech and clear about 2 mil a year so setting aside 50k/yr so I don't have to deal with grindr is a blessing. Boaxxx, InChiTown, ShortCutie7 and 14 others 3 3 3 8
+ purplekow Posted February 23 Posted February 23 8 hours ago, j r said: Just curious how much other guys spend for this hobby on average every month. It can certainly add up. I manage to keep it pretty reasonable with one regular at a time every month or six weeks depending on our schedules, plus a massage here and there, which adds up to about 7 or 8K per year. Wonder about others. The short answer is Not more than I can afford. The shorter answer is. Way too much. + Pensant, Your Man in Arlington, + glutes and 9 others 4 4 4
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted February 23 Posted February 23 (edited) I spend about 10% of my gross income per year on MENtal health. It's not consistent every month. Edited February 23 by Vegas_Millennial Luv2play, + DrownedBoy, Johnrom and 4 others 6 1
BuckCanucked Posted February 23 Posted February 23 Big spenders. For me, about 1500 a year the last few years. I'm selective and make it a pretty big event in my mind when it does happen (for good and bad). Except for two escort experiments in three years, I just hire bodywork. There's one provider, my first, it turns out, that I'd return to over and over but he no longer lives in a city I'd regularly visit for work, so even more difficult to coordinate - and that has cut me back, along with disappointment in a succession of "substitute" providers who were okay but overall 'meh' in both the massage and vibe check departments. But if my #1 were local, I'd budget 5x that amount just for him. MikeBiDude, + Vegas_Millennial and soloyo215 2 1
+ 7829V Posted February 23 Posted February 23 I'd say between 8K - 10K a year. + tassojunior, j r and + Vegas_Millennial 2 1
Boaxxx Posted February 23 Posted February 23 So far I'm at zero for the year but I have a little gathering planned for next week (fingers crossed it goes through) which will kick off the 2026 season. 2025 was around $3000. + Vegas_Millennial, MikeBiDude, Johnrom and 1 other 3 1
Decatur Guy Posted February 24 Posted February 24 I'd guess around $4k to $5k a year. I'm cautious financially. I'd likely do $10k a year if I were indulging myself as much as I'd like. j r, + Vegas_Millennial and thomas 2 1
+ purplekow Posted February 24 Posted February 24 Fate has ways of having me spend money on this. Just today, I was wondering about a visiting escort who I have seen twice and decided to look him up. He has not been on Rentmen since the new year and so I dropped him a text asking if he had retired and if not to contact me the next time he was in Palm Springs. Half hour later, I get a response that he is in fact in Palm Springs until tomorrow and has some time if I am interested. Well I have plans with someone for tomorrow and I am not as young as I once was and I have been feeling ill, so naturally, I said sure I'll meet you tonight. I am just about to get into the showere for that meeting and going to tha bank in the AM to get the cash for tomorrow's scheduled interlude. thomas, + Pensant, MassageCommunityMember and 2 others 3 2
BeamerBikes Posted February 24 Posted February 24 I’m adjusting my retirement at 55 plans because of a recent hiring spurt. Why? I’ll likely need the disposable income. I’m still saving for retirement, but when I run across someone whose company I enjoy, I’m not going to trade the present for a future where I’m older. I don’t know where my budget number will end up - just yet for the year. The next couple months will show if I stay mainly in Chicago market or travel occasionally. Previous years I ran somewhere about 5k between massage and the occasional provider. I’ve blown through that a bit when you include travel to escape the winter this year. Johnrom and + Just Chuck 2
liubit Posted February 24 Posted February 24 In Hong Kong (where I live) rates are definitely lower than in the US (an average of $250 US per provider) In 2025, I spent close to 40k HK dollars, around $5k US . Not a bad deal for the fun I had. Not bad at all. + tassojunior, j r, + Vegas_Millennial and 2 others 2 2 1
+ PhileasFogg Posted February 24 Posted February 24 I retired at 60 from the C-Suite with the plan of living a relatively modest life for the next 30 years. Then, I got sucked into consulting and the income continues. So, I work hard and play hard with frequent trips traveling with companions that are smart, good looking, energetic, and sober to satisfy my wanderlust. I only have so long that my body is able and I intend to live to the max. I think the key isn’t “how much?” but rather “does it meet a need and is it too much?” and that means different things for different guys + Pensant, + Just Sayin, j r and 3 others 3 3
+ Pensant Posted February 24 Posted February 24 (edited) I used to spend a ton ten to twenty years ago, but now I’m down to ~2 2-hour sessions per month. Maybe it’s me, but the quality on offer has declined over the years. The real hotties are in distant cities and I hesitate to fly someone in with whom I have no experience. Edited Wednesday at 12:20 PM by Pensant MikeBiDude, Johnrom, cany10011 and 3 others 5 1
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted February 24 Posted February 24 2 hours ago, Pensant said: I’m also entering grad school in the fall and I imagine that will take up a lot of my time. Ironically, graduate school is when I started hiring! I needed the anticipation of an escort appointment to relieve the stress and get me through class! My hires were weekday evenings after class. MassageCommunityMember, + Just Sayin and + Pensant 3
+ PhileasFogg Posted February 24 Posted February 24 (edited) 2 hours ago, Pensant said: I’m also entering grad school in the fall and I imagine that will take up a lot of my time. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Will we have to call you “Doctor” when you’re done with school? Edited February 24 by PhileasFogg + DrownedBoy and + Pensant 2
+ SidewaysDM Posted February 24 Posted February 24 I have only been hiring for 6 months. In half a year, I have spent over $5,000. Some providers were enjoyable and others disappointing. My budget is tight due to health issues and retiring earlier than anticipated. So, I have decided to take a long pause from hiring. Johnrom and Nue2thegame 2
DenverDad Posted February 24 Posted February 24 Targeting between 5-6k this year (monthly massage/play) plus couple of guys on my Buddy list if we happen to be in the same city. j r 1
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