Older Escorts

[Reggyreg56]

Do you guys find that hiring older escorts (40 years and up) are a safer bet than the younger ones? You would think the older ones are about business and won't play the kind of games and scams the younger ones do. What do you all think?

[DenverDad]

Typically yes but age isn't always a great indicator.  I've had older guys flake or play games on me while younger guys (20s-early 30s) were very professional.

Edited Monday at 03:36 PM by DenverDad
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[Reggyreg56]

55 minutes ago, DenverDad said:

Typically yes but age isn't always a great indicator.  I've had older guys flake or play games on me while younger guys (20s-early 30s) were very professional.

I can certainly see that happening as well.

[+ purplekow]

Well reviewed escorts, younger and older are the best choice.  However, if looking for a bit of security, I opt for older, more seasoned providers.  Most scam artists are quickly identified and escorted out of the business and if they have made it to their 40s, are still in the business and still grab your attention chances are they have taken this career seriously or ......they have just gotten out of prison.  I had that experience and he was great.  

[Reggyreg56]

2 hours ago, purplekow said:

Well reviewed escorts, younger and older are the best choice.  However, if looking for a bit of security, I opt for older, more seasoned providers.  Most scam artists are quickly identified and escorted out of the business and if they have made it to their 40s, are still in the business and still grab your attention chances are they have taken this career seriously or ......they have just gotten out of prison.  I had that experience and he was great.  

Great advice. Thank you.

[soloyo215]

11 hours ago, Reggyreg56 said:

Do you guys find that hiring older escorts (40 years and up) are a safer bet than the younger ones? You would think the older ones are about business and won't play the kind of games and scams the younger ones do. What do you all think?

No. I can tell that for sure. My two worst experiences with providers were with men over 40. Terrible service and sloppy setup. One of them seemed like he was over everything, like I was his last customer before ending it all.

[Reggyreg56]

3 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

No. I can tell that for sure. My two worst experiences with providers were with men over 40. Terrible service and sloppy setup. One of them seemed like he was over everything, like I was his last customer before ending it all.

Damn! That sounds so sad.

[jeezifonly]

I'm absolutely more likely to engage a provider 40+ 

If desperate, 35 is the absolute youngest. I like men, not boys. There are any number of reasons - the same that I do not seek social relationships with young gay men. Communication styles demand a learning curve from both of us. 

I loved having a long career working alongside performers (and other artists) aged 14- 90, and will gladly hang out with my niece and nephews 20-30's.

On my dime, it's adults only. 

 

 

 

[mtaabq]

Truthfully, for me, it’s not about age – it’s about confidence. My experience has been that the providers over 40 whom I have engaged have had more confidence and less “hang-ups” than younger men – and by “younger” I mean men under 30. I am of the opinion – and again, this is strictly in my experience - that men don’t really know how to f*ck until they’re 40. I have a fave provider who may well be approaching his mid-50’s, and experience has taught him how to enter and f*ck a man with a precision and expertise that I can only hope to emulate. (For context I’m just shy of 62 and sexually active – which is to say that I was a slut - since 17.) Younger guys are fun – there’s nothing so thrilling as to have something that firm and taut under your hand, or wrapped in your arms, or impaled upon your erection. But I’ve encountered too many young guys who are needy, who want constant reassurance that they’re doing it right, who want to take a break to spark a j*int, who shave their pubes, or they want to pnp, which they failed to tell you that they’re into. No. Give me a man at 40 or beyond with some gray at the temples, a bit of snow on the chest, and a full bush, who also has confidence in the bedroom. As always, your mileage may vary and your preferences are respected. 

 

(There are always exceptions. One of my other current favorite providers has the wisdom of a man 10 years his senior but dude has a very youthful vibe when f*cking – and he’s 32.)

[Reggyreg56]

7 hours ago, mtaabq said:

 

Truthfully, for me, it’s not about age – it’s about confidence. My experience has been that the providers over 40 whom I have engaged have had more confidence and less “hang-ups” than younger men – and by “younger” I mean men under 30. I am of the opinion – and again, this is strictly in my experience - that men don’t really know how to f*ck until they’re 40. I have a fave provider who may well be approaching his mid-50’s, and experience has taught him how to enter and f*ck a man with a precision and expertise that I can only hope to emulate. (For context I’m just shy of 62 and sexually active – which is to say that I was a slut - since 17.) Younger guys are fun – there’s nothing so thrilling as to have something that firm and taut under your hand, or wrapped in your arms, or impaled upon your erection. But I’ve encountered too many young guys who are needy, who want constant reassurance that they’re doing it right, who want to take a break to spark a j*int, who shave their pubes, or they want to pnp, which they failed to tell you that they’re into. No. Give me a man at 40 or beyond with some gray at the temples, a bit of snow on the chest, and a full bush, who also has confidence in the bedroom. As always, your mileage may vary and your preferences are respected. 

 

(There are always exceptions. One of my other current favorite providers has the wisdom of a man 10 years his senior but dude has a very youthful vibe when f*cking – and he’s 32.)

Thank you for sharing this. I agree. Older for me might be better!

[Medin]

I definitely prefer older guys...there just aren't as many of them available.  In my experience, they tend to be more reliable, professional and play fewer games.  Nowadays it seems like the majority of providers are Latin twinks and that's just not my thing.  Give me a hot, clean-cut guy,  40+ and I'm in heaven.  

[BuckCanucked]

I'm an older guy so I just tend to look at older dudes, my peer group. I appreciate a young stud aesthetically but I feel... I dunno, a bit leacherous if I were to hire anyone young enough to be my son or nephew. That's just me, not a judgement. 

Plus since there's a lot of age shaving online, it still gives me plenty of options. 

[Wings246]

On 2/9/2026 at 6:50 AM, Reggyreg56 said:

Do you guys find that hiring older escorts (40 years and up) are a safer bet than the younger ones? You would think the older ones are about business and won't play the kind of games and scams the younger ones do. What do you all think?

Age — even when you assume it’s reported accurately and truthfully, which is a big assumption to begin with — is not necessarily the best indicator of reliability or flakiness.  I’d rather look at the longevity of the person’s career to gauge his trustworthiness.  To me, for example, a 29-year-old who has been doing it since 18 is far more dependable than a 41-year-old who started 3 months ago.  The duration of his on-the-job experiences indirectly tells me that he must be doing something right to have lasted this long.  I imagine it would be tough for someone to keep scamming hundreds, if not thousands, of people for years and keep surviving in the same field.  At the very least, he would’ve been slaughtered alive by the COM members here, right?   😁

[Wings246]

The above being said, regardless of my response to your initial questions, I personally prefer men who are 35+.  The smaller the age gap (between him and me), the better.  It helps to improve the “realism” of my imagination, among many, many other additional reasons.  

[Reggyreg56]

20 hours ago, Medin said:

I definitely prefer older guys...there just aren't as many of them available.  In my experience, they tend to be more reliable, professional and play fewer games.  Nowadays it seems like the majority of providers are Latin twinks and that's just not my thing.  Give me a hot, clean-cut guy,  40+ and I'm in heaven.  

I know that's right! Lol

[Reggyreg56]

1 hour ago, Wings246 said:

Age — even when you assume it’s reported accurately and truthfully, which is a big assumption to begin with — is not necessarily the best indicator of reliability or flakiness.  I’d rather look at the longevity of the person’s career to gauge his trustworthiness.  To me, for example, a 29-year-old who has been doing it since 18 is far more dependable than a 41-year-old who started 3 months ago.  The duration of his on-the-job experiences indirectly tells me that he must be doing something right to have lasted this long.  I imagine it would be tough for someone to keep scamming hundreds, if not thousands, of people for years and keep surviving in the same field.  At the very least, he would’ve been slaughtered alive by the COM members here, right?   😁

Yes that makes a lot of sense! 

[Mark_fl]

I hope I grow out of it, and maybe it's because Im relatively new to this whole thing, but older guys haven't appealed to me. I also like the illusion that the provider hasn't already done this 500 times.

My BFE should be special for both of us.  Don't screw up my fantasy. 

[Decatur Guy]

My preference is experienced providers who have done this for several years and who are 35 to 55. 

[Nue2thegame]

On 2/9/2026 at 9:29 PM, soloyo215 said:

No. I can tell that for sure. My two worst experiences with providers were with men over 40. Terrible service and sloppy setup. One of them seemed like he was over everything, like I was his last customer before ending it all.

Yes, that vaunted confidence that older men can bring to the bed can cut either way. They (we) can be talented and more experienced or frankly, my dear, not give a damn. 

[Becket]

My sweet spot is 35 to 45. I can't think of any great experience I've ever had with a kid between 18-23 years old, and I do mean KID. That age, especially for many boys, is only a bit past the obnoxious teenager years and many of those "wonderful" teen characteristics are still hanging around. Give me an experienced man any day.

[Wings246]

5 hours ago, Decatur Guy said:

My preference is experienced providers who have done this for several years and who are 35 to 55.

 

40 minutes ago, Becket said:

My sweet spot is 35 to 45.

I’m surprised I’m not alone in this feeling, that I’m not the odd one out here.  I’ve been operating under the (perhaps false) assumption that most people seek those in their 20’s.  Personally, the emotional/psychological aspects are just as important as the physical ones in a BFE.  It is probably dangerous to generalize, but I feel a 20-something cannot offer me that emotional/psychological satisfaction I need.  I’d feel like I’m babysitting (or worse yet, taking advantage of) a child, which is the quickest boner killer for me.

[soloyo215]

48 minutes ago, Becket said:

My sweet spot is 35 to 45. I can't think of any great experience I've ever had with a kid between 18-23 years old, and I do mean KID. That age, especially for many boys, is only a bit past the obnoxious teenager years and many of those "wonderful" teen characteristics are still hanging around. Give me an experienced man any day.

I have to agree about this, but to some degree. I've always characterize most younger men as "too much enthusiasm, too little essence", BUT, I also remember how I was at that age, and I was not into exactly like that. There are exceptions, and with young guys I've experienced a range, some great, some not so. There are some young men who conduct themselves with the level of maturity and experience expected from older men.

In all honesty, I've found both beauty and ugliness in all ages (or at least all of the ages I've hired).